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femi4:
Olofofo adugbo
If na Tbliss you want....go and collect am

Lol thank you jare. Tiwa will remarry a more correct man that someone like her will ever get if Ooni can marry someone with 4 kids wetin do Tiwa? Enough with threatening women th no many will marry her again. By the way sh won't marry a man that will be living under her roof so no need for throwing out

Jegudujera:
dats d problem with u nigerians...u take social media gossip 2 serious,did u just cut my head because i craked a joke?
Dats so rude of you,if u make such words here in newyork....i am gonaa sue ur black brain..

Lmao at sue, what you said is actually very derogatory. Saying derogatory things as a joke just because it's social media isn't cool
Celebs are human too, imagine her or her family reading such It's very offensive

misscall247:
See wet in person mama wear.......Tilbliz u try

A mother wearing t-shirt, jeans and scarf is wrong Na wa o

back2sender:
Tell them ooo. When sweet sixteen full town naa old akwanga she be

At least she's alive, stop all that nonsense talk that makes people stay in bad marriages till they kill each other

Jegudujera:
mhen!!! If u see her punnaaanii,so freshh...

I thought you had sense before but now

Jegudujera:
What shit are u guyz sayin naaa Wudn't she move o?? Life is 2 short to be cryin over split milk naa....she's got to hustle,she got mouths to feed naa

Don't mind them, as if they are the ones that will help her feed the baby of she doesn't work someone talking about over 30 and not marry, that's the type of nonsense they to those who died unto Mrs.

God bless you Tiwa

tiniyata:
the olosho instigated the whole stuff. if she had not called the man, the wife would have still been alive. so the olosho still is at fault

You're a clown. Who decided to go against his how's and cheat on his wife? Who used his hands to kill his wife? You Men need to start accepting responsibilities row your choices and actions instead of always looking for a woman to blame. If you don't blame wife it's blame mistress abi
Well Mistress will walk free while killer husband will be executed or jailed for life

deebsman1:
u follow guy go em friends house, u no wan gree am do, d dude did d needful and u r shouting rape. Do dis senseless girls even knows d meaning of rape at all. Dem even dey chat for whatsapp o...msthewwww

You are sick that is rape if you don't know

Eddygourdo:
. You see if one understands what a marriage is all about , then you will understand why its till death do us part. The till death do us part, is supposed to be a key factor in choice of a partner at the very begining. Most times its never considered. Other less mundane things such as love are considered and thus one would find him or herself in a situtaion where divorce would appear the only solution. Peeps need to know wat marriage is first and then less will marry in the first place talkless of divorce.

There must be room for flexiblity, but fact is that everyone of us has a main role in every relationship we are in. Role reversals could occur as scenarios deem fit. But we will always maintain our main roles. Eg a woman who is a beta could be the type who apologises easily to her friends when there is conflict. The first person to say am sorry is always she. While we could have a lady who wants people to apologise to her. When these two ladies get married. Which one will find it easier to conform to the traditional norm of women apologising to their husbands even if in truth they weren't in the wrong

I think you are looking at human beings in very simple terms. Most human beings are not completely dominant or completely submissive
E.g you can see a husband who laid back in everything and gives his wife free reign but when it comes to say food he is dominant. Human beings are complex and that's why adaptability is one of the essential factors in a marriage. One party can't insist on always having their way while the other party always has to always subject or else the person will revolt one day

Eddygourdo:
that is the role definition I mentioned. The omotola case as with most popular successful women. The husbands were comfortable with a role change. While teebliz was not. He envied his wife. If right from the onset he was the man in that home, tiwa would still honour him no matter wat. But he was a beta male. the glory of his wife made him feel threatened and losing the manager position made him lose control. Other men in his shoes adapted with that role reversal but he couldn't. Am sure despite omotolas success she still cooks for her husband, and even if she was the bread winner of the home , she might still cook for him because right from the onset he was a man. And took on that role.

What am saying is that we all have main roles that defines our positions, some men may not be dominant and could take on the submissiove role and yet it work for them. It should not be seen as a bad thing

What I am telling you is not all families operate like that. One spouse may be dominate in some issues and submissive in other areas he/ she knows the spouse is better at. Teebillz problem is that the girl was not handing him her paycheck. If she gave him her paycheck and didn't cook he wouldn't give a flip. All that one is story .I doubt Tiwa ever cooked much even when they were dating yet he didn't complain then, Tiwa dated those guys before he married her yet he didn't complain then. Complaints only came in after the cash cow decided she was no longer going to be a cash cow. Their issue is really not about roles but greed and people's intentions for going into a marriage

bunbit123:
Only a true loving mother will tell you that there's no home without violence. A wise woman endures and overcome.

If that's what you truly believe than I sincerely feel sorry for you Domestic violence is an anomaly and not the normal

Eddygourdo:
when an arguement comes up, a very big one where both you and ur husband feel agrieved by each other. By societal dictates every body including your mother will appeal to you to let the matter die because they say, you are a woman, man is the head etc. In many cases as observe with women who have male spirits, the mention of that angle worsens the case and thus people could end up going to the man , to say " forgive ur wife , she is but a woman" . The tendency to do this is dependent on who assumes a very dominant role irespective of societal definitions of these roles.

When I look at ur marriage , with a few lines I can define the dominant fellow there. It could be you , it could be ur husband. By identifying such a trait creates room for conflict resolution. We know whom to ask to subjugate even though he or she wasn't wrong. It could be the man. Or the woman. The ability to understaand that this role reversal I'd possible dependent on the scenario faced is very important.

By the cast version of man is husband and his word is gold. And woman is subject. How do you resolve a conflict betwen two equally right people if the nature of the woman is dominant. How do u sell her the idea of subjugation because the law says be subject to her husband. Even when in truth she is blameless

I don't come from the kind of family that brings in gender and neither does he. Arguments are settled based on reasoning. Whose idea is better? Who was in the wrong? Typically we don't even go to parents or family rather we'll speak to experts in the field that's in contention. So if it's a disagreement about investments we speak to experts and pick the best idea based on that. Gender has zero bearing in settling disputes in my world. Typical both of us will apologise to each other and acknowledge our faults and then make the best decision for us based on facts and move on.

I don't know of any law that says I must be subject to my husband and I don't believe anyone's words are gold based on the sex organs. No one's word is gold except God

For me the first thing is would he make this kind of big sacrifice for you when you need such If he is someone that would do such then you can consider his option. If he would never do the same for you then you need to think we'll. First of all don't have another baby till you are married

Every family should choose whatever works best for them. For us roles are based on who's better at that thing. Whoever is better with finances will handle the household finances, whoever is better at cooking cook's the most with the other party cooking whatever meals he/she cook's better e.t.c then the rest we Base on what we like doing. The sam way there no hard and fast rule to life is the way there is no hard and fast rule in marriage. That is why you'll see someone like Charles boy celebrating decades of marriage while some who consider him a deviant will not. Just marry someone that has the dam principles as you and don't let the world dictate how you run your home. If Omotola's husband going to the market has worked for them and resulted in decades of happy marital life it's stupid for people many of whom have not even been married for as long or even a day to criticise them

sweetcocoa:
Yea well, when you are giving your opinion, make it sound like just your opinion and not like a proven fact.

Saying women fit hold body and men no fit, is a conclusive statement and that is open to be challenged.

Gbam

Amazing how a man who not only cheated on his wife but also had a child outside the marriage while married thinks he has a right to even talk about her alleged cheating

Aquariann:
Agreed women are manipulative and can be pushy, I can't just place my hands on it, but the tone of the so called writer of this story suggest it was made up and written by a male.

More like he was trying (albeit unsuccessful) to really stress the point that after divorcing, women become losers, laughing stock, lonely, hungry etc..

Perhaps in light of the discussion about Lekan and his late wife, dude is trying to make it appear the man is the abused one.

#SayNoToAbusiveRelationships

Thank you, this is nothing but a propaganda piece written to make to make it seem like women are usually the causes of domestic violence and divorce and they will regret bit after This was clearly written by a man and in won't be surprised if it was written by one of those that have been shouting how women wanting equality is the problem in today's marriages

MRBrownJ:
again, i am simply saying that cheating (which is WRONG) makes many men OR women kill their partner as revenge (which is also WRONG).... therefore anyone cheating should be aware that death could be the outcome, at the hand of their deranged partner.

nobody should expect their partner to be "ok" when they learn about any wrong act, and instead they should accept whatever that deranged person would do as CONSEQUENCES of that wrong action.

Consequences right, when everyone starts giving out consequences how many Nigerian men will be left alive Including the hypocrite husband who impregnated another woman while married

The hypocrisy of some Nigerian men

Not only was the husband cheating by the also got someone pregnant outside his marriage that's the bastard that thinks he has a right to talk about his wife cheating

justiz5:
This man is very wicked and a disgrace to manhood, if all these allegations are true.

I therefore withdraw my harsh conclusions and unnecessary venting of anger in the other thread.
cc; fpeter

That is why it's always best to listen to the other side first. You don't expect him to come out and say he killed his wife Even if he was caught right in the act he would still deny it.

He played the slut shaming card because he knows t typical Nigerian will say she deserved it if he says she was cheating an they would pity him

You lot never ask if the man himself was cheating

bejeria101:
Let me ask you noise makers a question,if it were the other way round *if she killed her husband* will there be dis much noise? What is wrong is wrong,domestic violence is a no no,it scars everybody,man,woman,kids. Say no to domestic violence nt paying lipservice to it.

Yes there would be, there was a lot o noise when. The female banker.kille her husband. It was all over people's Facebook an social media for wee

So the bastard making noise about his wife supposedly cheating was even cheating on his wife and impregnated another woman

Cheats are always the first to rant about cheating they always think everyone is like them

Amazing how he left out the fact the he committed adultery and impregnated another woman

By the way as for this issue. Even if a thief comes to your house and you use excessive force you will go to jail
You are only meant to defend yourself to the point of ensuring your safety without doing undue damage to the attacker.

Many are in jail for killing people who tried to rob them or even rape them. The law will ask why you didn't shoot him bin the leg instead just to demobilised him. There's no way he can provide to the courts that he couldn't have gotten not of that situation with less force. Self defence does not give the right to maim people when you don't need to

cococandy:
My father is proud indeed. He didn't raise me to have low esteem. And he definitely didn't raise me to think its okay for a man to slap me in the name of resetting (oh the nerve of you).

Can I say the same for your father who raised an assholl like you? Prison candidate. Just try and slap someone and let's see if you won't be locked up with the keys tossed over 3rd mainland bridge.
Anu mpama.

I'd love to stay and do this though but I gotta go. Stop typing stupidd comments or you'll be hearing from me.

God bless you, let them keep hitting women and very soon they will be paraded and put in jail or executed like their friends. I am sure that's how that one too refused to listen till he killed his wife. Most abusers don't plan to kill their spouses but one day the beating will go wrong and they will find themselves facing the noose then they will start blaming the devil

This is the type of advice responsible for the death of many today

The Sister's family has come out to say the man even impregnated someone while married which was a bone of contention between them.

Amazing how the men who cheat the most make the most noise accusing their wives of cheating. I guess they think everyone is like they.

So he was cheating and even got someone pregnant and yet she didn't kill him

Kimoni:
This story is why some women would rather choose to stay with an abusive husband than stay out alone in the cold. Out there, they become prey to the mighty and sport for the deranged. They belong to no one and belong to everybody. It's between the devil and the deep blue sea. #sighs #Jesusfixthis

Very true, the hypocrisy when people tell women to leave bad marriages but no one wants to help them pick up their lives. For many of these women it's basically starting afresh.

For the people talking about her asking the church to use their premises to start making hair this is Naija and I doubt they will agree. They don't know her from anywhere and the same way u are s sceptical about her is the way they would be too
Infact if they know she sleeps there they may probably send her away. They would not want to be liable if anything happens and may be wary of her motives.

Let's stop speaking as if this isn't Nigeria where people are always sceptical of helping others. By the way not everyone is lucky to have a family to take them in. As an orphan , would not not surprised If most of her family members abandoned her since not wanting extra responsibilities

johnson232:
hmmmm... prophetess of doom...
@bold nothing of such will happen... the man only did what he is suppose to do as a man...

can't u foresee something good madam?

She's saying the truth, must of the wife an husband killers caught recently didn't plan to kill their spouse. It was a case domestic violence gone wrong. All it take is fine the beating to go wrong on day a one spouse is dead and the other is facing death roll.

He didn't do it he was supposed to do as much man ( or woman sef if it wa the reverse case).what he needs to do was get away from that woman rather than allow her turn him into a monster. If he accidently kills her one day the law will not care about all this story . Man or woman, Rather than hit someone back, run for your own sake

KoldKash:
Now you sound like an cool headed woman-the type that draws love out of a man.

How did you manage to comment like that before now.seeing that the woman in the post was into slapping and abusing her man since 3years ago.and the one time the man sought to put her to check resulted in an unintended outcome.you mercilessly called for his head. He seems a nice man to have beared her that long.the nicest of man/woman breaks at some point, so the secret is to chose someone who can't bend you that hard.I am sincerely sorry that I tongue-lashed at you.

You are right. Many men are also verbally abusive e.g Teebillz telling Tiwa everyday that he made her and see how you looked when I met you none of these guys here complained about that but if a woman says that to a man we will be hearing how the effect of such words are damaging. If a woman said that to anybody these guys they would have opened 100 threads about how women are evil an hold everything over your head and try to mess with your self esteem. Apparently It's always alright when it's a man doing the abusing either verbal or physical according to this bunch

JustHere2Observ:
I don't see the reason in educating a house help you are paying to take care of your house. You pay the agent 60k/ year or more sef depending on where you get them, then you have to enroll them in school? Its not realistic in this economy. If I must send my help to school, then I won't have to pay her family or agents any fee.

That Is why you have no business employing a child as a maid. Children are not meant to be in full tim employment so most people who get children under 18 as maids say oh it's a way to help their parents, like a foster thing. If that is the case you must ensure the child gets an education and also gets study time. As far as I'm concerned using children as maids is wickedness and if you say its foster parenting then better be ready to act as a parent to that child. How a child be under your roof and you will be comfortable with her not getting an education

At Op, I hope hope chores you listed is for an adult and not a child. It would be evil to expect any child to take on all that.

If It's an adult, can you work all week without at least a day off No so why should you expect that of anyone else. Everyone need time to wind off away from work or else how do you expect her to get bitter and disgruntled

Who has ever true the food processor pounded yam ? How was it pls

That's why when people say what did she say blah blah I lol you've never seen a real wife beater. Even the woman breathing is enough to slap her.