[quote author=Tankunland post=88216956] nope you know I wanna keep my animosity right? But my name is close to ajayi but not ajayi[


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My sis my drink of choice is any correct red wine or henny n coke with ice please[/quote]

That is the greatest level up.Wetin you dey drink?I want serve you for this excellent comment.


quote author=Ybaby post=82402799]The solution to this problem is simple.

Ladies stop giving poor men the puussycat - trust me! Adam was incredibly lazy that Eve had to be created to entice Adam to work.

The only way Lazy men can have a little ambition is if you do not entertain them.

Lazy men are happy to dance soapy - let them! Give the soap and vaseline - only gravitate towards men with means.

Thank you.[/quote]

A woman is supposed to take money from a man.A basic woman is a woman who gets used by a man who does not give her anything.



uote author=Kay17 post=43605402]

These are obvious questions you ought to ask yourself. You can't accept any random girl, do you think your ideal type of woman will accept just any random guy?!

You have to know what attracts her, otherwise you are gambling in the dark.

Now, women with different qualities will have different expectations. A prostitute and other of such basic ladies will want money, sex and be needy; your beautiful intelligent ideal woman ought to expect more than these from you, otherwise she is basic as well.

It is simple logic.[/quote]

My friend this will not work with every woman. It will only work on a woman who has nothing game.That is to say she will have received a good amount of money from you in physical cash for over a period of time before she gives you anything. That a man drives a good car does not mean the car belongs to you.If he has not given you physical money that you can touch with your hands forget it.Do not open your legs ever.



quote]Get her attention

Once you've spotted a lady you want to get with, the first and most difficult move is to get her attention.
Weather it's online or offline, the rule of the thumb is the same.
Make sure she's in a more relaxed mood.
This way, you can easily start up a conversation and make yourself interesting.

Let your introduction be brief and make sure you tell her what you do.

Don't go all like, I'm Abe and I'm a 25 years old student of so so so and so.

No.

Hit the nail in the head by telling her how you earn a living or else she will not take you serious.

She has to see you as a potentially dependable person. Someone she can rely on when the need arises.

So you can go like, my name is Abe and I'm the lead dancer in the Alpha dance group. That intro line will get her interested and make her ask questions like "so what is your role as a dance group leader?".

Never mind the question because what she's really driving at is how being a dancer affects your finances.

Now if you're not a student and you have a legitimate job then that makes it even more easier for you.

Perhaps you were recently hired as a technical assistant in an ICT firm. You can spice it all up and introduce yourself like " Hello! My name is Abe and I'm a Senior technical analyst in an ICT firm". Now this line of intro will pique her interest and she will want to know more about the firm you work with and where your office is located.

A lot of guys make huge mistakes while introducing themselves. They mention their name and that's it. That kind of introduction doesn't make you any less than a stranger and she sure wouldn't want to probe any further so her defences would be up against you.

Over to your next line of action. [/quote]

There is no shame in it.

samguru:
Another Tonto Dike is loading.

Shame to all the women/Men who can not keep their marriages.

Hold on bros. ..What happened to Timaya?

ghettochild:
All these men sef... when they were busy fucking thus ladies with alum induced tightened Toto . they'd think they had it all n go ahead to marry. after marriage the ladies stop tightening their pussy then the men realises they've been scammed n fooled...stupid men...must u marry..
can't you learn from timaya

The leader of the xenophobic attack has said that he will send his boys to kill more.I watched the video this evening. Terrible!


quote author=HsLBroker post=81984710]When is this evil going to stop, blacks killing blacks [/quote]

Mtchewwwww

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Which one is please there? Do we not see it all the time? Yall have selfishness hard wired into your DNA.it is what it is[/qu- ote]

Oh pleaseee !!

quote author=ornicus post=82025278]

You women are the worst when it comes to taking care of other people's children.

For 95% of you, if you marry a man who already had children, those children become second class human beings.


So you can stop with the sanctimonious hypocrisy.

It is what is is.[/quote]

So children na baggage? Wandaful thing

ornicus:
To be nasty and ice cold. The man is UK based ( or so he claims to be). In a country like Nigeria, he is spoilt for choice. There will be plenty of women with no baggage at all, not married, no children, much more beautiful available to him. The guy is running game. Your sister has two children so there is a limit to what she can do if the guy turns her into naija based baby mama.

Na wa oh.She says her sister has two children before meeting the man and you are here saying that the sister does not have a womb.


quote author=FamousMonk post=81994535]Question your sister.
Pressure her to confess.
I think she is no longer fertile and she has lost her womb due to so many abortion attempts..
She strikes me like someone who has an itchy and antsy kpekus.
But nevertheless,marriage should be built on love,communication and trust which this union is obviously bereft of.
You might just be encouraging her to toe the path of perdition.
No sane woman needs a man to survive in this

modern day..[/quote]

Allow your sister to follow her heart.Let her not get pregnant for this man.You people who live in Nigeria do not know the realities of abroad because those who return home do not tell you the truth. She should not get pregnant for this man or else she will regret it. I know what I am saying. She Will have 3 children to care for by herself.That man is not a trophy.35 years is not old so why is rushing when she already has her children. Abeg




quote author=blackangel0403 post=81994454]Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.[/quote]

So Toyin's ex husband pretends to congratulate Toyin for giving birth.He wants people to think he is not envious.Ever since he disgraced Toyin publicly God has decided to disgrace him publicly by not giving him a child after years of marriage. Na wa oh.The evil that men do live with them.Karma is a bitch.

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quote author=Naturalobserver post=81243432]A good number of these very beautiful ladies suffer in marriages,relationships and friendship because cuz people are attracted to them only bcuz of their beauty,they don't care to know much about them,what they can offer,what make them smile etc.to add to the fact that female folks get jealous when they see women like this.The petty ones even go on to hate and beef secretly....there are few exceptions tho
Only few men and women accept and like them for who they are and not what they see[/quote]

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How is your journey with spirituality?I have never forgotten you.I am more spiritual now.I learnt so so much. You used to enlighten me .I had so many issues during that time and lost touch of the journey.Something major happened to me and if not of my journey with the light I would have long been forgotten. It gets better with time.Please be well.



I am still here. Doing my little bit. I hope Life has been treating you well.[/quote]

Hello,are you still on nairaland?It has been so many years.My account was not active.




uote author=benodic post=20220929]
@ marriedvirgin

I ran into network problens, and I have not visited NL for some time now. that was why I did not see your post. but i saw your email and replied it. but the mail bounced back and I don't know why . though I have sent it again.
nevertheless I will still answer your question here

as to your question, I want to first reasure you that you are not alone. I have been in your shoes and I know what it feels like to have those .negative passions running rout inside you. I discovered first hand that you can not get rid of them by force of will. it is only when the love of God enters your heart that you can become a new being.

one of the fail proof methods that I can vouch for any day or any time is singing the Holy name of God known as HU. you sing it as a Love song in a long drawn out way with your outward breath .
sing it for 15 to 20 mins in the morning when you wake up and in the night before you sleep .
this practice done over time will gradually fill your heart with God's love .

once this love takes over your being, all the anger, unforgiveness, selfishness and other negative passions will gradually fade away. you become really born again in the real sense of the word.

try it and see for yourself. others including myself who did never regretted it. now I find myself giving love very easily to others oblivious of race, language or religion.
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let her try to learn how to love the man as he is
afterall he is her husband and besides the man has no other fault apart from the small p****which is not a fault because he didn't create himself
if he is a good man please let her make up her mind and love him
its her husband or does she want to throw him away
I really don't know where all this classification of big p**** and small p***** comes from
what does she hope to do with the size.

misspicy:
So I was just minding my business this evening when my married friend called me,she got wedded to her husband two months ago and it seems there is trouble in paradise already

(background tears) Spicy, temitibami(am done for),you won't believe that since I married Tola we have not made love? I was suprised and asked why,she said she does not get attracted to him because of his smallish stature,then I asked her if she does not know this before marriage,she said they never made love before marriage because they both agreed on no sex before marriage relationship.

well her problem now is that she don't feel any urge towards her husband and it is almost getting to a point where her husband might force her because they are both frustrated.

Dear nairalanders she asked me for help,and I must confess,I am speechless,what should she do,how does she develop the sexual urge towards her husband?

lalasticlal.a please help me to help my friend,i don't want her to commit adultery

People may chose to be single for reasons best known to them just as people get married for different reasons.Lets just keep it down to the fact that people should keep their private lives to themselves and stop explaining their situations to others because it is only when people know about you that they would have one or two things to start judging about.Always remember that the level of respect you get from outside depends on the amount and type of information you give about yourself.

My two cents

lestat:


I get your point but look at it this way, I never said married people are perfect because we all have our own baggage!
Also if one is a cheat they will always cheat whether married or not!
Now all I simply said was one shouldn't bash the marriage institution because one is single we all hope to settle down one day but let's not go into consoling ourselves that being single or being a single parent is better!

We all know the truth deep down and trust when I say yes I agree a lot of marriages are sham but when u are single sitting in the corner in a bar and u see that couple who are like best friends playing together both wearing arsenal jerseys you would surely be filled with a deep longing!! Not to have sex but to be married!!!
Marriage whether fake or not is way better than the alternative..

I repeat no matter how confident a single person sounds!! No one wants to be alone!!!

Hahahahahahaha this is the funniest thing i've ever heard hahahahahaha.
Especially when you said you don't have a problem with someone who never wishes to get married.
Its all about choices and we respect your opinion hahahahahahaha omg people are hilarious
If anyone is happy being single,we respect it .If anyone is happy being married, we respect it.Singlehood is not for everybody.Marriage is not for everybody.Neither of the two is a trophy.Just be at peace with your God.

Besides, Op you speak excellent English.

StarboyMichael:
My friend wrote this and I want to share.

Let me first declare that this post was inspired by a Facebook post by a friend. She narrated that she heard a pastor telling the married women in his congregation not to be friends with single women...the reason for his advice is that he believes they will be misled by their unmarried/single friends.

Well I am not ready to join issue with this pastor, but I will like to use this opportunity to join issue with Nigerian society as a whole. Personally, I have always believed that Nigerians have a very misguided, perverted and warped idea of a relationship or marriage.
I said so because I am talking from experience. An average Nigerian believes that once a man or woman is working, the next thing is for him or her to get married. Everywhere you go, you are bombarded with the questions of "when are you getting married?", "do you know time is going?", "what are you waiting for?", etc. In fact, the pressure is so much that if you are not a strong person, you will start thinking that you have a problem.

Now let everyone listen to me, if you are married, congratulations and I wish you well. But it is an invasion of privacy to be asking people when they are getting married. And it is wrong of you to disrespect people because they are not married. Some people even think single or unmarried people are irresponsible or lose. If you are a man, some people will also insinuate that may be you are impotent. ‪#‎smile‬. I have seen situations where some married people believe you should accord them special respect because they are married and you are not.

Let me continue by saying that I am not married and I don't need anybody's advice on why I am not yet married. I personally will not tolerate disrespect from anyone because I am not married. Neither will I accord anyone special respect because he or she is married. I will only respect you if you deserve my respect, whether you are married or single is immaterial to me.

Finally, let it be clear that single or unmarried status is not a disease that needs to be cured. And to all the single and unmarried people out there, your destiny is in your own hands. Whether you allow the society to make you feel inadequate or not, depends on you. Always remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Also, know that everybody cannot get married at the same time. In fact, I don't have problem with anyone who doesn't want to get married at all.

Thank you and share your thoughts.

omg honey don't let a man lie to you that you don't look beautiful.My God ! That is a lie from the pit of hell and i want you to start loving yourself,look good and by the way i don't even know what criteria he used because to me,you are ONE FINE PIECE OF THING.Never let anyone run down your self esteem ,never.

If your co-worker is white then i know where he is coming from because he thinks he's white he can say dirt and get away with it.
if your co-worker is black,then i feel sorry for him because he is supposed to be uplifting his sister rather than dragging her on the ground with lies that she is ugly omg


Remember YOU ARE VERY VERY BEAUTIFUL
yes i said it

mamagee3:
Ever since my male coworker called me ugly, I have never been the same mentally, I have lived the past few months thinking I am ugly. The trauma of that event has left me forever damaged psychologically.

Please guys help me out, how do I lift myself above this spiteful attempt at my self-esteem?

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