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First of all. The comment above by Shugarlord is all kinds of dumb.

Have you met all the girls of Nairaland? (Saying they are all hoes and jobless).

Secondly people can have their opinion on what the definition of stingy is. What I find in my experience is that those who use the word most often are those who don't know the value of money of the struggle of an honest days work.

When will Nairalanders realize that many people who post such threads are:

Troublemakers,
Frustrated,
Key-board warriors,
Serious attention seekers.

If no-one responds, they would be devastated.

Am I dreaming...

Let me check my pulse....

Did this thread just happen....



On a serious note I totally agree with the OP except one thing. Men and Women aren't equal. There are things in which one gender is usually better than the other. That is the way of life and why we were created as such.

A mature thread. I tip my cap to the OP.
God bless.

I really hope the baby is his....

Any men that are genuinely insulting this man are punks...

Either:

1) You don't have a daughter and know how it feels. Even the toughest man in the world will be disarmed by his baby girl.

2) You don't have a close bond with your parents....it is well oooooo

3) You don't know the joy of successfully raising a child to maturity and independence... most of you that are insulting him can't even support your stomach infrastructure let alone a family and a child. Also look at his wife's face...clearly a satisfied woman. So anyone doubting him as a man should keep kwayet....

4) Lastly he is an emotional man. They exist. Get over it. I'm betting any negativity is out of jealousy.

This country will not allow anything positive to bloom....haba

biacan:
They only keep quiet on the outside but open up a bit on the inside..... ladies will do what ever it takes to save their marriage... While men won't hesitate to use every kobo they spend on you and call you names.... how I feed you,clothed you,buy you with my money ,I picked you from the street blah blah blah blah blah Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwww I wish we can have a free world without men it will definitely be a wonderful place to stay cause 99% of the problems humans are facing today are been created by men.....

Weren't you the one complaining a few days ago that no man has approached you to be your husband?

This post will help....

Also who was the first person to sin according to the bible....

see trouble..

You might think you're being funny, or proving a point but your actually making your life and the lives of women even worse...

You're just not deep enough to get it...

We will be held accountable for everything we do...

till your next erroneous comment.

Shugavee:
cute

Thanks

AllforJesus7:
Nice.
How old are you?

Why?

The Innocent face behind the sharp tongue...

tee59:
Your date of birth please?

He/She/It said "African Men"
In Africa there are:

Black People - Sub Tropics, Eastern, Western, Southern...ie almost everywhere.
White People - South Africa, Zimbabwe and other spots...
Arab people - Northern and North East
and many others....

Thats at least three races right there - Dumb A** move number 1
Men are a gender and not a race - Dumb A** move number 2
The Op is probably from one of the races above, indirectly calling themselves stupid - Dumb A** move number 3

signed: An African Man.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Sure

Why would you have either if they have nothing to offer?

efesodje:

Just commented about the same thing. Ironic right.

RuthDaniels:
Lol! Some clown wrote "Men offer love" up there! . Yeah The long slightly curved meaty kind of love. Lol . Burst my brain dude . When it is a known fact that most men do not go into relationships out of love but sex. Yes! Women want love before sex, the only way men can get sex is to love. (fundamental nature of man before civilization! )

Anyways I'm not one to criticize any gender's role either in the family or relationship, I believe both genders play important roles as nature allows. No one is more important than the other!

[color=#990000][b]What I hate is one gender (male especially ) bringing down the other because they believe they contribute more, but the fact is, none can do without the other! [/b]

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Hope you are not referring to me as a Clown.
The emboldened part is very ironic
Wonderful

marvin906:
dude seriously..
I can't believe your just seeing it

Haha. Crazy right...

Shugavee:
Guys always say what can ladies offer than sex, but i don't as well see their relevance but sex too!!! Women make their money nowadays!!! So what can u offer a lady, cause if a man n woman get married, the woman does everything, fynny how men think money is a great attribute that keeps the family together,n plus the fact women r working hard n making their own money n u know they claim not to want liabilities so guys what do u really offer a woman!!! If not women carry marriage like one big achievement, men offer u nothing than their last name!!! But a lady does everything n keeps the home but some yeye boys will ask what a woman offers,,, now what do u hv to offer a woman??

I have to admit I didnt pay enough attention to the original message. I went straight to the Last page.

So this whole post was made because, as you pointed out some yeye boys said something stupid. Yes their comments about women makes them look stupid.

So because of what a few silly boys said you made a post that implies that all men do not offer much.

How does that make you look? Well the same as those silly boys...

After reading the original post...my comments on this thread are done... Goodnight all. Godbless

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
The asked a question though I do not support their bitterness in her post. I expected you guys to list them and clear her doubts.

Immature? Was just an honest observation.

Have you ever had a boyfriend or Husband?

Amarabae:
yes men can offer love to a woman but is 50-50, because women can offer love back to a man.
I understand the op.
Misogynists make it look like women offer nothing to a man but a man can offer many things to a woman in a relationship

The funny thing is that I agree with many off your points... What frustrates me is that many women hate being blanket judged.

Yet so many women do the same thing to men. How did you feel when you read the thread that all a woman can offer is sex. Probably very annoyed.

However here you are doing the exact same thing.

Lets end the generalizations.... All men are not the same and neither are women.

Amarabae:
Yep that's it.
Let me elaborate.
Before I met my husband, I was already working and being paid well, I was so financially independent.
When I met him, what I expected of him is just his love, he is a very rich guy with investments,
I was not interested in his money then because I was financially independent then,
The same way with many working class career ladies out there who are making it big, they don't expect any other thing from a man except his love, because apart from his love, there is nothing a man will give that they are lacking.
You get it now?
Men are important, Women are too.

Successful independent women see relationship as 50-50affair, we are not financial parasites.
We are no weaker vessels,
I am too feministic to accept such nonsense

Yours and other womens comments on this thread go beyond feminism. Feminism is the empowering of women to be treated as equals. What you are doing is diminishing and denigrating men. That isnt feminism...

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
See guys taking a dose of their own medicine with squeezed faces... No one has answered the op's question to satisfaction.

Men have so much to offer. If you have a Miopic view that men have nothing to offer then make it a prayer point that no man should ever assist you with anything again. The guys who ramble nonsense on the other thread are equally.

"See guys taking a dose of their own medicine with squeezed faces"

Immature....

Amarabae:
Yep that's it.
Let me elaborate.
Before I met my husband, I was already working and being paid well, I was so financially independent.
When I met him, what I expected of him is just his love, he is a very rich guy with investments,
I was not interested in his money then because I was financially independent then,
The same way with many working class career ladies out there who are making it big, they don't expect any other thing from a man except his love, because apart from his love, there is nothing a man will give that they are lacking.
You get it now?
Men are important, Women are too.

Successful independent women see relationship as 50-50affair, we are not financial parasites.

So You have just answered the OP's question. What do men have to offer.

One of the things men have to offer is LOVE.

PrimadonnaO:
It actually goes both ways. As I mentioned, I've been there before. I simply stopped bothering if he was talking to his ex or not and we remained good. But everyone needs to be sensible and considerate enough to respect boundaries.

Yeah, That's why I commented. Its perfectly applies. Im sure many people will read the same thing and flashback to when they were going through such a situation

Amarabae:
You misunderstand me.
Cool down and read my comment again

This one right? "The bitter truth is that men offer little to nothing to an independent strong woman"

Im perfectly cool. Just trying to understand your point of view.

Please elaborate what you mean.

Shugavee:
So u guys seriously hv nothing to say smh!!

Ive got some questions if you would oblige me with answers.

Are you married?

Would you ever like to be married?

PrimadonnaO:
Oh, no. Y'all are too quick to tag a girl a cheat. Yes, there's the possibility that she could be cheating, but she might as well not be.

The truth is that, no one likes to be pressured. You awaken a counterproductive element in them. Exchanging passwords was just totally unnecessary. It's immature. Trust a person if you would and don't go all out looking for incriminating evidence of unfaithfulness. She'll either try to play smart to cover up her tracks or just allow you do your worse.

Some conversations don't mean anything. They are not necessarily leads to unveiling a cheat, but because you're human and intimately connected to this person, you're bound to get jealous and set alarm bells in your own head when you read such.

Stop forcing her to stop talking with her ex except they are outrightly having unwholesome conversations (in which case all you need do is break-up). If they aren't doing anything out of place, she'd find it difficult to just stop talking to him or giving him the awakward attitude. On what basis? Because she has a boyfriend, she's not allowed to stay friends with people she deems fit?

I've been there before. This your attitude won't help the situation. You'll just keep getting frustrated. Just don't snoop.

Lets Play a game people.
Any Guys out there having their fidelity questioned.
Take this post and swap the genders...Anytime you see a He, replace is with She. Anytime you see a Him, replace it with her.
Then tell your girl to follow the advice.

Give us feedback.......

Amarabae:
The bitter truth is that men offer little to nothing to an independent strong woman.
#fact!

Assuming that you are an independent strong woman....is that how you feel about your husband?

I clicked on your profile and it says "wife to a king"

A bit odd.

Ive seen both the threads.

I am not one for swearing but...

My Verdict:

THERE ARE MANY MEN AND WOMEN ON NAIRALAND WHO NEED TO GROW THE F*CK UP.

Immature Nonsense from both sexes.

We all have our stories/experiences about the opposite sex... say things that will add to people's lives positively or SHUT THE HELL UP.

If you knew me in real life, you would know I’m NOTHING like I am on NL. NOTHING.

I’m laid back and chill. If you insult me, I insult you back. That’s how I am. If you look closely at this thread, you would see that I’m never the one to initiate anything. Please look closely. I really just don’t take NL seriously, it’s just there for fun.

I do not have hatred for men. I don’t have to agree with everything you do, does that necessarily mean I hate you guys? Vice versa.

Well would like to apologise to tosyne2much. It was very much out of my character to insult you the way I did, and I apologise. I was very aggravated and allowed my emotions to take control

Have a nice day.

No worries. Most reasonable guys wouldn't expect you to agree. I think most would appreciate you not using the same brush on all of us.

You may think its a joke but some young naive boys and girls read these posts every day.

They might see it otherwise.

To be honest I only come here to rep those guys trying to do it the right way.

Just a question here. Why would you be different between real life and Nairaland?

Sounds like alot of work.

tosyne2much:
My brother, that's the way many of them are.. You could see the way she was heaping curses on me

The truth is that their lives are very miserable but they come online looking for a way to make themselves feel better. They come online claiming they are working class and that they are only coming here to while away time. The acclaimed working class can be found almost in every thread 24/7 with their awkward and negative mindset .

The same way some Nigerian ladies are being ridiculed for their skin colour is the same way same Nigerian men are also being ridiculed for their skin colour, so what's the fuss all about?

Like I said, beautiful Nigerian women know they are beautiful and there's nothing you will say that will make them feel less of themselves. They receive appraisal every now and then and they feel very confident.

You will not even find such ladies on a thread like this. Only some set of frustrated low life ones bother so much about a topic like this.

Kindly do a little research and you will see that even most of the ladies joining the OP in throwing tantrums do not have profile pictures(no they will ever have). But they are usually the one that carry a thread like this on their heads .

No quarrels here. I agree on many points but I am just the peacemaker here. Haha.
Too tired after work to start throwing insults haha.
Stay well bro.

[quote author=Safiaaa post=65538030][/quote]Having read through this thread....

I would love to know the circumstances of your life.

If I met you in real life, and you comport yourself in a similar manner as you do in some of your threads, I would quietly walk off and not look back

I just have some questions?

What happened to you? Where has this hatred from men stemmed from?

I know you enjoy instigating arguements...it gives you thrills.

I just wished more Nairaland guys were more mature and didn't take the bait.

I think a change of scenery is needed. Elevate those who you hang around.

You have thrown multiple curses in some of your comments.

I pray the don't rebound back

Can people stop using the word slay as a positive.

To slay is to kill violently...

WTF.

Just speaking my mind....

FluidQueen:
You are a smart man. You'd birth queens.

Amen.

It was because I was birthed by one...and a king also.