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Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by spicyv1(f): 9:06pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Hmm, all I can say is it is well with you! On second thoughts, if two of you have become one flesh, there ought to be NO barriers. Both languages/cultures should be adopted together as a couple who have been joined together as ONE and each party MUST learn to accomodate the other. Nothing like your language, my language, my son! No my, my, my.. It is now ours, ours, ours... But then, this is from the christian perspective. 11 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by kendraloops: 9:13pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA:Thanks jare. I'll keep it up. Divorce is not an option at all, God forbid. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 9:17pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
What a nauseating thread. Who insists on such a thing because of some senseless ego trip? Anyway, to each his own, but this manner of disgusting nonsense will never fly with me. 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 9:18pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA: You really spoke my mind....God bless u... I wud always rep my Language first b4 adapting other cultures...its not a matter of insecurity on d part of OP's huby... OP...WHAT Language did ur huby say u shld speak to him instead? 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by vanitty: 9:20pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
This is minor stuff Don't fret it. Shebi YOU shouldn't speak yoruba to him directly ni ? comply. Do you speak English at home all the time? If the answer is no, then baby will pick it up. Even if hubby bans you totally from speaking yoruba when the boy is there, don't worry, nothing spoil- several ways to skin a cat dear - will the boy not go to school? Go to your relatives, grandma etc for visiting, even your location help your cause. 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:21pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: What a nauseating thread. Abeg, stop being condescending to her hubby. Its still her hubby. We are trying to fix things here and you come with your bad attitude. Households have different surnames because they are different. I the Ileobatojo does it in a certain way does not mean the Achebes have to do the same. Go sleep jare. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by ireneidiva(f): 9:23pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA:are you sure you are not sick again? Op, he can learn both languages at the same time. Just talk to your hubby. The baby is ur kid too. 6 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by kendraloops: 9:23pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
luvable sam: You'd always rep ur language first n ur wife can't also? 'Head' of the home doesn't mean u subdue ur wifey or does it? To ur question, english of course! 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:27pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ireneidiva: If you refering to me being sick, No. But I was thinking you may be sick 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 9:34pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
greatgod2012: When this man knew he wouldn't want his child speak Yoruba, why did he marry a Yoruba woman. I av always read n listened to most 'family section' women cause confusion in peoples homes based on ur illmannerd advices u keep giving to other women who seek advice here... How can u call the OP's huby 'insecure' when am so sure u don't know half of the OPs hubys reason for him not wanting her to speak her yoruba to the son... In ur little minds u dish out advices without asking questions... y didn't u ask her what Language he wants her to speak to him n y?? Most Women here are misleading...its just pathetic realy.. I pity women who come here for advice...its never a wise decision 8 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 9:34pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
chineloSA: Nauseating shyte. But like I said, to each his own. 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by DukeNija(m): 9:35pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
lola.luv: Wrong!! My brothers and I, even cousins were born and bred in Lagos, we don't speak Yoruba. Anyway, these are part of the challenges of inter-ethnic marriages. Its just safest to marry from your tribe irrespective of what people think. I won't use my marriage to unite Nigeria abeg. Let Jonah and Co do that!! 9 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by DukeNija(m): 9:37pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ednut1: No one force u to marry him, bear it alone abeg this dude is sick |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 9:38pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
To some of us saying the guy has a complex problem, I wonder why such comment. I hv seen igbo, yoruba, edo, or rivers men insist their kids learn their language first. It also depends on where d couple resides. If its lagos, he don't need his mum to teach him yoruba language. His mum being yoruba is an added advantage. If u both r outside the country, I wonder which language u will teach him honestly. An igbo lady friend of mine is havin problem right now over this same issue cos the children speaks only ibo.Hubby is yoruba. She takes the kids to her hometown but never d hubby's. The day I asked the son where he came from and he mentioned umuahia, I then knew she has over done it. Hubby is d cool type but has been complaining, that's how it starts .small small. 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:38pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Duke_Nija: 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 9:40pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
kendraloops: Thanx lady...so it wasn't even his Language he wanted....ask urself dis....who wants a toodler dat does chun out English words dis days? or do u want ur family frnds to come visiting n they wud ask ur kid ...How ar u? n he wud just sit n stare?? or better still says ma mi kini won so?? Classic isn't it? |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by DukeNija(m): 9:40pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: What a nauseating thread. You never jam!!! |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Tricianagal: 9:42pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
What is ironic is that he has no problem with the kid learning the whiteman's English even outside school before Esan but the Yoruba (his mother's language) is the problem. If you're not careful the child will end up not learning to speak either languages well and you will keep communicating in English. Most children spend more time with their mothers, so except your husband dedicates himself to teaching your son he will only learn bits and pieces from the Grandparents when they visit. This is how we end up with kids who can't speak any Nigerian language fluently and for those saying if you live in say Lagos he will still learn the Yoruba that isn't true. I know so many people even Yorubas who grew up in Lagos and can't speak it. 5 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:43pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
In this case the husband is the wife and the wife is the husband. He is basically married to the woman. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:44pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
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Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by kendraloops: 9:45pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: To some of us saying the guy has a complex problem, I wonder why such comment. I hv seen igbo, yoruba, edo, or rivers men insist their kids learn their language first. I get you ma'am. I've never insisted that the baby will speak just yoruba or say he's not from Edo. I'd NEVER do that. All I'm wondering is why is it such a big deal to him. To me, it'll be an added advantage to the child. Hubby says he's scared of baby developing funny yoruba accent as a result of speaking the language of which I've assured him such will never happen lailai. 4 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 9:45pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: To some of us saying the guy has a complex problem, I wonder why such comment. I hv seen igbo, yoruba, edo, or rivers men insist their kids learn their language first. u are one of the most sensible Women I have come across on NL I swear... aome just comment to complete the numbers or better still seek CHEAP attention |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by chineloSA(f): 9:45pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: To some of us saying the guy has a complex problem, I wonder why such comment. I hv seen igbo, yoruba, edo, or rivers men insist their kids learn their language first. In this case the husband is the wife and the wife is the husband. He is basically married to the woman. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by kendraloops: 9:49pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
luvable sam: I'm to speak English to him cos I obviously can't speak Esan. 1 Like |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 9:50pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: What a nauseating thread. U are basically one of those I was refering to when I said "some just complete the numbers here"... well its the OP IS blame for allowing a junkie call her huby 'senseless'..... U need help n fast 2 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by PAGAN9JA(m): 9:52pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
[size=28pt]THIS IS THE PROBLEM WITH INTERTRIBAL MARRIAGES! ALL TIS UNNECESSARY CONFUSION! MARRY WITHIN YOUR OWN TRIBE! [/size] 5 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 9:53pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
luvable sam: Abeg who are you and who gives a crap what you have to say? What is senseless is senseless. Fullstop. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by thorpido(m): 9:53pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
kendraloops:Funny yoruba accent?I'm right for saying your husband's got a complex.He speaks esan and he doesn't think the Esan accent is deep too?I have friends who are Esan and the accent is just as deep as yoruba. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Freiburger(m): 9:53pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA: |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by oderemo(m): 9:54pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
Esan ppl head hot no be small. |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by Nobody: 9:59pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
kendraloops:Forget whatever his reasons were and teach him his father's language. This shouldn't be an issue at all. Like I said, u r still with ur baby. U will be chipping in ur language and baby will be picking small small. U can sing in ur language too abi is it forbidden? Honestly speaking, its small small molehills like this that becomes mountain if not put in check. Talk is cheap. Some of us will give advice that will spark fire and still go and jejely manage their own homes very well. Be wise madam. Thanks. 3 Likes |
Re: Banned From Speaking My Language To My Baby by luvablesam(m): 10:03pm On Nov 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Yea......u made ur point........ur comments are senseless 2 Likes |
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