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tobechi20:
when she is angry, run...i repeat run

I don't quite understand you bro....... Could you be more elaborate

Joker09:
Yup. You ought to have known this a long time ago, that's just how most of them are. No matter how handsome or rich u are, they'll play these silly games. In fact I had a similar experience yesterday, this was a girl I've known for a while but decided to come to my place, we made out and stuffs but she insisted on going back to her place early, fine.. we both agreed to see today, but guess what? When I called her, she didn't even pick my phone(just one missed call) neither did she act like she saw my text, I wasn't surprised coz I knew that's what she's going to do anyway. Some of them are just shallow like that, they want your attention when you don't show interest, and ghost you once they get the attention.

As a guy, you don't hold on to such girls, you move on to the next one. The sad funny fact is that such girls come around later, but you don't find them attractive anymore when they come, they come around when they're already washed out, heartbroken by many guys, fat, had abortions, abused, become baby-mamas. (Any girl can dare quote me wrong o), I'm talking from experience because I can confidently tell u about 6 girls that have been like this with me which I completely reject.

Let them do as they please and never beg anyone of them for attention, focus on your goals and see the reality yourself, they can not be hot forever, everything is about time. Delete their numbers if you have to and keep talking to more girls, they actually don't like those that love them genuinely or loyal to them, beat them at their own games and don't be bothered. Just don't care about them or what they do and refuse to spend on them while knowing them.

PS I'm not saying all girls are like this tho, you'll sure meet a girl that loves you genuinely who wouldn't play games on you, keep meeting girls until you find her. About the shallow ones, experience will sure teach them life lessons and don't be surprised when you see some of them wanting to get close to you after they've been used up. Cheers.

Food for thoughts.....you really had a strong one with them.

QueenMelinda:
Just look at how a full grown man is crying over women affairs,you are what some people on this forum call a simp.

there is no indication in this write up that says i was crying over women affairs.....we know your type anyways

Seeking to please people

Life is a fragile commodity that has an expiry date. Many people spend a great part of their lives trying to do what others think is right or what others think is best for them. It is not a sin to listen to counsel. But it is wrong to follow every counsel by an individual.
Most People like to be obeyed. And anytime you try to go out of their way of seeing things and do what you think is best for you, you begin to hear statements like" that boy/girl has changed oh. He is now proud". Well, let your heart not be troubled. Most of those statements are said to weaken your emotions; To make you feel bad and see yourself as a backslider or as someone who has derailed. Such statements are not said out of true love for you. They are just angry because you disobeyed them.

No man has total knowledge. True knowledge is in the word of God. Experience and age are not always the best teachers according to job 32:9
"It is not only the old who are wise, not only the aged who understand what is right."

However, you should take note that Godly counsel can only come from a pure soul; a person with a renewed mind.
You should only listen to people that are speaking out of genuine love for you, no matter their age, position or title.
Do not conform to people's perspective about life because you don't want to offend them. No man can/ should tell you how to live your life. Even God has his limits when dealing with men. God will never force you to do anything.
Anybody that does not respect your opinion as a human being, but always wants to enforce his own idea or perspective on you, Is not a worthy mentor.

Not all good advice is right for you. Accept responsibility for your actions. Take advice, but make sure it is from a genuine conscience. Not from those that want to control your actions.

Openbusiness3:
Wow, who organized this pity party? I sell tissue paper in case anyone wants to cry on this thread. Cry because a girl did not answer WhatsApp chat but updating status. Chaiii

.. Lol.....you no serious.....you better read well

From my dealings with the female folks, I have come to understand certain things about women. Though I do not know the reason why they act like that, sometimes I still find it hard to believe. Personally, I have never been hurt by any lady. Neither have I taken any lady seriously in my life. I am this type of guy that believes in the cultural values of our Fathers. I don't take too much nonsense from these folks.

1.I was chatting with one and she was using an abusive language on me…… I told her to stop, she still continued… I told her to stop it the second time she typed it again. She was like, why am I making this a big deal…. That she was just joking…..bla bla…. Though I have been taking time to study her, to know her true nature……..not the holy holy shit they form to be……. I noticed that she is a saucy girl. Though we still chat..but in my mind I have cut her off…….she cannot be the one…..she sees insult as a norm...it's a joke to her .if I don't drop her now. And she insults me publicly after marriage in front of my friends…..people will say didn't you notice this before marrying her?……..lol
2.Another one was telling me that I did not chat with her properly because I type "Hey" instead of "Hi". ……. I deleted her immediately.
3.Another one was telling me to my face that I was talking shit…….because she sent me some of her pics and I was telling her that it not the type of pics I requested… ..( full pics instead of half pic) you can guess where it ended.

the point I want to make here is that most girls are really cruel and heartless. Though I have cool girls in my life. The ones that value me. And i respect them equally. I do give them gifts from my heart….at will

My experience

1.I have been calling this girl for weeks we talk nice on phone and she responds well. Not every day calling though. Like 3days interval. Then I called her one day like 3 times. She did not pick. Later the same girl was on WhatsApp uploading pics. She did not flash or even indicate that she saw my calls. I chatted her and asked if she did not see my calls. She said she saw it, that she is busy…., well. That was the end for me…..deleted her contact.
2.There was one that I was talking to. I was calling. Texting and even told her my intentions on our first chat. Though she did not give me a direct answer. But her body language was like she has agreed. After many weeks of talks, chats, video calls which were initiated by her mostly. I assumed that she was already serious to me. Then she just changed boom. No more calls, chatting was not flowing as usual. Then I asked what is the problem. That, is this how our relationship would grow. To my surprise lol. She said she does not understand what I meant by relationship. That we have been good friends…...then I reminded her that I made my intentions known at the beginning now. She denied that we ever discussed such. Omo I know say I don enter one chance……... I quickly moved on, no time……...because I don't do emotional dating with girls... I do head dating when dealing with girls.
many others like that. When girls want to be cruel they act cold. And you will be wondering is it not this babe that was doing like an angel. I conclude that women are more heartless than men.

Seeking to please people

Life is a fragile commodity that has an expiry date. Many people spend a great part of their lives trying to do what others think is right or what others think is best for them. It is not a sin to listen to counsel. But it is wrong to follow every counsel by an individual.
Most People like to be obeyed. And anytime you try to go out of their way of seeing things and do what you think is best for you, you begin to hear statements like" that boy/girl has changed oh. He is now proud". Well, let your heart not be troubled. Most of those statements are said to weaken your emotions; To make you feel bad and see yourself as a backslider or as someone who has derailed. Such statements are not said out of true love for you. They are just angry because you disobeyed them.

No man has total knowledge. True knowledge is in the word of God. Experience and age are not always the best teachers according to job 32:9
"It is not only the old who are wise, not only the aged who understand what is right."

However, you should take note that Godly counsel can only come from a pure soul; a person with a renewed mind.
You should only listen to people that are speaking out of genuine love for you, no matter their age, position or title.
Do not conform to people's perspective about life because you don't want to offend them. No man can/ should tell you how to live your life. Even God has his limits when dealing with men. God will never force you to do anything.
Anybody that does not respect your opinion as a human being, but always wants to enforce his own idea or perspective on you, Is not a worthy mentor.

Not all good advice is right for you. Accept responsibility for your actions. Take advice, but make sure it is from a genuine conscience. Not from those that want to control your actions.

Send in your writing Job. Your work will be delivered on time

There is a part of life that is not clear to a lot of young people.It is saddening that a lot of youths only get wise when they begin to grow grey hair.But the truth about our existence is that ,what we do in our childhood reflects in our youth,and what we do in our youth reflects at old age.if you do not know these secrets,you might suffer out of ignorance.now,note these points:

1. Do not hate people; no matter what anybody has done,pls forgive them and move on in life.

2.Reduce the number of people you are not in good terms with;please,if u want to live long, make sure u reduce those you are having lot with to the lowest minimum.I understand that you can't be cool with everybody ,cus some people will just want to fight you.but please make sure you try to make peace and don't fight back.

3.Pls, always be the mumu in your dealings with people; if a guy wants 2 fight u because of a girl, let him have her.if u borrow som1 money and he does not want 2 give it back.let it go.if someone cheats you ,don't fight him. if someone insults u,let it go.people will think you are a mumu.but the truth is that you are the "WISE" one.

4.You must understand that people are wicked;pls understand,some people are gullible. And dey lik 2 bliv wat dey hear people say,in fact a lot of people will tell u d opposite of what is on their mind.people are wicked oh.,pls try as much as possible not to trust anybody. 5.let your words and actions be heavily calculated.
6.dont marry because of beauty,handsomness,money,fine shape nd sex.if you do,that beauty might b a beast. The waist she is shaking can be wasted. the handsomeness may demand a Ransom from you later.
7.know that there is something called fate;there are some things you don't deserve but will come to you,there are some things you didn't pray about but heaven will give to you,there are people you don't know but will favour you.that is fate in action .
8 There aat people who love you; there are girls you didn't toast that will just like you. some people will just like you.

9.keep your record short with people. Don't let Just anybody know your secrets,don't discuss personal issues in public or in the bus.

10.let your friends talk a lot and you listen a lot.

11.Be bold inside,don't let people know.because people may just want to push you in trouble because they know you are bold.let it be in you and prove it when it is necessary. Cus some fools might want to use your boldness as an escape route and endanger you.

12.help people a lot. Pls if you have the money, sponsor people,buy food and cloth for people who truly need it. your unborn children will never get to struggle for anything in life.As a student,help and teach your course mate

13.Please try less not to offend a woman. Women hardly forgive,once they hate you.
They can do anything to get at you, but if a woman loves you, she can kill for you.

14.As a woman, Learn how to win a man/boy's attention. woman, don't always claim you know too much.trying to impose you know more around any man.No man would like you for that. men like to always be above, we were meant to be so.if u want to enjoy men's care in school or your dads care at home don't ever be arrogant around men.be confident and be natural,and also be careering.a lot of guys will like you for that, then you will b like a queen.

15 know how to control the power of attraction. There is something in men that attracts them to women.there is something in women that attracts men to them.how u manage this thing will determine how u will manage your life.

16.Be a very good reader.read any good book

From my observations,ever since I have been watching television. I have been able to discover
Some special display of raw talents and abilities.this has prompted me to compile a list of people whom I believed fall within this categories.

THE UNDERTAKER:
The undertaker has been a FORCE to be reckoned with in the history of sports entertainment.
From my observations I can say that "No man in the Field of entertainment has more charisma than the undertaker". from the way he enters the auditorium ,as he makes his way through the audience. he has been referred to as the man with the most charismatic entrance in wwe history. just look at the way he enters the ring,the way he removes his hat. with his eyes turning white.he is just too much.

Dr d.k olukoya
This is the founder of mfm.he modernized charismatic praying.a lot of people recognize the dynamic praying style of mfm.There is no church in this world that prays like mfm.
Therefore,I sat that" No man in today's Christianity has more prayer charisma than Dr dk olukoya.

Michael Joseph Jackson:
You all know this man.he was the greatest entertainer of all time in the music world.he was full of charisma and vibes.No musician is as popular as MJ,he had a unique sense of fashion.in fact no musician ever had more electrifying charisma on the stage than m.j

Chris oyakhilome.
Well,he is one of a kind.a teacher with soo much life and fire.he teaches the word of God as though he is from above.to me,no man in today's Christianity has more charisma than him in the teaching the word.

AYO FAYOSE OF EKITI:
This guy is the bomb.he acts differently from other governors. Sometimes he dresses like a soldier.he challenges the presidency like no mans business. He rides on okada,he uses street boys and hunters as his security guard.he challenged the D.S.S. no Governor in today's politics has more charisma than fayose.

FELA
Fela kuti was a legend.he thrived in the military political era.he was fearless. He criticized the military government. He performed almost naked on stage, he had so much charisma. No musician in Nigeria can ever fill his place.

Odunlade adekola
As far as acting is concerned in Nigeria,no actor in today's Nigeria has more charisma than this actor.remember Sunday dagboru.

C.Ronaldo:
Well we all know how football is today.No name is more mentioned than that name in today's footballing. He his soo charismatic on the pitch that some people actually watch football just because of him.some people even argue and fight each other because of this man.

Vin diesel;
Fast and furious, riddick,pitch black actor. For me ,I consider him as the most charismatic actor in Hollywood.

Please, I encourage us to locate our area of gifting and focus our energy on it.we too could become established in the future.

Kobojunkie:
@OP, What makes you believe much of what you have aboive is remotely good, suggestion-wise ,for anyone, particularly the youths?

It is your choice.......

Personally, I don't think so.......Exit

I have a few words I would love to share with young people. just read and be blessed.
1)As a youth,you must understand that:you can never be taken seriously amongst the crowd;the crowd is for everybody,but the podium is for somebody.
2)Unfortunately,if you are not successfull,you can not be recognized.soo,don't be angry if no one is calling your phone now.they are just waiting for u to be successfull.
3)If you cannot make sacrifices,you cannot become something in life.
4)If you cannot please God,men cannot be at peace with you.
5)To live a life of love,is to live a life of God. 6)The truth is that:if u can live,then you can die;if you can fail,then you can succeed.its just a matter of the principles you obey.
7)If everybody around you is not good,then you are worse. your best friend is your DESTINY and your DESTINY is your best friend.Anything that stops your DESTINY is your enemy.it could be money,friends,relationship,"church",parents etc.be .
9)If your dreams(sleep) are bad,your life will be bad.if you cannot dream good dreams,then you cannot have a good life.
10)If you can fast and pray,then you can win the battles of life.
11)relatively speaking,No man is greater than the other man.all men are the same if all men are using their abilities and gifts.
12)if you cannot contribute somewhere,then you become a liabilty.because you will be a consumer not a producer.
13)If you do not know how to lie,please be happy.because most liers end up lieing to themselves in life.
14)Never expect love from any human being,because the only person that can truly love you is you.that's why jesus said love your neighbour as yourselves.because he knew that men can only truly love themselves.
15)If you realy want to be great in life,people will trouble you a lot.don't expect trouble from anywhere,it is human beigns that are your troublers.soo,learn to know when to talk nd when to keep quiet.who to allow into your life,and who to run away from.
16)in 2020 be wiser than you were.

I don't really think it is possible unless the seal uses a weapon.

Hello, 2.2 is not bad.....God's grace is sufficient

From my observations,ever since I have been watching television. I have been able to discover
Some special display of raw talents and abilities.this has prompted me to compile a list of people whom I believed fall within this categories.

THE UNDERTAKER:
The undertaker has been a FORCE to be reckoned with in the history of sports entertainment.
From my observations I can say that "No man in the Field of entertainment has more charisma than the undertaker". from the way he enters the auditorium ,as he makes his way through the audience. he has been referred to as the man with the most charismatic entrance in wwe history. just look at the way he enters the ring,the way he removes his hat. with his eyes turning white.he is just too much.

Dr d.k olukoya
This is the founder of mfm.he modernized charismatic praying.a lot of people recognize the dynamic praying style of mfm.There is no church in this world that prays like mfm.
Therefore,I sat that" No man in today's Christianity has more prayer charisma than Dr dk olukoya.

Michael Joseph Jackson:
You all know this man.he was the greatest entertainer of all time in the music world.he was full of charisma and vibes.No musician is as popular as MJ,he had a unique sense of fashion.in fact no musician ever had more electrifying charisma on the stage than m.j

Chris oyakhilome.
Well,he is one of a kind.a teacher with soo much life and fire.he teaches the word of God as though he is from above.to me,no man in today's Christianity has more charisma than him in the teaching the word.

AYO FAYOSE OF EKITI:
This guy is the bomb.he acts differently from other governors. Sometimes he dresses like a soldier.he challenges the presidency like no mans business. He rides on okada,he uses street boys and hunters as his security guard.he challenged the D.S.S. no Governor in today's politics has more charisma than fayose.

FELA
Fela kuti was a legend.he thrived in the military political era.he was fearless. He criticized the military government. He performed almost naked on stage, he had so much charisma. No musician in Nigeria can ever fill his place.

Odunlade adekola
As far as acting is concerned in Nigeria,no actor in today's Nigeria has more charisma than this actor.remember Sunday dagboru.

C.Ronaldo:
Well we all know how football is today.No name is more mentioned than that name in today's footballing. He his soo charismatic on the pitch that some people actually watch football just because of him.some people even argue and fight each other because of this man.

Vin diesel;
Fast and furious, riddick,pitch black actor. For me ,I consider him as the most charismatic actor in Hollywood.

Please, I encourage us to locate our area of gifting and focus our energy on it.we too could become established in the future.

Adeyeye09:
Available

the b3 dey reach 4hrs?

I had a dream where I was In my former church trying to arrange the mic and audio equipment.
Then the pastor came out of the office angry. Then he said that what am I doing?, that I must serve my punishment....... Then I answered that I am not under any punishment... Then he said hen hen....okay..... You can go..... Then I said okay.... And I turned back and went out.

Note:
Before the dream, in real life........ He said somethings that were not true about me( like claiming and telling people he is the full sponsor of something he did not fully sponsor...he made.like 10% contribution out of 100%).......i unknowingly made a statement that countered his claims before the people he has told....so he got angry...... later, another issue came up which was not my fault and he blamed me for causing it, and I challenged him that it's not true.....so he brought up the first issue of sponsorship and put me on suspension(punishment). so after that he then said that I should even go that he does not even want me again and he pushed me out of the premises so I left.........,. It was after the incident that I had this dream.

donbachi:
Nigerians are like dat "if no be me"..pls,its not everybody dat u must run to for assistance and not all offered assistance must be accepted..we all need others as ladders to climb.sure.but,choking them into regrets and public mockery is very bad..dat ur guy do well,but him no do well by blowing his favour out of proportion.

Nop, he did not run to the person for assistance. The individual has family that are paying for the training. The payment was done voluntarily. Like the person wanted to contribute his own part.

Carchoice:
Do you plan to relocate? If yes, do so and don’t bat an eye. The helper was also assisted at some point in his/her life That didn’t stop him/her from moving forward.

As you don upgrade so, don’t look back but be very appreciative of the persons effort in your life.

Well I see. But which appreciation does the person want again? The role you play in the persons job, if you had agreed on business terms and charged him for your role, you would have saved up to pay for your training.

The person brags about his contribution and lies that he sponsored the training 100%. Which is not true. and gets angry when those who made the 85% contribution are mentioned.

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Keep the calls coming. Speady delivery and quality work

It should not always be about the guy. The woman too can spend