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Nice write up OP
If as a man your goal is to hustle hard and please a woman, you have a problem.
No woman should ever be the woman of your dreams but the woman in your dreams.
THE DREAMS FIRST, THE GIRLS SECOND.

Learnstuffs:
Yes. That's the point. You attract a lot but struggle to keep any. I think it's not about pride or ego. Its behavioral

Exactly. Your personal text is the perfect summary of my kind of behaviour

Should you continue writing this way OP, I can assure you by next year you will just be dropping scripts anyhow for Nollywood

We're in the same shoes bro. My own worse gan! I've not been able to keep a girlfriend till date. There was one I asked out the other day and she accepted. Immediately she did I lost interest and now she's dating herself.
She's a typical example of many past relationships I've had before. As long as I'm in a relationship with you just know that I'll be the one to initiate the break up. I won't lie I have met beautiful souls. I've always had the good fortune of dating well-mannered ladies. The problem is always from me. I dunno but I'm not proud of my character. Lots of ladies see me as one hell of an intelligent chap and hell yes, I'm also a sweet talker; not the loquacious type. I emit signals unconsciously, signals that draw them to my persona. Most times they'd say, "Hey! You've got a melodious baritone, a confident poise, a captivating smile and a tongue laced with saccharine"
And before you know it they fall in love and that's when crazy me takes over. I don't know if I can ever get married with this attitude

See lies! Make all dis small small boys fear God abeg

VeeVeeMyLuv:
from the scientific and logical standpoint the reason for the tendency to go for the young is that they are intact and without blemish (that is where the word virgin comes).

They will avoid the adult because in their mind they believe that the matured private part has morphed into community public part full of blemishes.

Their ephemeral fantasy leads to a long-lasting agonising psychological problems on their victims' part which they hardly consider before engaging in that foolishness. Any lady who can inflict this kind of torture on an innocent kid is capable of doing anything and already has a fine abode in hell!

This is beyond insanity abeg!
Tell me this isn't madness when there are lots of matured willing preeqs around

Bros abeg help yourself and visit the hospital ASAP

So because of ordinary mess Nigerian women are pigs abi? I've got a mother, a sister, friends and relatives. Sorry mate, they aren't pigs.

Only you big preeq and heavy kudi? Na wa for you o

Preshieben:
Actually no sense in this comment

I'm not surprised Mademoiselle! Especially when it's coming from a woman.

Nikes:
Nda...sure say u no like Burkutu join

You be Tecno? How you take know?

Exactly why I don't stress myself over ladies nowadays. After all the wooing and shakara las las when I propose, it is the lady and her family members that will go and do Thanksgiving in church.
Men truly don't know how lucky they are walahi

fermented kunu

Nonsense

I just can't endure to read the rubbish this OP wrote till the end.
As you're spending money on ladies, I hope your family members are also enjoying the fruits of their labour too?

Oya if you've ever been raped by Wizkid step forward. Una no dey tire?

God bless you Sir!

I used omo to shower for days.
I could remember when I had no foodstuff or money on me and I wanted to cook beans. The only thing I had then was salt and water. That was how I borrowed every other ingredients from my friends that day. One of the advantages of living in the Hostel.
There was a time I had to go to school without eating any food from the previous day. I used hunger to trek to school and back again. Wasn't a funny experience I tell you! That's why it's very important to keep female friends; their cup never runs dry in school!

EVILFOREST:
...,. and not those BOYS QUARTERS Giant of Africa parade as UNIVERSITIES.
UNIVERSITY OF IBADAN lost its Glory long ago.
UI happens to be a University that entertained a lot of Africans and Europeans, including the Saudis.
But see where it is today....

Imagine what would have become of NIGERIA if the WHITES had stayed back and run this country till 1995...
Imagine the Edifice we would have been proud of.
As usual our IMPATIENCE subdued us and we sought for INDEPENDENCE to early thinking say we don get sense, now see where we are today.
ORDINARY UNITY we can't achieve.
To Govern ourselves has become a Herculean Task.

Nothing to show since 1960 except DECADENCE.
We think it's about having CRUDE OIL...
What's the use of Crude Oil without Common Sense

NONSENSE...

Dis wan na undiluted truth

Chidonc:
Obasanjo should have graduated to, 2005 set but dude had accident in front of naraguta. Stayed in hospital couple of years, one whole year in coma, came back probably 2013 to finish. You just made me remember all this things.

One full year in coma? He really saw hell.
I just can't wait to leave UJ sha
I respect anybody who graduated successfully from that school

xcabczyxabczzzz:
but the horse Can still drag the cart by moving backward.

It's not about moving the cart.
It's about going the right direction.

Chidonc:
Bojo got allocated same room with your friends , I pity them. Potters will swap them Sha, dude has been in the environment since 2005, there's this guy popular called obasanjo, the other G.O.C,

I don't know the Obasanjo sha
2005 no be beans o
15years in school!

Chidonc:
Lol, I can still remember my rooms, I left graduated years back. How's school life. What of Oracle, jango, legendary bojo, I know you must know at least bojo in person, bulama store, mama farida, nandom barbing salon, mama idoma restaurant, sweet memories.

School is fine Sir! You know Abuja Hostel and the fun; filled with the good, bad and the ugly! One place on earth everyone should visit! Bojo is still here sha
He even got allocated alongside my friend's roommate to same room. Mama Farida has been helping boys since the days of Lord Lugard. That woman na angel sent from above.

I'm sorry to say this but you must move on. If you guys are fated to meet again you definitely will!

Chidonc:
Abuja hostel, university of Jos.

That Hostel na another world on it's own sha
They have the highest number of 'pleachers' and spoiled folks equally.
I'm in 400L and still in Abuja Hostel
Very interesting place

Ma hear say any Delilah try this nonsense with me

Hey I know someone who could help
His name is Jesus

ninetiethcrown7:
I swear. This trend has turned my WhatsApp status Redundant.

I left Whatsapp because of this reason.

I don't know if there's a difference between being a perfectionist and a narcissist but I do know if you're not the type willing to kowtow to their every whims, if you've not developed the mental/emotional muscles to tolerate their personality, you must run as fast as your legs can carry you.
If she's getting married because the man in question is a PhD holder and financially stable, I'd say that isn't even the first criterion to a long-lasting marriage(don't take this one serious. I'm not married. lol)
Peace of mind comes first and regardless of his personality, if she can cope and find peace in matrimony with him she should have at it

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

I use to be worse than you Op
I'd stay indoor for days. And when I come out eventually everything just looks odd and weird. The problem with introversion is that it tends to create a world of it's own; where introverts drown in their own thoughts and lose touch with reality.


It's all in your head Op

The simple remedy is to leave your comfort zone; do things that are hardly suited to your persona. Go out, meet new people, make friends and work on your conversational skills. Trust me, you need people! I'm not asking you to become an extrovert but be a better introvert.