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please brother I know many people would say several things but I have an advice for you.Please don't throw her out suddenly.Help her and go around with her to look for an accommodation for her.Even if she is trying to seduce you don't give in.I think she is doing that because she is in a desperate situation and she is trying to see if you can date her which would give her a pass to remain in your house.Please for the sake of her child,don't throw her to the streets.Help her to go around and look for cheap accommodation where she can stay with her child.Explain things to your fiancé too.Don't lie to your fiancé about the whole issue.Your fiancé can equally help to look for accommodation too so that she can move into.

olola4:
It started around February,this woman happens to be a colleague at work but is 3year old marriage broke(with 2 kids)and her husband who I know as a very aggressive man (on the day he came to visit his wife at the office, I think he came to give her something he almost slap the security officer who was asking him what he came to do) sent the wife out of the house.After the husband have sent the wife away the only option the wife(my colleague at work) have is to move to the residence of her elder sister who happened to be my own neighbour in the same flat.

At first the only thing I do is to drop her children at school and carry her along to the office, later since am still single and am the only one leaving in my flat except sometimes when my fiancee or my younger brother come spend some days/weeks in my place, she started coming to my flat to watch film,she said her sister didnt subscribe and she is missing her favourite T.V. programs and opera, later she started watching film over night and now she is now leaving in my flat with the excuse that her sister's husband send her packing.

The problem now is that my fiancee cant come over to my place, i have to always lie to her that am not at home, and the woman herself is seducing me by wearing tight inside the house, also am the one to buy everything including foodstuffs and provisions even toothpaste.

The day I sat her down and told her that am not comfortable with her staying with me she was crying and when her one year old daughter saw her crying she also started crying and also she brings visitors which I hate,this will make me be like a stranger in my house.

pls fellow nairalander i need your advice.

This same pastor also asked his congregation to eat grass and they rushed to a field of grass and started eating.they even eat cloth too and say its chocolate

Freemanan:
https://www.ghanabusinessnews.com/2015/07/19/south-african-preacher-who-fed-his-congregation-snakes-arrested-reports/

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bennyrazz:
@op, keep on being the good wife that you are. Lay less emphasis on money. You are looking at the future which is highly commendable while your husband is looking at today. You are very ambitious and you are a type of woman most men out there would like to have has a wife. Why? you have conscience, you don't want to hurt your hubby, you are submissive, financially strict etc Don't keep secrets from him. But you should make him understand that rain does not fall everyday so you need to save water in your tanks for the sunny day. You and only you can do it..Sorry to say this, you are the man mentally while your husband is the woman mentally

sister let me advice you like I would advice someone close to me.Please there is a saying that not all truths are good to be said.I am even surprised that you exposed yourself to your husband to that level.Before you open your eyes you would realize that years have gone by without you achieving anything all because you marry husband.Please stop revealing your finances to him because it has even made him to take you for granted.You are his money bank.What if something happens between you two tomorrow ,how would your kids survive when you have no savings?Like the first poster said,men are not worth it.SAhe is right.Imagine a man who doesn't care of your plans but spends your money and tells you to forget about your exams.Hmmm you sef open your eyes na

FavorofGod:
My hubby and I have had no financial secrets since marriage. He uses my atm regularly and it's almost as though we operated a joint account. This has worked for us until recently.

Now the issue is this: I'm saving for my masters school fees(distance learning) which invoves thousands of pounds. I had to defer it last year due to financial constraints. So from the beginning of this year, I had already started making plans to pay. Hubby promised to assist but each time he puts away some money, something always comes up to make him use it up.

I wouldn't have minded much if it was just that, but he turns around to deplete my own savings, promising to pay when he has money. I know he has no other means of income and cannot fulfill that promise.As it stands now, I've not been able to save a dime, and my fees is due in 2 months.
So I told him he is on his own as far as this month and next month's salary is concerned, cos I'm saving every bit of it. Some money being owed me at my place of work for months now was finally paid me yesterday. I didn't want to tell him at first, but later did this morning.

He said he was disappointed, that I've started keeping secrets from him. That he only spent my money because he was broke and not out of carelessness. I told him there was a cause.

He spends money as he sees it, and does not believe in saving for the rainy day. He is not frivolous, but will start projects he had earlier shelved due to lack of money as soon as he sees money. For e.g, He has been talking about hosting a big time baby dedication, and the whole family travelling to the village next month for holiday, which are all capital intensive projects, when he knows he cannot fund it with his salary alone.

I think he wants me to allow him use my savings, then hope for a miracle to pay my fees. I know he's not commited to my academic pursuits, though he claims to. He once used up money I had saved for a proffessional exam, promising to pay b4 the closing date, only to tell me to forgett about an exam I had fully prepared for a day to the closing date because he couldn't raise the money. I had to run around to borrow and pay that same day.

So, ladies and gents, am I wrong to have barred him from touchingmy money for thisperiod or not? Should I stop telling him how much I have exactly? Share your thoughts.

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you are right !! its really end times. I was shocked to see photos last week of a south African pastor who asked his church members to each a live snake ,my God!! Who be their master ??

sonofananimal1:
Sorry to say, but I don't think he did it with a clean heart. Why celebrity?
Why not give it to the his community or the poor people who always go his church, shall that's his money and he have the right to give whoever he desire to give.

We are in the end time, so we have to look for fake pastors

please go and withdraw it and take it to another bank and save it.I can't believe people still make such errors

nicerichard05:
Buh it's a salary account which the company opened for me with their banker.

let me advice you from experience and I hope you take my advice.Please withdraw the money and put it savings account in another bank.Take note I said savings account.Make sure you also remove your salary from your salary account every month and take it to your savings account in the other bank.Don't let them know where your savings account is.A word to a wise is sufficient

nicerichard05:
My fellow NLanders I just wanna know if it good to leave huge amount of money in your salary account. I work in an oil and gas company and since I started working 11 months ago I haven't touched my salary, was just Thinking if this companies have a way of checking their staff account balance, if they do that means they would begin to suspect where I get the money I spend since my salary is untouched.
Thank for your response.

I hope they won't be offered as sacrifice in car accidents.When I just read the story that was the first thing that came to my mind and I trust my instincts.Well if the pastor did it with a clean heart may he be blessed

sonofananimal1:
YOU JUST said my mind

speak your truth are you not the one who persuaded her?When una de on heat una come de reason with third leg

kamair237:
Why did she start it"xx" just to end half way...

HABAH MARRY HER NA.wetin de worry you.Sex before marriage is wrong ohh

kamair237:
As a guy what should I do... This is kind of tempting you know, if I pressurise her it might mean am dating her just for the sex even tho I enjoy that aspect about our relationship.... I don't really know How to handle this situation and I don't want to Bleep up with this babe she means Soo much too me...

NB: ladies/gents which buttons should I press Why do girls take such decisions

i'm very serious that's the new wind that is blowing now .Drop your e-mail and I would show you how if you like.

kamair237:
r u really serious

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ollah1:
Lol I see you are very pained and comprehension is one of your problems. Where in my comment did I insult you? I asked you questions which u failed to answer. I know your type. Quote me again and lose your hands

shut up !!! did you just insult me?It is you and your family that like in caves.

ollah1:
Whats the big deal about what he said? Stop claiming innocent here abegii, whats new? He saw off his chic and approached another. Is that new to you? do you live in the caves?

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you sound like a nice person.Nice advice !

Arami92:
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding."

If I were this woman I would take into fervent prayer and fasting. One thing about Gods word is he will always make a way..

And I think this also requires her to be very honest with herself..did she marry this current man out of impatience or out of true genuine love, let's be honest many Nigerian women force marriage on themselves based on time or money..so if she's only been married for 2 moths it's better to put a halt to it now than be looking back on regret 20 years later...


But the best advice I can give you is that this is between her and God. She needs to go into serious prayer and fasting, when I'm in a big issue I even call my parents to pray and fast with me..something's are too big for us to understand and if this is TRULY Gods word he will make the path clear to her. She should be wise and not act in haste because there are many false prophets in this world...be careful and be prayerful. I wish her the best.

I hope them deh washam fine especially with the folds because efit smell well

I don't know why people commenting have not noticed this in your write up.I think you are a bad person.Forget about the shawa shawa part.Did you just say you had a girlfriend?Then just for you to be hooking up with another girl minutes after you go to see off your girlfriend.Thank God the girl is not a loose girl if not you should have come here and be telling us how a girl accepted to sleep with you after you enticed her with shawa shawa.You wouldn't have even mentioned your girlfriend to us incase you had slept with her.I hardly say this but I think you are not a good person

I no fit shout!!! bros wetin be the question again?

crotonite:
i too wan vamoose leave northern nigeria (bauchi to be specific), but i am cut in an infinite-loop of not knowing where to relocate to. pls, like how would it cost me to get a visa and other essential stuffs to move SA. please...

why una like to die like this.You no hear the recent news about black south africans killing & burning other africans including 10 nigerians because they don't want them in their country.Please look for another place & travel to.

babyosisi:
Another woman bashing thread
Mchtwwww
Make una go marry una fellow man na
Why bother with females since all of us don rotten finish
Go and find your polycarp or sylvanus and leave the women alone
Eediots

These girls you all are accusing of sleeping around ,no be una dey sleep with them
Are they sleeping with spirit men?
The one you are are currently sleeping with,no be your fellow man go marry am while you end up with some else's ex
Nonsense
Amadioha majie kwa unu Olu dia

Good answer

pickabeau1:
Married virgin

maybe virgin marriage could sound better

I have always said that marriage is not meant for every body. infact why all the drama?you can still be happy alone

Women take care of the house,take care of the kids,wash clothes,go to work and you find them trying to split bills with an irresponsible man & she also fights hard to keep the man.Na wa ooo where is all this strenght from?

1miccza:
He didn't ruin her life now ehn they had consensual sex naa this guy nor kill person naaa

Really Are you kidding me?

You men are wonderful!!! How dare you do that to someone's child?I'm really scared.It sounds like dirt to my ears.May your conscience torment you till the day you 'go'