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Ask your pastor in the church or friends you hang out with, family ,members etc. C;mon na!

ChieduJoshua081:
Please I beg somebody here to please borrow me 30k. I really need the money very urgently. This is planting season I need to clear my lands and plant before the time passes . Before my money comes , the season would have been over. Please I can provide my bvn so if I don't pay you can report me to the bank to block my account. I just really need the money like now. I know there are people here who will have money in their account for months and they won't touch it or use it for anything please somebody needs it. All those Loan apps have failed to help me. Somebody help this young Nigerian man full of dreams.

CBN announces 6 initial policy responses to combat Covid-19 scourge on economy:
1. extension of moratorium on loans,
2. interest rate reduction,
3. creation of N50bn fund,
4. credit support for healthcare sector,
5. regulatory forbearance and strengthening of Loan to Deposit Rate policy

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TotoNaRubber:
Pls do you know the rate they sell dollar today?

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Can I talk to you? I have no desire to be on a 2-3 hour date with someone I cannot hold a conversation with.

Do you have some sense of personal hygiene? Your clothing should be clean, and you shouldn't have any strong bad breath or BO. Smell like you take a bath and brush your teeth regularly.

Do you smoke anything? That's a showstopper for me.

Are you loud or obnoxious? Can't handle people who are loud all the time. If you are one of those who yells in bars or makes a spectacle of himself in public-moving on.

Are you reasonably physically attractive? No, you don't have to look like this:


(although if you do, I'll find a way to cope).

But you should at least look like you try to take care of yourself. Being at a reasonable weight, head and facial hair under control, nails trimmed, skin that looks healthy, and wearing big boy clothing that fits and doesn't look like something a rapper or an athlete would wear will do just fine.

Are you a person who feels he has to be a tough guy, or puts out a tough guy vibe? I don't want that. I find guys who are gentle but masculine to be attractive. Gentle men won't abuse me, or look for fights with other people, and are easiest to get close to.

Do you have manners? How you treat other people around you (apologizing if you get in someone's way, treating people who are waiting on you, minor courtesies like making sure you hold the door open for people who are behind you) tells me a lot about you. You don't have to lay your robe down over puddles for me to step on, but a little kindness and consideration goes a long way.

Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner. If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own.

Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in today's world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in other areas.

Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it.

Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

What is the oldest thing in your house??
My great grand mother's dish

what about it?

kwakwakwa:
Leezah or Lizard.............................ur DP though..................... SMH !

Noted.

1StopRudeness:
All this epistle over something u can never truly understand or experience... you are not a man.....u ladies should stop saying don’t judge a woman based on first entry.... sounds like u are just desperately trying to create a hiding spot/ excuse for women with multiple body counts and at the same time want men to feel their desire for a virgin is baseless...

You have not entered a real virgin no man has entered before....whether the hymen is intact or not, it doesn’t matter....my sister the difference is a very clear compared to a lady that d!cks have drilled a passage with hundreds of thrust over many sexual encounters...

Cycling or other rigorous sport or even repetitive fore play over the years without real penetration can cause rupture to the hymen and not make a woman bleed at the real penetration.... but I tell u again.... the difference is still extremely clear compared to a tokunbo especially those with cascades of abortion on their resume...

1. The whole world is shaken to her roots. Trump cancelled all flights from Europe into the US. Airlines are practically doing bonanzas now. Businesses are begging their staffs to work from home. Stocks & oil prices are crashing! All of these have been prophesied in the bible.

2. They are signposts to the days we are living in. Like Dr Irvin Baxter once said, "Bible prophecies never fail. They will always come to pass". Students of the bible are not surprised at what is happening.

3. If Coronavirus can ground the world like this, what do you think will happen after the Rapture?

Coronovirus is even a child's play compared to what will happen on earth after the rapture. It will be brutal.

4. This is why Pastors that are preaching prosperity alone are just destroying their congregation. Teach them about eternity. Teach them about purpose and eternal rewards.

5. Teach them about discipleship. Teach them about spiritual maturity. Why should you build your hope on money, fame and power? They never last. They are transient and ephemeral. Put your trust in Jesus while there is time. You don't have control over time.

6. Tomorrow may be too late. There is nothing shameful about following Jesus. He makes all the difference. We have entered the last hours of the last days. Only a life built on a thriving relationship with God, his purposes and love for humanity will count after-all.

Shalom.

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kingbasuraiii:
thanks for the tip.. helpful
can I talk to you outside here
cc: leezah

kpoins:
OP, you wont understand until you are married (That's if you are not) and your wife is heavily pregnant.
Who's gonna shave her P---sy huh?

Very true

There is absolutely no one who should impose their thoughts on another. Studies have found that girls who had less hair between their legs often had less odor there.

Some of the women are more than happy to shave their pussy after they have found out about the studies, there is a difference in desirability between lots of hair, less hair, and no hair.

It gives me greater sensations when we rub together, more desirability when licking my Vjay.

We also found that standing in front of the mirror when we are naked brings a smile to our faces.
My dp says it all

I have an idea, Let love rule our hearts .

I have decided to create a matchmaking group to that effect.
This is how it's gonna go down.

Here's the template,

Age:
Location:
Occupation:
Religion:
Genotype:
Relationship status:
Person of romantic interest:
Hobbies
What are you looking for and in what time frame:
Dislikes/exclusion criteria:


•••••••••••••••••••••••RULES••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
1. You must be above 21 years of age to apply because that is the legal age and we need matured adults.
2. Send a mail a mail to kemiadeshinaoyindamola@gmail.com. The subject should be "MatchmakeNG" the body of the mail should contain the template above
Ideas are welcome as to how to get it up and running

The non-app-driven response would be - because they want to.

Pregnancy, as you may already know, is a very hormonal event, more like 9 consecutive months of events, with a special prayer for the successful delivery and a live birth.

Even without hormones, many people have cravings: they are induced by the lack of some chemical in the body or the need for some chemical to be present (such as coffee to stay alert or chocolate to be happy), and the brain is driven to crave that exact substance.

With the hormones added to the mix, there is an increase in requirements: not just chemicals, but substances based on colors and textures, up to and including the revival of that which we have not craved in decades.

If you were asking "Why?" while standing at 3am at the checkout lane of the supermarket where your expectant partner had sent you to fetch anchovies and strawberry ice cream, do not despair: it's a small price to pay for having a new bundle of joy in your life.

For reference, below is a chart with those cravings and healthy substitutions but if a pregnant female is craving chocolate, please do not substitute it with a trail mix for the time being.

Since you are asking this, that obviously means you are sick of masturbation and porn and feel guilt every time you finish yourself off. You can't just gather enough balls to end it. Right?

Here's what I suggest -

(I didn't do day 1. Take that measure if yours is a case of extreme addiction)

Day 1. Masturbate as much as you can. Agitate your tool till you are done. Break all the records ever. Make yourself so tired that you can't think of anything else but sleeping that night.

Day 1. 23.59 hours: Delete your porn stash. Remove everything. Whatever previous collection you have accumulated, get rid of that. I had a collection of 1000 GB. I didn't think twice before removing all of that.

Day 2: Schedule your running. Go and run. Take up a gym membership or go running on roads/parks in the morning. It need not be a kilometer run. Even 300–400 meters on your Day 2 is fine. But increase every week.

Day 3: This day your hormones will start dominating again. You'll feel urge to shake the Bleep out of your tool because you've earned a day. NO. Don't fucking do it. Go to a public place or between your friends if that happens. Go eat something, anything. Just get out of that room and don't download any porn. Running is a constant.

Day 4: This day your little guy would be looking keenly towards you with hope that it will get an opportunity to paint the world in the color of peace and love. Don't give it that opportunity. If that happens, do 10 push-ups. If your guy still causes troubles, drink water. If still the guy is at its rage, go to public place/friends/family.

Slowly you'll have to practise to control yourself without hitting public because that won't be possible every time.

Day 7: You'll feel victory. By now you have broken all your records. Prepare yourself to set a new record the coming week. This day you increase your running. Make it to a Kilometer now.

Day 14: You are the king. You've abated the trouble you had 14 days earlier. Now life seems easier. You feel good to go and your guy doesn't trouble that much.

However you now have massive erections every morning. More massive than ever before. That's a good sign. XD

Day 30: If you have made it that far, you have all the rights to brag to your friends about this milestone. Maintain it and don't watch porn still. Don't touch your dude when it's ready to paint the world. You are not strong enough.

Day X: You are more productive now. You don't get tired. Your body is in balance now. You seem to be gaining muscle. Your schedule is occupied and you like it.

You live happily ever after.

Until you get yourself a girlfriend.

Cheers!

First you can't actually tell for sure if a girl is a virgin and you shouldn't even try. However, some men do prefer virgins and the rest are relieved to find that their girl is not a virgin.
For the ones who prefer virgins :-
1) Want to experience the ceremonial breaking of the hymen once in their life (even though there is no actual breaking - it's a myth that the hymen is a wall)
2) Can't live with the fact that their beloved had a social life before she met him
3) Don't want to risk with STD's (which could be sidelined with a few tests)
4) Are down right stupid or prude

So it is important to understand that a person's value is judged from their brain and not the state of their vagina


However, personally, I would prefer a non-virgin because:-
1) The first time a girl has sex it can be painful. So I personally don't prefer to be the person who gives any amount of pain to my beloved
2) She probably isn't prude which is a good thing as we both would be able to connect on a sexual level too
3) I am not the kind of person who would want a girl who has been saving up for me (I like rebels) and maybe not living a very important part of her life

P.S: Cycling and a load of other exercises can potentially enlarge the vaginal opening to an extent where it doesn't bleed or is painful to have sex the first time, so never judge a woman based on whether it bled the first night or not

You welcome.

Kyngfarabale1:
I've really learnt alot this afternoon



thanks

I will do my best.

Samfloxin:
Leezah, you are very much correct. Teach me more. Can you?

They are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations are expressed.

Your girlfriend looks like her whole body is jerking because that is literally exactly what's happening. Her muscles are spasming all over her body.

This is not, however, a seizure, though the symptoms may be similar.

Admissionclass:
bae pressured me to have sex with her today even though I wasn't in the mood but I did before she gets angry and dramatic again.it was really ecstatic I really hit her hard because she was cuddling me really hard like she wants to choke me all of a sudden she exploded like has an epilepsy she was shivering for like 5mins moaning and saying things I don't undesrtand immediately thoughts went through my mind like is this girl dying like the news I always hear on NL about people dying during sex but she later told me that's how she orgasms sometimes I was so shocked my ting went limp
is this normal or does she have an underlying health condition.

The medical definition of convulsion is where the muscles of the body contract and relax rapidly. This results in uncontrolled actions of the body. Convulsions are a result of an electrical imbalance in the brain usually associated with an abnormal medical condition. They can be caused by certain chemicals within blood, infections, head trauma, stroke, even diabetes. Convulsions stemming from orgasms are extremely rare. So rare that it is attributed to an epileptic issue that is triggered by the orgasmic response sometimes immediately, sometimes a short time frame following the orgasm. What can thought to be convulsions during orgasm are just normal trembling or shaking of your arms and legs due to intense response. During the build up to orgasm the muscles surrounding the genital area get a good workout. Also your heart rate becomes extremely elevated which, with the increased blood flow, can cause the large muscle structure in your body to tremble. Medically this is not a convulsion reaction.

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Calebbold:
U're welcome

A DNA test is the best way, but if evolutionary theory (and Maury Povitch) teaches us anything, it’s that if you think you aren’t the father (unless it’s for selfish reasons, you’re probably right.

Children tend to look more like their fathers. Some scientists assume it’s because women give birth and men need to have another way to recognize their offspring (pre DNA testing)

As a general rule, if you want the child and relationship but don’t think it’s yours, it probably isn’t. If you don’t want the child or relationship then have the DNA test.

Really ask yourself whether the DNA test will change your decision: will this be any less your child because of DNA? Would you punish a ten year old for his mother’s decade-old unfaithfulness?

Unfaithfulness is an important issue to address, and should be more of a concern than whether or not a child is genetically yours. A great number of men choose to leave the unfaithful woman and continue parenting the child. People don’t tend to be unfaithful with really amazing human beings, and most good men don’t want to condemn their children to a life of being parented by a guy who hangs around bars trying to pick up random chicks.

So before doing this I guess the hard but important questions are:

Why am I doing this and how do I feel about that?
Am I aware that she has been unfaithful and do I want to just leave her and keep joint custody so my child has a good father?
What will I do if the child isn’t mine? How will I feel if the child is mine and I questioned this?
What will my partner do when she finds out I didn’t trust her , if the test says I’m the father?
Am I using this DNA test to have “proof” of cheating? (If you are, it isn’t likely to work. Cheating women will generally use protection with the boyfriend(s) they wouldn’t use with their spouses

1. We get friendzoned. A lot, actually.
2. We check out guys ALL THE TIME and if we find someone hot, we secretly hope for them to make a move.
3. Our stalking game is unbelievably strong. We know about your best friend's sister's neighbour's dog's name. Don't ask how.
4. We always know if someone's checking us out even when they're wearing the shadiest goggles or hiding in the remotest corner for the purpose.
5. We fart, burp and pick our nose when you're not looking. And no, we do not smell like chocolates, unicorns and rainbows all the time.
6. While having a face to face conversation, we always notice how some of you quickly shift your sight down at our cleavage and then back to our face.
7. Old uncles gawk at us more than young guys.
8. Almost all of us were sexually abused at some point in our lives.
9. Every time we bend down or pass by a group of guys, we are very well aware that our butt is under observation.
10. We legit know that it wasn't an accident when that random guy in the public transport pressed his elbow against our breasts. We're sensible enough to distinguish between accident and intent.
11. During a fight, if we ask you to leave us alone, we secretly want you to stay. As long as possible.
12. We are crazy about cuddling. More than you can ever imagine. We expect cuddles all the freaking time. I know it's weird but it is what it is.And did I mention how much we adore forehead kisses!
13. After you hang up the phone, we secretly hope for you to call us back.
14. You look incredibly attractive while playing with little kids. Don't know why, but you do.
15. We love it when you call us by our name. There's something very charming about it, maybe because we consider your mouth as the safest place for our names to reside.
16. Something as simple as you bringing us a glass of water can make us incredibly happy. We're crazy enough to think about it for days to come and blush like a complete idiot every time we think about that one time you brought us a glass of water. YES, A GLASS OF WATER.
17. Your one text message has the power to manipulate our mood from shitty to awesome and back to shitty within just a couple of minutes.
I'm out of points now. This secret solely belongs to me.
Okay, I need to stop now.

Dear men,

We respect you a lot and we want you to respect us. Both male and female together make this society, let's walk hand in hand, you take a step, we'll take another. This journey will be more beautiful! For women, it’s about the endless journey not the destination.

Unfortunately all of us are capable of allowing people to treat us badly. Accepting poor treatment from someone can seem obvious to everyone else but you might be blind to the way you are allowing a person to treat you. Sometimes you might know someone doesn’t value you but you still allow yourself to accept the bad treatment, hoping things may change in the future.

Why do we do this? There are all sorts of reasons. You might really love that person. Telling your child “no” could seem impossible to you. You might be so in love with your partner that you’d rather be with them and accept bad treatment than walk away. You may feel like you are indebted to your friend simply because you have shared such a long history of friendship together. Perhaps you struggle with guilt due to standing up for yourself. You might know the person is genuinely a good person and you are hoping they will suddenly wake up, realize how they have been acting and start treating you with the respect you deserve.

The good news is you can change the dynamic of your relationship with that person. You can stop accepting bad treatment from someone and there is even a chance that your relationship with that person can improve as well. You can recognize the behaviors that you are responsible for such as your own and acknowledge behaviors that are out of your control.

1. Accept it is not your responsibility to make others feel good. I’m a naturally empathetic person. I genuinely want others to be happy and to see the best things occur for my loved ones. There’s nothing wrong with having empathy but often times, you might risk taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. When you see your friend is upset, you feel bad and believe it is your duty to make them feel better. If a loved one is angry at you, you may have a hard time coping and allow the person to be disrespectful and hurtful towards you. You are not responsible for the happiness of others. Unless you are being intentionally hurtful or actually treating someone badly, you cannot accept responsibility for someone’s emotional states.

2. Look for understanding within the other person and within yourself. In some cases, a toxic person may need a bit of understanding on your part. For instance, has your friend been distant and unreliable this year? If so, did something in particular happen to their life that may be the reason for that distance? Was there a death in their family, did they lose a job, go through a divorce or are struggling with intense feelings of depression? In some cases, people are actually not capable of being good friends to us at this time in their lives. In these situations, it may be good to gain understanding of the situation and not take their actions so personally. Also, take a look at yourself. Are you being particularly negative in your own life? There have been stages in my life where I was negative and this had a bad influence on the people around me. As difficult as it may be to admit, you actually might play a significant role in why some of your relationships with others are toxic. If this is the case, take a step back, forgive yourself and work on adopting a positive mindset and treating people with the kindness and respect they deserve.

3. Recognize the supportive people in your life and invest more energy into them. There is a good chance that you have been overinvesting energy into a toxic person and neglecting the supportive and loving people in your life. A quick way to stop accepting bad treatment from someone, is to focus your energy on the people who treat you great. Spend more time with other friends. Go on a date with a person who respects and appreciates you. Dedicate a lunch day to your colleagues who are supportive and like you. Spend a day with the family members who value and love you. Surround yourself with the people who do value and appreciate you. As you do, you may realize that you are spending too much of your resources in a toxic person and not enough in the people who do much for you and rarely ask for anything in return. As you do this, the dynamic with the toxic person will naturally change because you are placing less importance and resources on this person.

4. Walk away from any form of harassment. Never accept any type of belittling or malicious intent towards you. If you have a habit of allowing someone to bully or talk down to you, then you need to work on leaving the situation when this occurs. Make it very clear that you will not allow someone to talk or treat you like that. Get off the phone, get out of the room, go home or do whatever you need to do to make sure that it’s very clear you will not accept any kind of harassment. Finding the strength to walk away shows a person that you will not tolerate any harsh words or behaviors from them. You give the opportunity for that person to learn that if they want to be in your life, they must treat you with respect. You also minimize the amount of negative words and behaviors you allow into your own life.

5. Avoid unnecessary arguments. Some people love to fight, and often times these arguments are unnecessary and are more about someone being right rather than trying to find genuine mutual understanding. If you find yourself involved in arguments that are breaking down your relationships, you need to ask yourself what is going on. If there is a genuine misunderstanding, then sometimes a healthy argument is necessary to resolve it. However, if you find yourself constantly trying to explain yourself and feeling misunderstood every time or you simply just want to “win” every argument, then you are actively participating in a useless argument. An unnecessary argument takes two people to occur. When you notice you are having pointless arguments, it is time for you to stop being a participant. Don’t allow yourself to get involved in an argument that you know will go nowhere. Find the difference between a healthy and needless arguments. There’s nothing wrong with an occasional argument, especially one that is required for the relationship to grow and be stronger. However, pointless arguments often make both parties feel bad, resentful, frustrated, hurt and involve wanting the other person to feel pain. Recognize the difference between healthy and pointless arguments so that you can stop yourself from being an active participant in a toxic argument.

6. Walk away from anyone who is judgmental towards you. All of us have made mistakes and have scars from our past experiences. The beautiful thing about being close to others, is sharing your vulnerabilities with these people. The moment someone tries to make you feel like a bad person about something you’ve done in your past, is the moment you may need to accept that this is someone you should not be that close with. Someone who genuinely cares for you may feel sad that you’ve been through past hurts, may feel inspired by how you’ve grown or may kindly remind you of when you may be at risk of making the same mistake again, but a person who truly cares about you would not make you feel stupid or like a bad person because of your past.

7. Learn to not be reliable to someone who is unreliable. Many of us have had a friend in our lives who we were always there for but never returned the favour. You invite this person out regularly, are there for them when they need someone to talk to or are always willing to give them a helping hand when they need something done. Yet, when you need something from this person, she is unreliable. She has excuses, other commitments and little flexibility with her schedule. The best way to deal with this situation is to stop being reliable to someone who is unreliable. Stop being someone’s option, when you make them a priority. The friendship will naturally balance itself out when you mirror their actions.

8. Identify and honor your boundaries. All of us have boundaries that must be respected. Everyone is different and some things that bother you may not bother someone else. Understand what those boundaries are to you and respect those boundaries. Communicate those boundaries if there is ever a misunderstanding. If someone understands your boundaries and continues to violate those boundaries, then that should give you an indication of how much they respect you.

9. Stop allowing yourself to be taken for granted. Taking things for granted is human nature. There is so much we take for granted such as being able to breathe, having a job, being able to have a meal today and so forth. Being taken for granted by someone you love can feel terrible. This person may not realize or appreciate all the things you do for them. The best thing to do is to stop doing these things if you really feel you aren’t being appreciated.

10. Keep pursuing your passions and following your dreams. You might notice that the people who are toxic in your life are not all that supportive. Sure, this person may verbally tell you that they support you but they don’t really seem to care. This person isn’t interested in hearing about your projects, goals and generally doesn’t seem to care all that much. Again, an unsupportive friend may not come right out and say he does not support you, but their lack of caring will reflect how he truly feels. I had an unsupportive person in my life who showed little interest in my writing. He knew it was important to me, but never asked about it, had a difficult time listening to what my book was about and generally didn’t seem to care. He might tell me verbally that he supports me working on my book, but his actions show little to no interest. When you surround yourself around toxic people, you may fall into the trap of neglecting your passions and feeling uninspired. Keep investing time into your goals and dreams. When you put energy into your passions, you’ll leave little room to allow their lack of support to get you down.

11. Have the courage to remove someone toxic from your life. A person who genuinely loves and cares for you does not hurt you intentionally, betray you, lie to you and treat you badly. As much as you may care for this person, find the courage to recognize that you deserve to be around people who treat you with respect. I know walking away from someone you love is often times the most difficult thing you may experience, but you need to embrace the courage to remove anyone from your life that continually hurts you, Walking away from someone doesn’t have to involve a confrontation. You can simply just let go, move on and let the friendship naturally dissolve. Life is unpredictable so this may not actually be the end of a particular relationship, but sometimes walking away paves a journey for a reconnection and a stronger and healthier relationship in the future.

12. Take care of yourself. The best way to take care of others is to first take care of yourself. As you work on being kind and loving to yourself, you will more easily recognize when you are putting someone else’s needs above your own.

There are often clear patterns of behaviour that we adopt and accept that allow a negative relationship to thrive. As you get better at recognizing those negative patterns, you can more easily avoid that situation. Remember you are not alone. Everyone has experienced a toxic person that we willingly allow to hurt us. That’s okay. Stay grounded, love yourself and be willing to walk away from negativity that is destructive to your life.

I hope Sneha This will help you a lot Stay Happy stay Blessed.

which other app. I am in Nigeria now

Kiddllc:
Hmmm but i thought u were in Victoria Island I'm waiting for u on the other app.. let's continue there. I have a lot to share with u

what fantasies?

cezarman:
It seems you love fantasies/living inside your head?