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ESANMEA:
Good for you..
Mine was horrible mehn... It was fun till around April then, strange things started happening and everything finally shattered in the first week of June..
Since then till now, I still dey reason my life

tell us let's learn

pretydiva:
This man is a very SIMPle man

so what he did was wrong ?

Muyiwaipere:
With heavy pain in my heart I am writing this.

I have been living in Dubai here for some years now.Recently I made up my to start a relationship and because I was scared of Nigerian ladies I opted dating an Ugandan lady.

Fast forward to yesterday night I got a new sim so I tried pulling her legs as we are not staying together so I chatted her up like a stranger on WhatsApp with my new line trying to chyke her.She first said she’s in a relationship and not interested in any relationship and immediately she called me asking me if I just got a line which I denied.

So I chatted her up again on that same line still posing as a stranger...Can you imagine this girl denied ever been in a relationship and even said she just admitted been in a relationship because she wanted to wade the guy ( which is me) off.

Fine I know I haven’t spent a dime on this girl as she’s doing well financially but I have invested a lot on her emotionally.

And if you see the way this girl would be claiming she loves me 24/7.I just got her message some seconds ago saying She loves me with all her heart and that she’s missing me.

I actually thought it’s only Nigerian ladies that have craze but this one own is raise to power 2.

What can I do

u kw see who date ,na Uganda u go day date ,bro wake up ,our girls better pass those girls by far ,most Nigeria girls are jobless that's y they act they way they behave ,Uganda is a no go area oo,,trust me

ultraviolet27:
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I beg no blame d Father He ain't at fault .The Dad has asked Him to follow Him 2 His Cement Store Severally He refused, He asked to Connect Him 2 a White Collar Job in Lag He Refused Even to a Learn a trade He still didn't Oblige.So mk d Dad Drag Him along to His Shop?How else did His 2 Sisters know that Money is not Plugged frm Tree and d One abroad is even Hustling?

He has a Mum too Hasn't He? What is she doing? no be 2 People they give Birth?So the Man Should develop Hypertension bcs His Son dey Craze D foundation was already faulty.

Anyways a Yoruba Proverb Says ti Ile kan ba sin toro Omo ale Ibe ni o ti i dagba who knows maybe He is even an illegitimate?

mistake number 1 ,when training a son ,not a daughter ,as a man ,you have to be brutal when I say brutal not with fist or weapon but with words ,that's the part most father's failed today ,you pampared your children mostly the guys like a lady and someday they take up their fist towards you ,men by nature are very aggressive by Nature bro ,and that's the part the father avoided ,how can u as a father send your son to school and u day beg am say u go pay am salary for him to work for you ,man no body does that ,how many times have today father's take a walk with their son , telling their their mistake ,or had I know ,only few men in Africa society do that ,for that guy to pick up a knife and stab this father's tire ,then there is a part responsibility the father failed to do ,,,,..

since I was born my own father has never used the phase will you come with me ,,,it has been go wear your shorts or shirt let's get to mechanic village ,I want to fix my car ,man when I get there or before I get there it usually one gist to the other and when we arrive there I see how young boys hustle with oil spillage on their body and fingers , ....so bro I know what I am saying

MOST OF OUR FATHER'S TODAY MADE THE EARTH TOO SOFT THAT WHY YOU SEE ARROGANT YOUTH (BOYS) AROUND TODAY

kmcutez:
Jesus Christ. WTF is wrong with you, man.

it seems ,that statement shock you,most of the people who sold people into slave in Nigeria from their great great grandparents,are very very much active in today's politics ,their names are been censored just to let peace rain

MPESA:
She's going far ,if you ask me ...

by the time she tries to make straight affection towards him ,it might be too late ,then men become scum ,and last I forget ,90%,of females only get gift for those they love ,take it or leave it ,if your gf no buy you gift since una day date ,check am well ,she day buy for some one else ,

MPESA:
She's going far ,if you ask me ...

why will I crack my head to buy something for a friend when I know we literally have nothing in common,if na Friday like she said and he loves designers ,she can get him a designers bed spread

adecz:
This your brother don cast..☹️��



As the only boy, I suspect your
parents spoilt him.



Imagine him even launching an
attack on his father, as per the knife
and tyre☹️❌❌❌❌

na parental spoilt life ,you see uniben students mostly the one's who have people overseas,they act like say they day private university but last last na federal university they day

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

your brother too do o,u all spoilt him ,and I wonder the type of friends that comes around your hux to visit him ,me as a man there are level at which I can get angry ,but deflating tires ,I no do that shite ,I think your father need to carry your younger brother along in his business let him know no body plugs money from trees ,and that's the part your father has failed to do

MPESA:
F

she is not ready to confess .....

Mercychen:
He's just a friend.

just a friend and u are cracking your brain like this ,you never ready

Fiscus105:
What about men who don't even knw how many gfs and concubines they have? what about guys that will be toasting another lady even In the present of his girlfriend? Let hear ur view on that sir.

for a man to be a red Piller ,I will still stand advocate if she passs all the test of the relationship ,she is good to go ,

REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR ,that's my next year motor for my relationship ..,she flops give her back her dosage .,

Tonnyray:
GOD bless you. This is my take exactly.
Only WhatsApp remains on my phones and even that is potentially distracting enough.

a lot of Africa guys have a lot to learn I swear bro ,,,,even our ladies are not yet awoken like the western ladies ,but it's best we tame it to the minimum ,in the west ,ladies are heading towards lesbianism right now because guys have become aware of their tactics and manipulative behavior.. expensive dates is a no no for guys these day... because is it worth it after dinning on your money for 3 days it ends up in no or I will think about it ,who no like you ,even if you give am the whole world ,u are just wasting your time ,

a man that operate more that one social media accounts/app without any business purposes attach, seeks only validation from strangers,and he is doom to be stagnant in his frame ,and I wonder what knowledge he will pass to his unborn kids

Men who hit the gym 5 times a week hardly have time to smile on TikTok or Instagram ,today men are week fellows moving around with money or cash in their pockets but lack the proper frame of mind......show me a military man or woman who smiles around on TikTok like their life's depends on it ...


that's why most men today find it hard to tell our ladies what's wrong or what's right ,they just smile sheeply,with the mind set of I don't want to offend her ,,,,bro make her angry open rebuke is better than a secret false love

Pataricatering:
iv always been an advocate.for condoms , dear . I advocate for women to enjoy their sexuality safely
I don't need you to advise me on that

P.S - I hope u also learn to advise your fellow men and stop concerning yourself with women's s vaginas
Yahoo has become an epidemic becos men have ignored mentoring younger men but are busy running around chasing women with tape rule to measure their vaginas
Cheers

before yahoo bacme pandemic you ladies where the ones also advocating for guys running for 9 -5pm jobs to quite and start yahoo...

pretty ladies in as much men always feel like the strong ones ,also know women are ment to pass down morals and culture to offspring ,the average Nigeria lady saw yahoo guys as the best type of hustle in town ,I can't remember the countless number of ladies who told me ,they thought I do yahoo because of how I dress ,now u can see how their brain has been conditioned,,,

Pataricatering:
if your mother could push your big , senseless head from her puna without it turning to lekki ibadan expressway no be you people two inch dyck go affect my puna , dear .

but just listen to your self,it's okay if u an advocate of ladies sleeping around but also advocate for them to use condom ,but STD is going to be an increase very soon

Evercurious:
You re right shaa.. well every man knows himself.

it's been a while where have you been pretty lady

Pataricatering:
chief, she doesn't owe you any truth .. it's.funny how manshewo naija dudes will be crying up and down becos of small cheating. Wetin.you want.make we women.do ?

this is literally coming from a damage lady , because u feel relationship is a game you plawn on people ,or manipulate ,am sorry to say this but u are not fit to be in a relationship no apology ...

you see fellas, this is why other fellas use the term ,I will use her and dump her , because of lady like this one here ,,if you grew up in a damaged house or you lost your virginity to a gangster,stay on your own and don't rub it on innocent persons and fuvk around housing various infection around

KiNg0G:
I don't need to get married to apply common sense to issue like this.


some of you men are weaklings ....I know what am saying.

I was once raised in a home, where if my mom is sick...or she's not around...house go just dey one kind. . throughout that period.

because everything was on her...apart from the money coming from dad.

it nor supposed to be so.
think like a man

and you never felt anything wrong about your house hold ,and I guess that's the same step u are taking also ,disunity at home ...think like a man has send many men to early grave ,think logically

INDUSTRIALFAN:
What fvckery is this? Who de raise these kain men wey de embarrass us like this? So as a man, you can’t do any of the things you listed? How did you live as a bachelor? You even have a help in the house except ur help is also a child which in this case would be tagged child abuse.

man if u are not married it's best you keep shut ,give a woman one inch and be expecting 5inch ,,

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

bro , there is something I want to tell u ,not every lady knows what is untiy in a family some people mostly ladies use fight to settle misunderstanding ,I will use my self for example ,u see your type of hux ,it's almost similar like my whole growing up ,the best you can do is to make sure the kids are happy trust me ,that singular fact alone is what I use in respecting my father even when my mom acted the same way your wife is acting,make sure the kids don't feel the absence of their mother ,buy them ice cream ,little little things to have fun with and please teach them unity ,that's wat has kept me and my siblings going ,I just got back from another state to see my siblings with the husband it's all love bro , peace

Pataricatering:
over 98% of Nigerian men are directly or indirectly practicing brostitution aka oshofree prostitution.
I got my data where you got yours

if she tells me she is an ashawo that likes me ,it's far better than cy who tells me the father is sick and she is going to see him at the hospital only to meet her at the night club ,

Pataricatering:
lol , she nor bleep you for every corner ?

you know y guys date some ladies for 3 years without marriage , because there was lies all tru the relationship,most guys have a clean file of their girl cheating but they keep it cool ,when u start seeing the guy advocating for condom use in the relationship ,just kw say he knows already and to shock you ,una go fuvk free fuvk for 3 years but his heart is no longer there.

stanliwise:
you simply avoided the fact that the girl never made it known to this said guy she is hanging out with another guy
she is trying to eat her cake and have it with someone else too.

my guy if a lady tellsme I am not the only one she seeing,I will even like her the more ,at least she is trying to tell me , weigh your options lightly ,

DannyXpress:
Mr Nice guys everywhere using money to impress a lady is one sure way to cage yourself

how about we date without money involved ,let's see how many relationship will even stand the test of time ,what these ladies needhs a job ,I will not be surprised with the high rate of STD infection and HIV ,very soon in Nigeria

Nadaken:
why the girl go misbehave in the first place

[/b]The marriage wasn't suppose to happen then[b]

Man when want Belle is ready to commit to you, if you con misbehave then I think the pregnancy also acted as a checkmate to expose your deceitful pretence

this is why i say and I said it ladies who care to listen MARRY BEFORE YOUR CARRY BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE THIS ,,,

ANY MAN/WOMAN WHO DOESN'T BELIEVE IN WE CAN WORK THIS OUT RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

Nadaken:
we are saying the same thing

A guy that has seen your parents and wants to commit then ask you to take in along the line

If Belle no show then no need for dowry and church wedding

then when the girl misbehave you start misbehaving right,then the belle becomes her headache...

Johel:
Simple and clear to avoid stories that touch after marriage.

why placed the ladies life on hold ?

to ladies who chooses to listen to me ,marry before you carry ,(marriage before belle oo) ,don't become a victim of baby mama ,your whole life is placed on hold ,I wouldn't even advice my sister to carry belle first ,if the guy is serious tell him to come and see your parents with marriage list getting ready

Evercurious:
Abeg forget that talk about discussing business ideas with a guy you re in love with or dating. Business koo creative nii... .. Who go continue relationship go continue. Who lazy lazy and who dey hardworking and creative same, all those one naa for him or her head.... who like or love am go do that the way she be..

but see the good quality you just listed about her hardworking, creative etc ,how many of our modern beautiful ladies have these quality realistic from 1 to 10 percentage rating ?

ultraviolet27:
My anger was for that Gandokie Guy for those middle Sentences though and what is it with me Choosing my Words wisely?If u made a Comment on a thread u would be Quoted

nairaland female go beat the guys one day ooo,calm down u too day paro jor ,