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So there's this girl I approached three weeks ago
She's pretty, we've been speaking on phone, I have already taken her out.. we've been chatting very often, we confessed love to each other.
Now the problem is she always flash me,
For once since we started speaking on phone has she call me with her airtime.. I've recharged her 1k airtime 5 times since we met still
She always flash me...she can flash me up to 15 miss calls at once and anytime I want to pick up the call, she'll immediately cut it. It still baffles me what this girl does with the whole airtime I've been sending her. And She works too. Even as I write this she has flashed me now. I confronted her to know what's going on. Her only excuse was that she uses her airtime to sub for data.
Seeing all of this has already turned me off
I stopped calling her on Saturday to know if she'll change and for once call me with her airtime..
But no she proved me wrong
She's still flashing me up till date.
I like this girl but this attitude of hers is so irritating.. and this is a very big red flag for me
Am already loosing interest in her
Landers advise me on what to do

You've done well bro
Kudos to you

The matters choke

See as my gbola just stand now

I was once in your shoes just this year
Gambled 200k plus with the same betking
Although I haven't fully recovered from the trauma yet..
I grieve with you in this your hard time

A friend of mine called me today..
Told me he was in a middle of something ND needed urgent help..
I came by and he took me to a slot he wanted to purchase a phone...we arrived there and I was told that he wanted to buy a Tecno phantom and he doesn't have enough money to purchase it, he had 120 thousand while the phone was about 277,000.. that he wants to do easy buy to purchase the phone but he was not granted cus he was owing a loan app so he was denied... And that's why he called me there to help him..to open an easy buy with my bvn and other information to enable him purchase the phone...so after I ask some questions to the lady attending to us.. she told me it was perfectly normal that there's no implications involved, we later did it and he got the phone and he got to pay 44 thousand every month x4 months..now I just wanted to confirm if there's no dangers involved. Landers

drnoel:
OP don't mind this non entity.
Nothing you did was wrong. Tap yourself on the back and learn from this experience.
You can never win with girls so don't even try anymore.
Give just little and once U see it's not being reciprocated, walk away. You should have walked away after the meal and saved yourself a lot of pain. At the meal you would have noticed she was just trying to use you. That's one...
There are though rare times that a guy just wants to spend on any lady. Have had such experience in the past but that's story for another day.
Women always tend to try to use it against men. Like I wrote before, learn from this experience so you never repeat it

The best comment I've seen so far...
Thanks for standing by bro

Siofra at it again

Raalsalghul:
The world is a cruel place for the weak, no one cares about your feelings and you will eaten for breakfast if you're not strong enough.

Emotional mastery is exactly what the Op needs to survive.

Thanks bro

siofra:
Then she's not attracted to you. You may be very handsome but she's just not attracted to you. Maybe you can try your luck again, don't seem desperate and don't be a rude ass misogynist.

Siofra
Wow ur my crush on nairaland
Thanks tho.

Vision101:
@siofra

The most important question is, Are you tall??

Asking from experience.


@me
Experience as how? So you have done this type of thing to son of man before? Siofra,
siofra.... siofra.

Am very tall
Like 7ft

madscientist88:
you didn't act dominant enough for her,by dominant I don't mean violent,i mean it like a father daughter relationship,if you would hold her,then go ahead and hold her if thats what you want to do,if you want to kiss her,then go ahead and do it , without asking or being shy of your intentions, take charge of her,tell her what to do with a straight face, guide your emotions,be firm to be frank she felt you were too loose around her and the dominant alpha took over,when you are ready to splurge your cash on a woman beter have the will to put her through the process.hardluck no dey give them chance like that,na so e dey sweet most of them.again she wasn't acting on purpose,its a n average ladies intuition to behave like that with a guy she finds offensively comfortable,you soon become like peers and end up in the friend zone.

Bro you didn't get it
She avoided me
She felt me touching her and moving her around was a disturbance, that's why I her by herself

Adachizzy:
You need this kind of experience to get sense.
It's good it happened, you'll be wiser next time.
You outdid yourself yet she didn't give a f.

You go dey alright sha. You will still carry another one...let the alcohol clear first.

Women what are your problems exactly..If I no spend now, una go Still complain

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=124191245]what are you upset about?! aint you her "friend"?! do you believe that this yeye woman owes to be loyal to you (because you spent chicken change on her)? until she becomes your gf, she is single and allowed to mingle. dont be upset that this woman showed you EXACTLY the type of yeye woman she is, instead rejoice at finding out early who she truly is. a woman who values/respects you would not try to play game with you, right in your face. its obvious the minute she met the other dude, she saw no more interest in you, and was solely eyeing that other dude (at least he was man enough to come tell you)

your problem is that you thought that your money was gonna do your bidding, while you should have told her exactly what you wanted FROM THE GET GO.

BTW what did you want her to reply to the question:"who is that guy with you?"[/quote ]

Bro this was supposed to be date..
While at the eatery I told her my intentions which she said she will think about.

Wodu89:
Stop leading him the wrong path. We have already way too much 30-45s without marriage or relationships. Stop teaching him to be unemotional and loveless.


If maturity leads, you ought to preach forgiveness, moving on and not leading him to unleash the beast. It's wrong. Red Pilling is about emotional mastery and not suppressing the human soul till it becomes a wood

God bless u bro
U seem to understand very well

advanceDNA:
At least u don learn.....

If u give ur mama...u go collect correct prayer

I dey give mama but true true I Neva I gather this kine money wey I spend today give am once

Sniper101:
Bros

Na you go dey loose guard yourself by doing father_christmas for Girl wey no be your Babe and wey you never collect 10point from before.

O.Gees these days no dey go all those extent wey you go through to empress Babes these days again o

Even me sef before I go pay for Girl Uber/Bolt, take her out and spend the way you spend so, I go dun put am for the girl body, either directly or indirectly, say after the Raggea we go gats play the Blues.

No time to dey waste time on Barnies.
No time to impress any Barnie.

Dem no know how we take dey collect dis moni

Bro I thought I was into this girl..but I bleeped up big time. Thanks tho.

Reminderz:
🤡

You lost everything to betting, you still lost to simping...

bro, I'm sure your father might have disowned you by now if he heard what his son was busy doing...

sorry, not sorry, you should be sentenced to life imprisonment...

Don't judge me bro
We make some mistakes in life

There's this girl I met..
I sheepishly fell for her after few romantic calls from her
She's fair and pretty.
Then I decided to take her out today,she took a cab which I paid 2k. so we went to an eatery.. then I bought rice and chicken and some stuffs we ate..the bill was 13500, after we were done around 2:35 we left there, she said she wanted to go swimming I then took her to a fancy hotel with an Uber 3k.. on getting there she saw a guy she knew, they exchanged pleasantries which I didn't care about.. turns out that the guy came to swim as well...the swimming was 4k each for both of us.. that's 8k plus the swimming trunks I bought for her that is 3500k...so we freshened up and jump into the pool, i noticed she avoided me inside the pool, always wanting to play alone, and avoided me touching her then I left her on her own..and was swimming alone and having fun, I came back again for her to notice me, she still snubbed me...I left her alone and sat down near the pool when it was raining and there was this cold that pulled me down as I was shivering... meanwhile she was still inside the pool having fun all by herself... until this guy we met when we came.. went inside the pool..I then saw them interacting and I was annoyed..not until I saw him backing her and carrying her around inside the pool while they have fun... Not once not twice, she later came later came to me and ask if I was feeling cold I said yes she said sorry and went back inside the pool...to cut the story short, while I was sitting all by myself interacting with some guys, that guy she was playing with came and told me that my girl said that I was just a friend that he wanted to confirm himself, so he will know he's not offending anyone.. I felt like an idiot, as I went to the dressing room and put on my clothes and left scene looking foolish as she called me back..
On my way back home I bought magic moment vodka.. and drank myself to stupur
Am still high while typing these... What is the problem..I put on an expensive VL shirt with a jogger I bought 21k a slippers of 7k, I sprayed a very nice perfume. I have a very nice facial look...what was the problem if I may ask, I avoided girls like plague all my life and gave this one chance and she made me a fool, am only 23. I think I've learnt my lesson.. my deepest regrets was the whole money I spent, it should remained in my account.. girls fear my return.

Toothache is the worst pain I have ever had in my intire life...I pray I doesn't come bake again

brosom:
Sorry bro, it's gone that's it I can't do nothing.

Mine was on first of this month, was having 10k cash with me and 15k in my account. Went there to book a bet of 5 odds that I'll stake at least 2k to win 10k, but unfortunately for me the spirit in bet visual beclouded my sense of reasoning and by the time I could understand what's going on, I already lost 10k cash with me, I was angry and wanted to get it back by all mean and staked again, this time with the money in my atm card but less than 5 minutes it's all gone remaining just 2500#, I had to be going because it's way obvious I was bound to loose all.

Funny thing is I no come bet the game wey Carey me come there..

I just dey indoors through Sunday dey reason dey matter, at least 22,500 go do me Sunday with one cool headed girl, but I lost it to devil. it's Monday today, and I'm looking for tp to go about this week.

Imagine life

Bro the pain of this lose is second to none I pray may God strengthen us as we go through this trauma. Amen

I don't even know how to start explaining this..
I feel like I've been charmed before
And now my eyes are cleared.
Am depressed right now,
The money am saving for my house rent and other bills.. I've just lost it all this morning, just last night I was feeling bored and I logged into a betting site.. although I used to gamble a little before but I don't bet more than 200#, but I still can't just explain what I did to my self last night. So signed up betking last night..my budget was to play 500 game..till I didn't know what took me to virtual.. I first played #500 on Goal goal and under 2.5, but I lost it..then I went ahead to deposit 2k, I lost it also, I then deposited 5k and only won 700 and again lost it also.. I continued depositing and chasing my loses til I realized I've gambled away 215,000 just last night..
I can't bear this
At this critical time
I just feel like chocking myself to death

I didn't know pussy could smell that much... thanks fors this, lesson learned

Happy Sunday nairalanders
I just want to share this experience, if anyone have had this experience before..

Am a good Christian and endeavors to meet up with any church programs and always punctual to church..and with God who strengthens me I endeavors to met up with all my unit contributions and including regular paying of tithe.
Over the years..like every year our bishop always declares what the picture of the year is going to look like. Like 2019 the year of properties..2020 year of fruitfulness..2021 year
Of conquering..2022 the year of blessings and making money..over these years of this declarations we often sow a huge seed to prepare our blessings forthcoming..
But all to no avail..rather things keep getting worst as the years goes by, it weighed me down this February and I put a break from going to church because this year started being worse and that was not what I was promised, even in the recent years..
Why didn't our bishop alarmed us about this things that are going to happen in other for us to prepare rather than beautifying it.(my questions then) but recently I have resumed going to church again. But my question still stays that way.. let me watch out for this year's declaration and I pray I won't end like other years..
So my question is have you been in this same situation that I have been and how did you overcome it

I celebrate you bro
You are winning

I will rather die than to sit at home all day and cook for a woman when she returns from work....do chores while she goes to work and take care of kids.

This women wants to reduce a man to a cattle..in pretence to love you

I don't think is bad..
But the husband should not do it very often,
And it should be done slowly to avoid any anal problems/issues

You come get mind post your gbola here

Lurdd:
I used it but it couldn't

I don't know if it's because I exceeded 50k transaction

chival:
If you are trying to use a bank app, it may be a network issue due to the sheer volume of transactions going on at the moment. I had the same problem. However, you may want to chat with your bank online or call customer care to be sure.

I used it but it couldn't