₦airaland Forum

fineboynl:
did you still later go home? Or you stayed behind?

I stayed behind

TheRealOwner:
After what happened to you, it should be very clear to you how your mother died and the circumstances surrounding her death.

Quick question. Is your father an illiterate?

Yes sir ..

Awoleesu:
Omo ki lo nso gaan??
I found it difficult to comprehend your narration...

Try and improve your communication skills, then would you find an iPhone more useful!

That’s how far I can write.. your own is to try to get my points. You can’t tell me you couldn’t pronounce a word there na

1dorzine:
I'll advise you focus on moving out the house, you also sound like you don't have a hold of your life. Also the previous business you were doinh doesn't sound like a legal one, hence forget that and loom for something legitimate to do either online or offline.

Long story short, get a hold of your life and leave the house to start your own life independently.

I don’t know where to start from.

Goldie16:
For your own good, DON'T TRUST YOUR STEP MOTHER.
Respect her, but I forbid you from trusting her ever again. If you continue this your naivity of trusting people, you'll land your destiny in big soup.
Pikin wey nor get mama dey wise, them nor dey trust people at all. I don't know why your own case is so different.
Are you the first son? Let me know, so that I can advise you further.

Yes I’m the first son of the family.

SarkinYarki:
What are you doing in your dad's house at 27

I don’t have enough money to move

InformationTV:
ONLY YOU can make the decision to stay or go back home.

You should be able to tell yourself THE TRUTH about The Real Life Situations which you are faced with.



Money Stops Nonsense:

However, your problem here is that you are 27 Years and You are still with Your Dad. He expects you to be doing financially better by now.


It's High time You Moved Out of The House to a place of your own.

This is exactly what he wants, so get yourself Financially Independent and Location Free.


Sadly, you are not monetarily buoyant and here lies the Ultimate Problem between You and Your Dad.


So, Get Money.

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YeyeGbami:
Enter street go hustle don't have to be yahoo, at that age he suppose don dey inside life sinceee.

Please link me up with any hustle cuz rn I don’t know where to start from

tonididdy:
That your papa na Igbo man, I know

Yorubadman he is

TheLoneCitizen:
Sorry for asking brother, Lucasmuyiwaa, but how did your late mother pass away?

My Dad and Mom had quarrel and divorced when we were small and she died 2013 from fibroid sickness.

kekakuz:
At 27, my dad was complaining that my ewedu soup was not as good as the one a woman from my neighborhood use to make for him.
He insulted me in many ways than one.
I thought to myself. At my age , should I be learning how to make ewedu for my dad or should I be doing exploit with my life.
One months after, I informed him I was moving out. He thought i was joking .
I moved out. 4 months after I came to greet him with my car . The rest is history.
My guy settle with him and move out immediately.

Please carry me along in whatever you’re into .
God bless you

grossintel:
He is a bad boy at 27 them dey seize em phone, are you normal like this ? Boys his age are getting married and having children. At that age I was already living in a 3 bedroom flat and got my first car a year later. I think there is something wrong with the OP, because respect is reciprocal and from his post I can see they don’t respect each other to begin with.

Please carry me along.

grossintel:
He is a bad boy at 27 them dey seize em phone, are you normal like this ? Boys his age are getting married and having children. At that age I was already living in a 3 bedroom flat and got my first car a year later. I think there is something wrong with the OP, because respect is reciprocal and from his post I can see they don’t respect each other to begin with.

Yes you’re right ...
He doesn’t respect me a bit and shoots at me. So all these things gave me liver to start limiting my respect when he starts wahala .

dewiseacre:
This story sounds like a Nollywood movie where your step mother, though unassuming, will confess one day as being behind all the issues in your family.

I don’t trust her too

NwaEzefuNaMba:
I hate how people have already concluded that your father hates you, even though they just read a side of the story.
If as a father, you could watch your child live above his means simply because he's 27, then you are a part of the problem we have today.

The OP is Jobless, maybe the type that stay indoor 24/7 but keep spilling cash. The father have every right to be angry with him.

But, what do I even know.

You’re right cuz I stay indoor 24/7 but not everyday.

Vipro:
What course did you study?as in,your qualifications.

I studied local government studies sir.

If you’re planning to get me a work please I’m very ready sir.

subsidywise18:
OP....so you are one of those people who take our subsidized petrol out of the country and sell to people in Benin republic, at our expense.

That's a big reason why Nigeria cannot fund its budget adequately. We lose billions subsiding petrol for people in other countries.

Abeg talk for matter wey dey ground

Zaheertyler:
Lol ajebo
At 27 your papa never Dey give you your respect even if you Dey him house lol
You know say na lie you no fit clear am say why him go Dey lie against you ..why him go even sieze phone way you buy self
You suppose Dey clear the man with respect
Him go Dey give you your way
But you be ajebo sha

Omo...Na so but I don komot that Ajebo zone since. But my father don’t even care any thing

frozen70:
Pls don't go to that house tonight

I don't know who to trust between your dad and your step mom

Just go with a friend tomorrow listen to their talk, turn back to where you came from

Meanwhile apologies to him and that's all

Even if they ask you to stay or come back home, just tell them that you need a break

From that moment, start seeing yourself like a visitor in that house

As a matter of fact, let them whole family start missing you

As you go, start finding your bearing

Your journey to freedom and success have started

I can’t wait to see positive result if I leave that house.
Thank you very much sir

SHINJA:
Shut up abeg dey yarn trash . even Bible talk say mk parents no provoke dem pikin...

Which kind papa go dey insult him late wife and dey call her pikin bastard,want even kill am..

Na God go judge I swear.

WondaBeauty:
Like i said earlier, go back home and talk with ur stepmother if you trust her that much and still respect enough.


But you have to also let them know that you won't live there anymore after the issue is settled.


Let ur father know that you are man now and need to plan ur own life and family.



I guess that you aren't bringing anything to the table and thats why you're treated this way by ur father.
(nigerian parents at good at this).

Yes you’re right.
Thanks brother

neonly:
Do u know d kind of sacrifice yur dad endure to raise you to d point where u can afford a phone common it just a phone
U hurt him but you might no know d kind gravity
He probably showing off indirectly to yur step mum dat my children listen to me etc
Yes if you were staying in yur own place d case wound be different but wait his house his rules
My own dad was still beating with correct slap even though I was staying in my own house till I got d age of 38
Bro's it was just a phone you could have saved again to buy another one
It shows u are rude
U try dat my late papa u are done
What yur did was bad accept and try to build trust and d bridge between you and yur dad back OK

Thank you very much my bro

Vincyman:
Your Dad got hatred for you I guess , bro don't go back this night, find a good day and go back. Then u give him apology. After that, you can then move on with ur life

Thank you so much brother.

Goldbw122:
Hmm this one na small thing, thank God that you did not get injured, your father angry is something else.

Find something doing, a job, just find something doing that will make you go to work every day, going early and coming late at night, so that he will see you less, and be fond of you less, talk with your stepmother to see how the progress will go... Then if the conversation go fine, go home but if not find a friend place to stay for a moment, like a friend place, and move again to rent your apartment.. well any way for find something doing a work... So that your father will earn your respect..

But what if I haven’t find something doing physically can I still leave the house for him still?

Because I sell and buy bulk bitcoin and he doesn’t know about that that’s why he feel I’m just sleeping and not working.

eniolorunfe:
Enough drama for one day. Make everybody rest!

Go and see them tomorrow or even weekend sef and after the discussions leave. I think it’s time you get your own place… see finish don enter una mata.

God bless you sir.

chatinent:
You dey hawk “so?”

Na so so so so so I dey read.

Modified pls

wis3:
Don't stay away. Be less available. It'll help more if you stayed on your own and you'll only come to visit once in awhile.

Thank you boss

neonly:
You are a bad boy
How will feel if yur own child did d same to u
No respect
Karma is waiting
Am sure of you have channeled dat same energy to do some thing surprising for he would has still given u yur phone
But now u has allow phone to break d bridge between and yur father
The money was not d Issie u betray his trust
Goodluck

You know it’s my property..and I can’t seize a phone from my child just to suffer him why ? And a grown man for that matter.

I don’t even like it when I had thoughts why he would seize my phone. What if I was not staying with him or o get something bigger than that? So he has right to seize anything from me cuz I’m his son abi even with my hard earned money.

WondaBeauty:
Your story is enough to make any sane person get headache or go insane.

All the SO's are more than enough to build a church.(no offense)





I would advise you go back home and talk with her cos she seems like the easy medium to your father.


But in all, FOLLOW UR MIND.

Please forgive me for the so so.
Please my mind is one mind in two options. I need to know your mind too or your advice maybe it will help pls

wis3:
someone might have taken the money, it's also very likely there wasn't any missing money. He's just trying to blame you for it since you went throw his things without his permission. hes just used to seeing you around too much. He'll come around

I’m having same thoughts too about the money.
But do you mean I should stay away from him ?

sholay2011:
This one na real wa...

If there are people that can go with you to apologize to your dad (it's not good for one's parent to rain curses on them even if not justified), but I don't think it's the best idea to go sleep in that house. This should be a wake up-call for you to be independent of your dad. You will actually earn his respect that way, and he may begin to miss you sef after all the fights una don fight. But really, can your father kill you ni or is his anger that bad?

God help you.

Thank you very much brr....
If I think about his behavior I will not go that house this night. But the stepmother told me to come home and she knows I respected her. I even told her man she’s trying to set me up but she said and swear she can’t let that happen even if he want to act violence not alone of her trying to set me up. Though i believed her

What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?