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gift0123:
I know that all beautiful ladies may not be marriage materials, but such situation can never make a man to settle for a woman he never finds attractive, a woman who isn't presentable? "it's not possible"!

every one is different when it comes to men sister , beauty like they say lies in the eyes of the beholder ,u see some men ,if it's beautiful we all want then we can as well go to the brotel and pick a wife there but we see beyond that ,as I grew older ,my definition of beautiful goes beyond having big boobs ,big Yash even though many na fake ,or beautiful make up ,we must have met a few like us ,we hardly complement a lady because of these assets ,the asseet I see is what's up stairs...... beauty I will place at 40% ,like they say the more beautiful the more problems she brings and it's true ,she is used to attention and if these attention aren't available problem starts from no where

pocohantas:
I have NEVER seen women bragging about being cheats and liars. Context please.

comot jor ,ooooh the ones going on in TikTok is film trick or you want me to send you clips of ladies caught red handed on a dick ?

gift0123:
hmmmm just dey look you with one eye. Oga physical attraction matters!!!! Know dey deceive yourself... No matter how many times a man is hurt he still desires a woman he finds attractive physically.

yeah that's the wrong misconception ladies have carried for century ,you see why a man and a woman can never be sesame ?

not all beautiful ladies a marryable sister ,men who have been tru hell in relationship know how we filter ladies out ,same like you but na who get money una they only accept ,,,but you ladies can do better when you filter relationship sha o, because all pocket filled with gold are not Gold but coated gold

ultraviolet27:
. But I didn't See you raising a Hell when ur fellow Man Commented on this thread in the 4th Page that He Can't Marry Ladies that He Sleeps wit b4 Marriage as He had Texted 4 of them and they failed but u wanted a Lady 2 Condone a Man She isn't Sexually Compatible with.

Most of you Guys are terrible Seriously a Woman won't Open Her Legs for you U will Come here to Create Thread,Gnash ur Teeth,and defame them, and if they stl let u do,u will Still Come here and Shame them wetin una want?

But when u Guys are at d receiving End that is when u will realize She should have stuck wit you So that She won't be at Shiloh2022 Bal bla bla Even She was being Proactive now so as not 2 Cheat in Her marriage. anyway I blame d Girls thinking Opening their Legs for a Nigerian Man will Kee them not knowing when it Comes to them no be One size fit all.

I didn't need to check page 4 of that guys comment and I was about commenting back but had a breaking service ,,I don't advocate for cheating in relationship if you know me very well in nairaland ,both for male and females ,I have met red pillers who advocate of knacking a lady and dropping her or turning her into a baby mama ,and I am never in support of that behavior and I tell girls or lady which ever ,marry before you carry (marriage before pregnancy ) .... because the chances of becoming a baby mama is 70% higher
you will end up as a single Mother if you still choose the opposite ..

so choose your words wisely if you are coming for me , because both genders are faulty in my dictionary sweetheart

gift0123:
Oga u fit marry woman with a wide and unending hole??
You fit marry ugly or breastless woman??
If you can't do any of those above please stop attacking that lady.. Thanks

because u feel relationship should be more about body compensation rather that what the heart has to offer....let me shock you abit you think a man who is normal upstairs and logical and ready to marry or settle down looks at the body first ,ask those men who where gilted or played by ladies ,when they start searching for love again body attraction is zero ,they don't care how beautiful you are again just have brains is all they want ....
I am not a virgin why should I go around looking for smaller holes hello,,,, atleast she has boobs to breastfeed my pikin,and point of corrections no woman is breast less

Lamanii22:
You're so so so right ... Social media is one crazy thing ... I stopped going online often.... It's only nairaland I like now except from the excess bashing lol.....

lol yes dear ,just filter the bashing on nairaland that's my advice ,

Dumte:
It all started during the COVID-19 lockdown period. In the morning hours of 4th April 2020, I met this lady who is a Tiv girl from Benue State. And we came to mutual agreement as we started dating. She was so much in love with me that I was invited by her aunt who she has been with for over 8years.

The aunt who is a professional prostitute that runs her business in Niger �� Republic while the girl and her aunt's daughter lives in the said northern state, got annoyed that throughout her entire life she hasn't seen any one who wants to take her as a wife except the ones who are for sex.

She wasn't happy with the relationship, but the more she hated us the more the girl loves me (someone once told me that the best time a girl expresses her love is when someone in her family is objecting her relationship, I don't know if that is true).

My ex's parents asked her to bring me so we can start proper planning. After 6 months of relationship we went home to see her parents. On getting to Benue, the dad accepted everything whole heartedly but the demon exhibits her monster through the mother who was fed negative information about me. That I am a private school teacher, that I speak different language etc. Lots of useless reasons.

That was the beginning of my ex's misbehavior. And to cut the long story short, she is currently into prostitution as I speak, same business her aunt is doing.

I'm planning to send her my wedding I.V coming next month. Just to let her understand that evry man is someone's favorite.

na waoo things they happen sha oo,,,women are women's own enemy,and I can bet you that her aunt isn't married again ,I tell ladies who care to listen the very day you stop telling your fellow ladies how your relationship is going you have solved a big problem from your life...

pocohantas:
Why do you men ask this question when it is a woman saying it? Isn’t it your usual chorus that men are polygamous in nature? Seems men know the truth but hate to hear it from women.

will you also accept the fact that women lie and cheat also ?

Lamanii22:
I just don't know the devil that pushes one to ruin a beautiful marriage, I want to be very married, I still get chased and all but I am always on my heels, I don't want anything to ruin my marriage...

I have seen women cheat on their spouse and men do same too ,but it very sicken ,when you go on tiktok ,or only fan you imagine this is really somebody wife or husband and when they get got they blame the devil ,my dear the devil is we human , there is a brain to think before actions ,..
I am not an advocate of cheating in relationship if the lady is dirty atleast that should have been fixed before marriage or money no day hux ,that can also be fixed before marriage ,or sex of the guy is poor there are med for that ,see this or generation,we are the most blessed generation the earth have ever had ,but we are just confused and thanks to social media way add join relationship wahala

Gandokiejim:
My Experience
I've always said,I won't marry anyone I had sex with.I believe you are cheap if I sleep with you before marriage ( my ideology though)
I dated and engaged 4 Ladies,I'll tempt them for sex,they will just fall and open their legs,that will be the end of that relationship.
I want to have a feel of my wife first time wedding night.

u never jam ,u never heard of a woman who denys her husband sex bro wake up

BigBashiru:
who will inherit ur estate??

if as a man you gat no family bro you are on a long thing,it's funny now because you gat bones to hustle and drive Benz around ,but the end is very ugly

for a lady who says marriage na scam , check online love scam on white women many of them are those who abandon their marriage and divorced their husbands taking huge amount of money from them via court room ,,but went to look for online lover ,and guess wat the money is gone and who is regretting the women ,old age no funny o trust me ,am speaking from experience most of our nairalanders grew up in homes where the father and mother were to gether ,but little ups an down but still stock to gether ,and you want to try the lonly part ,

REMEMBER THE SLARY YOU TAKE HOME MONTHLY BECAUSE YOU ARE A NURSE OR DOCTOR OR BUSINESS WOMAN ,HAS AN END ,AND GOVT SOMETIMES FAIL IN PAYING PENSION ,,AND OLD AGE DISEASE OR ILLNESS IS REAL GET WHO TO LOVE ABD LOVE THE PERSON BACK

Inyayiz:
Yeah, he proposed 2019 and when I asked him about his plans for wedding by 2020, he asked me why I was in a rush to get married lol, that marriage shouldn’t be the top of my priority list, whereas, he proposed on his own, I wonder why he’ll propose without the intention of marriage, December 2021 and we’re still not married, I’ve returned his ring.. we’ve been dating since 2016

I believe the signs where already there but u didn't pay much attention ,if man wan marry you it's very very easy ,you see those questions most ladies call irrelevant in relationship ,they are the real questions to determine if he go marry you or not ,but to confuse our sisters we use money to buy their love ,time and brain ,you just can't sit for a seconds and ask your self reality questions because the truth is bad for the heart

LolaO:
Yes I have
We dated for 5 years.
Proposed to - Jan 2020
Introduction - February 2020
Engagement and wedding was supposed to be - November 2020
I called off the wedding in August 2020 due to the below reasons:
- Dishonesty in finances (non-communication too)
- LIES, very strong ones
- Cheating (deal breaker was while engaged)
- Sexual incompatibility
- Loss of love and attraction because of the above.
The red flags had always been there, but I chose to ignore because I was blinded at the time.
He got married to someone else in less than a year.
I don’t regret my decision and I’m glad I called it off; I deserved better.

yeah you deserve better,but where your hands clean during the whole relationship

1Sharon:
Shallow as hell.

Because his dick is small doesn't mean he doesn't know how to use it and the 10 second thing can be worked on.

She really threw the baby out with the bath water.

, sometimes when I see male and female praying for a good woman or delay in marriage,I don't feel pity or bad for them , this is one of the reason ,you hardly hear an Asian woman leaving a guy because of small dick or because of hight only African women do so ,

pocohantas:
This is a public forum and you would be quoted whether you like it or yes. Your personal attacks won’t change my opinion to your stance. So I ask you again, would you marry a woman when your whole family is against her and you heard madness runs in her family? We all know what men do, so stop looking for women that would disregard their families for you!! You are not worth it!

pepper body calm down

pocohantas:
Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.

hope you don't mind ,why do you feel every Nigeria man cheat ?

DAVE5:
The regret plenty ohh bros, if I talk am for public, them go ask me wetin carry me enter becos truthfully looking back from then till date, there hasn’t been any gain for me as a man since I took that step, non whatsoever, it has been losses and regrets at every turn

I Know how that feels u don't need to say more when there is little or no contribution of a lady on marriage it's makes one sick ,it might not be financial matter she has to offer ,but interns of ideas so females lack it ,,,just keep putting her Tru the way you want her to be ,

deltateam:
If your fellow guy ask you for #20k now, you will swear heavens you don't have. Now someone you are not even married to, you spent #1millala.

any thing that involves protection of continual generation a man will always spend on it ,it's not the issue of not helping a fellow man

ezegenigbonine:
That's why she is the one to be blamed instead of shifting blame on an innocent man.

no man joystick is small mostly the African man , probably the virginal has been widen by someone else, you are right bro

DAVE5:
I still wish till tomorrow that my relationship was broken, but no, here I am

I gats live with my cross or some day grow some balls and call the hell I’m in a quit

why the regret man ,share if u don mind

phenase:


YES, I bought an engagement ring and gave her, and she got home, her elder sister took it and throws it away. That's was the end of engagement.

women are women's own enemy ,

ezegenigbonine:
My sister, if only he met you a virgin and was the one that deflower you, his small joystick would have matched your virgina.

God made it in a way that if you open a hole with 2 inches nail, the hole will always match 2 inches nail.
But to you women, a 6 inches nail will open your hole and you will be complaining that 2 inches nail is too small for the hole.

However it piss me off when a woman will be disvirgined by a big prick and she will be putting blame on an innocent man with small prick.

Try and allow your husband to disvirgin u and see if you will ever complain even if the man has the smallest penis in the world.

but she can't be disvirgined again na ,it's over .

aviationguy:
We dated for like 5 years, everything was going very good until 3 weeks to our wedding when all plans are in top gears we discovered we are both As the pains is unbearable but we have to shut down all the plans because of the future pains.

I decided I have to stop the wedding although my woman believe miracle can happen but I told her is better we don't know than claim ignorance due to our selfish love...the future is bright.


But Glory be to God Almighty we are both happily married with wonderful children.

how come you dated without knowing each other's genotype,bro , when a serious relationship is about to take place just ask the other party her genotype many will run away immediately ,that's how u separate the sheep from the black goat in relationship ,a guy or a lady who is more interested in the relationship will get the genotype done immediately

ConqueredWest:
T

Give details concerning the revelation you got

abi make others learn

Milan79:
Every relationship must not end in marriage

then date with purpose,if not make it know to the other party

Milan79:
Every relationship must not end in marriage

then date with purpose,if not make it know to the other party

havigold:
You are juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

advice him my dear,,,

Phoenixk:
Got Engaged to someone who had asked me out years ago ,I wasn't interested but I felt he had been persistent enough ....

Next thing he said as a good Christian he will wait till after the wedding to consummate

It sounded great till someone hinted he may be hiding a health problem

She was right! D was tiny finger small & man cums in 10seconds

He also wanted me to forge some important docs ,I realised our values are very different.... Returned his ring & took a walk

,sorry to ask if his dick was small ,where u a virgin when u met him? ? no insult
if he comes 10s are there no medication in the market to encourage him to use ,or u need a man who is already prepared by another lady sexually and u take him immediately ...

build your man sweet sister .

for the documents forging I have no idea of that

ashawopikin:
the only way to handle a feminist is to dick her to submission

u go die for nothing bro,,na man way never knack before go think say na dick they take they control woman ,bro only in bed you can do that shite ,after all the bedding she is back to her crazy mood ,I have seen alot

inumidun2010:
Ok... Yours is even better... IHUOMA wey TEAR ME hot SLAP because I was talking to her FRIEND in her PRESENCE nko....
All is well

see u ,u see woman way fit kill for you,u know happy ,okay ,I pray make u marry who u too love pass the way she love you or regard you ,may be u go think back

Slickbishop:
I have dated three Nigeria gals and don't find them worthy at all.bad character,so materialistic,just after the money,besides,I have not found love yet but all I see from these gals is their desperation for marriage.i want a lady that we both can stand the test of time and not the one I will marry and then start chasing other gals our there

,, because they are not working man ,look for a Nigeria girl that is working ,let me shock you ,most Nigeria ladies u will meet over sea get hooked up on Nigeria guys back ,man look for a working class Nigeria girl ,that knows the value of relationship not the name shouting you get money

Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

come and learn about relationship how people jeopardize their relationship in the name of irrelevant things that will never exist few years to come.