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After so much energy Akala invested in labour party, he later join APC. Awon Atenu, them no get shame.

This is very bad

A 22 years old final year student, whose name is Diriyal Prince Daniel of Isaac Jasper Boro College of Education, Bayelsa State, allegedly committed suicide after been jilted by his lover, who is also a final year student in the same school.

Prince reported drank insecticide after he had disagreement with his girlfriend who jilted him for another man. He died after the bottle of the insecticide damaged his lung and other major part of his intestines before he could be rushed to hospital.

The deceased is said to be the only son of his parent, he was buried on the same day he gave up the ghost at his hometown at Kaiama, Opokuma local government.

Recently, same incident happened two months ago when a student of Niger Delta University, Amassoma, Ayuba Daniel also committed suicide by drinking the same insecticide called sniper.



Should committing suicide be the next option when jilted in a relationship? There is always a better person out there who is ready to love you unconditionally if you easily move on and reopen your heart for love.

Source: https://loversminds.com/jilted-lover-commits-suicide-over-estranged-girlfriend/

I'm a supporter of Amosun, but my instinct doesn't accept this man

So lazy youths will find an excuse to this recruitment also

And never marry because of money or beauty.

Nice one

PrimadonnaO:
Very apt!

In addition to that, try to have a life of your own. Being independent and being able to sort out your own bills, have things going on that do not revolve around him.

It's good that whether or not he's by your side, you're happily getting your groove on.

You can have mutual friends, but also have your own personal buddies.

Exactly

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I wonder why some people treat their fellow human being like trash, forgetting that we were born equally.

Are you in a relationship where your man doesn’t treat you with enough love and respect?

You can only know your worth from a man after spending sometimes together, that is when you get to discover how much he truly loves, respect, appreciates, values you and his true personality.

It is a very sad and painful when you love and respect him so much, and doesn’t reciprocate.

Initially, he might not have an intention of acting upon your feelings, but as times goes on some external forces would set in which may make him gain more power and respect over you.

Every healthy relationships must possess love and respect, but in some case, when the man you claimed to love, respect and sacrifice all your strength for, did not appreciate you. How would you feel? This may be the issue you have been battling with.

Here are 5 secrets on how you can make your man respect you.

1. Be Independent

Men are physically strong, but are emotionally weak. Depending on him so much may weigh him down and makes him deny you respect.

One thing that easily pissed a man off is when you can’t make things happen on your own, depending so much on him would be a burden which he may never discuss with you, but he would show it through his actions. Therefore, you must show him that you can survive without him in order to earn respect.

2. Give him Space

One of the secret of how to make your man respect you is to give him space in order to renew or rekindle your relationship. You may give him a week or month space, this is done so that he would remember how he was when you were yet to be in his life, and how much value you have contributed in his life.

3. Solve problems for him

One of the factors that could makes him deny you respect is when you are too demanding and selfish. Beside that, you never help him think how life will be more comfortable, how bills will be settled, all you care for is your well-being, all these can make him put you down.

Though, men are made to be the provider, but that is why you are his wife, you must be his companion, help him solve his problems, let him know you feel his struggling, by helping him solve his problems, you tend to gain respect from him. Read more......


https://loversminds.com/5-secrets-on-how-to-make-your-man-respect-you/

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Is he cheating on me? How would I know he is cheating on me? I can’t understand him anymore, he has started acting shady. These are the questions, you would feel like having answers to immediately.

Some ladies don’t notice their boyfriends is cheating on them until he gives them red card, while some will just have vibe that something is off, they just got an instinct that their man is cheating on them.
There are two types of cheaters, the one that secretly cheat on you, but still need you in the relationship and the one that openly cheat on you, because he doesn’t want the relationship anymore.

5 Signs your boyfriend is cheating on you

1.If he doesn’t care much about you:
If he is the type of guy that always show you love and care, but all of a sudden he doesn’t care much about you again, he doesn’t show much interest in your day to day activities, he doesn’t show any sign of jealousy when he sees you with guys or who you associate with. And when you start having a feeling that you are in dead relationship.

2. He always Hide His Phone:
This is when he doesn’t want you to have anything to do with his phone, he refuses to share his password with you, he can’t go to toilet without taking his phone along, he doesn’t allow you to touch his phone without his presence. All this signify that he has a skeleton in his cupboard, which mean he is definitely cheating on you.

3. Spend little time with you:
No matter how busy we are, we will always find time for our love ones, especially our heartthrob. But when you noticed, he always give excuse of being too busy, and when he barely checked on you, he reluctantly has a tangible conversation with you. He prefers pressing phone rather than having an eye contact with you during conversation, he doesn’t spend much time with you as he used to, always tell you he is busy, that means he has someone else who he spending his time with, who is more precious to him than you.

4. If he doesn’t call you as before:
This is a huge sign that he is cheating on you, if you are the one fighting for his attention, he always tells you his schedule is tight, even if he sees your missed calls, he won’t call back. Read more......


https://loversminds.com/5-signs-your-boyfriend-is-cheating-on-you/

A 40yrs old woman, Monsurat Idowu, fell in the cold hands of dead after having marathon sex with Michael.

Kelvin Micheal, who is 28yrs old, said to know Monsurat last month in a bus at Ketu, Lagos State, where they exchanged phone numbers. Later, Micheal invited her to his friend’s house in Ota, where she slumped and died after they had sex.

He was arrested by the Ogun State Police Command, when Mr Benjamin Okereke of the Ota General Hospital, reported to the police that he bought Monsurat dead.

The police contacted the deceased’s husband, Mr Lamidi Idowu, who is a commercial bus driver. He told the police he left his wife at home sound and healthy when he was going to work, saying the cause of her untimely death is mysterious to him

The State Police Public Relation Officer said, Monsurat’s corpse had been deposited in a mortuary for autopsy, while the State Commissioner of Police, Ahmed lliyasu, had ordered the transfer of the case to Homicide Section of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department, Eleweran.

https://loversminds.com/40yrs-old-married-woman-died-after-having-sex-with-28yrs-lover/

Bad belle person

Keep impacting girls negatively

Stress occurs in our day to day life activities, it enables us to get moving, but when stress is getting too much it affects our mind, body and mental health. Stress in relationships is when one partner depends so much on the other partner, thereby weighing the other partner down. Stress can influence your mood and relationship negatively.

Couple varies from one another when it comes to managing stress in a relationship, husband may be aggressive and unhappy when he is stressed and exert it on the relationship, while the wife may stay calm and moody.

There are several factors that could cause stress in a relationship such as been abused, when your partner is putting high demand on you or when you are the one inputting much efforts into the relationship without getting anything in return, after child birth stress and lots more.

Here is how to handle stress in a relationship

1. Separate personal issues from your relationship

There are some kind of people that always impose their personal issues on their relationship by being moody, aggressive or withdraw from their spouse anytime they are stressed, which is very wrong. Forgetting that their partners also need them. You shouldn’t allow your personal issues which you may not want to talk about affect your relationship negatively.

2. Discuss it with your partner

What could be stressing you up, is it work stress, house chores stress, or parental stress? Before the stress leads to depression, discuss that thing you think is pushing you down which you can’t tackle alone with your partner. The vital thing is to both figure it out, learn how to tackle it together.

3. Have Fun

Having fun can help ease tensions that arise in a relationship, by doing things that will keep you alive and vibrant, such as listening to music, dancing, hangout, sightseeing and lots more. All these can easily ease stress and tensions and gives refreshment to your body and mind.

4. Connect yourself with family and friends

Sometimes, when we are stress up in a relationship, we just have a feeling that our partner’s support is not an answer. No matter how much he/she tries to help, it would just be abortive, and complicate issues, then we tend to notice that we need a space, that’s when the help of friends and family comes in.

There are some types of people that easily negligent their family and friends immediately they got married and depend so much on their partner, as time goes on, they come to realize that the love of family and friends is also important in our lives.

Therefore, if you think this is the type of stress you are passing through, it requires to be eased by connecting with family and friends, don’t be too shy to reconnect with them, talk to your partner about it. Spending enough time with family can help to alleviate marital pressures rather than going on a vacation and being alone.

5. Self-control

Stress is inevitable in a relationship, especially when you start having children. Most times, nobody can help you fight stress expect you, especially if it is self-generated, (stress that arises from too much thinking or negative thought). It can easily deteriorate your well-being and mental health.

Is it every time you stressed you would be imposing it on your partner? When you are stress up, you need to learn how to control yourself and get yourself right. Try to find a way to relieve your stress without your partner’s consent. This will definitely help you have total control over your feelings by not letting your emotions have power over you.

Stress is not a bad thing, but what makes it bad is how long it is experienced and if it is poorly managed. If the stress is not properly managed it could cause loneliness, moodiness, anxiety, and low sex drive. Therefore, it must be properly managed so that it won’t affect your health and toll on your relationship.

https://loversminds.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-a-relationship/

Happy birthday mama sweet sixteen

Is a lie, I can't believe this

Fayemi all the way

Self-esteem is how you feel about our yourself. Do you occasionally feel bad about yourself? Low self-esteem is when you feel you are not special in anyway or you think you don’t deserve something good, this can hinder your relationship and can make your partner treat you like a trash.

Did you know that low self-esteem in a relationship can make you feel as if you are classically low to your partner, or make you feel like your partner is too good for you which might make you develop insecurity. There are different ways in which negative self-talk can affect your feelings, thoughts and emotions. But it can be overcome.

Different ways to improve self-esteem in a relationship include;

1. Self-love

Did you love yourself? Self-love is being kind to oneself and feel loved by yourself. The way you feel about yourself goes a long way in your day to day life activities as well as your relationship. If you don’t love yourself that means you can’t give what you don’t have, even if your boy/girlfriend is telling you how much s/he loves you, you won’t believe, you will just accept. How to improve your self-esteem in a relationship starts with yourself by developing self-love and being positive about yourself.

2. Avoid being your partner pleaser

Those with low self-esteem in a relationship always look for a way to satisfy their partners by any means, because of the fear of losing them, and their partners always use that against them. You can’t gain your self-worth in your relationship if you have the fear of losing him/her, learn how to set your boundaries, let him/her know how you want to be treated, what you like and what you don’t like.

3. Avoid being dependent

You can be your own person and still be in a relationship, depending too much on your partner can you lose your self-worth, the best way to help your self-worth is to give rather than demanding.

4. Be honest to your partner

There is nothing wrong if you can open up to your partner, tell him/her how you feel about yourself, so that you can both fight against it. Components of low self-esteem start from negative self-talk to fear and insecurities. When you both talk about it, s/he can help you fight it through compliments, positive talks and motivations.

5. Celebrate yourself

Celebrating oneself is a sign of self-love, celebrate yourself on any small achievement, that will tell your partner how much you care about yourself and how s/he should celebrate and care more about you, and that will indirectly boost your self-esteem in the relationship.

Source; https://loversminds.com/how-to-improve-self-esteem-in-a-relationship/

Lol

I pity Ekiti people, if don't wise up

Some people don't know hatred is unhealthy, if you hate someone you must not let that person know

She was moody because you scolded her, you just have to teach her how to cook since you said you are a good cook, and take things easy with her.

This one pass my imagination, nobody holy pass in 2face song

Double wahala

HI LOVERS MINDS,

I don’t wish to tell you my name or introduce myself, but I decided to pour my mind on your blog, when I saw your post on Facebook. I’m in dilemma whether to continue dating my boyfriend or not, things are not working properly between us for the past few months, Basically, we met social media, he was loving, caring, honest and loyal, but now his behavior has totally changed. He doesn’t call me, or chat with me like before, when I messaged him, he replied me very late and whenever he talks to me, it feels as if he is not interested in me anymore and when I complaint, he would say he is busy.

Several nights, I do wait for him online but whenever he appears online he won’t chat with me, when I accused him of cheating on me, he said, he was chatting with his sister or friends, this hurts me so much, he didn’t have time for me but have for his friends. He later blocked me on Facebook, I thought he deactivated his account, but was on Facebook, I made another account and checking his profile, I found that many girls were liking his pics. I asked him to give me his phone password, but whenever I tried to check his phone I discovered he gave me wrong password.

This made me got so angry that I decided to end the relationship, but I love him so much, I can’t help my feelings. He doesn’t call for ten days, I was worried about him and finally called him, but he was very rude and scolded me that I should not disturb him that he wants to study. I really got hurt by his sudden change of behaviour, I don’t know what to do again. I didn’t chat or call him from that day but was checking his profile, he always uploads pics showing half naked body and always online late. It has been twenty days and I’m still waiting for his call, because I love him and I don’t want to lose him.

There so many questions on my mind, I need your help. Should I continue dating him, maybe he would change? Or I should act against my feelings?

https://loversminds.com/chronicle-of-a-lover/

Handsome bobo

There look always scared me, they are more like thugs

When would Nigeria be known for something good?

Nigerian singer, Chidinma shares her relationship opinion online giving people advice, but they are guessing something fishy is wrong with her love life.

Recently, she said ‘If I must brush before kissing you in the morning, that means we are not meant for each other’.

Now, she’s said somthing else and people are beginning to wonder if all is well with her relationship with Kiss Daniel.

She wrote, 'please if you are dating a fine person and you love your health, please I beg you in the name of Jesus Christ that said 'it is finished' on the cross, don't go through their phone(s)'.

https://loversminds.com/avoid-checking-his-phone-if-you-are-dating-fine-guy-chidinma/