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vizboy: 5/10

But wait oh na your papa use the suit remain for you

Stop d insults ....atleast d guy try....

Idowuogbo: If you say so....no qualms.

no worries dearie

Idowuogbo: Ok I hia u... Thanks! I no claim beyonce, from day one na lepascious Bose I dey claim anyways. Now u've seen me, bye bye close door! No more camping

lolzzz...babe relax...I meant it in a good way

Idowuogbo: Hmmm....Okies! I try small abi?

u are ok.....just didn't think u look this way

Idowuogbo: This place don dry o!

Bado to da rescue!

first time on this thread....not wat I expected u to look like

deols: Y are you so bitter? Are you so insecure and from an inferior tribe?

You are soo educated that you could not see that I wrote that in inverted comas.

You low self esteemed lot should be screened off the internet.

Ouch....it hit her where it hurts...

I still insist ...it would be a CURSE for any man to blinddate u, talkless marry u..
U really finished...I tel ya..gone beyond repairs

ileobatojo: Abeg if the shoe fits, wear it and quit yapping.

Now out of my way so I can see better, high quality men.

You are such a huge joke.....wyich "high quality Man" like u put it, wud wanna be with a Woman with Zero personality or IQ?

Better wakeup from ur bad dream

PLAGUE

ileobatojo: Good man. Now these are the caliber of men we are talking about. Thinking men worthy of 100% respect! Not all these other dime a dozen blockheads.

If u don't want a man that wud set u straight, fine....I really wonder How some people were trained....

Am so sure u are already a cross to the person u are dating even if u are a lez...

Reasoning......ZERO
Mentality...... ZERO
IQ............ ZERO
PERSONALITY...... ZERO

U need help URGENTLY

Afam4eva: I still can't find where the husband told the wife to speak Esan to the child.

I tire oooooooo, I wonder for some slowpokes on this thread who can't read.........

Read questions WELL before u attempt questions...

That's y so many people fail exams....they hardly read questions at all...

pity

deols: He is disgustingly feeling inferior.


I wonder why he went for a 'superior' ethnic group for a wife if he could not accept their ways.

How could allowing her child bear a Yoruba name have been a problem?

Man is very insecure.

U are very STU.PID....cos u are frm a certain tribe doesn't make u or ur kind superior. Am sure u ar an educated illetrate.....u really showed ur foolly on this comment......am so sure u av neva travelled past ur village,area or lagos cos u are obviously YORUBA.

I pity a man that wud consider u for a blind date talkless of marriage

Not cool...I c it as trying too hard to be fashionable or seek atention... others might c it diff ...some say its demonic or occultic

ileobatojo: As are the OP's husband's orders. Anything further?

Next!

U are boring...go to bed pls

ileobatojo: Abeg who are you and who gives a crap what you have to say? What is senseless is senseless. Fullstop.

Yea......u made ur point........ur comments are senseless

ileobatojo: What a nauseating thread.

Who insists on such a thing because of some senseless ego trip? Anyway, to each his own, but this manner of disgusting nonsense will never fly with me.

U are basically one of those I was refering to when I said "some just complete the numbers here"...

well its the OP IS blame for allowing a junkie call her huby 'senseless'.....

U need help n fast

yellowpawpaw: To some of us saying the guy has a complex problem, I wonder why such comment. I hv seen igbo, yoruba, edo, or rivers men insist their kids learn their language first.
It also depends on where d couple resides. If its lagos, he don't need his mum to teach him yoruba language. His mum being yoruba is an added advantage.
If u both r outside the country, I wonder which language u will teach him honestly.
An igbo lady friend of mine is havin problem right now over this same issue cos the children speaks only ibo.Hubby is yoruba. She takes the kids to her hometown but never d hubby's. The day I asked the son where he came from and he mentioned umuahia, I then knew she has over done it. Hubby is d cool type but has been complaining, that's how it starts .small small.

u are one of the most sensible Women I have come across on NL I swear...

aome just comment to complete the numbers or better still seek CHEAP attention

kendraloops: You'd always rep ur language first n ur wife can't also? 'Head' of the home doesn't mean u subdue ur wifey or does it?

To ur question, english of course!

Thanx lady...so it wasn't even his Language he wanted....ask urself dis....who wants a toodler dat does chun out English words dis days?

or do u want ur family frnds to come visiting n they wud ask ur kid ...How ar u? n he wud just sit n stare?? or better still says ma mi kini won so??
Classic isn't it?

greatgod2012: When this man knew he wouldn't want his child speak Yoruba, why did he marry a Yoruba woman.
Can we say he's suffering from inferiority complex or is he just insecure or is he a tribalist?

To settle this, @op, sit him down and discuss gently and humbly with him, let him realise that, even if you dont speak this Yoruba language with d kid, he will still eventually pick it up in the enviroment while growing up. Or betterstill, tell him to communicate with his kid in his language while you also speak with him in your language, afterall, you also have half of your gene in your kid.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

I av always read n listened to most 'family section' women cause confusion in peoples homes based on ur illmannerd advices u keep giving to other women who seek advice here...

How can u call the OP's huby 'insecure' when am so sure u don't know half of the OPs hubys reason for him not wanting her to speak her yoruba to the son...

In ur little minds u dish out advices without asking questions...

y didn't u ask her what Language he wants her to speak to him n y??

Most Women here are misleading...its just pathetic realy..

I pity women who come here for advice...its never a wise decision

chineloSA: Personally, how I would treat this is, my child has to know all his father culture, language etc before mine.

Though I do not think the guy may have meant bad, but he meant it. The son is his son hence he bears his surname.

I think you overreacted, since you said the child can still learn Yoruba either way. Teach your son all his fathers culture before yours. Your son may blame you when he does not fit in, in future. Your son is not Yoruba, he is Esan.
Even with names, he has a right to deny you to give your son a Yoruba name, its his Esan son, not Yoruba son, so you were just pushing your luck.

Are you sure you are not pregnant again

You really spoke my mind....God bless u...

I wud always rep my Language first b4 adapting other cultures...its not a matter of insecurity on d part of OP's huby...


OP...WHAT Language did ur huby say u shld speak to him instead?

Flytefalls: Mi deyah ah cry after mi sistren Kails who leff just mi one Jamo inna disyah nl yard.

Look how mi haffa fren up fake rastaman now! Ah whaaaa

me wan learn patua(hope I spelt that right?) u teach?....in exchange u get;

Flytefalls: Mi deyah ah cry after mi sistren Kails who leff just mi one Jamo inna disyah nl yard.

Look how mi haffa fren up fake rastaman now! Ah whaaaa

me wan learn patua(hope I spelt that right?) u teach?....in exchange u get pidgin English FREE...DEAL

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OP is so on point with the article....n yes I agree wit most if not all of what the article says about Ghana even if a lot of people would beg to differ...

We once argued this same stuff In PG class back then n most people thought Ghana is d "Haven".

Are Nigerian office holders Corrupt?, YES! n so too are Ghanians in a scale equivalent to what its economy can withstand....

I have seen school kids sit under a tree in Nigeria to receive lectures But I have seen it too happen in Ghana.

Is thers stable power in Ghana like we are made to believe here in Nigeria....No...they av extended power cuts in there same like here....The good thing they av that we don't have here is PEACE...yhough assasinations still occur in Ghana

In case u don't know Ghana is currently broke n their citizens really wud love to get out of there cos the Government keeps preaching austerity measures....n borrowing. presently international bodies such as the paris club et al don't even wana borrow Ghana money...cos they aren't credit worthy at the moment.

I just pity We Nigerians when we put down ourselves to push up others...

Ghana is not the place u think it is...the economy is in shambles..


I love Ghanaians...I just said things the way they truely are...

Where is the link? the comments seem fabricated...very few mexicans speak English

CLASSIC

OP,I Like d part that he told u to come to Naija....its simple,he is tru wit u n now sees u as second hand...smart dude...

I don't know y some ladies are very GREEDY n DUBIOUS...SO u even had to google his salary out before u fell in Love?? What a shame...

If he starts domestic violence on u now,feminists would come here to claim that u wana stick with him cos of love,not knowing is the money u are after

lorretta u: Pls no body should try to give me reasons why a woman caused her own abuse. It's just inexcusable.
As for women maltreating their house helps, everybody condemns that.and there is serious fight in place to stop it.I wish that same fight will be in place to stop marital abuse.

As for mothers creating monsters. That really has me laughing. So men have no role to play in raising their kids? Really?
So they end up wife beaters and it's the mother's fault?
How about thinking they learned it from their brute fathers?
What exactly is the role of men in the family?
I'm really curious to know. (Cos I used to think great fathers raised greater sons) Or are they only sperm donors and money providers( which most of them aren't even doing anyway.)
They don't have parental and guidance roles to play? (I don't wanna think that)
Someone pls educate me

Since everything is now the fault of the woman.

Ur comments on Men is way out of line young lady "askin if men are just spearm donors"
To answer ur questions.....You have male family members,ask them ur nasty rude question.Am begining to think u are an Obnoxious Lady.


@topic......Men shldnt touch Women in anyway...
If a Womans insult gets to u...walk away

lorretta u: No mind am.
Na so the guy vex reach?
He can't tell his wife to warn the sister?
He can't complain to his MIL to caution her daugther? Na to slap am.commot belt to flog her. He's lucky I'm not the person. Some people and wickedness. Whatever the girl might have done. Even a real man can't do it in his own house how much more his in-laws' house.
I don't understand how someone can see reasons with him.

I hope u saw were I said it was wrong for him to beat her?

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lorretta u: OP your BIL has no iota of respect for your family. If he did,he wouldn't beat you in the presence of your mother his MIL.
He has no respect for his wife your sis. Pathetic the way she sides him.I guess her case na 'I must answer mrs by force.cos God forbid a man do this to my sis. He'll see the ugly part of me.
And he def has no respect for you. Maybe u guys were intimate in the past.
Maybe he hasn't gotten over it.and he gets jealous seeing u with some other guy.
Maybe your sis supported him cos she too hates the fact that you had him before her.and she need reassuring that he isn't hung up on you
JUST MAYBE

But going to take ur book from him out of anger was childish even tho I totally understand your grievance.seeing as u always cook for them n all. And they feel they can't do same for you.
Maybe you're like a housemaid to them in their mind. Humph. If you can make him pay,do so by all means. But if u can't and you see that you'll lose more in trying to pursue the case,just let it go.
And stay away from them.
Your sister's turn is coming. Punching bag things.that's if she isn't already chopping slaps and covering with the I-must-remain-married mentality.

Babez,never judge a case by hearin a side of the story(am not sanctioning violence in any form against women n kids)

Have u asked urself wat she cud have been saying while she pointed her finger at the sistas huby?

Have u asked urself why mana didn't say a thing to support her child while d whole thing happened?

no Man likes been talked down upon

He just messed the whole thing up by beating her

ohhhh,d guy shouldn't have slapped u or anything of such...he shld av reported u to his wife,since he was In ur family house. if ther was gonna be any slapping,it shld av been by ur Sister n not ur in law.

Am sure he slapped u cos he sees u as a younger sis dat needs correction( u stated yourself that you have known him over 10years).that not withstanding,he shouldn't av beat u up..

he shld av walked away when u were rude to him.

@OP for how long av u been pointing at him anytime he confronts u??

Tabh:
Who would play who?

I will let u play me....LOLZZZZZZ,Z

Tabh: I love to play games who's down?

Me, me Me!!!! Aunty Me