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Martinez39:
Exactly! No one really cares. People are your friend when you make it or still have potential but when you hit hard times, they disappear. Beside, we mistake many temporary people as friends.

Just be yourself no one is gonna be for you these days people have change a lot...
my mama used to say this.
WITHOUT LOVE TO PEOPLE CAN't BE FRIENDS..
but that love is nowhere to be found now...

budaatum:
Sorry luvyaself95, but I don't think you expect me to just take your word for it and the reason I don't is because I'm a feminist!

Do note that you have not actually said much except assert a baseless assertion with no evidence to back it up and are asking me to accept it as if you are some sort of authority on the matter and are asking me to deny the fact that I am a love oneself person with a mind and a brain and subjugate them to your assumed superior intelligence with no evidence whatsoever for doing so. If buda does what you demand, I, buda, will personally bash that stupid buda's head against a rock out of the love that I have for myself for being so devoid of intelligence!

Please know that whenever you have evidence for your claim I shall be here to consider it.

it clear that man is to lead woman if any man get control by woman definitely he is shame to manhood...
You're talking of evidence which evidence do you have to proof that being feminist is right and worthful and are you trying to challenge God that creating woman is wrong that you ladies suppose to be like man...
i don't have any word to say to you an argument or discusion with you would lead to nowhere...

Martinez39:
It's normal. As people begin to grow and collide with reality as they leave the comfort provided by their parents, it's every man for himself. True friendship doesn't exist; every man is looking out for himself; and friends/relatives will easily throw you under the bus when it benefits them. You might be kind hearted and have helped people but they may betray and treat you like trash with ease when you are in need. It's common because human beings will be human beings. Take heart.

Take my advice, don't keep friends. Only have acquaintances and business partners. Stop having emotional connections with people. In a world filled with ravenous wolves, being too nice is a weakness.

Friendship my foot if you see any body trying to get close in the name of friends is a blatant lies is because you have what they need...
why do they say this word ( Friendship without Gain is Rubbish )...

40secondsguy:
My virginity

Hmmmmmmmmm

bigmic111:
I had fear of God, but that was 10 years ago. now I do what I like

I pray not to be like you because recently i notice some changes in me as in i beginning to be surprised...

budaatum:
Where did you get "man is born to be head" from?

take it or leave it that how is it...
I already know you're feminist nothing i say here you will agree to...

Blackivy27:
Okay. And generally too.

will you stop beating around bush which one is generally again...

budaatum:
Would you like to explain to me "why man is man and woman is woman" so that I do understand, please?

currently am not in the mood to write long epistle
So i Would short my words...
man is born to be head and you know what nobody is perfect that why man need woman
just like a leader he surely need followers
honestly we are like twins we have a lot in common...

Blackivy27:
This is...
you're always pessimistic when replying my post. Stop!
nairaland isnt the outside world where our ideas are chained down by the ever judging society.


as to your post. I was alot like you. Infact my tempers fiery. I was at times insecure.
my candid advice, lifes a joke. Take it seriously and you'll miss the fun. But i think you shouldnt ignore the depression. I was clinically diagnosed too. Meditate and mostly love yourself. Men are wicked naturally. People hurt you for its sake and flock around you when its beneficial.

besides since i found i had most of the traits listed here i channelled the negative energy into writing. Tragedies though.

oh oh is this the trend you're talking of in other post well now am okay...
no such things again Thanks To God...

Why it won't be so...

Blackivy27:
I have noticed a trend with you....
im still observing though before i conclude.

Me a trend what are you insinuating ?

if you know the meaning of Black pill trust me you won't say you're... my pity fall on you...

funmisticqueen:
i think you have confused respect with politeness and courtesy. Respect is earned, that's why it is valuable.

Love is not the first thing in the marriage, compatibility and values are. Love mellows down when trials come. That is why a higher number of love based marriages end up in divorce as opposed to arranged marriages where compatibility is considered.

Besides what else do you expect from 19 yr old Regina Daniels. 19 yr olds are more immature now than 40 years ago.

confusion for wetin and how politeness and courtesy relate to this matter...
what is compatibility and value without love, love is endure but nowadays most people love people for what they have go into relationship or marriage with them...
lemme ask you this what earn respect between money and behaviour before i talk about it...

lilwetdick:
i am happy to hear this... equality comes with taking responsibility of your action..

i like the slap scenario and i have always believe in it..if you slap me first as a female, i will slap you back, i am protecting my dignity and according to the law..what i did is normal and an act of self defense.

is that not act of Animal..

budaatum:
Men have half brains in their heads for starts, and a new life doesn't exactly grow in men like they do in a woman. The man can't produce food from it's own body once that life comes out of the woman like the woman can. And men go drink in a bar while the woman worries about feeding that life. We mostly go running to superior mummy because she appears to have lots more time for us than daddy does. And there's a sperm bank to replace the man but you can't replace a woman, yet.

Need I go on?

Men! We will farm you like we farm pigs someday, I'm telling you all! Thankfully, we'd only need a few of you so you all better buck up or be culled! We will call it reducing population in the end, you poor men!

It like you don't understand why man is man and woman is woman...

Nowadays religious people are scam pastor Dickson...

Mcslize:
Oh I see. Maybe op needs to start reading some of ubunja's miseducations to understand women better.

He needs to understand that it is not always about looks that attract women. And also, he can't use money to buy a woman's love. He needs to focus his mind on other things for now, and let a woman choose him.

A girl can just see you and fall in love. There are others that will fall in love with you based on your charisma and attitude. While I won't discard those as fake love, the worst is a woman that love you based on how much money you have.

When a girl is the first to like you as a guy, it takes out lots of works from the guy. In fact, she will be the one taking things up and doing most of the works . When a girl that already likes you is chatting with you, there is a huge difference than when a guy is trying to chat a casual girl up. For the girl that likes you, will always lead the chat. She will be so curious to know you better. She will send up to 3 to 5 messages at once.

But the one a guy is trying to choose; the guy will be the one doing most of the talking, doing everything to lead the chat or conversation. Disappointingly, they end up replying with one word. Such usually happens because it's the guy that is trying to choose the girl.

Ubunja's said and I quote: keep those girls that love you for love and those that you love for lust. He couldn't have said it better, and I perfectly agreed with him.

Let a girl choose you, and you will see that 90% of the work is done.

For example, something happened yesterday. I messaged a girl on Facebook. I sent her this message:

"How far? This ur smile na first class o. Kindly borrow me first, I will return it tomorrow"

And she replied with thank you. You are handsome.

That's how chat start o. During the chat, I noticed that she is the one leading the chat. Sometimes she will send 3 to 5 messages at a time while I ensure I keep my messages short and brief.

Why was she leading the chat? She was leading because she was the one that chosed me first. I can tell you that, the girl inbox must be overflowing with loads of messges from guys cuz on looking at her intently, she is overly pretty but I dare not compliment her on that. On a typical day will a Nigeria girl lead a chat, or instead they will reply with one word as you type a full episode.

What am I saying? When a girl choose you as a guy, 90% of the work is done.She will start telling you everything about her life and on, something she won't do if it is the other way round.

Why this long episode? Op needs to focus on other stuff. But once a while throw some playful vibes here and there on girls he likes. He will be amazed how those little playful attitudes will land him a girlfriend in no time. Na play play, play play with some lil flirts here and there I take land one overly serious babe that year. I was amazed!

For things to work for op, he should learn to divert his attention from the taught of wanting to be accepted by girls. Just keep on a humorous vibe, mix with a lil flirting attitude, he will be surprised how a girl will just start falling for him from nowhere in no time.

Everything you said are true i stop chatting online since it like i force girls to chat with me guess what no one chat me up but i feel happy to know that because it more better if a girl love me than me loving her...
forcing , low self esteem and insecure made some guys useless to girls and i ain't be part of them...
thanks to ubunja in that aspects...

Kentura:
No, because you're senseless.. And Yes because girls like senseless people they can easily manipulate.

Bobo yi oh gbadun oh

drips8:
Not everyone who goes to church is a Christian

Not only that...
not everyone that say he/she is very religious has good heart...

Ayoolajumoke:
For me religion is important, I’m not so religious o but we must have the same belief.

I can’t believe that Jesus is the son of God and marry someone that doesn’t have that belief. Kolewerk mehn.

What we don't know made us an ignorant and self centered person...
religion is religion but it's different just like the way human being are different even our fingers...
jesus is not known as son of God in the quran
but he is known as son of God in the Bible i think other revelations in quran and bible are same meaning but with difference interpreter...
take a look at traditional religions as an example aren't they not many but everybody has their own belief...
is whatever you believe in...
don't carry religion matter for head if you go to church everyday prays every 24 hrs but have bad heart forget paradise your hell is real cos God judge you by your heart and what you done while you're alive...
you're doing good outside and inside of you is very bad good things can never be rewarded to such person...
I think you should think why we sometime say this words ( So God See My Heart ) when things happen to us unexpectedly but we want it that Show God want our heart...

funmisticqueen:
explain resources?

it also depends on why he wants to marry. if we can agree on an open marriage, why not, love isn't the main thing, respect is.

Just ask Regina Daniel

them done come again, anybody that has good home training will respect almost everybody so love is the first important thing in any relationship followed by other..
well is even sure regina is cheating on the man she respect him just like her daddy she doesn't love him..

sinceraconcept:
antecedent matters pls. If I here positive remarks about her and she's virgin,no p. Just don't tell me that,people can very well differentiate virgins from non virgins,its not a rocket science,its very easy,its only 0.01% of virgins that don't clot much when deflowered. There is nohow one wouldn't know if a girl had a dirty past or not,if you're dating a non virgin,it doesn't mean you should discourage others from dating virgins

oh how many virgin have been deflowered doctor
and beside virgin doesn't matter is just like extra gift woman has ABC ( ATTITUDE, BEHAVIOUR , CHARACTER ) Matter Most...
so well am currently single am just giving you advice even your sister can give you cos she knows how they trick guys you might need her assists...

Piuscrown:
Visual C++(Microsoft visual studio), is way better.

Thanks can you help me with the download link and do i need visual IDE or normal IDE like Netbean , esclipe and so on...

Piuscrown:
Visual C++(Microsoft visual studio), is way better.

Thanks can you help me with the download link...

bvmloveme:
Don't use Turbo C++ because is no longer supported. i will suggest Microsoft Visual Studio 2017 (Community Edition) if you are using Windows, apart from been free, it's also being updated. GCC and CLANG for unix. Mingw is also a good compiler.

Thanks for the answer but what of Microsoft Visual Studio 2019 and Microsoft Visual C++...

victorian:
Don't mind me, I'm soft today

hmm churchy on Sunday...

sinceraconcept:
If she tightens it and claims she lost it due to bicycle wound,she should show me Dr's report . Her antecedent would also prove her right or wrong

it seem Nigeria girls never WIT you before with all these you're saying...
you will get fake proof if you insist on proof...
only wise and experience one can relate though am not nowhere close to marriage now but i know what am saying...
you ask other to confirm virgin girl blood must come out while you fvcking...

she no get bathroom...

efembaba:
The funniest part to me is about the doctors who carry out such procedure.. It's like giving advice about likely repercussions is not part of their job. Someone just comes with money and says he wants you to turn him to a tiger and u start working immediately

you were not there so don't say what you're not sure of...

victorian:
Be my fucvking guest.
Do I look like I care?

you don't need to Miss Hard...

sinceraconcept:
her bubble will be busted after our akidu nikkah which is a marriage ritual in Islam which makes it for those involved to have sex. It doesn't require much cash and its held indoors in the presence of both families and takes place before ceremonial marriage. After sex on akidu nikkah night,if she's a virgin,then we can go ahead with our wedding but if I find out she was lying,its over,I would call off the relationship cis a woman that's capable of telling a man such lie and faking to such extent would show the man fake love until she kills him one day. That's why long courtship is not permitted in Islam. within at most 6 months,you would know everything about her and there wouldn't be any time wasted. we are talking about life partner. One has to be very careful when it comes to choosing. Once q soldier always a soldier. A non virgin would initially vow not to have sex with anyone else since she believes you've been so good to her but if you make a little mistake which is inevitable,she would lose everything about you and go back to her old ways,could even bring her ex home to Bleep her after she gets reminded of their sexcapades and romantic nights. But if you disvirgin a girl,the love she would have for you would be ethereal but do not take her for granted,treat her like a queen. virgins are meant to be treated like queens after marriage. Non virgins are meant to be bleeped and dumped if you're interested in them before marriage

I think you should know what naija girls are capable of they can tighten their virginal so that you will think they are a truly a virgin and when you don't see blood they would lie that hymen cut during bicycle riding and anything relate to it . and well i think you maybe right when you marry virgin you should treat her like a queen and likewise she too because we have to treat each other equal...

victorian:
U don't need to pity my bf.

He's happy the way I'm treating his love for me. As long as i can allow him see my face and be around me. He's cool with it. Believing with time, it will get better
It's good like that.

Some men like hard women, women who are not easy to conquer and that's where I fall in.

if you're hard believe me i will be hard on you WTF...