Very trashing clothes most of them overweight too. Nadia is the one one that looks fit to walk on a red carpet.

Pretty baby! beautiful wife too! Congrats to you both. Glad you were honest with yourself and went home to roost.

eh no! I am not in that situation! my husbands brothers wife is Nigerian same as him!

Yes, I see this as a very special moment and the pain is very strong. I dont think a man would like seeing child birth anyway.

Yes, of course I will do what I can to give her a helping hand. He took sometime career break off from a well paid job to go to Nigeria for business purposes. I am curious generally, as to what an impact that would have on a heavily pregnant woman. I suppose this is not me in question, but if this was to arise in the future I don't know if I would be happy with that.

I feel like making her something nice to eat or perhaps going to hers and ordering a take away and some ice creams. I feel sorry for her inthe condition she is in. But I do not know how to approach this. I mentioned this to my hubby and he told me to mind my own business.

My brother in law travels very often to Nigeria. This time he is going for one year. His wife is heavily pregnant with four children already. I asked her if she needed a helping hand and she said 'ok thanks I'll let you know' that was one month ago and she is due to give birth.  I dont know how this works in Naija culture she works Full Time and is on her own. Is there anything I can do to help??
Also how would you feel if your husband went to Naija for six months plus while you were heavily pregnant? who would you bring to the labour room? and sorry is this normal is naija culture? FYI they both have European Passports.

Its just in my 'culture' pregnancy is a very sentimental time, not sure if its the same in Nigerian culture.

thanks.

The child will darken and hav the same features as them.

Romeo I'm not Christian, and I did not insult anyone. Its was a buffet we all work and contribute. A party is a party I suppose I should have known to serve him in their way. I serve my husband every nigerian meal (well most) that you can think of. Cos gave up making pastas as he wouldnt eat them. So all I cook now is Nigerian food and hubby tells me I can cook even better than some women that are natives. I respect that he is the head of the household, I never try to domineer him (I'd be Killed) I am quiet I usually go to work come home maybe go shopping we very rarely go to social gatherings now. But at least I will know the next time,

Pls Romeo do not brand all white women are useless trash that cant butter a slice of bread cos u will be surprised. Some of them b'come very interested in learning how to cook for their husbnads and some even go to great lenghts to.

Romeo I'm not Christian, and I did not insult anyone. Its was a buffet we all work and contribute. A party is a party I suppose I should have known to serve him in their way. I serve my husband every nigerian meal (well most) that you can think of. Cos gave up making pastas as he wouldnt eat them. So all I cook now is Nigerian food and hubby tells me I can cook even better than some women that are natives. I respect that he is the head of the household, I never try to domineer him (I'd be Killed) I am quiet I usually go to work come home maybe go shopping we very rarely go to social gatherings now. But at least I will know the next time,

Pls Romeo do not brand all white women are useless trash that cant butter a slice of bread cos u will be surprised. Some of them b'come very interested in learning how to cook for their husbnads and some even go to great lenghts to.

I ALWAYS service him all the time exept at buffet type thing cos I thought that was whole idea of a buffet 'eat all YOU can eat'

ANyway, now I know and I learn different things, some are alien but some are wonderful. You guys have better reasoning at times.

thanks, Leilah.

I remember speaking to a South African woman I know about the 'reed festival. Apparently these breasts are for nature ie breastfeeding and are not (well shoulnot be) viewed as a sexual object.

T least I know now, this culture is very differnt no one tells me I'm left to figure it all out. Thanks for ur opinions and honesty.

Yes I certianly aknowledge that, but do others?? why would one continously give birth?

thank u for ur replies again! everyday we learn something new

Sorry it maybe just me for misunderstanding these reasons, life or death I would want to go to his childhood village. Regardless of culture or trust, I think, to me it would be an overhanging thought, I mean why would u travel so far and not go to ur husbands family home

Not sure if she specifically wanted to go to his village ( I would though) not only is the trip long, the tradition is very important!
IMH why travel all the way andnot meet the whole family, ie I was in Enugu yes that was in 2006 but, my Question is:

Would it be dangerous in this point of time to go to Enugu as a foreigner?
Do you think it is necessary to see ur husbands family home?
Is this a stupid Question?
I was there before but right now would it be safe for 'foreigners' to go there?
thanks!

I have had absolutely no problems on the pill it costs me 11 euro per month. Now thats not much to ask is it?

I have been on the pill for six years now. i thought it was wrong in Catholic culture to take the pill.

Hi,

Just wondering what ur iews on contraception are and if it is available in Naija culture. Any Naija womanI know has either just given birth and planning to easily become pregnant again or are just about to give birth. Is this normal in Nigerian culture to always give birth? I know we should alll be fruitful and multiply, but how can u work F/T in the western world and keep up with that?

In conclusion, is this generally expected of the wife to have as many kids as possibel?

I dont beleive ur story mate

I was referring to a social function I am only too happy to get my husband his food (as i do everday)but I didnt know as no one told me I should do so at a party. SO in effect i should have automatically known. Sorry I dint know I should have served him his meal. I am very embarassed.

I think some people have misunderstood me. I'm not asking t be served I'm trying to learn more about the customs in Nigerian culture is that bad is it?

Hi,
I have a friend who, after 15years of marriage and five lovely children got the chance for her and HER HUSBAND only to travel to ABuja for a holiday.

She said to me today that she got to meet his mother in Lagos (the mother lives in Enugu though) and that she got to meet one other family member in Abuja during a short stay there.

My Question is: IS the situatiuon so bad in Enugu to the point that u are unable to to travel there with a foreigner (polish) after all those hours of travel why meet only two family members in Abuja and one in Lagos

Sorry I was just wondering, like for EG my sisters husband is from Holland but if I go there regardless of reason I will visit them. Am I correct in saying that?

OK, apparently kidnappings are an abvious fear factor but at this stage is there no state protection? (for Eg if I were to go to Enugu??

Very different, if you were just out of work the white man would insist on serving you! its like a lot of things are the complete oppositw way round! however, I'm not suggesting one over the other. Just think it is quite annoying to have to hand a man his every crumb every meal forever more, just b'cos he can cut the grass, change a wheel, do a few things in the garden 'once in a while'.

What if the two people work full time dear, should oga be always handed his every meal when you arrive in the door from work?

Thanks for that b'cos I didnt know now I'll know the next time.

HI, I have always had issues with the above and do not like her. But when I see her I smile etc. Anyway, we were at a party the other day and everyone was up grabbing some food, the men were out the bac garden chilling out. I noticed before I even asked my hubby what he wanted she had jumped up and served him along with her own husband. I FELT EMBARASSED. This woman works a lot of hours in work

Question is at a party, buffet type thing, do the women always serve their husbands the food? I see peopel coming back and forth with rice n soup etc but I didnt see one single man near the buffet area.

Its videos too so you can see it for yourself.

If you go into youtube and type in cooking with chi chi she is great.

Half caste- do u know what that term really means??

So ladies, on your way to work tomorrow at 8.00am make sure to iron your husbands shirt for him for his day at work. Pathetic!

Get a life! there are housemaids in Nigeria if you and your wife work full time. How can you expect your wif to be a full time housewife and a full time employee outside the home. THATS what white women don't kiss the ground men walk on. I do all the cooking I make my husband all his nigerian food. I work, by the time I get home it like 7.30pm so I am supposed to start ironing and washing clothes?

SLAVERY

PS If I didnt work I will do everything a wife is supposed to do like my own mother did cos she didn't work.