₦airaland Forum

sukkot:
i have seen a few. you think men like general idiagbon and buharis wives will disobey them because they earn less ? study those two men - very strong and principled and carry themselves with dignity and have an aura of authority and seriousness about them. you think because one uselesss woman has a few more dollars than them she will have the balls to talk anyhow to idiagbon and buhari ? so like i said - a man has to be very dignified and upright and strong and principled and no woman even if she earns more will disrespect you. see the problem is yall meeting weak men who you can boss around.

Anyone earnings more than you is already your boss. If you are not weak go make money or shut up an accept she's your superior same way Dangote is your superior.

keepingmum:
First he blames Tiwa for his misfortune
Then he blames Tiwa's mum for his misfortune
Then he blames his own father for his misfortune

Mr Teebilz? Where is your sense of responsibility in any of these? I know for a fact this isnt a publicity stunt as they have both been silent on each others grams for a couple weeks. I also know they have been separated for a while.

What we have here is a classic case of a boy child who has refused to grow into a man. He will rather blame everyone for his problems than accept responsibility

This is a guy with 2 kids prior to his marriage with Tiwa. Why couldnt those relationships work? He blames his father
Why couldnt his relationship with Tiwa work? He blames his mother in law

Even to the point of saying she hasnt asked him what he will eat in 3 years? Seriously Yet in the same sentence says she has been the breadwinner. Please the food you eat who provides it? The money you spend to eat out who provides it? What have you done, Mr "I am the husband and Lord of the House" to remedy the situation? They have been married for 2years and if she didnt cook for you in 3 yrs then clearly you have nothing to complain about cos she had been doing that pre marriage so wetin con be the problem?

This is what Linda Ikeji said when she wrote that often times, ,when men have nothing to say they body shame a woman by saying she is sleeping around. Maybe she did sleep with these men but is it also possible all these happened whilst she was dating these single men?

Is Teebilz going to say he didnt sleep with any lady before marrying Tiwa.

Boy you need to growwwwww the efff up and face up to your responsibilities. You are crying online because your wife no give you food chop. This guy married Tiwa cause she was an upgrade from his babymamas!!! Classic gold digger who is now crying fowl because sugarmama stopped his monthly stipends.

Take alook at the "romance" section of nairaland and you ll see a whole generation of self entitled boy childs "reporting" their other halves for not doing whatever.

May GOD help these generation of men that think its okay for a woman to be the breadwinner

Very soon he will blame the baby sef. A man that refuses to accept responsibility for his life is a joke

cococandy:
There's so many ignorant asses about on this topic. As if anyone gives a shyt who wears the pants in their homes.

I always wondered why Nigerians are so afraid of Gender equality then I saw it's because th men are afraid to lose their "superiority " to their wives are the woman think their husband will kick them out or men won't marry them if they dare say they support gender equality.

The other funny thing Is how Nigerians love to quote quote Bible to suit themselves. I don't know where they saw that a woman should submit to every man on the road

Also funny that the adulterers and fornicators like Foluke who married another woman's husband and divorced her ex husband are suddenly quoting Bible. Apparently Foluke. The Adulteress.is now a saint in the eyes of Nairaland men because she doesn't support gender equality which clearly she doesn't even understand. I am sure the same Foluke.would never want her Driver to think he's superior to her just because he has a Penis

The mistake those women on Instagram made is they should have calmly explained what gender equality actually means. Nigerians need need first be educated on what gender equality actually means

lexyclasy:
Before AmosIjeoma and Chichimandi will attack Foluke in the dream, they should first of all seek the true meaning of the word GENDER......after that they can go and attack God for using only one rib from ADAM numerous ribs to make EVE.....God say as he is the head of the church, MAN is the head of the family......the issue of Gender equality to me is funny unless they want to reverse God ordinances......I-STAND-WITH-FOLUKE on this, women who doesn't want it that way should do the needful just like SATAN did and be cast away.....children of DEMONS

Gender equality is not about marriage. We are talking about the fact that no man should ever think he he superior to any woman except the woman except the one he married if she's okay with that. The submission story ends In your home. In society every human being must b equal regardless of gender or financial status. That is what Gender equality is about

It's obvious that Foluke and many here do not even understand t meaning of gender equality
Gender equality is not about marriages, operate your marriage in whatever way you wish but outside your home every women on the road is equal to every on the road.

Those talking about the Bible, pls note that the Bible only mentions a woman submitting to her husband and not every man on the road. We are talking about equality in society at large and not marriages

2good:
If a woman cannot take care of the financial need of her home, what is the point spending money on the girl child education? Women claim to be equal to men except when it comes to the time for responsibilities.

Men claim to be superior to women except when it comes to women paying bills. The woman will be the breadwinner yet the man won't help around the house because he will claim certain chores are beneath him If you argue that we are equals then no problem we will gladly pay bills since you will then pitch in with cooking and everything else. You can't except any woman to be happy to be the bread winner and still the one in charge of chores and kids. What then is such a man bringing to the table

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pattybf:
it has come to the point I have to voice out. my 4yrs old son has become so sturbbon I find it difficult to handle him.

this boy doesn't listen to any scolding or threatening. I have used every way possible to talk to him to no avail. before I used to pet him, but I saw he wasn't responding well to dat. now I have to shout, threaten n beat him but d case is still the same.

u can't see him sit at a place for a moment, he is either climbing, destroying or pulling down something. I have even stopped helping him wt his homework as he will never pay attention, I have told his teacher to let him do them in class.

eating time is d same, he takes a spoon n run around n will never eat half of his food.

I am now almost d enemy of almost every mother in d compound bc of him, each time he's out playing wt other kids, it must result to fight n I have to defend him! even his younger bother is not safe around him.

I must always let him have his way, otherwise he will cry and scream all day until I get tired n let it go.

he leaves n comes back from school by school bus by 6am n comes back 6to 7pm, I was thinking of changing his school next session, since all my complains to d school hasn't changed anything, cos I think d time is too long for him. but the truth is that those hrs r my only peaceful times.

I love him a lot but the tot of his behaviour makes me very angry.

pls mothers n counsellors, who can advice me on how to tame this boy!

You don't have to defend him when he is wrong or when he started the fight. You are enabling his bad behavior by doing that , if my child starts a fight or is mean to another child, I will apologize to the parents and ask him to apologize to the child. Then I'll make sure I punish him in front of everyone. Boys especially hate to be disgraced in front of their peers , when my son was reported for bullying I told him I would come to his school and best him in front of everyone if he dared to do such again. You should have seen the turn around, this is a boy who doesn't care if you meet him in private but to disgrace him in school

The other thing is when he misbehaves take away privileges , take away toys , games or anything he loves for some days and if he doesn't apologize or does it again I'll give a treat to his sibling and leave him out . I don't beat again I just take things away and when you do well you get rewards. Many kids just become more stubborn with beating.

You are right we have to do a better job raising the men of the next generation. As a mother if my daughter in law tells me my son beat her, I will personally get soilders to flog him, since he wants to fight let him go head to head with a fellow man rather some silly mothers will start blaming the wife and making excuses for their son. As a mother my goal is for my future daughter-in-law to thank me for raising a good man who respects women.

mallamseifaldin:
Lol!!!

Nobody can treat us like trash in Lagos.

They killed 3 of you and no Yoruba casualty

Firstlieutenant:
O boy are you just coming? E be like you no know Yorobbers and cowardice! Hausa people go even chase them commot from their land. Remember the case of Kwara state!

You mean when 3 Hausas were killed whi Yoruba suffered no casualties....lmao cowards indeed

dialfa:
See cowardice. Did he see any open shop today?

Is that all he can do? Close already closed shops! Yollobba, sorry.

**** save your sorry for the Hausas killed

So , Hausas are the ones with casualties. those calling Oba for what what when his boys are winning

According to the reports 3 Hausas are dead . Who are the people saying cowards

Hiss who ask them them advice

Front page pls. Op pls send to the blogs also

It's not by chest beating

But no new ones. Osinbajo.was right

Exactly I keep hearing pedophile and they are referring to an 18 year old from what have heard. That does not qualify as pedophile

uplawal:
Sharia supersede all sundry,the national assembly knos this,they only trying to manipulate you,in the north though but lesser or minute in the southwest and it would be from the thick yoruba salafee or up kogi.

Sharia ko, Sharia ni. Didn't the IG go and get the girl when he was compelled to. Is she not on her way up Bayelsa now? they are usually afraid to but when people speak out they have no choice, the Nigerian law will always supersede. It's more about Nigerian police having no regard for the common man. Abeg there Is nothing like in that in the SW o, the Nigerian Secular law is supreme

sweetgala:
You feel pained because you don't like the truth in his statement.

Could he have avoided that messy pool yes, do we know PDP and GEJ were a failure yes, over 9 months ago we decided to exit that failure state. Does APC need to get some of their own steam and move us ahead yes.

Did the VP LIE about new roads - NO

Gbam

uplawal:
Abeg na early hormonal love and the sweetest in life.

The north some of the highest numbers of divorce. It's stupid to expect those child to make a lifelong decision. when the hormones settle eyes will clear and then it's too late. Many Northerner women are divorcess by their 20s .

Anyways they should let psychologists talk to the child and help her move forward. If she insist on marrying him she must be made to wait till at least 18. As for the boy even If it wasn't kidnap maybe a trip to juvenile home so next time he will stay away from young girls and wait till she's 18.

uplawal:
The sharia council do marry off if the reverted lady is from kuffar family,only muslims to muslims you must get consent except the guy just feel like to consent them, he is not mandatory to ask consent from kuffar parent until they(parent) are muslim faithfuls.

What's kuffar? You will marry someone's child a minor without parental permission? As one of the Ministers has said the Nigerian law supercedes very culture, she's a Northerner and Muslim by the way. you cannot marry a minor without parental consent and even then it depends on age, you can't marry a child of any age just because some illiterate or greedy parents gave consent.

uplawal:
so u will abort ur daugter pregnancy than to marry her off?

She can have the baby but I will never marry her to an abductor if indeed he is one. Even If he isn't she too young to get married. Children don't know what's best for them it up to the parents .

My own is let's find out If it's abduction or lovers gone wrong. Because if she ran away on her own the parents must counsel her to let her know she needs to wait in order to avoid a repeat. Either way a 14 year old getting married is a no no.

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MsGlobalwonder:
Conflicting report from the girl? Because of the video/audio by premium times? After hypnotising her and making her act under duress. You talk as though you don't know a child will act as ordered under duress or a promise. *sigh. How far sultan of sokoto's abduction of Patience Paul? She "eloped" too abi? *smh! quote author=Mamatee07 post=43402132]I

The conflicting report is from the girl herself which is why many people are paying attention. Do you know what she may ba e gold the Emir? Children have been known to run away from home because they don't feel safe there. This child keeps saying she doesn't want to go home so anyone with brains and without bias should ask questions.

Let the police investigate without all the tribalism and religious bias you then public has put in . The child needs to be interviewed on her own without any influence to know what the situation is.

Like every case in the country they are 2 separate issues and both should be investigated. The fact that you want to lump them together shows your bias. What do they have in common but tribe. have we not had cases of such incidences from the same tribe and religion. Stop trying to make it into some conspiracy, we have child rape and abduction from each tribe and religion everyday. Each case must be investigated on its own

Th point of the police investigating is to see if there is indeed any brain washing. Let a psychologist see her instead of everyone playing psychologist from their home. All I care about is that they get to the root of this matter and stop politicising it.

You are saying it under duress like you know for sure. Have you not seen young girls in love make stupid choices and they will will sure of their conviction.

I am not blaming the victim but trying to be sure what happened and what she wants. What if it's even at home she getting abused and that why she wants to go away . Plus If she went on her own and they don't find out why she will still run away again. She's in the best position to give a real account

Say the truth if this was another Christian boy would you say it's under duress or she's hypnotised or would you ask more questions

uplawal:
I just tire for people,what if shes pregnant,will the parent abort it?they should just let her be and marry her off,na dowry den wann get.and in islam dowry is for ese not parent.she don chop her dowry.

If she's pregnant and it's proven to be kidnap he should be jailed. I'm not saying they should just let a 14year old get married, I would not allow that for my child.

My point is what really happened? Is this really a case of kidnap or 2 young ones that need to be chastised. Let people see them a 2 people an leave out tribe and religion.

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MsGlobalwonder:
Lool and out of the plenty reports out there, you choose to believe the "conflicting report" whatever that means. What is conflicting in taking away a child of 13yrs away without the parent's consent? What is so conflicting in the reports written by the parents of the child? Oh, you slyly forgot to see that the parents have been parading the Emir's palace since last year and they keep telling them their child is now married and now a Muslim? What is conflicting in that? If it was just "eloping" like you all trying to forcefully make the victim the villain, why wasn't she released immediately the parents got involved? Oh... you think the parents just got involved yesterday? What is so conflicting about the video of the parents screaming that Ese wasn't released because of the Emir. What is so conflicting about the inspector General's initial statement that Ese will be released at the Emir's order? Do you even know the Powers of the emir? He can't give an order and it won't be carried out to the latter!! Sanusi lied! Forget about the forged letter/report he keeps posting online, he can't truly issue an order and it won't be carried out for 8 months!! People!!! Arghhh. Oh, you will rather believe a concocted audio and video of premium times trying so hard to make it seem like she went away with her lover? Ese's parents insist their daughter can't speak another language fluently, not even their native language, and in the video; Ese is allegedly speaking Hausa fluently, isn't that enough justification that she was hypnotised? You don't need more that 2weeks to brainwash a child, she is acting her age and the script she was told to do under duress. Why do you think a child will go on a suicide bombing attack without looking back? Yeah, she must have been hypnotised. Why ain't you seeing it in that light? Why are you people trying to shield wickedness? What will you say about the recent one of the Sultan of sokoto? It's the girl's fault too? You don't see a trend? Or you wanna wait until your child becomes the victim! Stop politicising wickedness, it may be your turn tomorrow. Arghhhh!

The conflicting report is from the girl herself which is why many people are paying attention. Do you know what she may have told the Emir? Children have been known to run away from home because they don't feel safe there. This child keeps saying she doesn't want to go home so anyone with brains and without bias should ask questions.

Let the police investigate without all the tribalism and religious bias you the public has put in . The child needs to be interviewed on her own without any influence to know what the situation is.

You may want to read up about hypnosis. Hypnosis cannot make someone start speaking another language fluently. You are an educated person, does that make any sense to you? Many thing don't make sense with story and Nigerians love to just attribute everything to superstition instead of asking intelligent questions. clearly she ha probably been meeting him before behind her parents back and he may have been teaching her his language showing they've spent plenty of time together . There is more to this story and bias is making people jump to conclusions.

They are background questions to know if any of those things may have contributed. Some women get depression after childbirth, miscarriages e.tc. Those hormonal changes that come with pregnancy and periods can affect women and your job is to know if you are under stress

In some hospitals nurses will ask those standard questions and fill the forms to pass on to the doctor with your case file.

igivefuck4free:
But what if she says no?

Then it's no, it's her that will do most of the work involving the guest. You want your wife to the upset over a stranger? Makes no sense. If she gives him attitude now you'll be upset. It's her home just like yours both of you must agree before any visitor can come over

Sarang:
She won't because she's a good woman.
Your type are the people that remain in an abusive relationship for marriage namesake.
If my husband cheats on me,heaven knows thats the end.
That woman she has a kind heart and this husband of hers is just poo.

Im surprise to see some women still thinks themselves as nothing in this century.

She thinks every woman will accept rubbish just to be Mrs. She's a disgrace to women, a woman with very low self esteem. That's the type that makes these men think they can do anything

TijaniAbu:
How much of our money did Diploma Kemi Adeosun use to hire OP to scour Internet for pics of dignitaries? DipKem the untidy is now comparing herself to the Queen of England? Wonders shall never cease. Rubbish Change.

The original thread was the one that compared her to these same people, Op is simply pointing out the fallacy. Use your brain, you are not eve fit to be her houseboy

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MsGlobalwonder:
Obiagelli!!! Your partisanship is painful to you yourself but he who pays the piper dictates it's tune. How can you for the life of me claim that about a CHILD, a minor for God's sake! Where is your conscience? Do you need a witch to tell you the things that would have transpired within the 8months? What rightful decisions were you able to take at 13? That's with a clear head oo and not after being hypnotised. How can you even think of saying this? Do you have a girl child? Do you plan to have any? Will you make this same political statement of Emir of Kano forcefully rapes,kidnap,marry and convert your daughter to Islam? Woow!!! It's really a sick world. Yoruba will say" ouhun to o fe je ko je ki ogbon". *sigh

Her point is there are many conflicting reports which suggest things are not as they seem. First of all she's 14 and yes she a minor but the boy too Is apparently 18 so it's not the same as the Emir taking a child. this Is not the case of one old man kidnapping a child rather This is more of older boy, younger girl. Many reports are saying this girl went voluntarily with lover boy. Many people believe this is a case of young lovers running away together. People should stop adding all their religious and ethnic bias and let's ask what really happened.

If it really that they went together both of them should be cautioned. His parents should have sent her back to her parents and asked them to wait till they are old enough. This girl seems like she will still run away to meet the boy even after returned home. Let the parents sit together and caution their children and let not be quick to make it . Political or religious issue.

If they were from the same tribe and religion you and I know people will not b commenting like this.
Clearly people are biased.

Why are we not talking about the "religious leaders" labelling these poor children as witches. These cases will continue until the root cause is dealt with