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Single or married IA MA A VERY HAPPY CAMPER ANY DAY, ANY TIME.
Just bored with the marriage matter.
But I like it WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY better than 'single old KAYGO' life o!

Getting married is the EASY PART!
Staying married does not mean you have to be happy.
Once you have tasted marriage. . . single life by divorce or widowhood becomes UNPALATABLE. . . especially if your spouse is DAMN ABOVE AVERAGE SPOUSE! Getting a replacement is like substituting Duracel batteries for 'BEREC'!
It is better to have remained single than to have failed in marriage.
A bad marriage is ALWAYS BETTER THAN A GOOD DIVORCE!
Amen!

With no constant and reliable electricity?
Well, how about that?

[quote author=Lord_Reed]Big Aunty, what's you take on charity? Do you do any? Do you give money as charity? Would you help your relatives or friends if they had financial problems?[/quote]Dear 'nephew'.
I do a lot of charity work o.
But NEVER church-related.
I do help out a lot of my friends, relatives and co-workers out a lot.
I never part with what I can't live without.
No loans.

For example, an in-law of mine needed a car. I took out a loan and give it to her.
I never asked her to pay back. . .she never knew it was a loan I took out on her behalf.
I paid it off quietly.
Just like my family and relatives have helped me out a lot.

If you wanto marry a 'usban. . . nefa you marrrey a waka abatio. . . !
I am sure she will be asking herself if 'MARRYING' Ojukwu is was worth all this stress and scrutiny.
I think not! The old 'BABA' don 'tolopia' leave her and her children behind after sucking the best of her youth.
Ladies! Ladies! Ladies!
Never you marry your 'grandfather's bestfriend'!
Hear ye! Hear ye!

Meanwhile, their 'children' full for Nairaland o!

Haba!
Thread don close?
Maybe 'Ngwakwe' can help us out!

I don't do e-mails.
Too boring and trifling to read.
I delete on contact! Period!

Haba!
Welcome to 'Agberoland'!
If dem cuss you. . . CUSS SHEGEY comot for dem azzze!
Simple!

MU KWAH KWAH KWAH KWAH KWAH!
LWKMD!!!!

Abeg lef me hand o!
Me sef be NVS deportee o! GOOD RIDDANCE TO UGLY STINKING BLOW-JOB-FOR-JESUS MODERATORS ABEG O!
I get blokos for house. . . Shioooooooooooooooor!!!
As long as no barry call my name. . .we are cool!
Gang or no gang. . . I dey kamkpeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

Where are the moderators?
No 'hidden posts' for thread-derailment?

Mrs Lola Nwokolobia. . . time to kiss ya husband and take your 'cute butt' to work!

Thank my lucky stars. . . I don go Nigeria come back!
Who wanno be marooned in such a place at the beginning of the year?
Good! My darling husband has learned his lesson!
He is staying PUT!

richmans: Quet 1 =I am 27 by nxt year january i ll be 28,quest 2= my mum

Good!
You are an adult. Start acting like one.
Your father and his brother ARE NOT TO BE TRUSTED!
You better heed your mom's advice.
I really do not understand your fascination with people who cause you grief. IS LOVE BY FORCE?
Let the wedding take place. . . Then go and visit your sister with your mom AFTER THE WEDDING!
Period.

Your sister may have a lot to share with you both AT THE RIGHT TIME! Her being raised by your father may not have been in HER BEST INTEREST. Sorry to state. . . but just the facts!

richmans: @ Lisnoh thanks what am confused about is if i shld follow my mum advice or do my own wish

How old are you?
Your mother or your father? Who seems to be the MORE reasonable adult?
You are older than your sister for sure.
I don't think you should be confused about decisions that CONCERN YOUR WELFARE!
The so-called 'father' who ABANDONED YOU AND YOUR MOTHER to go and chase/marry another woman. . . and while alive, could sleep at night while you were doing 'boy-boy' with his hateful brother should be the LEAST of your considerations!


Let us hope he did not take your sister in 'just to entertain his sick desires'! I will not be leaving anything 'female' alone with him for sure. . . for he has proven he cannot be trusted to keep his zipper up and closed!
That your sister needs to see a 'shrink' to make sure she is not suffer from 'abuse'. . .I am concerned about her welbeing. This hush-hush marriage smacks of doom! Something is NOT QUITE RIGHT!
For a father to take in a 'daughter' and abandon a 'son' is quite disturbing!
This your family na wah!
Goodluck sha!

It must have been ordained by GOD. . .with whom all things are possible!
Men! They must be going straight to heaven!
I don't envy them at all!
What a way to meet their "God"!

The North of course!
With all the 'noise' coming from the South!

Check out roads in Bauchi!
Shegey!!!!

Maybe all the dead babies from the Baby farms by those 'HOLY NWEJES' are crying for justice.
Who knows?

Chinwem: Thanks Chaircover!!!l!! Thanks for the reminder!!!!! You still remember after all this time. Thanks Really appreciate it.

Thanks Callotti.........I m focusing on my career now and it's really moving well by Gods grace. It's coming along just fine. It's just that I never thought I d be one of those ' career women' . I ve always known that I wanted a family of my own. Anyway, I m sure it ll come sooner or later just like Chaircover said.But for now work is excellent.........I m making reall progress with my residency training.

Hope I can always fall on both of you guys for advice and encouragement when I need it. Thanks!!!

Welcome!
Please, concentrate on your job.
A single, happy career woman is ALWAYS better than a miserable, married housewife/OR CAREER WIFE!
Your happiness lies in YOUR OWN HANDS!
Don't let anyone deceive you.
This is 2013 almost. . . not 1920!
MOST WOMEN ARE GOING TO DIE SINGLE! No need to take any BULL from any MAN in the name of romance, love, marriage or children!

MAKE SOME FRIENDS AND GO OUT AND SOCIALIZE!!!!
A word of advice. . . MARRIAGE CAN BE VERY BORING. . . . !!!! Make sure you have RRRRRRRRRRROCKED life superbly before venturing into such a 'bondage'!

You need to respect your mom's feelings being the aggrieved party in all this.
I am sure your sister will understand.
After your sister gets married. . . .you can visit her with your mom.
For now, it is in everyone's interest to keep your mom and dad's brother apart.
Then you need to seriously face your life and allow others to carry their own crosses!
Your sister unfortunately, has been exposed to all this drama which might be the downfall of her own marriage.
It is a pity your dad is an 'unprintable expletive'!
But I am not surprised though. A new poohsie can turn a Nigerian man's head 360 degrees without exorcizing him of the slightest madness.
Real men are 'self-made'. . . not born.
Goodluck!

Just out of curiousity. . .WHAT EXACTLY IS YOUR CONFUSION ALL ABOUT?

chaircover: Hi Chinwem I know you asked for callotti's expert advise and I am sure she will have lots of good advise for you

But while we wait for her, can I remind you of what I told you a couple of months ago . . . . .



chin up girl & tell your family that when you find a man worthy of you, they will be the first to know

callotti sorry for derailing your thread.

Please, you are welcome to assist.
You are very knowledgeable and capable in these matters.
I personally think she should humor them. . . instead of taking it to heart.
If I were her. . . I will keep telling them am a 'les-bian'! Just to send them to an early grave for being meddlesome.
I never had such parents. . . .I would have put them squarely in their places for sure!
Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh!

"Agony Aunt" ke?
Nice to meet you too.
The late 20s is a very vulnerable age for MOST NIGERIAN/AFRICAN LADIES.

I will not advise any woman to just look for any XY chromosome carrier to tie the knot.
It really does not matter if the women are in their late teens or late 50s.
Desperation can never bring happiness.
A desperate man is just as difficult to live with like a desperate woman.
Family pressures should not make anyone jump into marriage.
I respect women like Ibidapo Obe. . .who has dated many men and decided in the end to have HER BABY out of wedlock.
Another option is to be a second or third/fourth wife to a polygmous 'normad'!
It is the woman's choice make the best choice without becoming desperate.
Men especially Nigerian men have become economic and social predators.
Women have to be careful. Low self-esteem brings about desperation only.
With self-confidence. . . a woman need not worry about what the world or her parents may think, say or do!

IS A WOMAN SINGLE BECAUSE SHE IS A DIFFICULT PERSON TO LIVE WITH OR BECAUSE THERE ARE NO QUALIFIED MEN TO TAKE HOME TO HER PARENTS?

The answer is: THERE ARE ABSOLUTELY NOT ENOUGH REASONABLE AND RESPONSIBLE MEN TO HOOK UP WITH! Facts! So, should a woman kill herself because men of nowadays have chosen to be career-gigolos? I think not!

If I were in my late twenties and unmarried. . . .I will concentrate on other aspects of my life such as my career.
Marriage is not the end in itself.

In the final analysis. . .it is much better to have remained single than to have a FAILED MARRIAGE!

Smartie gurl: And you think most relationshp's will be like your's?

Where did you read that?
At least I KNOW whom I a married to!
If you can know yours. . .please let us know.

Till then. . . . .

chaircover: Welcome back Blazey

. . . and yes there are a whole heap of other things that are worse than impotence. Some things are treatable but some things just dont have any treatment.

Thanks!

[quote author=geez*]Certainly not. We will spread all over the SW[/quote]Good! Keep that 'mess' in the SW.
Thank you!

Everyone has a choice to make in life.
Good news. . . there is enough of these to go around. . . .
Why should other people's choices bother you?

[quote author=baby_123]Woah! I think I like you. Hehe. But what could be worse than impotence?[/quote]With a name like 'BIGVAJINA' as the OP calls himself or herself any man would be impotent for sure!
Sheeeeeesh.

A mentally and physically abusive spouse is worse than an impotent spouse.
YOU WOULD BE THE IMPOTENT ONE FOR SURE. . . AFTER ALL THE ABUSE.
Impotence is a medical/psycholigical condition. . . .DOMESTIC ABUSE IS A PSYCHO-SOCIOPATHIC AILMENT!
Worse than impotence for sure!

What a backward part of the world!
MEN IN ANIMALS' SKIN!
Tufiakwa!!!

I pity the women who live in such parts of the world. Honestly!

At first, when relatives of a 25-year-old student of Enugu State College of Education, Chika Egbo, learnt of her romance with a man from the south western part of the country who had offered to marry her, they were surprised giving the fact that their daughter and sister does not live or school in that part of the country.

Apparently, the young lady was infatuated with the idea of marriage, and never bothered to study the psychiatric history of her so-called romantic interest!
You will find more dead beats in the SW for sure!
Like Nigeria, like Nairaland!

*sighs*

What an unhappy bunch!

Only in Aba for sure!
Igbo men should stop marrying Igbo women.
They have not respect for each other and are not capable of diffusing the 'BIAFRAN ANGST'!

About 50+. . .to combat 'Pyguru' and his gang!

I hope this 'innovative measure' is CONFINED STRICTLY TO IBADAN!!!
Thanks!

The "Lagosians" are not complaining.
They love their 'ASIWAJUS'. . . .
Which wan come consain us?
We should wish them well. . . Shikena!

luvable sam: I can't agree less,permit me to dare say that if a survey of prostitutes in nigeria today,60% of them would av grown as children of civil servants!

Definitely!
No home can be run with the income of a civil servant without diversifying.
The children would learn to fend for themselves for sure!
Armed-robbery included or become cultists!