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CuteMike01:
I hissed when I read your comment.

K

JUSTDREY:
With what you just said, i can now confirm that the message is true, have heard such from a lady friend while in school of what his boyfriend must do to have her as legally wife. Funny enough, she told me she was warning his dad to pay off her mom bride price in other not to make her boyfriend pay the rest on her mom. There are consequences for any woman off bride price in their family which i may not sure of.

Ok...so I guess your lady friend has her mom as a first wife to her husband shey?

Because whoever bride price I pay becomes my wife. So if I'm paying her mom's bride price, it means her mom is also my wife! Which is an abomination

expert555:
I will be short on this if you really loves her enough go ahead and pay it won't take anything away from you rather it will give you more upper hand in the relationship.

You are an expert on something else maybe ...but not on this.

pashiano:
I don't think she is talking about bride price In particular cos it's not costly, some people take as low as 1500 naira. I think the one she is talking about is (Igbu Ewu ogodo). it is done for the kinsmen and born daughters of the community. it involves the goat ,drinks and small requirements that re due to the kinsmen. if a woman did not do the ceremony before her son or daughters marriage, she is expected to do it before the son's or daughters marriage can go ahead. it is not ur responsibility but you can help, just to expedite the whole process since the dad is late. this is how it is fine in Igbo land, don't know where your wife hails from.

Didn't you read the last paragraph of what you quoted

alizma:
Bros, the husband to be didn't tell us how financially boyant his prospective in-laws are and from experience, this kind of game play out where the guy is seen as the Messiah the will eventually wipe away the shame. So I thought beyond the surface while drawing my conclusion.

I get you but I wouldn't still advise the guy to do it. It's always a prelude to severe manipulation. Why can't the mom find the money herself and give it to her relations through proxies in her late husband's family?

blowjohn:
Is it not funny that Nigerians have suddenly become experts at choosing which president has sense and which doesn't.
Yet they cannot vote in sensible leaders even at local government levels

Wish I could locate you bro and take you out for lunch or something.

You are the only one who sees what I'm seeing.

At a point, I just decided to keep quiet and be reading the comments. And laughing

alizma:
There possibility that she is telling you the truth. I have people in obiaruku but I have not really made enquiry on this kind of marriage before but from my understanding of the happening in the East a they are more closer to, I believe she is saying the truth and their own tradition is reasonably justified. That is if the bride price of the mother is not paid, it will be assumed that the mother was never given out to any man and in such case, the girl belong to her maternal home not her paternal home.
I think that is what they are trying to correct.
I also think the girl is trying to redeem her identity through you, otherwise the bride price of the mother should not be imposed on you but the brothers of her late father, however they can call you for assistance considering that you will benefit from such correction of marital error.
Talk to your woman one on one and also talk to any of her uncle or aunt that is close to you, they will tell you how to go about it without much stress. e.g you people can agreed that you will secretly bring the money meant for the girls bride price to the family before your own tradition marriage, the family will use the money to pay for their late brother's wife bride price and on the day of your own tradition engagement, everything will be done with invalid cheques that will be returned to you later. All na base on understanding and selflessness because if selfishness, you fit pay finish, then one uncle go just come change the goal post.

You started it well but ended it horribly.
Either the late father's brothers or the mom's sons or brothers should do the needful.
The mere fact that the fiancee is trying to game the guy this early in their journey is also a red flag for me.

gadgethead:
Don't dump her if you really want her. Negotiate with her people and if it's affordable, pay it. But becareful so they don't spring another surprise at you, unless you like being a cash cow

Will you stop this rubbish

I won't be surprised if you are a sexless simp.

There is no culture that will support such. The guy is being put under pressure to do what's not his duty. It is wrong.

Smartb0y:
You forgot to add matrix.
They ruined it for me

John Wick already suffered it.
The female version is Gunpowder Milkshakes.

A very annoying title to go with an annoyingly boring movie. Exactly a parody of John Wick!!!

CuteMike01:
Words are always cheap, actions aren`t. I don`t need to know anything about your boyfriend nor you.

Just be very careful of what you read on the internet. There is sorrow in knowing some things.

Alaye, who send you all this talk bayi?? Why all the shalaye?

We never quote f monikers here. It's our RULE!!!

Drsnives:
She is the best girl have come across so far, it will be difficult leaving her

Lol...you are already rationalising your decision to stick with her, despite that red flag.

Well, it's your life bro. But I will never do what your gf asked from you, pay her mom's bride price. You are not even yet officially part of their household, why put their stuff on you!!!!

Shalommy:
It's normal, the mother bride price must be paid before hers. As a man, if you don't pay your wife bride price and you can't collect your daughter's bride price.

What's normal?

That the dude pays his fiancée's mom bride price

The mum doesn't have brothers or sons to pay her bride price? Why must any prospective son-in-law do such?

For me, that's a red flag.

HARDESTNIGGAINT:
Let me relate to this logic you worte up here

For example, when you and she
(your cum bucket) are together, suddenly she receives a call from a friend or whatever that her father had an accident and he dead

As a manipulative nigga, calm her emotional state to a silence, i.e, telling her, she crying, wailing, gnashing of teeth won't resurrect her dead beat dad, make sure you do whatever it takes to calm her down in that ghastly emotional situation

After you have achieved the aim of calming the hoe down emotionally,
Now tell her to head over to the hospital, tell her you would not becoming with her, if she protests (manipulation) send her out of the apartment, don't you dare move an inch, stay where you are presently at the moment

(don't you dare move an inch to simp for her simp dad, cos he dead you want to help, don't you dare move an inch, stay or remain where you her, hold you a frame for yourself or she will walk down to the hospital with your frame)

As soon as she leaves for the hospital or mortuary whatever, Go and game another woman and Bleep her

Her simp dead dad not your business or priority

GHOST HER

BE EMOTIONLESS, DON'T GIVE A CARE

To all Simps, put your selves in her position
If it where to be your dad murdered by accident, do you think she cares, she only move and look for strong men to punish her
And she still look for the next victim (simp) to worship her

ASSIGNMENT

Is this redpill too

Stevenson1:
That's exactly what I meant. Whichever you understand it is your problem.

Wrong....

Your statement is biased and skewered.

Now, thank me for putting you on the right unbiased path,boy!!!

AntiChristian:
Thanks!

Why not write your own sense?

K

I like this

ProphetJeroboam:
This guy is a real man.

I swear....

The realest nigga.

AntiChristian:


Rituals as being portrayed in the movies can really attract youths in such vices! This is unrelated to Politicians embezzling money!

It's just like saying adulterers are not sinful just because everyone is guilty of one or more other sins! This makes no sense!

In US, their movies are full of Guns hence they have it in abundance in their hood!

You make no sense

Stevenson1:
Cos it deepens the relationship between Chinese and Igbo people in terms of business or so.
Igbo people are few of the people that recognized china, Hong Kong, and even Taiwan for businesses way before anyone else.
Just like they are doing in Vietnam now.
Very soon, Vietnam economy will blow up and their citizens will start enjoying life.

So it's Igbo people that made China, Hong Kong and Taiwan's economies to BLOW UP Their citizens no enjoy life before?

Please, this is an international forum. Comments like these are insults to the intelligence of Nigerians.

Better to say... Bilateral cooperation between Igbo people and Vietnamese will increase and both parties will benefit.

Pretty?

You show your fave on DP and think men around your street won't know you?

Well, many men will disturb you more and sooner or later, you will fall for one of them....

kaymart:
She's damaged beyond repair..
She's been broken, battered and damaged cos of her own horrible decisions.

Men that will come her way, I mean the one that actually will care for her will surely pay dearly for the mess they didn't cause. I pity them in advance.

How is she damaged bro? I don't know the chick at all

Mercychen:
Aboki, so you still dey this land? Lol..

Yes, why won't I have experience? Abi you think say 40 go 41 na beans?
Na we go lecture una wen just dey come up with our experience so you guys will not astray.

Buzz off!

K

Mercychen:
Hm.. men!

Why would they even release the ex when he's yet to be found? Mumu Police. That girl still has some explaining to do. Letting her off the net doesn't make sense.

As for the husband, SMH. Men are unrepentant cheats.

That was how my ex, while planning his Marriage to his baby mama ( he didn't know I found out about his baby mama and hid it from me), begged to see me for months on end but I kept dodging him. When I eventually allowed him to come around, he was so happy and dropped right in the next minute. I was just shaking my head and thanking God I called off our relationship cos this is how he would have gone to see his another.


I pray he's found. At least for the poor woman and her babys sakes.

This kind thing make Marriage nor even hungry me again. Na house boy I need now. .

Na every story here you dey get personal experience ni

Shuuuuuu!!!!

baby124:
He waited 68yrs? His father would probably be from 88-92yrs now if he were alive. Probably trying to say the surname is Deinde or Oladeinde. Really sad when parents play games with their children’s lives. The father was willing to take him back to Nigeria, but the grandmother and mother will rather dump him in an orphanage for his life to be messed up.
God turned it around and he was raised in a good home. I don’t know why people can want to give children such a cruel fate. His chance of being adopted and treated well by a white family at that time was so slim too, he was extremely lucky.

The mother is still even rejecting him despite how accomplished he is, trying to cover secrets at the very old age of 88. So bad! I wish him success in his search and that he is loved and embraced by his Nigerian family. He deserves it.

He didn't wait 68 years!!!

He was born 68 years ago. Or will he start searching for his dad in his mom's womb?

We4all:
You are very smart to figure this out.

K

Funny enough the women are not even reacting but men are jumping and shrieking to defend their egos.


We all know which gender earns more...so what's the fuss about?

BRATISLAVA:
Where is it stated that they are traveling to Libya for women? Isn't it to enrich themselves with the illusion of untold wealth in Europe?

Aren't your politicians robbing you and the rest of Nigeria for themselves? Who told you the primary motive is women? All the mansions in the UK, it's for women, right?

The guys killing people for money rituals, is it for women or for themselves? Is the money not to make themselves rich? Or since birth is that what you have been getting money for? For women?

Only in the red pill world does that imagination of men working for women exist. Because you think you buy women.

If you don't blame women, what will you claim to be accountable for?

Yes ma'am... It's for women. Most of them are simps who believe making money gets you the pussy...so they went extra miles to commit atrocities to satisfy their ego(which is of course tied to the number of pussies they can get before they die).

For example...on Politicians, If their women ain't comfortable with their riches, why didnt they divorce these politicians? All these women knew the dirt on their husbands but they enjoy the wealth attached, so they didn't say shiiit!!! Or how many times have you seen Senators, Governor's and even councillor's wives divorcing them because of bribery and corruption. Face it, these women knew what they got into.

Oh...the yahoo niggas! The women dating them are girls like you, not so? They all know what these young men did for money but guess what? They didn't fuqin care, because of money. They even popularized the culture by needlessly competing among themselves on whose bf spends most. From iPhones to Gucci's to Trips abroad, they all enjoy that....till they become victims. Doesn't matter how many times they scream 'be careful', these girls never learn.

Continue to blame men for everything bad na....Your actresses, OAPs and even bankers will never want corruption to stop, because of their own greed.

We4all:
I see. In other words, aside being desperate and evil, men are also stupid.

Sure, including your dad,uncles and nephews

BRATISLAVA:
What about all the men crossing the Libyan desert because their desperation is out of this world? The ones drowning while crossing into Europe daily? The desperate ones selling drugs all over South Africa?

Let's not talk about the ones killing and maiming people all over Nigeria because men's desperation and greed are just out of this world.

Or men that keep a nation of 200M+ people in poverty while their desperation to make wealth by all means is out of this world.

No. Those don't desperate men exist. It's a misguided little girl who made a bad decision that has desperation out of this world.

All the men you mentioned have something in common....they make their wealth for their wives and children.. I don't see the wives divorcing the husband's because of ill-gotten gains, do I? To make matters worse, it's the greed of the women who drive their men to ruin...all in the name of love.

So, if you like playing the blame game, let's go. Men don't make money for men alone...just for women but I'm not sure that's the same for women. Your money is yours alone naaa

doggedfighter:
Personally, I will say humans aren't monogamous.


I think it works for some people but most of us aren't suited for monogamy. Just look at the rates of sexual affairs amongst married people, paternity fraud etc.

Most of us just go into these monogamous relationships because it's what society approves of.

Open relationships, or just casual dating would actually suit most people but we would rather be hypocritical about it

Truth is, we are all polyamorous. The difference is just in to what degree, level and choices.

Logical output...nice one