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Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

na man u be bro,,,

MEGA4BILLION:
broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

abeg go sit down ,this is how u date without a purpose and scream broken marriage is better than broken engagement ,when u have not invested in a relationship u can easily say that shite

the body count of a man doesn't drive back home ,me for example I got a girl and there are lots of opportunities for me to cheat and flirt dirty but down my spine I know I have a woman who I wouldn't trade my love for her for nothing ,
but let reverse be the case ,the woman is a good bye to that house and the man ,

ordinary yahoo way they teach some ladies they go day fall in love with the client ...

so what I am trying to say ,we always use our head as a man when we have one or 2 lady's outside we love with our head , except for a few men ...

and to the lady's don't just bring love to your guy alone or your man alone ,it gets boring with time bring business ideas discuss investment ,when a man sees a lady who engages him in discussion like this trust me he spends more time with the creative woman ,that's another reason why relationship today fails quickly ,today ladies can't hold conversation at all ,only 1 out of 10 ladies can do so,

Lamanii22:
Wooow! Concluding things based on assumption is so wrong.... If you know how relieved I was eehn knowing that your wife didn't cheat....

really,u see everyone is happy when nobody is a cheater ,I don't know why people will take such a short road to destroy their years of marriage and relationship

Ilekokonit:
Hope the poster will take the above advice and reason DEEPLY on it.

Why does the poster want to abandon certainty for a DANGEROUS and HUMILIATING uncertainty

My advice to the poster is to proceed if he wants to score a DANGEROUS own goal.

For the first few months most likely years of your abandoning your job and farm and relocating to the UK, YOU WILL BE DEPENDENT ON AND BECOME A LIABILITY TO YOUR WIFE and the little respect she once gave you in Nigeria WILL disappear once she becomes your family's breadwinner.

Prepare to swallow your pride and become a houseboy to your wife until you find your feet financially in the UK.

Proceed if your temperament and make up allows you to be a liability to anyone especially a woman.

Proceed if you are ready to lose your self respect and dignity.

What makes you a man is your ability to provide for your wife and kids especially with Nigerian women who are ingrates and who selectively forget ALL the good you have done for them financially in the past and who see a man as a failure when he temporarily loses his source of income.

Do you know how expensive rent / mortgage, taxes and other bills are in the UK ?

Just be prepared to do odd jobs before you find a befitting job in the UK. And by odd jobs, I mean jobs like Security guard, cleaner and personal hygiene care worker (where you will be cleaning another human beings shit)

Mark my words, your wife being a Nurse WILL suggest you go for care work human shit cleaning jobs immediately you get to the UK.

Do you know how demeaning it is for a man to be dependent on his wife financially

Do you know how tiring it WILL be for your wife to single-handedly foot these bills before you find your feet which would most likely take years before you understand the system.

You will IMMEDIATELY lose the ability to provide for your wife and kids for the first few months (more accurately years) whilst you try to even understand the UK system and in that period ALL of your savings will evaporate on sustaining the family and once your savings run out, you WILL discover what many Nigerian men in the UK go through at the hands of their wives if they temporarily lose their source of income.

The choice is really up to you.

boss the rate at which men that are doing very well in Nigeria are tripping over season is alarming even those doing very very well with a very nice paying jobs with business in every conners of the city ,,,the question I will like some one them to ask is ,how many month will it take to hit 1millionare oversea after paying your tax ,water bill , light bill , house bill ,.......our people need to see reality man ,,,see this op running overseas, without knowing what he expects or what awaits him ,,it's just a pity .... people day go abroad ,me too wan go ,,nawaooo

ayandee:
i agrée with you. But there are still exceptions. The idea of my money is my money should have no place in a marriage especially a Christian marriage.

boss that christian marriage I doubt if it still exist o,,

ayandee:
A family friend whose wife is also a nurse moved to the UK. There has been no issues. The man takes care of the kids when she is at work. He is looking for a job but there's no pressure whatsoever from his wife. They've both been having each other's back from way back. It's just a phase. If you have married a good woman, you have nothing to fear. Join her, take care of the kids while you search for job opportunities. It may entail doing some short time courses to fit into the job market. Be determined that you will make it in the UK. Have a very positive mindset.

from time memorials ,women have never been known to feed a man ,never ,take it or leave it ,be it you are married to a good woman ,it's a ticking time bomb waiting to explode ,it's too risky ,most marriages are shaking now because of a woman feeding a man for the time been ,am sure you must have heard of the statement your money is our money but my money is my money ,

Kazeem47:
I stopped listening to "This life I can't kill myself". That song make me to spend my little savings that should have been something meaningful by this December.

there are some addictive song that propel you in the wrong direction of life and that song is one of them ,you just become wayward

TimeTraveller:
You have low self-esteem sha o!
Didn't openly threaten to ban flights from Canada, UK and Saudi?

Which be say they should try it with America? Some of una need grow up sha o!

there are lots of European countries Nigeria is far better than but because of low self esteem created by some old youth , even when every govt in Nigeria is trying his or her best ,the citizens see it as nothing

can a step father discipline the step daughter without the interference of the mother ?

JavaScript9091:
Nigerian musicians are going international and that is a good development

Nigeria politicaians have a lot to learn from our musicians ,what we need is just a touch of govt and Nigeria will make I big wave for African , Nigeria musicians are the ones still holding a positive view of how Nigeria and how African is

Danremmy:
Good afternoon,


Few weeks ago, I started seeing pus on my penis when i go to urinate, sometimes i feel pains when peeing and i pee frequently, but the pains stopped after using ampiclox beecham and anti biotic drugs prescribed to me at a pharmacy, but the pus hasnt stopped showing.

So this morning, while in toilet trying to pee, i noticed it was only blood coming out. i have peed four times today already but i am seeing just blood instead of the normal urine, even the pus is still not gone

Please help me, i need advise. both herbal and medical medications. i guess its gonnorhea, or if u have an advise of what it is, please share with solution.

please no bashing, its just my girlfriend and i.
i don't do adultery

bro go hospital and let me correct that your statement,u don't do doesn't mean your girl don't do behind you ,so be careful

HardMirror:
at least u are honest

you see Nigeria guys ,they have this mentality of ,I got you covered or trying hard to impress a girl ,I my self have learnt it hard ,infact if these lady come around you the first time y u day give her money for transportation ,many Nigeria guys are guilty of this ,tell her to come with her money , love who love you naturally not because of money ,by the time you don't give her money her face go change for u , because u made her believe no worry I will give u money when ever you come my house ,bro that's what the op situation is ,he used little little things to enticed the girl now she can't do without them ,see females as puppy dog u give puppy dog sugar water ,that's the type of water they will want for the rest of their life

HardMirror:
It seems Nigerian girls are indeed created, designed, configured, trained, programmed, predetermined, orientated,... to collect collect and collect.

I started dating this girl and by our standards this girl is as good as they come. She is truly a good girl with good character. I cant be dashing her money, so I asked her to come and work for me. Already had 4 employees but her work experience would be valuable to us and honestly she has been an asset and worth the money i am paying her. But what surprises me is how she still manages to get me to buy food, airtime for her everyday ....

Naija girls.. una matter no be here

because you choose i do so ,most of you Nigeria men turn Niger girls to the way they behave ,I also I am a victim also

dawnomike:
Everything in Nigeria is fast becoming premium hiked...

because we don't like ourselves,
y do u think African is back ward ,I will advise state govt and Fed govt to handle these sector ,that's y the price of our local food is over inflated eg garri way be local food

Candidlady:
you shouldnt have told him! Igot the number already!

op typical kiss and tell kinda individual! Ipity the poor girl! Iwil surely hit her up!.. And this thread wont die a natural death!

y u day vex like this ,

Baawaa:
Those Arab people are wicked

go to Arab museum you will never see their history that dated far back involving their slave trade also ,only history of 1980 till date u will see ,,,, African need to wake up and stop this blame of racism and do the needful for their country

Omihanifa:
If it was in Africa now they will be saying we don't have sense and we are stupid

because we don't value the culture we have

CR777:
Not some of them but most of them.

There are still some real, intelligent and well-exposed guys here who drop deep knowledge on a daily, I respect those ones.

there are better way to deal with a lady than taping back her bob's,,it's look childish, first of all what will warrant such a play to that extend , where I work,I got my respect and people respect me for that ,u want us to have such a okay let's met some where after work , probably with a bottle of red horse .that's how real men play their games ,

CR777:
OH please shut up, if you joke with your job, not everyone jokes with theirs. I wouldn't have seen anything wrong with what he did if it was in a mall or social environment.

Why exactly are you supporting a man who behaved like a child in a business environment?
Does cctv change the fact he fondled a girl's beast severally while at work? All for what? Trying to appear tough?
If the case is taken to management, how do you think they are gonna see or view his personality?

Sometimes it's best to use your brain in some certain situations.

your job makes you a man ,not some ladies ,I have listened to other people comment and I can't help but agree some of them haven't been to the real world ,

temi1290:
LMAO, raped with cowgirl style,I don't have strength to laugh bro

bro u never really know the nature of females trust me ,,

jrusky:
Interesting and very interesting nothing in life is more golden than been satisfy in everything God gives you.

Bleaching not enough, fake boobs and fake bum not enough, barbie blue eyes not enough, fake nails not enough but still want mouth pierce and now the pierce had pierced her mouth and turned it to Michellen Tube. Lady Moyo go back to where you did the pierce they have best answer to your agony or you go and see you doctor I guess you will learn a lesson now.

some times I let my woman work around without makeup at home so she knows u have to face reality,of u getting old ,our ladies go to bed with mark-up ,walk around with makeup ,and think the world revolves around them till they get old

Mercychen:
She knows her skin naturally looks swollen and it's soft, she's toying with it. Even the kinda cream she uses can trigger such due to the harsh ingredients in it.

I remember that year she came to buy one Iman sunburn face cream @ 7k for a 25g tube.

When she left, I decided to try the tester of that same cream ( from our tester stand ) she bought. Mehnnn.. the thing was so hot and burnt me so badly I rushed into the bathroom to wash it off. still i continued to feel the burning sensation on my face.
I wonder how she was able to cope using such harsh cream.

She's playing with serious infection.

I have come to realize when ladies start spending hell of funds to increase body enhance,with expensive cream , just know there are cliq of friends promising her increase of boyfriend materials

CAPSLOCKED:
I MENTIONED PUBLICLY AND CCTV IN MY INITIAL POST. LEARN TO READ AND UNDERSTAND.
ALSO, WITHOUT EVIDENCE, IN THIS NIGERIA, THERE'S HARDLY ANYTHING FOR HER AGAINST YOU IN COURT, UNLESS ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

I SEE MORE MEN OF LITTLE WIT TRYING TO LET ME KNOW THAT I HAVE TO CLAP FOR WOMEN WHEN THEY TRY TO HARASS ME SEXUALLY.

I REPEAT WHAT I HAVE SAID. IF THE WOMEN AT YOUR WORK OR SCHOOL LIKE TO TOUCH YOU INAPPROPRIATELY THE BEST WAY TO STOP THEM IS BY MAKING PHYSICAL CONTACT, ESPECIALLY WHEN PUBLICLY/WHERE THERE ARE CAMERAS. UNLESS YOU DON'T WANT THEM TO STOP. WOMEN DON'T RESPECT "STOP". AND REPORTING THE CASES IS MOSTLY FRUITLESS BECAUSE NO ONE WILL BELIEVE YOU. IF SHE TOUCHES YOU AND YOU TOUCH HER LIKE THAT SHE'D BE TOO ASHAMED/UNCOMFORTABLE TO DO IT ANOTHER TIME (UNLESS SHE'S SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU AND ACTUALLY WANT MORE THAN THAT). THIS IS AN EXPERIMENT THAT HAS BEEN PROVEN SUCCESSFUL BY I AND MANY OTHERS.

GOOD LUCK TAKING NONSENSE FROM PEOPLE.

my guy y u day fight everybody,u will be a very difficult preson to roll with ,it's a forum where ideas are shared...man peace I have less things to say to a loner

CAPSLOCKED:
I HAVE NEVER CALLED MYSELF A "REDPILLER", AND WHAT HAPPENED BACK THEN ON THAT DAY HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE REDPILL. ON A GOOD DAY I'M A LOVERBOY SIMP BUT INJUSTICE, DECEIT AND MANIPULATION ARE SOME OF THE THINGS I DETEST WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

I'M SORRY BUT YOUR EPISTLE IS TRASH. IF YOU TOUCH A WOMAN SEXUALLY, SHE CAN GO ON AND HIT YOU ANYHOW AND ANYWHERE WHILE RAINING INSULTS ON YOU. REVERSE THE CASES AND MOST MEN WOULD SMILE AND WALK AWAY WHEN SEXUALLY HARASSED. I AM NOT MOST MEN. I'D USUALLY WARN FEMALES TO NOT TOUCH ME LIKE THAT BUT ON THE TIMES THAT THEY DID, HITTING AND ABUSING THEM WASN'T THE RESORT BUT I GAVE THEM EXACTLY WHAT THEY GAVE ME. THIS TREATMENT ACTUALLY MAKES WOMEN AVOID YOU. 3 POINTS IN THE BAG!

YOU MAY CALL IT WHATEVER YOU WANT. I CALL IT SELF-DEFENSE. THAT I'M A MAN DOESN'T GIVE ANYBODY FREE PASS TO MY BODY. I'M NOT HAVING IT. FORGET YOUR REAL MAN SHĮT OR REDPILLING STATUS SOMETIMES BECAUSE WHEN THEY GO LOW YOU HAVE TO GO LOWER TO SHOW THAT 2 CAN PLAY.

bro take that guy advice ,that's the best advice you can get ,the only leverage you will have over a woman that tryies to carry out sexual abuse on you is provided there is a cctv camera filming the act ,then u are save but if there is non ,a woman can raoe you and still say you raped her or you took advantage of him if things don't go as planned later in future , remember the case of that pastor and timi wife ,be careful bro ,,,the people signing women's rights ,womens privileges aren't female's they are male's in govt office and presidential position .....

haven't you heard of cases both parties get drug and they go home have a sweet fun at night and when it's day break ,the lady makes an out cry you raped her ,one more thing never touch a women when she is drunk , even though she gives you a Mouth Action ,with a cowgirl style at night,when it's day break ,she will say u raped her trust me bro ,men are in jail because of cases like this .

Beebah2000:
E fiancée flog am because e cheat and some fools up there dey talk say him dey weak.
If na the woman cheat and the man con dey flog her, Una go dey insult her.
E good as she flog am sef, so that him no go cheat next time.

abi o,say no to cheating

Iamzealousman:
So I have been following this thread.
My experience with ladies hasn't been all nice. Though I hadn't been a SIMP.
Latest experience is a girl I met DEC 2019. We were good friends. One of the mistake I made was that I didn't shoot my shot early.
We continued to be friend. I noticed she's very nice girl. She given me a lot bought nice cloth for me on my bday. And all.
So about 6month after I met her. That was last I asked that we should be in a relationship. She said no.
And later on started moving even more closer to me.
I lost my job August last year.
I felt we began to be distant. So I left it that way. Till fdbuary March this year. When she called and questioned why I have not been chatting, calling etc.
Ever since, she calls me etc, and even assist me in terms of job search. she had even giving money when I was seriously down financially even with asking.
She tells me misses me and all sort.
I was non committal because I really do not know what she wants friendship or relationship.

So the beginning of last month I spoke to her again about been in a relationship, she said she would pray about. Ever since no communication from her.
Will it be a good advise for me to chat her. And what can I say?

you still have a better chance of meeting her, you know y , because she had invested little on you already and she deserves a reward which is a relationship,never tell a lady you love that is friendship u want ,never ,man ,I lost countless relationship because of been afraid to ,,,,,,,and rejection,yeah sometimes the relationship doesn't work,and some ladies regret wishing you guys had stayed as friends,bro stand your ground I want relationship not friendship,if it's friendship she wants bro move on,and go spend some time in the gym and be physically fit and remove that clog of fear from your brain

you don't know we import groundnut in Nigeria ,..
but joke apart Nigeria govt made Nigeria youth lazy

gift0123:
My reply doesn't imply to a boyfriend, I mean in marriage I may wash small, but i can never wash for a boyfriend, not even boxers.

how far you ,?if he also restriction help he will give to you , wouldn't you call him an unserious person as a man who which to get married to you ,so tell me what you boyfriend can't do for you ,I wouldn't want to name any so u don't feel I am biase ,name things you boyfriend shouldn't do for you ?

gift0123:
My dear you are free to say watever thing you want to say, but I will never wash jeans, I go manage wash shirts and polo once in three months, rather he should go and buy washing machine... That's all

u see how u are drifting in support of you washing ,compare to before ,,,,so soft jeans washing is an offense to the hands of a female also ...?

gift0123:
The same with me,I don't like laundry especially jeans, most times I hate buying those jeans because washing it is a pain in the ass.

see them lazy folks ,after fixing claws u call nails how can u wash

gift0123:
Ok so she should remain in bondage in the name of staying in a relationship? it's best she leave that boy and stay on her own, she will still meet another man who will love her truly.

you already called her relationship bondage because of cloths Washing,let's ask the op what the guy has done for her before ,of course there should be ,1 or 2 before the guy can have the ordacity , except this op is an ungrateful person in her relationship, relationship na hardwork it's self let's stop deceiving ourselves