₦airaland Forum

noblegrex:
there they go again. Always trying to compete with men. Well,sorry is their case.Nothing. On EARTH can change the fact that MEN are MEN and will remain. That's how it was,that's how it is and that's how it'll continue to be till end of Earth.Besides the topic is talking about what ladies does that provokes or can upset a man to punch her.. Well,I don't have that nerve and I don't pray for such provocations. Shi ke na.

Stay there and be deceiving your self. Women are now giving just as good as you guys dish out. The lawyer in Ibadan killed her husband for having a child outside that he didn't tell her about. So don't worry keep beating and killing women for flimsy reasons and wait for the repercussions. The same way you guys were cheating for decades and now the women don pass you sef. Nothing like Men will be men, stop using that to justify bad behaviour
Don't worry when a woman also kills her husband for cheating we will tell you that women will always be women

cr7lomo:
What makes him a real man .... Because he has fooli..shly agreed with ur unreasonable post...I wunt b surprised if this seun guy is gay

Yeah yeah, your same old pathetic yarns. Slut shame women and call men who don't support your misogynist views gay. It's boring now, try and find something more original okay

dicefrost:
Lol so when you get soldiers to break your husband's leg, you ll return to the marriage and live happily ever after?

Return to a wife beater when am not mad. When I have my money lol. Only Mumu women stay with wide beaters. They will cripple his ass and I'll be gone. In his life he will never even look at another woman with side eyes sef

bezimo:
I am not the one involved, I can never be involved because I would never do that, I believe there are mother ways to addressing this issue without assault. So don't address your submissions as if its me that is involved.
However, you must be aware that not all men are gentle men and easy going who would want a divorce when unwanted behaviour is displayed by their wife, we know there are men who are not gentle and not easy going and these class of men may react by assaulting their partners when provoked by one of the triggers pointed by the Op.

There are men who beat their wives for even the way she carries things, she looked at him somehow blah blah. A beast is a beast and that's why women need to give themselves a brain and leave on he hits her once


Yes not all men are gentle the same way not all women are gentle and that's why some women will also killed their husbands for cheating. I guess those men too deserve it. When Women start retaliating in the ways they know how on wife beaters you lot will know what's up

dicefrost:
If you are married to a lazy man, quietly pack your load and leave. But if you choose to remain married and attempt to usurp his authority, he ll beat the crap out of you, and our twisted society will take his side. Its not a war you can win

I'm not the type of woman any man can beat. I have solders on speed dial that will paralyse him for life. It's all those women that let coward wife beaters get away with it that are at fault. When they break his legs once in his life he will never lift a finger to another woman

bezimo:
Control is relative and differs from person to person, while some men may take abuses and insults from their wives or react without assaulting their wives others may certainly not.Thats a fact.

Law or no law, when people relate with their wife, they are not consious of the law, they act on impulse, their temperament, and control ability.

Women killing their husband for whatever reason through poison and other methods have occured in our society so it doesnt follow if women might act in the same manner.

I am never going to justify assault against any lady, no matter the reasons but we must understand the triggers of such animalistic behaviour from some men towards their partners.One of which like the Op pointed is careless, abusive and hurtful words.

And when Women kill their cheating husbands will OP say men are at fault for killings? It's ridiculous to blame the victim. At the end of the day it's up to you how to react to anything.

That other bankers husband now will be killed and so will this guy because of their inability to control themselves and so will the woman who killed her husband. Anyone who can't control themselves deserves to end up in jail or get a death sentence
If you can control yourself with a solider, you can control yourself with your spouse. Get a divorce rather than ruin both your lives and your childrens

olaide92:
@toks2008 please can you help us to dig in about the case in Ibadan about the woman who killed her husband

She's also a beast and no one is defending her. She also killed him because he had a child outside. That's why were saying if everyone starts killing because of cheating how many Nigerian men will survive?

bakynes:
You are right my brother, you see all these small small boiz that have not been involved with crazy women are the ones saying " no matter what never hit a woman" if woman frustrate your life reach one level dem no go tell you before you beat am. Woman go destroy your car wey u sufer buy, go destroy vital documents and you go tell me make i no beat am, men Bleep that slogan. Me wey i always say no matter what i wont beat a woman my ex gf after all her troubles i was pushed to the wall when she tore my original car papers, i used my belt on her.

No one is saying some women are not troublesome. We are saying breakup with them or divorce them. What if while beating her with a belt you hit her on her head or she fell against the wall and died? You will forever be a murderer and killed yourself. Is that what you want? Many of those who killed their spouses never planed to but that's the thing about domestic abuse it's one day the beating will go wrong and then you've ruined your life

noblegrex:
it will be too hard for kids to understand the things of aged peeps. So many kids in here can't understand your points..thumbs up for you cos you've got points to prove.any of the above can provoke a man. I don't pray for shits to happen but as quiet as I can be,I'm not sure of what I'll do to my wife if she's found cheating...

And if the husband is found cheating? Can she go ahead and poison him too? Just wait until women start killing men for cheating too. Let's see how many Nigerians will be left

kevinberry:
verbal abusers are cowards who only have mouth when it comes to men.. I don't know about other people,but if you should abuse me,I will attack you,if verbal abuse is not an offensive,then the word and abusive words should better be scrapped from the dictionary

An men don't verbally abuse their wives too? When a solider abuses you beat him or els you are a big coward .

No one will go to jail for verbal abuse but you will be jailed for physical assault . That's th law so deal

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josite:
j am yet to beat the first woman but minus a heavily pregnant woman ,I know if a woman really provokes me I will not neat her but I will give her one strategic heavy slap on the cheek that will make her shut up permanently and forever snap her out of her default abusive mode.believe me I'm too educated with a PhD.I remember one mad female hod that will break into cold sweat whenever she sees me.being feminine is knowing how to use your tongue to speak life .many wives will still die cos they won't learn. learnt one jus got killed for being overheard by her hubby telling her boss/lover her pussy is paining her after their four days Bleep in abuja.u guys u beta pray not to marry miss ehin my jabe lo oloriburuku somebody cum bank marketer.

And many husbands will be killed by hanging or firing squad because they don't learn. Kill your wife an then you get killed.

PHD does not mean you are educated . So because the man say that against a woman that isn't alive to defend herself makes it true? Sh said all that to him then he went t buy both of them food and wanted to make love to her according to him. Does that make any sense to you?

bezimo:
That must be an exception, more often than not careless words were what triggered such violent behaviours from the men who did such acts against their women.

There is no such thing in law and will never be . It's up to you to control yourself when some says something offensive

If a solider insults you, won't you control yourself? You would only hit a woman that you are physically stronger than showing you are a coward .

Many husband also verbal abuse the wives doe that mean the woman can poison him if she can't beat him or get thugs to beat him?

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huntax:
This is complete BS. Let me give an instance.

Assuming you live with your father(maybe ur mum lives abroad). You work, ur father also works... Would u come back from work and tell ur dad he also needs to join u in the kitchen to help out with washing plates?
Let me also remind you, once u get married, u will have to respect your husband like you respect your father.
I'm not saying u should kneel to greet him or anything like that, but really respect him.
The husband is always the head of the house, that is a gift from God. He will only help out in the kitchen if he wants to, but he doesn't HAVE to.
All that respect would only go out the window the day he raises his hand against u (as he has clearly disrespected you too).

He doesn't have to help he around the house but sh must help him pay bill abi and even in som cases be the breadwinner? What then does he bring to the marriage!

Imagine you are a woman, you wake up earlier to cook and get kids ready for school and then head to work where you spend the same hours as your husband or even more. You get home home have to cook and tak care of kids while he sits his ass around doing nothing. Abeg which of those 2 is no the weaker sex?! Can anyone b happy with such? ? Yet that woman will pay half of the bi or even more

bezimo:
Assault against a woman is never right and must never be tolerated, but it seems some women invite such animalistic behaviour on themselves.

I heard someone say, A man that beats his wife is a fool, but the wife is the bigger fool because according to him, you know your husband is angry yet you continue to insult or talk back at him.Then he becomes provokes and losses control and comportement.Then Assualt beginning with slap follows untill the wife is battered then she keeps quiet.
Later the cycle is repeated.

I've witnessed a case before where the woman didn't say a word yet the husband kept beating her . It's like the more she didn't talk the angrier he got. So never assume that all women battered must have responded.

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kevinberry:
Every body is calming the all knowing on the internet..

Domestic violence is mostly the result of verbal abuse,you all can insult the op from now till tomorrow it won't change anything,we have been more vocal against violence towards women,what about verbal abuse towards men..until we give the same attention we give to domestic violence towards women to verbal. Abuse towards men,nothing will change,we will just keep on going in circles,repeating same mistakes,a woman insult another lady,which result in both of them exchanging blows,every one keeps quiet the sme thing happen but this time to a man the man attacked her everyone start calling him a beast...

Two things I won't take from a lady,verbally abusing me and physical assault,in my world you griping my shirt alone is an assault either male or female...

Equity over equality

Verbal abuse is Not Punishable by law but physical abuse is. That man man or woman insult you can never give you the right to hit the person.

If a solider insults you will you dare hit him? That shows domestic abuser are cowards who only have power when it's a woman

ucheHapers:
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

The point is once you sa th victim is to blame rather than the perpetrators then everything else is crap .

It's like starting a thread titled " 6 Facts to show Victims of Armed Robbery are to Blame "

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has an autopsy been done to find out cause of her death?
was there signs of beaten on the body?
what if she slip on the stairs , we are always to quick to judge .

The police already said there were signs of violence on her body.

greenify:
I seriously condemned the killing by the husband. Truely we don't know how the wife died but the husband is still a suspect. This is because the husband is the last living being dat was with her before and after her death.
This is what conjugal infidelity can cause in a marriage. The husband is claiming the wife cheated on him.This mite be true or false. The husband sef must have cheated on her but what most women do not know is dat d mind set of a man cheating is totally different from d mind set of a woman cheating. A man can cheat on his wife and still love her but a woman can not. When a woman is having extra marital affairs outside, it means d woman doesn't love her husband again.
Truth should be told. Both husband and wife are responsible for whatever happens in a marriage but women are d cause of most and they do not know. Men need to have patience with their wife because this new generation wives are something else. Almost all men will have bad story to say about their wife am also a victim of this but we men need to manage our home so dat it will not end in tragedy.

Who told you a woman cant have an affair and love her husband? A woman can also have an affair strictly for sex and not affect the love for her husband since according to you one can have an affair and still love their spouse. What if the man is impotent o just bad in bed, the woman can have an affair strictly for sex.

By the way continue with the usual blaming of women. So women are to be blamed abi
When the man is cheating and the woman is cheating, it still only the woman's fault abi.

Don't worry when Women decide to start killing all cheating husbands you will see. If your spouse is cheating why can't you leave th marriage ? Does cheating give you the right to take anyone's life
How many men will be left standing if cheating was an excuse for killing

Akposkool:
This world is not funny anymore.
My observations
If what the man is saying Is true then the lady was at fault. Why is it that managers like to sleep with employees even when they know the ladies are married.
That manager should be arrested.
Mr shonde was wrong to be beating up his wife. I hate men that lay hands on women. It is disgusting but truth be told some women like to provoke people.
There is no justification for him killing the woman so he should come out and face the penalty.
Ladies must stick with their husbands. If you know he can't satisfy you then why marry him when your pusssy is so wide like a river and deep like a bore hole,?
May God bless us with good wives that will benefit our lives and that our dicks can fit their pusssy.
For the ladies, may God also bless you with good husbands that won't turn you into a punching bag.

Does that mean women can also go ahead and start killing their cheating husbands

He caught her talking to her lover then went to buy food for both of them to eat

This man is a Liar and a demon. The police have said there were marks on her body that say violence was involved. Who put them there? This man's first wife left him because he was beating her. That one too was cheating abi he will surely pay for his crimes

You heard her talking to her lover on the phone according to you. You were so wounded then you went ahead to buy food for her and yourself to eat

This man is a bastard liar. Ask him what happened to his first wife Sola She left him because he was beating her

This is a case of domestic abuse gone wrong. All of you beating your spouses one day they will just die on you and the same for you putting up with abuse.

Listen to the unrepentant bastard

Nigerian Police this animal is boasting that he can hide in Lagos for 30 years evil demon

So you bought the food you both ate after catching he talking to her lover

All you guys saying crap, does that sound like something plausible. Can you say you were so wounded by hearing your wife talk to her lover then you went to buy food for both of you to eat

This man is a bloody liar. The autopsy revealed bruises on her neck and other parts of her body yet you say you didn't beat her

Nigerian Police, the bastard is even bragging that he can hide in Lagos for 30years and no one will catch him this man is a seasoned killer.

All of you saying rubbish about cheating, if women start killing cheating husbands how many of you would be alive

bukaldrinio:
Na all these bankers sleeping around all in the name of marketing...........I think the man couldn't control it any more

Always blaming the victim do you know the poor woman from anywhere to say such about her If your wife is sleeping around why not get a divorce Is that any excuse for beating someone. Do women hire people to beat their cheating husbands? If you are not happy in your Marriage take a walk rather than laying your filthy hands on your spouse. Now he will be killed also when found guilty. Who has benefitted from this?

All you women beaters and men beaters should know that all it takes to kill someone is one sudden shove. You may have been beating your spouse everyday and getting away with it forgetting that all it takes for the person to die is one day.

Awww nice

missyadorable:
I will do no such thing..Even if my husband is okay with adoption,i wil not allow it....i divorce him,let him have his own kids

I was trying to quote benedicta

mygee2:
is obvious wat she meant

Is it only muslim men that marry 2 wives Traditional worshippers also do so and some other religions She's just talking about the fact that some men who think it's okay to marry multiple wives are now having a fit over the woman taking a cue from them

EroticAngelina:
oh buh its okay for men to marry more than one wife
hypocrites

Don't mind them, they can't take what they dish out

@benedicta
You can take him on a visit to an orphanage , see if that him click with one of the children and change his mind. If that doesn't change his mind then sorry but you need need let it go. You can pray and leave it, let him be the one to approach you if he wants it's after that. The last thing an adopted child needs is one parent whose heart is not in it

DMerciful:
She said the truth....its better to adopt when you don't have urs cos the begotten children might claim more legitimacy in d course of time

If that's the case don't bother to adopt. So if the person later now has kids nko By your logic they will then start treating the adopted child badly

Real love is irrespective of if it's a biological child or an adopted one. A person with real love in their hearts will live both the same. The minute you adopt the child he / she become your child fully. Being a real parent goes beyond DNA or the process of giving birth

Excellentmind:
Tiwa, you have the blame for allowing third party in between you. You accepted the advice of those who couldn't succeed in the journey of life. One doesn't give what one doesn't have. The day you condescended to the pressure of sacking Tee Billz as your manager was the day you technically took the war path without knowing it. Although, it's not late. You can still amend your way. Don't join that association of single mothers!

How about you blame th shameless wife that stole money from his wife even though sh was paying him far more that most managers here get. Blame Teebillz fo wanting to live above his means an trying to ruin their hardworking woman. If th poor girl went broke na your type go abuse her

And actually she w already a single mother. There are many married women that are actually single mothers like Tiwa .a man that has never paid one naira for his own child I not worthy to the called a husband . Before she had 2 babies sh was fending for so better now she's not wasting her money on a irresponsible man

Why didn't you lot come out and say this when Teebillz attacked her first Hypocrite if it's it's someone wants to destroy won't you fight for yourself. No one care when it was Tiwa getting dragged because she's a woman abi. Wo from now on any man that tries such rubbish expect even worse no more of covering for men who want to ruin their wives

Why didn't you lot come out and say this when Teebillz attacked her first Hypocrite if it's it's someone wants to destroy won't you fight for yourself. No one care when it was Tiwa getting dragged because she's a woman abi. Wo from now on any man that tries such rubbish expect even worse no more of covering for men who want to ruin their wives

She only became an ambassador when t baby was already some months old. So since birth and ambassador won't the baby wear pampers

Na just common sense