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Nairaland has really helped me in numerous ways. Ever since my female friend introduced Nairaland to me in 2013 I've been an avid fan since then.
This is where you get to meet the crazy, the funny, the witty, the sarcastic, the psychopath, the intelligent, the mentally deranged et cetera
I left Facebook because y'all know how most of these kids hardly give a damn about anything that has to do with them using their brains. On Nairaland I can get to encounter people with levels of experience and achievements I dream of.
As much as I'd hate to call myself a know-it-all, at least I know little about many topics right now compared to back in those days.

OP abeg no more abortions. I carry God beg you She can have the baby now while you work on your finances and marry her later.

My mum didn't use that kind of slippers on us. The slippers heavy die! She used it as a missile. That very moment you think you've successfully escaped is when the slippers lands on your head unexpectedly and you would have covered a great distance then.

Kendyrich:
You are right. However, a man of God is someone who is being led by The Holy Spirit and does the will of God. Anyone that buries charms and all that cannot be called a man of God.

I totally agree with you. I only called them men of God because in as much as their powers didn't come from Yahweh, they're always the first to call themselves Men of God at any slight provocation. I strongly believe that phrase is for those authorised by the Holy Ghost.

Yahweh will continue to shine His light and expose their hideous nature.
Many supposed men of God are guilty of this but na who dem catch be thief.

That's a Python

Dis people well so? Shey na madness make dem include viewing centres? Dat one concern dem

Tomorrow's headline is going to look like;
"Buhari expresses shock over Adebayo Osinowo's untimely exit".
RIP to the dead. May the Almighty grant his family fortitude to bear the loss.

How exactly did we offend these people?

pocohantas:
Strength of a woman.

Indeed!

Ningen:
This is disturbing. His article should be titled; How to be a simp!
Men should acquire wealth and forget woman.

An irredeemable Simp mate!

Fuckingmallam45:
Bros I go remind you , e go shock you

Allow those ones to run mouth anyhow. See wetin we do ChelShit, Manchester City. E sure die say we go beat Mourinho home and away

Igbojihadist:
chelshit fans spotted

You dey mind ChelShit FC fans

Nigeria hardly considers your course of study. Study any course bro, and work on yourself while at it.

I really don't have any contributions or objections.
I just saw a vacant land, and I bought it.
Thank you.

baralatie:
if only people what that time can cause.
if I tell you what time of revelation of adultery has caused in cases I have seen.
female corp members literarily going bunkers because an assumed fling in far away bush in an inaccessible bush village of lau taraba state with no phone,internet got to Lagos
or women who have to be suspended from deaconry of a fling that occurred .there is a ex pastor with 4 kids out of his own marriage
remember former frcn boss.
then there is one I know that happened at total.the woman packed her purse and ran to the us when it bursts.

the time is huge.

That is one thing with truth. It cannot be hidden
las las dem go catch both of dem

baralatie:
I don't mean the husband.I am referring to op and his friend and the female colleague.
it is an organisation and any information that can be used to bring down an alleged competition is very dangerous.

Sorry I misinterpreted you.
All three works in same place. If you ask me i'd say more reason the OP should keep quiet and mind his business. Although this looks like a simple matter for now, but any outburst from the OP her husband could lead to something far worse than one can imagine. He'll forever be at loggerheads with the wife and friend and also, going by the fact that they'll keep working there for a long time it's best to respect yourself by keeping mute.
Trust me, time is the revealer of secrets. The husband will find out.

baralatie:
hmmm!you make valid points but.................
the thing that bothers me is all three work in the same organisation.
imagine how far this will go.

The poster did not specify whether the husband works in the same place with the wife.

baralatie:
but what happens when this blows open leading to destruction of his friend and because he knows he friend was involved and did nothing.what happens then

You're probably right. It's going to blow open eventually but I for one think he shouldn't be the revealer of so delicate a matter! The highest he can do is advise his friend of which I entirely agree with you on but going as far as letting the husband know makes him a busybody. Trust me, the culprits are both adults and should know the consequences of their actions by now.
It's either he looks the other way or advise his friend; that is if he wants to take things far.

Ningen:
Na only you come today?
Ambassador of mind your business crew.

Lots of evil going on in the world doesn't mean we should condone or accept it as part of us.

Nothing wrong in OP contacting her hubby.
Or appealing to his friend to stop this evil.

But as always... You lots only encourage evil.

I don't know where all this harshness is coming from. I simply stated my opinion regarding the matter as requested by the Original Poster. And for the record mate, I've never supported evil before. It is left for her husband to find out himself.
We should learn to mind our business in matters like this.

Mind your business and live long OP.
There are lots of evil going on in this world even as we speak.
Minding your business requires no starting capital.

KlausMichaelson:
I don't have any iota of that kind of feelings for her. It only Hurts to see someone who you think considers you important snubs you on WhatsApp. It's painful.
It's just like I can't get her attention except I call her, and this doesn't make sense to me. Only that she already made me promise her that I will take her on some of her difficult courses when school resumes and attend night classes together. That's the only thing pulling me back from cutting her off.

She made you promise her that? If you are yet to understand whatever games she's playing then you my friend should better change your moniker to "FinnMikaelson".
Promises are not meant to be honoured when one party initiated it out of some stupid manipulations.
Break that promise and move on.

You are egocentric indeed. I can sense the paranoia and self-centeredness in your post. I'll tell you to move on, but that's a difficult choice for someone with an overbloated ego. Although there are positive sides to your being around her, case in point her good grades but can you for once stop being too available? There is a thing about value and availability. Just so you know brother, occurrences like this are common to folks in the friendzone of which you've gladly ushered yourself into and comfortably. I can bet my brains when you guys resume she's going to switch attitude back to the nice girl you once knew as a result of the benefits. As harsh as it sounds you have a defined value in her life and that is why you're still getting the little attention you're hardly appreciating. She measures your value by the academic assistance you render to her and right now, you're both out of the "academic environment". Worry not my friend for you're to expect the opposite of your "supposed" puzzling situation should you both resume.
For now you must ignore her and act as though she doesn't exist. That way, as a result of that little distance you can start regaining the "bogus" respect she had for you.

If you must marry someone's babymama, please bear in mind that her love for you will be shared between you and her kid.
So also, if her babydaddy is hale and hearty; not dead with an active preeq, that brings Okafor's law of congodynamics to the equation. It is easier for a babydaddy to eat the cookies of his 'married' babymama than it will ever be to convince me that Chelsea is going to win Bayern Munich.
There's rarely an exception to this however, the frequent occurrence of the practical aspect of the afore-stated principle far outweighs it's chances of not happening.

Worst mistake you'll make in toasting an average Nigerian girl is to go and spend your precious time studying books on how to chyke ladies, pick up lines and the likes. When you're done they will hardly understand you. It's best to channel that time to a noble pursuit.
There's nothing difficult in wooing a lady. Oga just be yourself. No blow grammar because dem no go understand you

Caramelskin:
God bless you for this. There is this student that was once a leader of the church (University Church o) for so many years. I respected him to the extent that I use SIR when I’m communicating with him. Naso after school, me and brother reconnected and borrowed money from me. As per say he was/is a man of God, I borrowed him, he collected my account number. Till today I now hear pim, I think he even blocked my number until recently when he messaged me. I just ignored his ass. S
Since then, I no dey use saint eye look pastor o.

Man of God or no man of God I believe before you trust someone on something you must analyse the person's character first if not dem go use you do mumu

itzmarvyx:
We were playing rough play and senses were already going, my earphone was in my ear just one ear but not playing anything, when I realised that in the next 5 minutes I may do something I regret, I just played one Man of God's message sharperly, it was Apostle Selman. Immediately I heard his voice, my senses came back and my body relaxed.

When the action wanted to progress further, I just halted it and stood up to take my leave. She stood up and just slapped the earpiece from my ear almost cutting it. She immediately became very surprised at her actions and apologised, said she didn't know what came over her. A gentle lady like her?? I just smiled, told her I understood and that was how I saved myself.

That thing that came over her was a spirit contrary to the Holy Spirit of God. They are all around us looking for bodies to inhabit.

Think I'm joking ?? The next time a guy or lady comes and sex wants to happen, just play one Don Moen's song and watch what will happen.

Each time I hear Selman's voice and I am about doing something stupid I just regain consciousness.

I was only able to read the first 5 lines and just couldn't endure to read on. The thing is, you can't compare your father's era and our own era. Life was simple, our mothers weren't choosy and our fathers were at liberty to either become farmers for life or pursue their education with our supportive mothers. You dare not say that with the current breed of some daughters of Delilah.
You don't have any business with marriage if you're struggling financially.
Adam had everything. Everything! Aside companionship. I believe God has already set the standard; the pattern we must follow.