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destinyy23:
stingy men

Broke ass lady spotted

A while back, a story broke out that a soldier had killed his girlfriend after dumping him. The reason for the brutal murder was the said girl had rejected him after paying her college fees. At such a point, as a mature man with all brain cells in tip-top condition, you’d just ask yourself ‘what would Jesus do?

It is not an isolated case. Many men out there have endured the burden of paying for school fees only for the girl to turn her back against him. Many have swallowed humble pie and let the situation slide, just as Jesus would have done.



The only reason that would guarantee you paying school fees, is when the two of you are married. Period. There’s no other reason. In so doing you will be improving someone who already belongs to you. Other than that, you shouldn’t, and here’s why.

You can’t buy love

Men who pay their girlfriends fees do so in the name of buying their love. It is akin to tying a yoke of expectations on these girl’s shoulders. In the end, you turn back and tell her, ‘you see I paid your school fees and you must love me.’ Love can never be bought. The unconditional love is the best, and if you must pay school fees then do so with an unconditional heart.

School fees is a parent's role

It is a parent’s role to pay for their child’s school fees. They may be poor but many have crossed oceans for their children to get an education so that they can uplift them from poverty. It just is not right for a man to do so, especially when you attach the condition of marriage to the gesture.

It is a sign of weakness on the man’s part

As earlier stated, paying school fees can be likened to buying love. If you try to win a woman’s heart with it then probably it is a sign of weakness from you. Alpha males do not need an external form of motivation to please a girl. They are just themselves and ladies will fall in love with them without having to extend monetary baits.

In conclusion,paying of school fees for one's girlfriend should not be a priority or duty,you can do such willingly or voluntarily with no strings attached,please dont come to nairaland and be lamenting how one babe you have been sponsoring her education dumped you oooo,lolzzz.

However,our dear ladies please and please,if you know you will not marry the man that want to or is sponsoring you education in future,abeg,just terminate the relationship on time,in order not to break a brother's heart oooo,lolzzz.

Love and at the same time,please use your brain......

Godwinnairaland:
Been going through this for a month now, deprived me of all joy, the pain is smarting, please do you have any idea on how I will go about it. Your suggestions are welcomed.

just whatsapp me on 08139467021,and i will give u a solution,i was once an ulcer patient,but now am no more.

Couples should never sweep their emotional, financial and social differences under the rug because these issues are the causes of fights in marriages.

There are things you can do to heal the wounds in your heart after fighting with your love. However, you should tread cautiously lest you hurt him or her more.

Here are several things you should never do after a nasty fight with her/him:

1. Talk about the details of the fight on social media

The worst mistake is sharing the details of the fight on Facebook. Not all Facebook users want your relationship to succeed. In addition, you are likely to get the wrong advice from the people who do not know how you feel.

2. Reignite the fight in the future

Never live in the past. The fight will only renew pain in your love life. Forget about everything that happened and move on.

3. Staying for days before you resolve it

A fight is a like a ticking time bomb. Do not wait for days before sitting down to discuss the same with your partner. Act as fast as possible.

4. Not accepting your partner’s apology

To err is human to forgive is divine. Some people find it hard when to comes to accepting apologies. If you sincerely care about him, do not reject his apology. However, make sure he is genuine.

5. Assume nothing happened

Don’t act as if nothing happened between the two of you. The truth remains that things are not going right in the relationship.

You need to think of ways to resolve the issue before things run out of control. Find time to discuss the issue with your partner in order to find an amicable and long lasting solution towards the same.

Good Morning,Happy Independence.

Even if you were born into Otedola’s family, we know you’ll definitely want to do better than your parents did. And if your parents are not billionaires, then you’ve got double the motivation. So am here to teach you and myself how to be rich.
Your parents might have made a lot of mistakes in their time, but you can avoid them and have a better life by developing these habits:

Saving

Are you tired of hearing about saving yet? Or do you feel a twinge of fear each time you read a posts reminding you (for the umpteenth time!) to save? That’s because you’re not doing it yet. Start saving and feel like a boss lady that has her finances in the bag.

Investments

You save and save, then what? Invest the money. Investing multiplies the money you’ve got and gives you passive income. This is one of the mistakes our parents made. Few of them saved money and even fewer of them invested it. You can invest in the money market, treasury bills or even in a side hustle of your own. That’s how to be rich.


Live a prudent life

The time for lau lau spending is not now. Live a modest lifestyle now so you can have enough saved up to enjoy in the future.

I am sure there’s a Pete Edochie proverb for this, but I haven’t had my morning coffee yet, so I can’t remember,lolzzzz. �

Personal development

The sad truth is that most of our parents got jobs or started businesses and did very little to improve on themselves. But you, as the millennial shaid of the digital age that you are, you’ve got an unlimited access to learning resources. Strive to improve on your knowledge and skills and be better in every way. Think about everyone you respect in your field and we’re sure that you’ll agree that personal development makes you more valuable as a person.

However,my dear friends,I know all these points I stated may not be easy to adhere to,but through determination n perseverance you can achieve these and get your desired goals,may God help us and see us through our hustles in life.

Na so we go take carry buhari go back to daura in 2019

Simply know that ur relationship with dat babe is inconclusive for now,u can later av a rerun if u wish.

Have you felt unable to move or speak when you are falling asleep or waking up from sleep? For some, these experiences also include hallucinations such as seeing a figure pressing them down, being filled with fear, or feeling a presence as well as feeling as if they ‘woke up dead’, among others.

Medical experts call this condition sleep paralysis. However, many people are unaware it is a medical condition. They view it as a very scary experience and have different beliefs about it including believing it is a spiritual attack that needs spiritual solutions. This has also led to several myths about the condition.

It is common to hear some people say ‘they were pressed by a demon or spirit the other night.’

According to Dr Olusola Oguntolu, a sleep specialist, sleep paralysis is a transient sensation of inability to move in the wakeful state occurring right after a person awakens from asleep. “As one can imagine, it is very distressing and various causes have been attributed to the phenomenon, some of which are entrenched in folklore. The sensation is sometimes associated with a dream-like state with or without auditory and visual hallucinations,” he said.

The sleep specialist said the condition is due to a discordance in the transition from REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep phase to the wakeful state without the usual cycling through the non-REM phase.
When you sleep at night, you cycle through periods of REM and non-REM sleep.

He explained that during REM sleep, all skeletal muscles are paralyzed by design to allow repair, healing and rejuvenation from the wakeful state to occur. The eye muscles (hence rapid eye movement), heart muscles, the diaphragm and respiratory muscles are the only life sustaining muscles that are active during REM sleep.

He said: “We also dream during REM sleep. One can see how the sensations noted during sleep paralysis events are actually normal phenomena in REM sleep with the exception that they occur in the wakeful state. It is a cardinal symptom of obstructive sleep apnea and can occur in narcolepsy, following sleep deprivation, after alcoholic binges and some parasomnic states.”

The sleep expert said some people attribute the effect to the presence of wall geckos on the ceiling exerting motor control powers over the individual adding “These are of course all incorrect as there is a simple physiological explanation for the phenomenon.”


What should people do when they have, or have had sleep paralysis?

The sleep specialist advised people to remain calm and be reassured, saying it will pass. “However, the person must recognize that it is a potential early symptom of an underlying sleep disorder. They should seek competent help from qualified professionals as soon as practical,” he added.

On treatment, Dr Oguntolu said no specific treatment is indicated for the symptom especially since it abates fairly quickly. He said beyond reassurance, treatment of any predisposing condition is imperative. “The risk of recurrence is high if the condition (e.g. obstructive sleep apnea) is left untreated.

“Also, sleep deprivation, alcoholic binges and sedative abuse should be avoided if possible. See your doctor if sleep paralysis occurs often and/ or routinely prevents you from getting a good night’s sleep,” he advised.

sexdoll:
men pay for sex because men usually want sex more.

it's a simple demand and supply market.

men want more sex hence high demand.

women control the supply of sex hence they fix the price.

dasall

na only u get d correct answer to d question,others just dey narrate long epistles,u be wise man

Thirty (30) years is an age that requires a man to have acquired a lot of basic things in life. There are a lot of things a man should have achieved by the time he is 30. Here are some of these things;

1. Be mentally mature

Maturity sometimes does not depend on age. But at the age of 30, every man should be mature enough to know right and wrong.

2. Be in a serious relationship

If not marriage, then a man at this age should be in a more serious relationship that will eventually result into marriage. Walking the streets of Nairobi with casual partners does not count as a serious relationship here.

3. Be educated

This does not mean a masters, a degree or a diploma. It can be formal or informal. At least have something you have proper knowledge about.

4. Be employed or own a business

If not employment, then a business for the sake your own family. Make something out of life as early as you can.

5. Be responsible

Responsibility in this case has to come with age. A man at 30 should be a responsible man who is not forced to do things he should.

6. Be fully independent

No man is expected to be still asking for money from his parents at this age. Be your own self and find a way of survival.

7. Have a set goal

It is big shame for a man at 30 to lack direction. As a man, you should have some goals that you dream to achieve.

8. Have a home of your own

Of course no one expects a man at the age of 30 to be staying with parents. Buy or rent a home for yourself.

lemme pay u 30k,if u agree wit d price,contact me on 08139467021.

wetin dier two dey discuss?

Earthbound:
Diamond bank. My bank. The bank with the most beautiful and voluptuous female bankers.



OP, two questions.
1. Was your teller an unmarried woman?

2. Did you get her number?

Earthbound:
Diamond bank. My bank. The bank with the most beautiful and voluptuous female bankers.



OP, two questions.
1. Was your teller an unmarried woman?

2. Did you get her number?

why did u ask?

Good day nairalanders,after reading a post by a man who returned a $3000 mistakenly transferred into his account in belgium,so i decide to share my own experience.

This morning,i went to a diamond bank branch to make a withdrawal of 70k,collected the withdrawal paper n fill it,join the queue and when it get to my turn,a lady(teller) signalled to me to come to her stand n make my transactions,after d usual greetings sha,she collected my withdrawal paper n brought out 500 naira notes which she counted a bundle i.e 50k,and counted anoda 500naira in pieces,anyway i was not too concentrating sha,i demand for a nylon to put d money inside,i collected it n left,but one thing was telling me dat d money am holding is more than 70k cos it was huge in my hand.

I went back to my shop to pay some customers but i decide to count d money again,only for me to count 85k instead of 70k,extra 15k,come see as different thoughts just dey enter my mind,i already know wat i wanted to do,so i decide to explain to three of my neighbours but dier response was they wont return it back cos some banks have really dealt with them.

Anyway,to cut d story short,i simply went bank to d bank,signal to d teller dat made d mistake,dat i wanted to see her,she was in company wit two of her colleagues by den,and i gave her d 15k balance,they were amazed n sincerely thank me,even a customer at d counter even join them to thank me,na so i just walk majestically with my head held up high out of d banking hall.

Na so dem for just minus 15k from her salary,cos i knw for sure the bank will neva find out cos it was not a transfer transaction.
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Good day nairalanders,after reading a post by a man who returned a $3000 mistakenly transferred into his account in belgium,so i decide to share my own experience.

This morning,i went to a diamond bank branch to make a withdrawal of 70k,collected the withdrawal paper n fill it,join the queue and when it get to my turn,a lady(teller) signalled to me to come to her stand n make my transactions,after d usual greetings sha,she collected my withdrawal paper n brought out 500 naira notes which she counted a bundle i.e 50k,and counted anoda 500naira in pieces,anyway i was not too concentrating sha,i demand for a nylon to put d money inside,i collected it n left,but one thing was telling me dat d money am holding is more than 70k cos it was huge in my hand.

I went back to my shop to pay some customers but i decide to count d money again,only for me to count 85k instead of 70k,extra 15k,come see as different thoughts just dey enter my mind,i already know wat i wanted to do,so i decide to explain to three of my neighbours but dier response was they wont return it back cos some banks have really dealt with them.

Anyway,to cut d story short,i simply went bank to d bank,signal to d teller dat made d mistake,dat i wanted to see her,she was in company wit two of her colleagues by den,and i gave her d 15k balance,they were amazed n sincerely thank me,even a customer at d counter even join them to thank me,na so i just walk majestically with my head held up high out of d banking hall.

Na so dem for just minus 15k from her salary,cos i knw for sure the bank will neva find out cos it was not a transfer transaction.

Snow02:
.marriage is for losers #foreversingle

So ur papa n mama na loser abi? SMH

Good day nairalanders,i need an advice on an issue concerning a place i rented.
After months of searching for an apartment,i later got one and paid for a year rent on october 2017 ,my agreement with my landlord was that my rent will start to read from december 2017 which he agree,i was demanding for my receipt since then he keeps posting me till jan dis year after much disturbance he told me to go and collect the receipt from his PA dat works with him,i called the guy and he came with my receipt but wat i saw made me to reject it,instead of writing the 300k i paid he wrote 330k,so i av to call him(landlord) and he told me that it is 330k dat i will start paying as from next year,i confront him wen he came to my place but he still insist he wont change wat he has written,i am demanding for my receipt for d one i paid for not for nxt year,imagine d house i just rented not quite some months ago and he want to increase d rent n refusing to issue d right amount of wat i paid for,i even try to make him see reasons so dat we can settle amicably but he was still adamant,.
I just kept quiet,still av not collected my receipt,still waiting for d next step to take,pls any useful information or advice will be gladly accepted on how to tackle dis issue,tanx

Good day nairalanders,i need an advice on an issue concerning a place i rented.

After months of searching for an apartment,i later got one and paid for a year rent on october 2017 ,my agreement with my landlord was that my rent will start to read from december 2017 which he agree,i was demanding for my receipt since then he keeps posting me till jan dis year after much disturbance he told me to go and collect the receipt from his PA dat works with him,i called the guy and he came with my receipt but wat i saw made me to reject it,instead of writing the 300k i paid he wrote 330k,so i av to call him(landlord) and he told me that it is 330k dat i will start paying as from next year,i confront him wen he came to my place but he still insist he wont change wat he has written,i am demanding for my receipt for d one i paid for not for nxt year,imagine d house i just rented not quite some months ago and he want to increase d rent n refusing to issue d right amount of wat i paid for,i even try to make him see reasons so dat we can settle amicably but he was still adamant,.

I just kept quiet,still av not collected my receipt,still waiting for d next step to take,pls any useful information or advice will be gladly accepted on how to tackle dis issue,tanx

Congrats,go use am collect money for bank

Bro,congrat,
meanwhile......
I dey sell baby wares,baby food,diapers e.t.c

I want to buy an original n genuine lg 32 inches tv,av check so many online sellers even shop outlets all i see is different brand of lg tv carton,pls can sum1 help me on where to purchase it,thanks.

half time

barca all the way,messi oya show us anoda magic

chaii,dis arsenal sef can really give person heart attack indeed.

arsenal just dey Bleep up anyhow

Good day pals,i hope ur day is cool n fine,may God bless all our hustle,let me not take much of ur time,pls read along....

I av heard of women approaching men or let me say women 'toasting'men but i just dnt take it serious cos here in naija it is rare,our ladies can only give u d so called 'greenlight'making d job easier for we d guys to make d first move but only few of d ladies can make d first move,though on my own case sha i av noticed some given me d greenlight stuff,then after we may av become friends dey ll start confessing aw much dey love me not until i find myself been 'toasted' by one..........


It all begin a week ago,there is dis lady in her early 40's that was employed by a man operating restaurant n bar opposite my shop,her job is to be selling nkwobi,pepper soup,isi ewu e.t.c. The day she started selling,me n my guys patronized her n other people that stay within,though her stuffs her quite good,neva knew dis lady has been noticing me until lyk two days later wen she told me she wanted to see me n discuss sumtin important,later in d night wen i was abt closing my shop to go home she came over to my shop n request to see me cos i was wit my guys den,na so dis lady start telling me she lyks me so much dat she want me to be her friend bla bla bla,anyway sha i just kept mute. The next day she came to me but dis tym saying i shud be her lover dat she has strong feelings for me,dat d first tym she set my eyes on me since den her life has not been d same.......,hmmmm,anyway sha d woman set,she is really endowed both front n back,she is a single mother.

However,i just admire her courage though,i just av to act maturely,she requested for my number which i gave her,but i dnt av even one iota of feelings for her,i just saw as a big aunty or sister. In order to scare her away i just av to claim been a born again christian n start preaching to her but still this lady will not let me be,she will just want to seize every opportunity to see me n talk to me,stalking me around,my area is full of guys dat can openly welcome her n Bleep d hell out of her,but na me she prefer. in fact i cant even come out of my shop to sit outside she ll just be staring at me as if am a celeb,i av told her plainly am nt interested,let her face d biz she came to do,but dis lady has refuse,am just watching her to know her nxt move.

Anyway,has any guy find himself in dis kind of condition,if u av how did u deal with it,anyone also wit a reasonable advice is also welcome.

Counter post;

Good morning friends,i hope you slept well last night,anyway i want to use this opportunity to oppose or counter a post i saw on my wall yesterday by a young lady,it reads;

"She look cheap cuz she accepted you,if u wanna knw aw expensive she is,check her inbox n see aw many guyz she dissaponted just to be with u,respect ur woman."

I want to ask a question oooo,abeg! Do ladies think they are doing the men favour just dating them? You accepted him doesnt make you a super woman,after all there must be a reason you said yes to him,pls stop making the men feel guilty of there actions,relationship is not a one sided game,to be precise even 80% of ladies have nothing to offer in the relationship other than the one in za oza room,do you know how many ladies he has also turn down only to go for you.

A man will spend all his time,energy,money on a lady,some willl run from pillar to post just to be with you and one feminist will be ranting,instead of putting more effort in making sure your relationship work out fine,you will be making the man feel guilty cos you accepted him may be out of pity. Do you think he should now turn out to be your messiah because you said yes to him.

The problem with some ladies is pride,they are too proud and arrogant,some cant even accept their faults and apologize,after the man has dealt with them because of their arrogant attitude you will see them coming to social media to rant,look at some failed marriages,i dnt support women battering but most of the problems is been aggravated by the wives.

Therefore,our ladies should stop this their mentality of thinking they are doing the men favour for dating them,if you are not comfortable with your relationship,abeg quit,get clay and mould you own type of a "perfect"man and stop complaining.

Love should be a mutual thing,you as a lady should have something reasonable to offer,build your man to your taste,men also want to be loved and attended to like a baby,cherish him too,i rest my case here,i am tired of typing too and i know you are not tired of reading too,lolzzzz.

Good day and have a blessed day.

hi pals,pls dnt mind my typing error,i dnt knw if any of u guys av noticed dis,I met dis babe not quite long and sumtin lead to sumtin n bleeping things followed,afta d first round den going for d 2nd round as am about puttin on condom my d**k just go limp,anyway d babe left sha n she came bak d nxt day for anoda bleeping things bt dis tym around as am about puttin on condom d same thing happen,i was shocked n disappointed cos I knw am sexuall y active even my babe in skul can testify to dat,i asked her wat happen n she said may be am nt sexually attracted to her or may be sumtin might av distracted me wen am abt to go inside her,i just can figure wat is going,pls av any of u guys eva witness dat before,and pls wat can be d solution,cos am still confused abt d whole scenario

hi pals,dnt mind my typing error, I want to knw if anyone has ever noticed dis in his lifetime,as in when u re wit a girl and during d pre-intimacy u re really hard but immediately u put on d condom for u to bleep ur hard d**k just go limp,i just experience dat for d first tym,and I knw am sexually active,d gal in question is just a side chick sha,even as of dat I dnt expect dat,so house pls has anybody experience dat before n wat may av been d cause?