it started when i asked about the behavour of a certain familoy member of his he shouted at me for asking and when I asked what she was saying in pidgin he gor even worse. Its seems as though it flared up over me having a problem with a particular family member of his (his brothers wife) we dont get along and anything I see I tell him about it jsut to get at her. I guessed it all went to far and sadly broke us up. Also, its the attitude of him about me not being able to fin work, there is not one singe job here in ireland everyday Im lazy etc etc. To put the icing on the cake are suppsed to sign the contracts for our house on Monday beatuful house in both our names. Problem was he randomly attacked me last night and said that when we move there, because I am not working and therefore not able to contribute 50 50 that he is going to treat me how he would treat a nigerian lady! he then told me never to question his whereabouts or the divorce cert is ready. he said I must tolerate anything from him and when he wont define tolerate I got really scared man.

But I hope I wasn't wrong.  Thanks for the encouraging words. 

did i do the right thing?

I'm left here all alone now love and its not easy. Women need to put their foot down sometimes.

me and my husband were about to sign the contracts on our new home.  he has been very agressive with me lately for very small things.  He has been criticising me a lot too and as I discussed before he always wants anal sex and knows it kills me to do it.  Apart from this everything had been running smoothly.  For the last two weeks straigth i have tried to talkto him but he completely ignores me and tell me i dont even have a job (I was made redundant from my job about a month ago) I am willing to work and have a law degree etc. He uses this to be little me.  Then, last night he told me that I no longer have the authority to question him and that I will be now treated like a nigerian lady as I cannot make any financial contribution.  I saw a demon in his face.  He then said that he will do as he likes and that I have to respect him 100per cent and the only way I could question him was if I was coming in half half with him! is this the norm?

I have no money at all he normally gives me 40 euro a week towards the foodstuffs and all along I was paying the childcare costs alone.  He didnt want me to pick up welfare in case it would effect his naturalisation file so i have five euro in my pocket til wednesday.  He changed his shift to the early one today so he could go out drinking tonight and expect me to sit there waiting for him.  He goes no where with me and wont go to any of my family gatherings.  I looked at myself in the mirror and screamed crying thinking what will happen, we are about to have a new home.  he then said he was going to a BnB, i said ok well I can pack your things for you and he said great, do that.  I packed all his things for him and he took them and walked away.  Its over. I'm very sad but am I wrong.  i cannot overcome this, my nerves cannot deal with this. So I decided instead of being treated like a chattel that I would go alone for the first time in six years.

I often asked my husband this, can never get a straight answer though, apparently its down to 'idleness'

Blackspade, I never said you did.

Doetzen Kroes - she must be ugly too then.

that black model is much younger than Sarah Jessica Parker!

what does no 4 mean exactly?

they were random topics that she created

thanks Dave

yeah great, was just wondering what it was

that and practically nude pic's?? but I asked my hubby and he said she is a no good character that I am to stay well away from her.

eh no, but my in law did,


As in myhusbands brothers wife, she really likes to flaunt her stuff !! good woman sha! (which is good to a certian degree)


But, ?

is this jus normal 'jist'

1. I don hammer no be small,now is time to chop money

2. If u talk u no talk,they go talk say u too talk,make u jolli dey go.me na so so jolli i dey go.just came back from oringo,otowa mu isi

3. Is marriage sweet or bitter,can somebody tell me please

4. I don hammer no be small,now is time to chop money

5. Why is it that africans sabi lie,anybody who said marriage is sweet is lying to their self or that they dont like their freedom.They like taking permission from somebody b4 doing anything.Stella what is soul mate,someone will still have to be at the receiving end

But that looks exactly like nigerian food.

Oh God imagine that,

Yeah youre dead right fhemmy i shud have clarified that. Yeah go together yeah.

You should not be letting your hubby go to nite clubs PERIOD

Yeah there is just sooo many really horrible hurtful things being said. Thanks Ibkaye.

Thats nice what you said Fhemmy.

thats your culture. My brother law sometimes goes out to a buffet type thing with his wife. She has to go and get him his plates of food and hand them to him, then feed the baby, then she can get her own and by the time she sits down to eat he is ready for another plate. She is inrcedibly submissive! she works full time same as her husband. She works weekends and he doesnt work weekends she comes home about 4pm and he is lying on the sofa dishes everywhere place in bits. She runs straight to the freezer and begins fresh soup. Then at night he goes out til 5am or anytime he like really.

I just dont understand,

You guys think whites are very ugly, the things I have read,

You say whites are ugly but even when you marryone of your own naija women you cheat around like there is no tomorrow,

Yeah Sara ya hit it on the nail

The only way you will know is if he takes you home to his family to meet them. My husband took me down to Nigeria to prove this. Good thing is that Igbo people are not into polygamy.

Yes I totally agrree just wanted to see what men think about this.

eehhh well now in fairness do ypu expect this girl to go Lagos style. Eh thanks, but. NO THANKS

sara are you alright??

marriage to a foreigner has SOME good points.

we dont behave like this family wahala

ok redsun you go see family wahala, wher is this family and money wahala from