₦airaland Forum

TonyeBarcanista:
Some men are plainly evil and highly demonic. After separation from Her, he still had the mind to physically brutalise and publicly humiliate her. It is a shame that someone that is supposed to be facing Attempted Murder charge is walking freely on the streets. It is equally a shame that Zenith Bank has refused to disengage the attempted murderer who perpetrated an act that is wickedly and uncivil. What kind of bank is Zenith bank BTW? What king of image are they sending out?


I sympathise with the woman and all women that are victims to physical abuse by their spouse, exes or male siblings.

Hitting a woman is highly irresponsible and shameless, hiring thugs to attack a woman and an innocent man is the lowest of shamelessness.

Indeed, the man is unfit to be termed a man in the Council of Men.

Therefore, I, on behalf of myself and all male gender worldwide (from age 1 day and above) hereby strip her husband of the privileged "Man/Male" title. Henceforth, Her husband should be referred to as Ovie and not Mr Ovie, It should be used while addressing Ovie and not "Him or his".

NOTE:
Any man that physically assault any female folk from my family will surely have an appointment with God through the most painful and brutal way.

God bless you for this

Fanirandele:
if She's a bad wife, isn't that more reason for him to be happy another man has taken away his headache she's a bad man yet his bad belle won't let him leave her to enjoy her life .When your bad wife finds a new man , you should throw a party sef instead he is fighting around, how does that make sense if he is found guilty, he will be fired

Gbam, it's only in naija that you'll see a man say his wife is evil and blah blah but the minute she's made a new life for her self and not begging at his feet like him and his people thought they can't deal

idupaul:
Same thing you said about fuel and electricity

@FREDN, why do you think the price will first rise before it comes down?

adajiboyy:
and who told u yoruba women aren't even more adulterous than other languages... I was born and breed in lagos, am from benue but am more a yoruba than am an idoma..yoruba ladies are awesome..but wen I say yoruba ladies are more adulterous than other languages I know wat am saying...omo yoruba ni mi

Living in Lagos or being born in Lagos will never make you Yoruba so please stop claiming. You are a bigot just like the person you were replying and Yoruba women are not languages, Olodo.

euromilion:
I know it works,but not in Africa,African kids has no privilege,I can't remember anything that my parents could've taken away from me then.

I however do use your method on my kids,because they've things that I could take away.

But as for average African kids,all I could say is Lord have mercy.some African parents are so poor,that all they've is their kids.

Every child has a privilege a parent can take away as discipline e.g play time, t.v time and such. If the child usually goes out to play with siblings and friend's maybe for an hour after school, you can make the child stay in the house while others go to play. You won't believe how a child feels seeing his mate playing outside and he can't.

I feel like these arguments/ discussions have become redundant because clearly we will all have different views. Ultimately no 2 marriages are ever the same. Simply marry someone who thinks like you. We who want men who share the chores with us while we share bills will marry like minded men ( many of us already did) while women who believe men doing those chores is some taboo will also marry like minded men.

Just do you

Nnemuka:
when we have northerners as majority in the house as lawmakers what do you expect?

Nigeria's constitution if carefully studied was written based on islamic laws and religion.
women are treated like lesser beings over there.

By the way, what happens to a police officer who impregnates a police woman without being legally married to her? will both of them be sacked for engaging in an immoral act?

Are the men in other regions better? Isn't it in the SE that women are still not allowed to inherit their father's properties? The men here supporting the discrimination against women are they from the North? All regions are guilty

dinachi:
@ Op stop being silly. This is exactly how American males like you started fighting for women and ended up loosing their own rights too. Now dogs and pets have better rights than men in the US. Dont bring that nonsense here.

So because you are afraid laws will favour women you would rather your mother, sisters and daughters be discriminated against! What a weakling

bukatyne:
Mama don vex!

It's true now, anyone who doesn't bring anything into a relationship is useless. It's the same as a housewife who expects the husband to come home and do all the domestic chores. Like you said what's he's own contribution? When someone takes over your responsibility you show gratitude by reliving him/her of some of theirs. It's common decency

bukatyne:
There are loosely two models of handling roles and one is in discussion here.

1. Both provide and both do domestics
2. Hubby provide and wife do domestics.

And we are discussing model 2 here....

Caroline Danjuma is probably running model 2 and her husband provides so why is she in discussion here?

My question again is what is the use of a husband in model 2 who doesn't do domestics when he doesn't provide?

Such a man is as useless as a piece of furniture

Who are these women that return home by 4 pm because I honestly don't know any Most women return home at the same time as their husbands yet they are expected to do chores and cooking alone and still take care of kids. She wakes up in the morning gets kids ready for school and must still prepare their lunch boxes and such while the man snoozes on. Then they both head to work where they most likely work equal hours. He gets home and chills while slave girl starts cooking and doing house chores again. Kids homework, arrange clothes for school. Get the kids ready for bed and all

It's only in Nigeria that a sex who claims y be stronger leaves more work for the supposedly weaker sex

For the husband that's not working and still expects the wife to take care of all chores and kids stuff while being the breadwinner please what exactly does he do all day? How can you claim to love someone and not help reduce her burden when she's helping to reduce yours or even taking it over ( financial responsibility) . That's the height of wickedness

pepigeorge:
Haba.... If the woman finds out the husband is cheating. .let her divorce. .
if the man catch u...our society will not hear that ur analogy. ..

Story story. Many women who cheated on their husbands and we're caught have gone on to remarry. And even remarry better, richer men

pepigeorge:
I was not also there wen God said is the responsibility of the man to labour for a woman. ...
u can't win both ways. ..
I married u from ur father's house like am buying a private jet...
I labour to keep u feed and comfortable. .
just a small souvenir for all my efforts. ..lol

Both parties pay bills so both sexs now labour. For many couples both of them contribute money to pay rent and get an apartment that they move moved to so no one moving into anyone's house. For many families now ni more bride price. So all those things no longer apply

KENNSAMMY:
i hate it when peepu begin to draw parallelsv
betw men and women.



Our creator refers to them women as weaker
vessels!!!


am i in anyway supportive of cheating atall


No!!!

So the stronger sex should be the one showing good examples. If you call yourself the head of your home then remember that the way you conduct yourself will influence your wife and childten
So keep cheating and your wives keep learning from you there are more and more married women cheating these days than ever and you lot will never catch your wives. They've become even better than the teachers (husbands)

treasuredkids:
Hmmm!!!! I feel your pain sis. Be strong and dnt give up. Embrace a prayerfull approach and turn a blind eye to all he does henc4th. Its not going to be easy but for ur kids and ur sanity, u need to overlook his manifestations.

Turn a blind eye to strangulation and slaps it's time to start arresting those who contribute to people dying from domestic violence like you

talk2alabama:
madam if u need help with chores den u should employ a maid. He is ur husband for Christ sake and u gv him some sense of respect! All these end time wives.

A man cleaning up after him self is disrespect all you lazy men of these days. I am sure there is a reason they don't have a maid probably the same man will say no to maids
Plus the fact that you have maids doesn't mean you won't pick up after yourself as a decent human being who raised these spoilt men sef.

You too have respect for your wife. She goes to work for the same hours as you, takes care of kids and pays bills and yet you can't help with household chores and you'll call yourself the stronger sex yet leave the most work for the so called weaker sex what a joke

ronald4lif:
I don't believe in gender roles. House chores and financing the home can be shared between couple with anyone undertaking the chores they think its appropriate. No roles should be defined and allocated.

I also won't say coz Wifey is a sit-at-home mum and not partake in house chores then I shouldn't. It is my responsibility to keep the house clean, tidy, fix meals and nurse my baby, married/working or not.

However, I won't accept any gender equality arrangement when I'm the sole financier of the house. Any woman who wants equality with me must take responsibility and contribute to the home financing.

In Teebills case the wife was the breadwinner and he shouldn't complain if he's the one taking care of their child. A woman won't feeds you and still retire home to nurse kids and prepare meals. Head of the family shouldn't be a show of gasconade but must come with responsibility.

Gbam

talk2alabama:
What sort of rubbish is this..... it's his choice whether to assist in chores or nad... afterall he is d breadwinner...

How many men are full breadwinners these days When the woman helps you pay the bills it's also only fair you help with chores

Since he seems to believe in the traditional roles of marriage where chores is for women then you too stop helping with paying Bills. Tell him that paying bills is for men abi
He can't eat his cake and have it

No problem but no one should blame her when she comes to cut out the kidney if he refuses to return it voluntarily

[quote author=postmann post=45604125][/quote]If she forgot her role as a husband clearly he forgot his as a husband in Nigeria managers are usually paid 10% yet she was paying him 40% because she appreciated his part in building her career. Is that not enough for a decent human being yet he went ahead to steal her money how can any wife have respect for such a man She had to fire him rather than let him ruin her with debt plus since he was taking money from people saying Tiwa will perform to things she never agreed to. She would have found herself in in legal mess very soon
So a man who earned 40% of a star lik Tiwa's earning for many years had no savings to pay anything for his own child's birth What does that say about such a man. This had nothing with wanting him to be like Don Jazzy but wanting him to be a responsible man. Teebillz had enough opportunity to leverage on a big client like Tiwa and build other stars but no he thought he had found a cash cow.

You cannot call yourself a head when you've deliberately shunned your responsibility. You Nigerian like picking Bible passage that suit you. Is it not the Bible that says a man that does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel

So Tiwa should be the one to hustle, pay all the bills including the house he lived in, everything for the baby , bringing home the bacon, breast feeding, taking care of the baby and yet the man couldn't cook himself the said bacon!

Nobody will be happy to carry all the responsibility in a marriage. Why not kuku.say the truth and be a single parent. Its like a housewife who still expects the husband to come and cook when he gets back from work for her while she sat at home all day. In this case Teebillz was the housewife

Chillisauce:
This thread still dey?


Where are all the lazy women.

Children's toys. Invest in big boxes. I pack the whole shįt in there then we try and sort it out weekends.

Very true the boxes come in handy especially when you have kids around.

damiso:
It was lovely.. Honestly no difference with pounded yam.

I have stopped eating poundo yam since I bought my food processor.

One tip though is make sure you cut the yams into tiny cubes and make sure you don't put in a large quantity ( depending on the size of your food processor) at a time.

I'm going to get one asap then. Don't know why anyone will be stressing themselves unnecessarily. Thanks for the tip guys

Well done to you. May God continue to increase your business

fitinwell:
[size=28pt]Lady..now i know u have been carjol and brainwashed by the story tales interveiw of tiwa Savage.. From her side of the story.. I see hate tread, unforgiving heart, and also a mouth killing machine.. She is not fit to be called a mother.. And wife.. She can't cook for her own Man.. Instead employed edible catering services.. Tiwa Savage as got no message.. And wonder what kind of brand ambassador forte oil.. Is coming up with. [/size]

Stop making noise up and down. God hates divorce right, what about all the other things like Fornication, adultery, lying, judging others? How many of them are you guilty of? You better you face your own life because clearly you need spiritual deliverance more than her. Teebillz nko that doesn't provide for his wife , baby is he fit to be called a husband? According to the same Bible any man that does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel. Did he have a good heart when he tried to to destroy her in public? You are obviously just jealous that none of the companies dropped her like you wished in your evil heart you are envious that she's living her life and making money that you can only dream of

bukatyne:
@postmann:

Stop feeling important

I tagged the two peeps who made me actually start the thread. They felt the culture of women looking up to their husbands as providers was obsolete.

Will get back to your epistle.

#modified:

I was actually expecting more proponents of rigid gender roles.

I think you are mixing up a househusband & a husband who is domesticated.

@Tiwa: there was nothing wrong with him being a 'househusband' till he gets on his feet.

I hate to be a parasite and what is my value if I neither contribute money nor domestics? What value was Teeblizz bringing to the table if he wasn't working and expected Tiwa twisting with Patoranking to cook for him? What was his usefulness?

If you say that a husband is still the 'head' whether he provided or not, then it implies he is still the head househusband or not.

Stay at home moms have more time to take care for themselves and family if they are inclined to. I am trying to understand why a wife must earn if she & hubby believes in strict gender roles.

In the grand scheme of things, whose business is it the way my home is run?

Gbam, so he won't bring in money or help with domestic chores then what's his own contribution to the marriage? That me she's already a single mother so better she kuky lives as one instead of deceiving herself which is the case with many Nigerian women these days

Eketem:
Sadly we can shout men are bad and wicked from today till next year but if we don't address the root causes where we have some responsibility things won't change

I agree with you that we modern women must not condone bride price been paid for us or our kids. Let's start that revolution and slowly but surely it will catch on


Yes bride price or no bride price a wicked man will treat his wife like trash as long as she allows it but let's remove that excuse form these men. What they bring up immediately equality is mentioned is bride price so it's time to change that

sweetcocoa:
Bride price is not reason for a man thinking he owns a woman(these days atleast), religion is.


How much is this bride price that we no go hear word for? It's even ordinary one naira in some places sef.

Plus, it's not like the woman gets any share in the said BP, so why should any man think to put his wife through hell because he gave some villagers small change? Some men don't even pay any monies, some married the women on credit yet they treat these women like trash.


Since time immemorial, we've been hearing that women were made for men, just what do you think that tells the men?

I don't think religion is the problem as much as people choosing to distort religion for their selfish reasons.

Have you noticed ho they harp on submission and how God hates divorce yet they won't talk about how God hates adultery and fornication except it a woman involved of course !

Eketem:
Some men want traditional women some women want traditional men. They should find each other get married and save us all this plenty debate jare.

Some women will die before they let their husbands cook or even change a diaper while some men will object to their wives contributing to family upkeep.

Modern women should be modern through and through this starts with rejection of the payment of bride price. A man practically buys a woman from her family and community in some areas, I saw one list almost a million or more self, he has to pay the whole community to marry the woman, some women would be flattered by that not understanding the significance of the process. A man who pays all that and does all the list thing would have some sort of feeling of ownership, he is expecting a woman who will play traditional roles not after paying and spending that much to have a woman shouting equality.

We women have to start from the Genesis of the inequality ; rejection of bride price and wedding list. The man has also been trained by his parents, what then is the justification of paying her family off to marry her? A marriage both of them are supposed to enjoy and build together.


I have heard women say they can only support their family at their discretion same way men would say they can only support in house work at his discretion too

It is a two way streak. If a couple wants to have some level of equality then start from the beginning, share bills and share roles.

Two grown adults should sort their marriage issues out.

I never let anyone collect bride price for me and no one will collect for my daughter
Because the way some guys here open mouth and say they own a woman unto bride price! Never

jon1:
Sadly for women it is a Man's world.
1. Nigeria and Global population statistics put women at roughly over 49% (Men own the world by numbers). No matter how loud the screams of women emancipation gets,chauvinism and machismo doesn't appear to be ready to relinquish it's esteemed position to feminism.

2. Polygyny is hailed whereas polyandry is frowned upon. A man can brag about his female conquests as but a woman is properly titled prostitute,harlot or LovePeddler if she attempts same.

3. Nature even seems to support female subjugation. Women squat to pee while the male stands straight.

Simply, just as the Western world has gone ahead to control global wealth and media to the detriment of the underdeveloped world,so also has the male subjugated the female psyche to it's own profit.

About your crush,go ahead,have a crush,a fanta or a coke.
I too have a huge crush on you.

Who says women can't stand to pee? I guess you didn't attend boarding school
And what says standing up to pee is better than sitting down? A long as you pee it doesn't matter how you do it. In Sane Countries both polygamy and polyandry. In the population of the world women are actually more than men. When Women band tighter we own the world

Omotaday:
I was discussing this with my girl some days ago. How will you feel if your bf run to a female celebrity and hug her or kiss her while everyone is watching?. I can only let my girl kiss D'banj if D'banj can let me kiss his gf too.

What are you in about many of us put on generators, lift heavy things and go to wars