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DrAda:
Still think they need it.

Still think they don't.

They are never gonna see your message ever...so why bother?

Focus on me.....😁

DrAda:
I wish them well. They will need it

Nope, they won't.

They never needed it before and won't need it now. Let them be.

dealslip:
That's the same thing I started this conversation with. Never marry people with whom you don't have similar values. Many people marry spouses they have nothing in common with especially values, then they wonder what happened to their relationship. Once you fear your spouse cause you trouble, you didn't marry right. Women have equally gone through more heart breaks in the hands of men, who go abroad for a better life. Tie them down for years then move on with another woman in the name of getting papers. If those women were your sisters or daughters do you think they married the right person. Many women's life have been wasted waiting for a man that never came back. Reason I say we should be women who can manage their lives and finances well so they are not left in really cruel situations. With the US once you file for the immigration visas, you can't be an illegal migrant. Besides what's a marriage where you don't live together. If you have been visiting the US before, taking care of your self can never be an issue. That's why I have been saying it's because certain men marry unexposed women that's why they dangle such stuff before them. Any man that married my daughter will not be a man that dangles abroad as a reward for good behavior. I have taken my daughter to several countries around the world and so she can't settle for less, so also my son.

Bla bla blaaaaaaaaaa

dealslip:
That's what exactly what I am telling you, because you guys are used to marrying poor women, you think other women can't help themselves, denigrating women because you think you are alpha and omega, you believe women can't fund or sponsor themselves. Have you heard of rental cars, like enterprise or common Uber. I will even be in an hotel and go on cruise in front of you. Most of you don't know you have poverty mentality and you display it with pride. To start with I won't marry a man with a poverty mentality and of course I am wealthy so he will respect me from the onset.

Lmaooo...still all you talk about is MONEY.

And nope.yoir wealth without manners won't get you any man except dogs and cats

dealslip:
Lol! You don't know anything about obtaining residency in the US beyond marriage.Ever heard of EB5 and EB NIW categories of immigrants visa
Don't worry I will use my money to sponsor myself. He has nothing to fear not every woman is a 2k woman that needs the man to take her out of the country. She doesn't need to force herself, she just goes there.

Yeyeslip ranting as usual...

Which money do you have? Aunty meeting goer

wendy120:
Lol, I'm far away from frustration dear. You are the one who is not just poor but very uneducated and spitting rubbish because you have never traveled out of your Country before and you don't know how a country with law works. Since you will end up like Ikenna, i will advise you stay back in Nigeria because if you dare commit domestic violence abroad, you will end up in prison or ending yourself

Lol...so travelling out of Nigeria is now an achievement?

Your mentality is low

wendy120:
I left Nigeria at 16years, prior to that, I constantly spend my holidays with my Aunties and I go for functions there. You mentioned you can't take your wife out of Nigeria which means she is very poor and ugly that she can't travel by herself. If I need to fly anywhere today, all it takes is for me to order my flight ticket. But since your wife is poorer than church rat including where she came from, it's normal you give her those conditions

Jesus...what does this history mean now?

All you ever talk about is money, no other value added, just money. If you don't have money today, what's your value?

That's why you lots don't have good marriages. All you ever think of is money, which is a poverty-stricken mentality

We4all:
This is an irrefutable proof that he is gay.

Always sprouting rubbish.

You with fake hair and fake eyelashes and fake is what...a lesbian?

Philosopher1979:
The idea that women only find 20 percent of men who are rich and or handsome attractive is disempowering and defeatist. It leads to
1. Inferiority complex or low self esteem
2. Pedastalizing women
3. Inceldoom. I think this ideology produces incels.
4. It even sounds like it goes beyond sex to lacking enough self confidence to relate with people and be successful in life.
One cannot be so harsh on oneself.
How can you tell a young man that 50 percent of the world population. (Which are women) somewhat think he is unattractive and inferior. Its very very disempowerong. Its not even about sex but the lack of self confidence, poor relational skills and unhappiness it will bring into someone's life. People should stop preaching this idea to young men.
It may be true to some extent but it does not help anybody. It just lives people disempowered.

But it is the truth. And that's what the redpill shows you, the raw, undiluted truth. Then, you can adjust and live a life that's not controlled by others but just you.

While I acknowledge that women are attracted to top tier men, there are also many women who are attracted to you, without your money or fame. Sometimes, they like you just for being you. I have been cared for by women when I had nothing financially but my looks, brains or humor. Some, their sense of humor. Others, their brains.
The point is while hypergamy is ever active, some women will still choose you because they like you...and most especially when they sense that you may become someone better in life.

The key is never stop developing yourself in all ways, such that even if hypergamy catches up with that first woman that cared for you, there are other women, many of them, that will fill her place. Let your value keep rising and and you will never run short of options. But then, not many men will become top tier in life which is the truth. Just become the best version of what you can be and there is always a woman who wants that version of YOU.

slim75d:
The news I get on daily basis about women make me scared of getting married. I wonder how many good women are out there.

Just your mum and my mum!!!😁

wonder233:
Picture or video or any sort of evidence. I don't rush to conclusion based only on one side of a story.
See the commenters above me jumping to conclusion, that is why it is so easy to control you guys in this country. They will kill person and quickly put out a narrative that the person committed suicide or died ontop woman, and y'all will lap it up and start commenting your stale jokes and motivational quotes.
Never seen a more vacuous population.

The story was embellished with Maggie and ajinomoto. Sensationalist reportage

Tightpussy2024:
Being all is better than being a nobody like you

How would you know, loosepusay?

Tightpussy2024:
I thought I was a single mom..or a man hiding behind a woman account. ..lol

You could be all .. fishlips

anonimi:
If it’s a cargo airport then why the commercial flight

Did you say you can read?

Jesus.....did you read the airport's name?

It's basically for cargo, and less for commercial flights. It's not solely for commercial flights.

Tightpussy2024:
All of you that supported Trump and want to japa,is God that will see you through.

Black guys have died because a white guy babe was hitting on them.

Have you worked into a club as an African woman and then because of your big blossom all guys want to buy you a drink ,even ones with girlfriends. Then the security comes and walks you out for "constituting a nuisance" or "public disturbance" just because people were leaving their partners to come dance with you?


If I didn't get married and thus have my citizenship,I will have returned back to Nigeria or a saner African country like Namibia or ivory coast.it was bloody out there .

Worse off for illegals . Someone that hates you for no reason will report you to the immigration for working extra hours...

rip to him

So tightpussy is married. Lol...I wish him luck

ednut1:
How many Ekiti people can afford to fly. Same nonsense Ebonyi did 😂

Damn....as an Ekiti boy, this touched me.

I will have my vengeance ednut. Mark my words!!!! 😁

EnglandAmaka:
Their won't be passengers on this route. Ask Yobe State and Ebonyi state how far? How many planes touched down after the inauguration.

AKR in Obalende is just like 55km to Ado Ekiti. To Ikere Ekiti is even closer at 28Km. Need i tell you that AKR hardly see 7k passengers a month?

Why will a thinking Governor build such a white elephant project when there a tons of infrastructure deficit begging for attention?


Just a wasted tax payers money

Can you read?

It's a CARGO AIRPORT

gbaskiboy:
Congratulations! I guess this is the first time many indigenes of Ekiti will be seeing aeroplane for the first time. No shade, but true!

You be mûmû. You think they are that local like your village

JESHAL007:
I understand that external policies lie IMF austerity measures contribute to our currency devaluation and inflation , but the loans and aid sent are looted by leaders to cater to their harem even if these policies would happen regardless

Lol..you always say harem like the northern politicians are the only thieves. The southern and eastern politicians with one wife and 200 concubines do worse. There are so many examples out there to see.


Let's just agree to disagree

JESHAL007:
Monogamy is now more acceptable globally unlike ancient times when we had monarchical system of governance, currently the most violent societies are 80% Islamic, see war in the middle East, we are far more peaceful than our ancestors who had shorter life expectancy and tougher environmental conditions, they were naturally redpilled to survive the tough times, then women were extremely feminine because of the dangerous climate, enemy tribe can invade their villages and capture them, they fully embraced patriarchy this tough times but when relative prosperity and the birth of industrialisation and the middle class, women joining the work force, the came masculinity in women because they are forced to compete with men in masculine work environment

It's not religion that makes polygamy fail bro. Nope...the Islamic countries all fûcked up are radicalists, it's extremism that made them fûcked up. that's the issue. Monogamy is not the El dorado. It has failed. Just look around you and see.

JESHAL007:
Some nations had resources and strong political influence then again the world was very different polygamy was everywhere then as violence was the norm in majority of the nations on earth

So now violence is not the norm? Look around you. It's everywhere.

Monogamy is not the way. Look around you and see

JESHAL007:
Blame women, they drive these leaders instinctly to be wicked, corrupt, ruthless and heartless, pure evil, it makes these bitches in the harem pussy wet, a psychopathic leader, same thing happened to Solomon in the Bible who used scorpion whips on the Israelite cheap labor because he wants to please his harem and show he is the most powerful man welding the highest status on earth

Male violence, hierarchy, competitiveness appealing to female hypergamy on a power level, it's not like that in productive western societies as they don't even have resources but they built technology, modernized their society and created wealth on an absolute level, same with China, they are not thinking of harems like African leaders who just love sex and showing off, oppression, they are thinking in thousands of years ahead even Elon musk is thinking millions of years ahead

Nah!!! I don't agree bro.

JESHAL007:
Dude it's because of women, these leaders loosed focus too much concubines in their harem and wives, not enough time to push resources to area that need serious attention for development, looting and looting especially northern Nigerian leaders because they want to maintain their status and appeal to women hypergamy, they want unlimited sexual pleasure from their consorts hence they are willing to keep their populace poor and backward, weaponize religion and use their militia in the form of radicalized bandits, terrorists, kidnappers to instill fear in their populace and prevent them from rebelling, again they have the army in their pocket example Hon Matawalle former governor of Zamfara state who was in charge of illegal mining and banditry now made the minister of defense

Dude. I absolutely disagree.

Many Politicians have just one wife but 100 gfs and diverted resources to these concubines in Nigeria. It's the man's weakness, not the type of marital conjugation that made the society fall.

JESHAL007:
You are correct in the explanation of your point but remember that monogamy is an evolved socio-cultural phenomenon and has existed way back in ancient time it's not just a western or Christian thing, it's a civilisation model that has existed for centuries, it's based on the compromise that the 80% of beta male who are deemed unattractive due to status would use their limited provisioning resources to take care of their relatively poorer wives, remember reproductive success is innately zero sum because in our ancestral past only 40% of men reproduced for 80% of women, life test varied genes on men, highest IQ, lowest IQ, highest success, most miserable failure, so it has always been that way and conditions then were very tough and tough because of wars, violence, famine, diseases, plagues, natural disasters, so men died early but now monogamy brought about the prosperity and advancement of western society due to the practice of Christian religion as a dominant ideology, hypergamy was checkmated, divorce was rare, but when secularism and liberalism took over their nation, it induced polygyny and polygamous mating strategy, now they are declining like Rome, look at advanced first world nations even without resources and China too they are rational and productive, creating new technologies and advancing civilization, look at the middle East and Africa, even as the middle East is resourceful and rich they are still not as advanced and prosperous as any first world nation, they are strong data to back this studies, let's not allow our ego and desire of abundance of harem cloud our judgement from unflattering truth

Monogamy as I know it has not existed in ancient times in the Southwestern part of Nigeria that I come from. It is a western/Christian construct. Even before Islam, northern Nigeria and Benin kingdoms have always been polygamous societies.

Once again, I don't think it's polygamy that never made any man to think and become advanced. Egyptians and Arabians made some of the first advances in science and technology. It's about the mindset and strength/weakness of the men of that era. Did polygamy make Solomon or David dumb? I could argue this all day. If we are talking about simping, monogamy made it so much worse.

JESHAL007:
Islamic societies generally, northern Nigeria, polygamy gives evolutionary death sentence to young men, again this men are restricted from getting sexual access to women due to sharia, fornication is punishable by laws, again child bride is common in their culture so women are marked at a very young age to be married off to wealthy men,it leads to frustration, resentment and anger which makes them violent to the core, heavily repressed sexual energy, a man choosing four wives has doomed 3 young men evolutionarily to selexlesness and childlessness, again asides the violence, these young men can easily be radicalised into jihadist warriors to have a sense of meaning and purpose in this world that was unfair to them from birth as they were genetically gambled towards poverty of resources due to poor background which makes them unlikely choice for women to mate with, these young men find solace in working for Allah, killing for him, dying for him, that's why terrorism is strong especially in Islamic societies, that male competitive instincts instead of it to be channelled creatively towards education, career, invention is channeled destructively towards violence,bloodbath, bloodshed, many male virgins, directionless, hopeless again because of their miserable situation.

Even polygamy in southern Nigeria not as violent as the north but children from such background take to ritual, yahoo, hookup because of their poverty situation, it's not easy, they result to criminality because of lack of opportunities, polygamy especially among poor uneducated people is the biggest cause of poverty, hardship, hopelessness, misery in Nigeria

Why use Nigeria? What of Saudi Arabia? Polygamy failed because the man is either weak or the leaders of that society have failed. If monogamy is the way, hell, why are there so many divorcees around?
All the yahoo dudes I know in Southern Nigeria come from monogamous houses.

JESHAL007:
Nothing good about polygamy.

Observe history carefully. Polygamous societies are poorer and less developed than monogamous societies.

The only temporal good side of polygamy for men is having sex with multiple women without fear of being accused of infidelity. Nothing else.

I disagree. It's the failure of the leaders, not the practice itself

JESHAL007:
Monogamy ensure a distribution of women among many men. Instead of one man having many women. Having a mate quells violence.

A man that has a wife + kids is less susceptible to cause harm compared to a single man.

All that's needed is to observe chaotic and peaceful societies.

I disagree

JESHAL007:
Monogamous societies are more prosperous because they have enough energy to channel into rational thinking. Rational thinking leads to productivity.

A man can only think efficiently in a harmonious setting.

Settling quarrels among wives and children drains his mental health.

I disagree. The failure of polygamy is individualistic. If you are weak as a man, your wives won't give you peace. If you are strong, your wives will know their place and give you peace.

Monogamy has also destroyed many men and if it's so perfect without fights and such, why are there so many divorced people even in western societies? Why is the so-called peace a man and a woman are supposed to enjoy? Now, there is polyamory gaining ground because it's evident that monogamy is not the solution. Asking a man to stay with one woman for the rest of his life is where the problem initiated from

JESHAL007:
The question is between monogamous and polygamous societies, which is more rational, advanced, developed, and prosperous?

Which has the higher rate of family stability?

Which has the higher rate of stable children?

the only good thing men can pick from polygamy is "sex with multiple women". Nothing else.

How many of our grandfathers were able to cater for their families with multiple wives and battalion of kids?

Recently, we've seen a lot of paternity fraud from monogamy. What then do you think about polygamy?

Monogamy is sexual compromise for the men. That's the price they pay for maintaining a standard family.

Talking about the children + society at large. Not only the loins of men.

I disagree. Polygamy has not been proven to be detrimental to any society. Infact, it curbed hypergamy while making sure society advanced... It also offered an avenue for women who would otherwise be single to contribute to the society. They were helpers, nurturers and learned trade while the men fought wars.

Monogamy was a concept inbred with love, the fallacy of one man,one woman, forever. It encouraged simping from men because now, they have to try to please just one woman forever while in polygamy, many women compete to please the man.

JESHAL007:
She's my Soul mate, she's the best for me, she's the one for me, she's my one and only, etc are all fallacies, as well as dangerous and limiting to what you can get out there.
There's always someone better or worse.
Females know this. Its hard wired in them.
They're not irrational or illogical beings. They're very logical with their emotions. They're emotional until they get what they want.
Their emotions are not abstract, they're well calculated.

Exactly 💯

Kipaji:
This is it. I, too, am taking my self-development seriously. I have a low body fat (I'd say less than 14%), I have an athletic body, I sharpen my skills, I increase my knowledge in relevant topics, I take care of my mind, I make sure I'm spiritually healthy, I don't allow bullshit from women, I don't associate with disrespectful time-and-energy-draining people, I learn wisdom, I work on my systems and goals, I have boundaries, I practice self-love and self-care, I build my wealth, etc...

BUT, I also know that NONE OF THESE THINGS WILL MAKE ANY WOMAN SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO ME IF SHE DIDN'T FOUND ME SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE AFTER THE FIRST FEW MINUTES OF MEETING HER.

If a woman does not find me sexually attractive, she learning about my riches, achievement, my strength of mind, my masculine frame, the fact that I'm not a simp or a beta, and the fact that I know game, won't change it. At best, learning about my money, may incite her to fake attraction and submission to me in order to secure the resources (that's how a lot of men get married or finessed). I am not delusional about this. If a woman does not find me sexually attractive RIGHT NOW, becoming a USD billionaire tomorrow is not going to change it---that RAW GENUINE attraction will NEVER be there.

So, I am all for self-improvement and making money. BUT DO IT FOR YOURSELF. Don't do it with women in mind. Women don't care. Do it because you want to live your life to the fullest, because you want to give to yourself the best living conditions, because you want to give back to your family, because you want to travel, because you want to dive deep into your personal interests, because you want o understand the world better, because you want to live the best experiences that money can get you, because you want to spend your limited time on Earth in heath and peace, because you want to help people who deserve your help, etc...

I made a post related to this topic: https://www.nairaland.com/7465815/make-money-women-come-bad



I agree. Any man would benefit from learning game. Learn this game
so that you won't be the beta women use as a safety net after her wh0ring years,
so that you won't be the simp they manipulate for resources,
so that you won't be the pathetic dude waiting forever in her friendzone while she is fvcking the men she is genuinely attracted to,
so that you won't be the emotional slave that pander to her feelings and let her run the show,
so that you won't be any woman's toy or tool,
so that you won't be an easy target for women's manipulations and games,
so that you won't be one the fool that will spend his savings to impress "his" babe on valentine's day,
so that you won't put any woman above yourself, your wellbeing, your peace, and your goals,
so that you won't be like all these dudes who are intimidated by women and put them on a pedestal,
so that you won't be the guy who foolishly believes his wife when she tells him that the kid that looks like her boss is his,
so that you can wisely filter the kind of woman you entertain and allow in your life.

But also don't be delusional and think that knowing game is going to make women attracted to you. There are a lot of guys out there with 0 game and who are having women throw themselves at them (I was one of these dudes, I had women sexually throw themselves at me, while I was broke, unathletic, and completely ignorant of game or the redpill).
Don't learn game to get women, learn game to protect yourself.




This is a question that deserves the highest level of attention in this space.
As we all know, handling sexual urges is NOT easy.
Since most men aren't sexually attractive enough to get women without betabuxxing (with of course some exceptions out there), most end up patronizing pr0stitutes, jerking off to p0rn, and dating and marrying women who mostly want them for money, stability, and comfort.

If only there was a sustainable and healthy way for men who don't get women's raw sexual attraction to deal with the sexual urges without simping and betabuxxing for women!
Look at women. For centuries they had to deal with not so sexually attractive men because they needed resources to live. They hated the idea of settling with not sexually attractive guys so much that they relentlessly fought for opportunities and their right to make their own money so that they won't have any use for the bottom of men anymore. Women's emancipation is in large part about not having to deal with men who don't turn them on. With her own money, she can now focus on the guy who gets her pussy wet naturally, she has much less need for a beta with money.
Can't men do something similar? Is there a way for us to get our "sexual emancipation"? So that even if we don't get women naturally we don't have to resort to humiliating and degrading practices like p0rn, pr0stitution, or betabuxxing while handling our sexual urges? (Just like women, through feminism, found a way to eliminate the need to settle for the not-so-attractive dude while handling their own financial need.)
If not, then I really don't see how men, or at least not-so-attractive men, can be "winner" is the dating mating market.
(Note that I struck "dating", because only unattractive dudes have to date/pay women to Bleep them. Women only need the right time and place to Bleep a guy she genuinely finds attractive, not dates need. Dating is for simps and beta males)

I would really appreciate to get the perspective of more experienced men like emmaodet, CaveAdullam, ubunja, pansophist, heartofcity12, martinez39s, luminouz, etc... on this question.



Yes, more debate is needed. Thank you for your input, Zaziboy. I would like to know what the others have to say as well.

There are multiple ways to deal with your question.

1. Go the MGTOW route.
2.Be Gay
3. Refuse to have sex with any woman who doesn't turn you on and use sex dolls instead.
4. Discover an alien race/race with multiple women to break the Terran female stranglehold
5. Develop yourself to be top tier so you can choose whoever you want. Vet aggressively.


N B: The main culprit why men fall so easily for the sex game is TESTOSTERONE. It's our blessing and our curse. It's a force of nature that is inherently tied to a man's life.

JESHAL007:
Loneliness can't be cured by marriage or old age. If you are never content with your own presence or love yourself, you'd be a burden to whoever and whatever. No matter how you sugarcoat it, you came alone into this world and you will go out the same. Learn to love yourself and be content with your own presence. As you age, death and illnesses take most of the people you grew up with and could include your wife and even some kids... But a man who isn't sick would always find something to do to keep his mind and body strong. What most people suffer from is not physical loneliness per se....it's the void in their hearts and souls that they can't fill, the emptiness of the spirit. This is why churches and religious houses help out with that.

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