when President Donald Trump called this continent a SHIT-HOLE, you think he was joking?

this prisoner swap reminded me of the movie: SALT 2010

MikeMicheal:
And so what? Tinubu can do it too without issue.

this is a joke. right?

My sincere advice:

Tell Joshua to move out of that area immediately.

I had an ugly experience with this sometime in 2013. It was not my house, but my office. I had a childhood classmate. We went to the same Nursery, Primary and Secondary school. Coincidentally, we found ourselves in the same University. Let's call him Jim.

According to him, he was down in Business, so he started coming to my office to while away time, while waiting for opportunities. This guy started crossing boundaries. I told him he could stay in the first office and do whatever he wanted, but not come into my own office, because most times, I was busy doing some work, and did not want distractions.

The guy disobeyed my order - started barging into my office with alacrity.

Many times, he would ask me for Transport money back to his house. If I tell him that I'm not responsible for his TP, he says I'm insulting him. Before you know what's happening, he's spoiling for a fight. He just wanted us to fight, so he could destroy the property in my office.

According to him even if we get to Police, they will say it's a case of 2Fighting, and urge us to go and settle our rift amicably.

One time he slapped my secretary because he wanted to see me, but the girl told him to wait in the reception (which was a standing order I gave in my office), so that he could call me on intercom. He slapped the girl and barged into my office, pointing his hands at me and telling me that I'm using my secretary to insult him.

There was one time I gave him a job to do. He did it haphazardly. Even the client who owned the job could not take it. I complained about how he did the job. He told me he was not interested in whatever I was saying, and insisted I must pay him his money. According to him, he has done the job. He physically assaulted me in my own office because of that. I had to hire another person to job.

The straw that broke the carmel's back was when he started talking and hanging out with some people who I know were Yahoo boys and bringing them to my office, under the guise that it was his office. At this point, I knew that I could no longer save this guy. I had to get the Police involved. Our relationship got frosty, thankfully.

He went on to tell other classmates that I was a wicked person. I really don't care what he tells people about me. I just thank God that this dude is out of my life for good.

Before I let any other person in my space, I have to screen him/her thoroughly.

Espana 82

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Everbryte:
I empathise with you for the situation you find yourself. Pleaseeeee, do not commit suicide; It can only get better and you will be fine.
From my perspective, you cant just sit on your own & say Iv forgiven my dad, and it ends there(that might just be for your own sanity).

You all have to sit down and talk as a family. Pushing you Dad was a no, no. You have to keep reaching out to him until he sincerely forgives you(write a hard copy apology). If all personal effort fails, get a mediator (your uncle/aunt/neighbor/pastor/imam, his friend or if you are close to any of the concubines - someone that he has a lot of regards for. you need his forgiveness.

Also, you sure need some crucial conversation as a family, that your father restricted you & your mum access to some part of the house and that includes the fridge & drinking water shows how bad things were, what made him do that;we know in parts. This portrays a very toxic situation that is not healthy for anyone; your father himself cannot be happy or healthy in that situation, I suppose he did that out of frustration to ensure everyone is frustrated as well.

First you have to engage your mum to know if your father has been like this from 'get go', else when did he change? what could have made him to change. your mum has to understand that if your dad is into women, she cant totally control that, she can only manage that with wisdom/attitude and self awareness - actions/attitude and self worth will pull your dad or push him and that will determine how she is treated, which to a large extent will determine how her children are treated.

For the school fees thing, your father was wrong not to have given you the complete fees, even if he did not have, it was his responsibility to explain that & perhaps commit to when you can get the balance, you felt entitled, yes! it is your entitlement & you were trying to hold him accountable to his responsibility, but you did it the wrong way. you can not fight your father, No.
All things being equal, your mum would have smoothen things out here, talk your father to give you the money or engage him & if he does not have explain to you & of course commit to when they can sort you out. Given that he does not give your mum this room in his life you should have looked for your grandma/aunt/uncle our someone he is close to.

Walking out on your dad (with money in his hand) in other words - throwing his money at him, is a nau nau. your father is the King.
As a student, you walked out on your dad with money in his hand at that instance, going forward where do you want to start from? - The suffering you wet through was a self inflicted injury.

You cannot move through life this way, it is a lot of baggage, although it comes from a little problem that can easily be sorted, you need peace, real peace. Hurry while there is life; everyone is alive.
Start from the place of faith - pray, talk with God, if you have a little money, seek the service of a professional counselor, the counselor might even go with you to your father/parents, i have no idea of their fees but it might be worth the investment for you.
It is a little problem can be solve with minimal effort. Shalom!

God bless you. You are wise and unbiased. Your words seek to make peace, not vilify the poster. Nobody here knows everything that may have transpired in that place. It was wrong for her to push her father down. I won't do that. I blame the lady for doing that. On that one, I think she should apologize to her father.

Having said that, I'm aware of the toxic habits and transferred aggression of many parents (including mothers), especially when they want you to go a certain direction in Life, but you know that direction is not good for you.

Others transfer the aggression to their children to provoke their loathed spouses. When those children react, those same parents will beckon on the world to see how their children are insulting them. Some even go as far as cursing their children, just to spite their spouses.

I have personal experiences on these issues:

8 years ago, a friend of mine and I were going to get something in a store. His mother accosted him on the Road (in public glare) and fought him physically, slapping him like a baby and tearing his shirt, almost stripping him naked. He couldn't fight back (because say na him mama). Everybody did what we could to extricate him from the clutches of this woman. the woman no gree.

What was the problem: She claimed to have raised my friend and his siblings alone (with no help from my friend's father). Now, my friend was grown and wanted the family to unite. He reached out to his father, bought things, and visited his father. He truly wanted PEACE. Take note, he also gives his mom o (sometimes double or triple portion sef).

Mama heard it and came to publicly fight him. Imagine where a 40-year-old man is being slapped and dragged by his trousers by his mother, yet he couldn't do anything about it (unto say, na him mama).

Bottom Line: Some Parents are toxic and belligerent, therefore staying in their area is a breeding ground for more conflict.

My advice to the young lady:

1) Go and apologize to your father. Kneel down before him if you must.

2) Try whatever you can, and get a better job. Round off your schooling, without depending on him. Move out of the house and fend for yourself.

3) Make Peace with yourself and God.

I have read the comments from most people here, and I shudder.
If you havent experienced it, you will NEVER know.

One day, we (Africans) are gonna have a brutal talk about Toxic Parenting.

Take note: I am a Parent myself (grown up kids).

If you have not experienced Toxicity from Parents, just shut up.

LegendHero:
Instead of this wicked man to invest heavily in changing the state fire service structure during his time, he instead saved Anambra money and here the people are suffering for it.

Even Benue as useless as their governor is, I don’t think he will allow his people to use bucket to fetch water from Firetruck.

Where is Soludo self?

if you don't know what to say, please be silent.

I was in Anambra state, when Peter Obi commissioned and deployed more vehicles to the Anambra state Fire Service. If you had said that the successive government failed to maintain those vehicles, it could have concealed your ignorance to a manageable extent.

Please get your facts right before you speak next time.

Congratulations to the Seahorse brand.
Congratulations, Mr Chukwudi Iwuchukwu (their brand awareness engineer)
Congratulations Nigeria.

My friend. Let's call her Sandra (not real name). I've noticed her do somethings that are not normal.

She talks to herself many times
She is easily angered at little things
She feels guilty about her past mistakes

These things are even affecting her relationships with people in her workplace.

The one that got me alarmed is when she started talking about death and suicide

At first, I thought she was joking, but her constant repetitions of suicide is now a source of worry

I have tried my best to encourage her in life, but I'm not a professional counselor, so I guess I did not do a very good job there.

Abeg, where in Nigeria can someone find help for someone like this? Make this lady no go keel herself

I don't like this woman, but on this,she's right
Very right.

the fact that you can't read or write is enough headache for me.

How does it charge?

When my mother was alive, I sent her 10K one day. She called me several times and even sent me an SMS thanking me. I still have the SMS. (Ordinary 10K o).

I sent my Dad 100K one time. He called me and said: "So, it is only 100K, you could send me, after all these years". That day, I cried my eyes out in regret.

This is a man who did know how I went to school, how I survived, how I became a man, feeling entitled to my sweat. I even gave him 10x of what I gave my Mom.

They are both late now, but honestly, I wish my mother was still alive. I would give her more. That woman was an Angel.

I am a Man , but I support what this woman did.

Dude is being housed by the woman, yet he had the effrontery to bring another woman there.

He was caught , yet he is threatening fire and brimstone.

My friend, shut up. You cant do shit,

how many times will this man be sentenced please?

I experienced a similar thing about 5 years ago in Rumokwuta, Port Harcourt.

I live in Obio-Akpor, Rivers State. I will vote for Peter Obi.

TooNoisy:
Obidients are not old enough to know this adverts. Its the very young and gullible Pitobi can deceive.

I am obidient.
I know that advert very well
I was in Secondary school when it was the rave of the moment

See what someone sent to me o

jjcena:
December 2016 I was traveling with my 4 friends from lagos to East, I had this long taser/torch with us. Police stopped us along Benin agbor road, they searched and found it, no kind of explanation we i no do but these guys right there said we were kidnappers. Bundled us into the vehicle to drive to God knows were because I was ready to part with money. In the end I paid almost 150k of the initial 500k they called before they left us.

let me worry about that.

the amount of robberies in PH is just too much.

Someone was robbed last night in my presence (her phones) at garrison junction.
Just this morning, another robbery at CFC bustop.

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this is wrong.

I need 15Million Naira to expand my business.

If you were my friend, and you notice such a thing about my wife, but refuse to tell me, I will never consider you a true friend.

God1000:
yeah, but some cities like Abuja, Calabar, uyo and port Harcourt are still clean

Remove Port Harcourt from that list. PH is fast becoming like Aba

why do people NOT take turns to talk? They are always interrupting each other. I thought this was a problem of Nigerian OAPs and TV presenters with their guests, but this video proves me wrong

#magictonic

Dear Friends,

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