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A TWISTED VIEW OF MARRIAGE!!!

People will see a man washing his clothes and instead of minding their business, they'll say "Ahh Oga Victor, go and marry so you'll stop washing".

They'll see a man cooking and be like "Bro John, you need to get married so you can stop cooking".

A mother will look at his 35years old son who cannot wash his own boxers, boil water for tea or even make his own bed, a 35years old that cannot take his plates to the kitchen after eating and tell him "James, you need to settle down, get a woman to take care of you". SERIOUSLY??

In different ways, the society subconsciously tell men that they don't marry women for any reason other than cleaning, cooking and childbearing. I begin to wonder, does the average man need a wife or a glorified maid?

Many women look 3times their age all because of stress and

exhaustion. You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she's about to pass out. REALLY?? Face screaming in fear

Men, who told you that it is wrong to wash your own plates?

Who told you that it is wrong to wash your own clothes?

Who told you that it is wrong to dress your bed when you wake up?

What will it take to help your partner with chores in the house?

If a man wanted to be adopted as a child to be pet, pampered, fed and nursed. Then, he need not to seek marriage, he should rather offer himself up for an adoption at a motherless home to be picked up.

BUT If you want a wife, who you would love, cherish, do different things with, assist in some chores, and love her for the rest of your life, then get married. AND if you are getting married because you feel you're becoming too old to do your own chores,then get a maid.

Women are to be cherished, pampered and loved, and to be used. Show them love.

shosky1794:
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A guy who says sorry to the girl he loves even when he is right is called what?

Erm, sure.

It guarantees a major risk of sexual incompatibility. It guarantees massive disappointment and a likely painful divorce if you do end up being sexually incompatible. Or a lifetime of “adjustment” in a broken marriage.

Tell me, does having never travelled in your life, guarantee anything when you travel abroad for the first time?

Virginity is just that - lack of experience. Why in the wide world would that be good, or guarantee anything.


I keep count on stuff like this when I was still a practising English lawyer/solicitor and handled matrimonial cases (divorce), among other things.

Exactly 50% of my “virginal bride” marriages ended in divorce. Most of them (40%) were contested divorce, and the rest (5–9%) uncontested. (In case anyone wonders, a diligent lawyer should ask the client if she had entered the marriage as a virginal bride — to cover all bases as it may or may not be a relevant factor for certain claims.)


Sex — or lack thereof — is a completely separate thing from romance, which is also different from marriage. And frankly, the definition of a “successful” marriage varies between cultures, and goes beyond baby making if you ask me (because you can easily make babies without getting married).

In fact, in 2009 I still remember meeting an old couple (around 60+ years old) at East Avenue Medical Center who had grandchildren and looked like a happy family in the traditional Catholic sense… until the grandpa stated out loud that he and his “spouse” never actually got married.

That (among several other experiences) shattered so many of my preconceived notions about relationships.

ayobarmy:
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If it's a mild irritation, 1–3 on a scale of 10, that's why she is your girlfriend and not friend. Btw don't you feel the same if she talks to other male friends? Love comes with pros and cons Buddy.
If it's 4–7/10 , you got to watch out your actions too. Are you flirtatious?
If it's on an alarming rate of 8–10/10 either you are surely too much flirtatious or you are dating a self obsessed narcissistic women, who btw is trying to possess you.
If the scale is 8–10/10 and you have no Playboy's instincts, run! Save your life!

If any other reasons imply, talk her through it.

Will you like if she hugs an another guy and say he is my best friend and nothing else!!!!

I guess NO.

Than why hypocrisy

Things and situations can differ but the attitude and level of intimacy/love of a person can’t. If it is not okay for you that she holds someone else or hug someone else or be it she gives more attention to him than anything that doesn’t make her happy isn’t right.

She might be jealous kinda but what’s wrong in that until it doesn’t affect your relationship and life!!! Jealousy is a part of love and no-one can deny it.

As simple as that this situation is; She feels jealous because she maybe a less than that another girl you are talking about in terms of anything like looks, money, lifestyle,etc. Insecurities are good up-to some level but when it is created for someone then you need to be ready to bear the repercussions.

Talk about other girls but don’t make her feel she is less than those girls. Make her feel the Queen of your Kingdom and she will be there for you in the crime you do.

can you drop it here

harleybee:
hey every1, i'm new here,
can i help some people?
i just tried opening d website n luckily 4 me, it opened,
so i'mma start with who?

2dice01:
Only 3


Are you a learner?

Yes

X0012:
I wish I can give your post multiple likes because that is what it deserves

Thank you.

Go ahead

shosky1794:
Sure. Could you drop yours. Thanks.

Thank you for pointing it out to me.

Paulimation:
Very wrong!! Men are still extremely fertile up to age 45.
The age limit for sperm donors is actually 45, and that's just to be safe. From 45 upwards, other aging issues MAY start to affect sperm production or motility.

nannyo:
Well done! You obviously have a legal mind.
An addendum:
The said property is alienated to his elder brother, that means, his elder brother is in the position to file or do whatever and not him. Remember the law of privity of contract.
meanwhile, I just created a blog for law students.
visit lawreach..com
https://lawreach..com/2020/03/my-journey.html?m=1

Yes, very true. He should know what to do from my write up I gave 3 options. Nice blog

nannyo:
Well done! You obviously have a legal mind.
An addendum:
The said property is alienated to his elder brother, that means, his elder brother is in the position to file or do whatever and not him. Remember the law of privity of contract.
meanwhile, I just created a blog for law students.
visit lawreach..com
https://lawreach..com/2020/03/my-journey.html?m=1

Yes, very true. He should know what to do from my write up I gave 3 options.

I am working on something.

Roman7:
U need to write a book

kkins25:
Beautiful! I must confess, when i first glanced through the write up i wanted to skip it, but the sentence structure made me decide otherwise. Do know that i read every word, i like how you try to use your own experiences (from a psychological POV) to explain whats probably going on in the op's girlfriends head..

I cant help but guess you to be an introvert or someone that is very reserved. I say this because You have mediated on your thoughts, analysed the emotions that come with it and probably revisted decisions you made when you had the experiences..


Remarkable!!!

Is the op learned enough to understand the wisdom up there? Another, person i can learn from has appeared.

Yes

Noted but they will have to be verified, video calls

FanOfMyself:
Be mindful of those guys with weird monikers like... They will spoil your show for you. How can someone chose a moniker like "una toto", "Iamstupid" et al

Yes. Telegram.

Pusyiter:
Telegram then?

nurey:
My grandmothers bronze tiro collection. I remembered I used to beg her to apply for me too at a tender age and my mum used to be angry at that
those things should be around 1930s

May Allah grant her Alijanah firdaus

Do you have a mail? if yes, let me have it. I do not respond to pm's.

BestAccessories:
You're doing well.

On the long run, you will understand better.

Ooin

Do you have a mail? if yes, let me have it. I do not respond to pm's.

marriseller:
Deep

Do you have a mail? if yes, let me have it. I do not respond to pm's.

primedream:
I'm in pains! I'm in serious pains!!

Ok Sir.

koladata:
This is the reason your previous relationships never worked, men hate ladies that talks too much. Try to work on it, you will make a better sense if you learn to keep it simple

Do you have a mail? if yes, let me have it. I do not respond to pm's.

ayobarmy:
May God Increase your knowledge, In Jesus Name

I mean drop your email address not pm or dm

harleybee:
I've done that.
Kindly respond
Thanks

do you have a mail?

shosky1794:
Don't even compare Dapo with Osoba in terms of performance. Dapo seems more useless than Ikpeazu of Abia

Pusyiter:
Idea is ok
Make it work by setting modalities
You can use any of the handles like telegram, whatsapp ]etc
You screen before adding.
You can do background check to ascertain veracity

Thank you for your input. Whatsapp because of privacy issues and unwanted calls from unknown person in the group plus it is limited

Pls drop your mail, thank you.

Paulimation:
Absolute rubbish. If i ever heard of a most useless experiment, then this is it.

DROP YOUR MAIL

harleybee:
Please can I also send a message?
I have a similar case though in alakuko
Thanks.

Yes ma.

Amanee:
Just look at the epistle you typed just because you've not gotten over your exes.

Pro tip: Stop being insecure and maybe the next relationship will last

delzbaba:
Self help is the way for stubborn tenant,abi you no dey watch nollywood films?

Do not resort to this, you will ONLY REGRET IT.