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Nice2023:
Money issue.

Lack of communication.


Allowing family members to interfer in ur marriage.


Strain on ur income.

Nkemsplendid:
I met my husband back in UNN, we were both student politicians and there weren't many of us "born again" Christians interested in politics then so it was a small caucus. He started off as merely friends but given the rate at which he made those trips from Enugu to Nsukka Campus most weekends at a point I knew he was romantically interested in me. When I ran for speaker at my Faculty, he was a huge support. What was there not to love? He was handsome, well spoken, funny and extremely courageous. We eventually married in 2007 right after his NYSC and my own internship year.

Sixteen years down the line he still makes me laugh, we still have those heated PDP vs LP arguments and we are still each other's biggest supporter. I've thoroughly enjoyed the interdependency. We came from different backgrounds so the first few years were a learning curve. I grew up on campus with both professor parents, hardly went anywhere else, while he grew up all over Nigeria's Prison barracks. We've had to find middle ground on all the issues, spirituality, money, physical affection, children upbringing, luxury and trips etc. I'd marry him again in a heartbeat.

I feel real pity when I see how discouraged young people have become about marriage. I'm grateful I had the most positive outlook and it paid off. I would normally just jump and pass such topics but nowadays I try to take that risk and drop my own story so that those who need this positivity don't miss out. My own four children are all fast moving into their teens and I'd hate for them to only hear horror stories. I'm sure the cynics will still gather here to convince me that I'm just suffering, enduring and smiling. It's OK. Las Las, we will all be fine.❤

Angrygoat:
No tears for the dead.
I be uniben graj,stayed at Hall 3 that year block F. Saw diff Anita. When I stayed off camp at osasogie,i got beat u,robbed,ran to bdpa,i got robbed too. Oh baba I run enter gra. Uniben is dead. I rem how dem waste my favorite barber that year..galaxy...

free2ryhme:
which side for hall 3 the shot the guy,

common room, or reading room, or for SUG lane, which side

drake2:
Many thanks for your response.

But that required consciousness about the existence of boundaries and repercussions (death inclusive) heightened the uneasiness and nervousness.

How could you function optimally in such a tensed environment. At Pg School in UI, 2003; 40% of my classmates came from Uniben including ladies with horrific tales and very close horrible experiences.

I am particular about Uniben, because it is our School with very bright and intelligent academic community. Thank you!

Upton:
I personally don’t think he was a frat man. He might just be a Kegite member that stepped on someone’s toes.

In the six years I spent in that school, I never heard of a non Axe man member living inside school hostel, E nor go fit try am. Once they join rival cult groups, they move out of school campus to BDPA or Osasogie. And a non axe man can’t come into the hostel to kill an axe man. There’s a reason ayes call that school their temple. Except na Ayes kill one of their own

Younghacka:
That might do I guess.

anthonyuncle:
oshe!
na you biko!!

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Younghacka:
It's great as a parent seeing your child reading from a tender age. . .
But in this age and generation where a father goes out early in the morning and comes back late at night. . . Will this fly?

Zidoh:
You really cracked me up

rottable:
LMAO

This country is seriously f*ucked up

KelChinon202:
You simply do not want to hear the truth.

occfx:
Well to an extent you are correct, you just have to earn 5 times above minimum wage in a month and Cut Your Coat and accordingly. Nigeria uses minimum wage to cheat her citizens. A minimum wage that cannot buy one bag of rice is that one a minimum wage?

But the most important is to cut your coat accordingly... If you marry baby oku, even if you earn 1m a month she will tell you her friend uses 1m on her hair every month.

clays:
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clays:
Client is in need of an accounting assistant with at least 5 years experience in accounting and tax matters.
Minimum is OND/HND or BSc with good organizational experience
Must live within Location is Agungi so candidate must live close within the area.
Please if you reside on the Mainland or Far into Sangotedo, don't apply.
We don't want transportation time and costs to be an issue.
Salary is 100k. Serious candidates only. Contact via email on signature

Delightsome2023:
hi any teaching job around Benin?

Monogamy:
I only got Seun's April fool stunt by changing the forum colour.

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

Praisepriest:
You won't have savings not to talk of a future. If your salary is ,#100. Feeding should be #40, give her #10. You too take #15, parents #10 invest the rest for future. Women will push you into well and claim innocency

alphaNomega:
I will not want to have anything to with a girl that fuckks married men for whatever reason.

Rinoxy:
Karma or reaping what you sow has no respect for your so called principle. "He who breaks the edge, the serpent shall bite."

Theboy21:
Legendary Grandma

rickpat:
your story started with " he" and ended with "she"...your neighbor must be a gender special being


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highchief1:
why were u do hostile.and even denied u r not ok nairaland

LARRYOBRAIN:
Dare it, find out about magun, it has nothing to do with worship.