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You day whine yourself.....I know what you mean and I know that this is an irony of what you actually meant...

You're either a weak-rich person that doesn't know how to scare leeches away, you're either living in a ghetto but rich and not trying to explore.

Your life will remain the way it is no matter where you are, everywhere is evil, you gotta be a soldier yourself, stand up for yourself, learn boxing, get a gun license if you want, tattoo your skin...People don't mess with you when your confidence is 100%.

Wow! People who envy are so stupid.

Imagine all that money just got crushed like that.

I need some bicycles this year, ain't doing no wasted investment.

I inherited mood swings from my Mum...we have a similar trait....What makes us happy right now can make us sad in the next minute, you can be Funny to me today and the next day, I don't even want to hear you speak.

You'll look really masculine when you get RED like Hellboy.

When you're in a marriageable age, the tendency is VERY HIGH...Daughters of eve are hunting for preys.

Werey boi! Your need for approval will ruin you before you know it. No one gives a Bleep about you bleaching or not, you're a dumb ass if you think other hungry people like you care about your skin complexion.

baretalk:
Evil china people. deport his ass after serving the jail term. So many Chinese, Lebanese, Philippines are living illegally in Lagos.
Nigerian immigration should be checking them, most their visa have expired, most have no work permit, na so them go pack themselves dey useless Naija girls for Troy Lekki, and those bars in the axis.

All these whores go leave us for "Troy" go day meet all the white heads. Na their headquarter be that.

He's always at Amala Folarin at Folarin Bus Stop. He opened an account with me when I was a marketer, he saved 500 and never came back. RIP Osmond (I used to think it was osunmo).

Truvelisback:
U will not fail in life.

Amen and you too.

How my mum and the world does it.

My mum that I used to send as much as 20k sometimes now tell me it's 1k-2k that I make in my shop and I cannot afford the 300k ever..

I can't believe my mum can't even believe me even seeing how much I toil to always bring something home, I don't always go home when I have less than 40k.

I'm not saying she hasn't tried for me, she had loaned me 100k before but I don't know why she wants to put her happiness before my career, how she wants a booming business in (Lagos) to move to like (Ijebu Igbo) *not real location*

ImaIma1:
As long as she's not physically dragging you to her place, please stay where you are.

You left home at 16 and have been on your own, why should you succumb to manipulation now?

Talk to her less so that it doesn't affect your mental health. Don't allow a selfish person ruin your life and success even if that person is your mother.

Very great advice.

Not really. It's like I engaged my career. Even though I wish to get married, this is the best time to enjoy bachelorhood, a time where you're setting your career foundation is too important to waste trying to feed a family.

bukatyne:
Why did you establish the new connection to her?

Hoping that she will change but I can now see clearly that she will put her happiness first before mine.

Klass99:
Lol . I feel you.

These are things we don't talk about or open up to people, in our Naija society. Once you do 50,000 (Fifty Thousand) individuals will come out of no where to shuush you and insist you are disrespecting your parents, after all they gave birth to you, did this or did that for you, you should be grateful yada yada yada.

No one ever likes to admit that parents can indeed be cruel or be the worse thing to have happened to some children who are adults today. Parenting is equal to sainthood in our society, parents can do no wrong. But even the bible talks about the relationship between parents and children, cautioning parents to not provoke their children to anger BUT that part hardly ever resonates.

In Africa, if they gave birth to you it's like they want to own your life as well. They want to tell you what to do all the time and how to live your life, even as an adult. They forget children are creatures with a mind and a will of their own, desires, hopes and dreams God puts in us. One of my classmates in Uni said she told her mother in the heat of an argument, you gave birth to me, you didn't give me life, God did.

They (parents) simply cannot trust that as an adult you are capable of sound decisions, right choices and right living. They want to interfere, they are either criticizing you or putting you down for your life choices. I don't know what drives them but they sure as hell, know how to mess up people's psyche and self esteem (I saw a thread recently on this)

Our parents can be very rude and disrespectful in Naija sha, but we take it in strides and move because we were raised to not talk back or disrespect elders....But when e choke it's good to hit them back small and let them know, you are human too, you have feelings and you deserve respect as well.

African/Naija children are even good sef . I belong to a foreign forum, with a wider reach and diverse audience. People talk about cutting out parents from their lives and not talking to them for 5 or 6 years, because a parent is toxic, was abusive or something else. Some even say they didn't speak with a parent again till that parent died. In my mind, I will be like this oyinbo people get skoin skoin for head ooo. But who am I to judge? I don't know what they lived through.

Parent worship is becoming toxic.

sisisioge:
Hmmmmm


She cursed and disowned you but you defied and did well for yourself.

Somehow, you became friends again but history is repeating itself....

What exactly are you afraid of? Go on and continue to do well for yourself....you can look into redefining the dept of your relationship with her though...if she doesnt want your progress then keep the progress from her. May God give you sense....this is a simple something fa. Cheers to your continued success!

Thanks a lot. I even had to ask her why she wants me to leave but she couldn't convince me enough, why will my mother be in charge of where my company will be? What stake does she have at the company....it's just crazy out here.

peepydelano:
Typical African Mother at it again, tell her straight that God only blesses whoever He deemed fit and no one has monopoly over another’s blesssings parent or not.God does not listen to such type of manipulative mother, do the right thing and make sure you don’t offend her while ignoring her manipulative games, God will bless you abundantly if you deserve it and won’t seek her consent before blessing you.Just be careful and very calculative in your dealings with such type of cruel mother.Goodluck to you.

Noted. Thanks

mariahAngel:
Are you your mum's only child?
Why does she want you to live close to her?
What about her husband?

She lives with two of my cousins and my dad died 11 months after I was born.

Klass99:
I won't judge you while ignoraing a parent's flaws, because I understand how harsh, cruel and disrespectful Naija parents can be with their words.

One of my first cousins has issues with her parents because of words spoken to her/things said to her in the past. I was present when some of those things were said but several years later, she still hurts from it. She doesn't like answering her parent's calls, her mother's in particular because it often ends in a fight.

You are an adult, do what is best for you and live the life you choose for yourself, not the one others choose for you. If I had listened to my own mother I would be a civil servant in a state ministry, withering away from idleness, inactivity and brain cancer, while being owed salary month after month. But boy am I glad I didn't listen, because I like where my life is at today.

Thank you so much.

I beg everyone that this is an actual event... I will use more of candid advices than abuses.

KiNg0G:
you want people to ask you about the business then u go ahead to scam them.

nice try alaye

Even while trying to explain, you'd see that I still remain fully anonymous, you're a fool if you think I need your money...

I learned and practiced Graphics for 6 years, I'm a 5 star brand designer now...I don't need your approval so as your little money, you can eat suya with it, your neighbor will give you garri again today. Wretched fool. I make more money in a day than you'd make in months.

Yes

Those are for Loudmouths.

I barely use any of these words.

What if the Man bury your sorry ass?

Are you above Nature beach?

So Pathetic...Strive to be who you are outside of his world. You are great too. Look within yourself...Some of us don't get it easy but Hard time don't last.

blinking001:
Sometimes Nigerians should forget sentiments and be thankful for everything our darling president has done for us

Good and motorable roads........checked

Second Niger bridge......checked

Passage of petroleum industry act.....checked

Revitalization of our Airports.....checked checked

Youths empowerment through public schemes like Npower, Tradermoni etc.......checked

Stable economy..........checked

Revitalization of our rail way transport system......checked checked

Best Electricity supply ever experienced by the common man.......checked checked

No fuel station queues anymore........checked checked

And many more i can't mention here

Buhari is a good man that deserves to be worshipped by all for all the good things he has done. He's the best President this great country has ever produced. The defender of the weak and a father to the fatherless.

God bless president Buhari
God bless Nigeria.

Did you check your brain too?

lexy2014:
Why u take the matter serious pass Boko Haram? Did it occur to u that those guys are mocking the lady? Didn't u read the story?

Hahahaha...na true o but some Men can actually do that.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Perhaps she was in a relationship that lasted years and ended up being dumped? Why didn’t you add this to your list ?

I wouldn't know but it doesn't seem like it.

This is just stupid...what happened to the "What ifs?"

She's only pretending after living a promiscuous life?

Very dirty and unaccommodating in real life?

She's not your type of girl or prolly genotype issues?

How can you watch a video and love up amazes me a lot.

Prayer warriors way go jus day wear Redeem cloth up and down.

Give me that Ashawo there.

Virgin no day Nigeria again except for 14-year-old girls.

Can't believe my niece is already on TikTok doing shit and my.......

Just shit.

Wish I had me a Glokkk....

All Enemies should be Eliminated.