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I will tell her politely that I am not prepared to wash for her at the moment,maybe next time,but there will not be a next time. Those type of mother in laws smell of trouble,they will never give you a breathing space once you eventually get married to their son.

So the one you are telling your husband is not Important to him Once you see any picture of her delete them immediately don't waste anytime. And tell him sternly that you would not like to see his ex pictures in his phone again,that it gives you nightmares.

You are being insensitive, I'm sure you know that. She is not the cause of her sickness, you have to try and support her in anyway.
Your husband may just be supporting you,but deep within him,he must be thinking of how selfish you can be,remember, no condition is permanent.

Story......
But they eat more than everybody.

His honesty and bluntness,says what he thinks ,dose not sugarcoat words.

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Your wife harsh sha,
Visit a medical specialist in that aspect, not just any doctor, you will definitely get cured.

Ewuro4:
Thank you Onegai, But you didn't touch up on OP's main question/inquiry. Expectations and steps in regards to big move like this.

After all , people still thrive in same 'messy' Nigeria no? Abi no be same Naija una dey live? Abi no be same Naija una dey take music lessons and still have time for yourselves? I'm talking REAL day to day LIFE please.

Nigeria is not liveable huh, same Nigeria folks (an average citizen) build houses from ground up with raw cash?

Go to Haiti and smell the real coffee. Koburu God dey.

Nice post, Nigeria is very liveable.

And you are still calling him "my husband" someone that doesn't regard you as anything. .How often does he act violent outside, or is it only when it concerns you.

The family must be as bad as their son
You alone know how you can help yourself, don't wait untill you are killed.

By the way hope your little surgery is not as a result of his maltreatment?

A nagging man I must say,too proud to care for himself and his child.

You must tell him about how you feel,You cannot solve your problem by not discussing it with him,he might even be unaware of the extent in which his words and actions are hurting you.

You've bottled it up for too long,now is time for you to spill it as it is, if you want to be happy you must first tell him everything that is making you unhappy, you can write it down if you can express yourself better to him that way.

You must ensure he listens to you,everything will be okay in the long run nobody is perfect.
As for you everything he complains to you concerning your appearance be ready to improve for his sake,it will make you feel more better about yourself.
As for the chores get help,stop stressing yourself too much. Life is not as difficult as you make it.

At OP,how close are you to the man? do you want to become a second wife to him or help him bear the son? Just asking because all you talked about here is what the man wants.

As a female, you have to know that childbearing is not easy for some people, you are not in the labour room with her and you don't know what she went through .
Only the woman can determine what she went through and if her body can withstand and survive another pregnancy,delivery and caring for the child.

cococandy:
You're welcome.

The bolded is bollocks. I'm resisting the urge to roll my eyes right now.

Just stop with the superstition and fixation on imaginary witchery. You're the one giving yourself nightmares.

Stop already. You're just a ripe candidate for one pastor to bamboozle with 'prophecy' and 'visions'.
The way your mind is working right now, you won't have a problem believing such a person.

Pray more if that makes you feel better.

Nice job you are doing for the OP,
some people always think witches and wizard are the cause of every unusual things happening in their life.

It seems your mind is made up already about your mum hence your main purpose of praying was for guidance and revelation.

What made you think she has not dreamt some troubling dream concerning you also?

My advise for you is to pray more and work harder,
You are already bewitching yourself by thinking some one is after your life or progress.

Think about positive things more and have more faith in God. Continue to work hard and you will definitely succeed.

Acidosis:
Where do you belong sef? Career? SAHM?

I'm for career,the type that I have time for myself and family.

byvan03:
:Dmy dear I deyooo, Hope you are good too.

Very good ,thanks.

byvan03:
Am speaking for myself only, I work for money.

Business woman,how far

As a wife, a mother and an adult,i should be able to generate my own income; it gives one a sense of self worth and satisfaction.

Because is a woman now,you see all the frustrated once jumping up and down the thread

icedbeatz:
omg so "SHE DID NOT DO WELL" which means she did ok or alright or something by hoarding info and "HE DID WRONG! " tf is wrong with you? Get that ur fking tongue out of your cheek and call a spade a goddamn spade ffk sake!

yea yea i bet she has a wonderful n genuine reason like "ooh hes now a politician n they're bucks up so its time for me to go n grease his jt as much as i can n make som money". Is that not how a whoress mind operates? A supposed wife? Sit one on one and discuss how many times she suckd his dk? How many df styles he did to her? Hw she enjoyed it? Whether she had an amazing fk with him? Yes she got genuine reasons u guess, GYSDUISTFOHB.

Don't wet your pant because of my post

Cadamlk:
Common sense but you are trying to make it uncommon.Why was she begging to come back when she's not guilty?

for your mind now you have written one intelligent post eh?

[quote author=Unemadu post=41764995]My sister its not about evidence. This is marriage and there are codes of ethics involved. On what basis under the heavens will a wife leave home so far away to work for an ex boyfriend?[/quote


When it gets to post regarding women, you guys will be quick to crucify.

She did not do well by hoarding some information from you .

But your next line of action should have been to have a one on one conversation with her,so that she can explain to you her reasons,which may be genuine or not.

You did wrong by telling her to pack out of the house
is she a tenant?

why conclude quickly that your wife acted as a mistress to her politician ex boyfriend?

with no evidence,you just got a call from someone and you believe?

And your next reaction was that your wife should pack her load and leave YOUR house?

Your writeup shows that you don't trust and value your wife of 15yrs.

What is unusual? the father look lazy to me.

You dey vex?

Only one" thing " you want two women,take am easy o.

Baby has not arrive you've started complaining .

OP,go and look for something doing as others suggested. The teaching job would be a good idea for you, because of your: little kids,your experience and it is the easiest job to get, your can also add your bead making to it, you will be so occupied that you will not have the time to reason who is sitting close to a counter.

Let your hubby know that ,you feel more useful to yourself having something doing that generate income . Besides, it is better the source of income is coming from different means in a family.

When she has gone for service you can then take over,there cannot be two madams in a shop,don't forget to have your own account where you do your savings.

Happy weekend! I would need one waist training, base in PH

let her be consoling herself there.

Complain that what? he should cook his own version na,let me taste.

And some men will not even show appreciation, they will claim the wife is an housewife, as if housewife they rest for house.