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Enoquin:
My goodness! And I thought I have heard it all.
On a serious note, make her aware that you know; ask her why and then scold her, tell her why you aren't happy and ensure she sees it from your viewpoint.

and how will playing tit for tat help their marriage exactly?

richgang:
"I dialed my mother's number on my wife's phone and found out she saved it as 'old witch". Granted my mother has her attitude but is it fair to save her name like that? I am thinking of creating a storm because I am really upset.

2 wrongs never make a right, unless you are both 5years old. Sit down and talk to her. Tell her it hurt your feelings. Explain to her how much you would love for them to get along. She will gradually change.

sukkot:
listen here woman, this is exactly why employers usually dont like employing black people. you have this entitled mentality. if you dont like the companies policies you can quit. why would the company give you time off to go take exams for a course that they did not send you on ? for what reason ? if they wanted to put you to good use for their company they know the courses they will send you on. you doing courses on your own without their consent is not for their benefit. you think they are stupid ? they know if you get a better job offer after your course you will bounce and leave them, so quit that nonsense about you helping them when you get the qualification.

you are the one with a backward mentality so you think every company must enslave people in such a way that they can move ahead with move on with life at some point. You are the type that thinks that entrapping a person in one position for the next 20yrs is humane thing to do.

Its in the human nature to want to achieve move and move on with life. Look at what your slave mentality has put the Nigerian economy into. If you idea (enslavement) was at all good why do you have many people running away from office jobs just to go do menial jobs in a first world countries where they will earn double?

The problem in this world is black people like you who believe is suffocating fellow black people and violating their labour rights and keeping them in one position so they will never grow. Thats all you are good for.

sukkot:
if every employee took off days willy-nilly the company will fold up. you have your annual leave, arrange your exams around your annual leave. its just as simple as that

you call taking days off for exams taking days off willy-nilly? This is someone getting higher qualifications that could actually be put to good use in the company. Some people are simply blinded by their narrow-mindedness. If she wanted days off to go on a holiday that would be one thing but to refuse someone days off because they have academic exams is simply _retarded.

I don't blame the millions of Nigerians that go abroad to seek greener pastures. They might as well go where their skills could actually make an impact as opposed to just being slaved away for peanuts at the end of the day.

sukkot:
she wasnt on leave, she asked for time off. read the story.

employees aren't allowed to take off days in Nigeria? She can simply have the days taken off her annual leave days.

sukkot:
lack of decorum is not the fact that she wants to move up in life, the lack of decorum is in telling your boss you want time off to go do some exams which is exams on a course the company did not send you on.

yeah but neither did she sign the employment contract and stated that she is selling her soul to the company, she is still entitled to annual leave and she can use her leave days to write her exams. Last time i checked bosses are not allowed to just refuse someone leave simply because they can, its violating her right to fair labour practices. You have to have a sound reason for it.

Its shocking we still have people who believe in human slavery like this. I dont know what makes you think simply because you have employed someone you have the right to stop her from expanding her knowledge. This is the reason why Nigeria is in the crisis its in right now. How else will you improve and expand your business if your employees aren't allowed to expand their knowledge? Is it not retarded?

sukkot:
she is crazy. why would her boss allow her to go take an exam. it is showing the boss that she is disloyal and is not committed to the job because that is telling the boss she wants to upgrade from the job she is doing after she passes her exams. some people need decorum lessons. so she expects the boss to say yes ? she is mad. just quit the job if your exams are more important than the job. case closed. or call in sick

i was just shocked when i read your post, how is it a lack of decorum to desire to move up in life?

Mutendiwashe:
wow, so was my maternal grandmother

from which East African country?

Ups01:
Two wrongs don't make a right dear, There are better ways of dealing with issues like this

whats wrong with enjoying herself?

Vicjustice:
A civilized person understands that people see or feel things in different ways and that everyone is entitled to his own opinions.
I have shared my own opinions without insulting your person, therefore, it is up to you to either like it or hate it and move on: nothing gives you the rights to personally insult me for having my own opinion except for the security that you feel as a faceless someone throwing insults while hiding behind a computer keyboard.

i thought we were all sharing opnions, whats wrong with me having one?

Vicjustice:
This is rather myopic, talking as though Nigerians represent the entire black race, or the women represent all black women. In no part of my article did I mention the black race, but the Nigerian women.
Have you seen Ethiopian women before? Just observe Somalian women, Tanzanian's, etc.

I'm a swahili woman and yes i will agree East African women are generally blessed with beauty but i will say you are a disgrace you to your own tribe and nation. i have never come across a Tanzanian guy from any tribe that looks down on his own just like you do. Such self-hate is shocking.

You might see it as something thats cool, but i will be honest with you to the rest of the world it just makes you look shallow-minded. You might have had a fair share of bad experiences with Nigerian women, but that doesn't make you in anyway look intelligent to insult them considering you have a Nigerian mother, sisters and probably Nigerian daughters too.

when Nigerian girls are raised with such self-hating men you shouldn't be surprised when turn up to be who they are right now?

Vicjustice:
But your persistence says otherwise, more like someone fighting in self defence.

like i said i only need her pic as clarity why are you delaying?

geniusss:
So it's only noodles they sell in Chinese restaurants..i stil insist u re a locally bred slut. I guess that's wat ur bf orders for wen he takes u there..i don't blame the poor boy, he knows u ain't worth more than unhealthy noodles ..did u just mention Italian and portuguese Thanks to t.v, that's where low lifers like u can get a feel if such!

who doesnt know most chinese dishes are either made from noodles or fried rice? so i have introduced you to a new world abi. Dont go around bragging about taking a girl to a chinese restaurant, its rather embarassing.

Wats ur obsession with the landlord thing, u stil don't dig the fact that some of us never grew up experiencing someone knocking on our doors to collect rent.. na God ooo...Pls wish for a better life next time .. im sure my live-in maid has more money in her account than your wretched self!

you are refusing to give your friend back less than $25 and you still want us to believe this nonsense? God punish pathological liars

Vicjustice:
If she does fit the physical description, i wouldn't have written this article for conscience sake because, i would have felt affected just like you are obviously affected by it.

i have not been affected im simply asking for more clarity. A simple pic of her would give us a better understand of the group of women you are talking about. I thought its nothing to be ashamed of from the way you put your view across, so why are you making it a big deal now?

zaliya:
Powerpuff girls, Ed, Edd and Eddy, Samurai Jack, Camp Lazlo, ,

My son thinks the characters in these Cartoons are real!

He just got back from the orthopedics after jumping and breaking his elbow joint.

Pls share your experiences on what this has done to you children (Positively or negatively)

Tanks

make him watch cartoons like Dora the explorer, there are much more educative.

This is surely end time rain

Vicjustice:
There you failed, my mom doesn't need a job, she's a boss who pays her employees.

but she fits the physical description you gave, and thats what we are concerned with.

chinnyonwu:
You are an idiotic simpleton! Since when did being true to yourself translate to a curse? Did you read the part i said i would be honest about my intentions? Low IQ

ashawo husband= ashawo wife. Take it or leave it

geniusss:
Oh really? All Chinese food restaurants are cheap?? That's y I call u a cheap LovePeddler..so the boyfriend u talked abt that peppered spanked ur hole couldn't even afford to compensate u wit decent Chinese food if ever he can afford to take u out sef..i know ur type by ur reasoning..and for the records, I'm nt whining over any money, I'm just sharing a story of ur kind who loves to eat their cakes and have it.

Please keep quiet we all know Chinese restaurants always sell cheap food. If you had said Italian or Portuguese restaurant, then i would know you are talking about healthy quality food. So na unhealthy noodles you want to brag about abi? mtchewww sit down and keep quiet please.

lastly, I repeat, don't advise me on investment, I know enuf to last me a lifetime...mind u, I can't save to buy blocks like u were tot growing up or like ur man is hustling to do....some of us live a better packages! It's just life...live wit it.

lifetime gini? Do you even know where you will get oga landlord's money for next month?

Vicjustice:
I don't have a sister, and my mom is elderly. How about you?

im not Nigerian, ugly or shapeless so you can't. Old, unable to do the job effectively, unattractive, probably shapeless and Nigerian. Sounds like she fits the description you gave very well.

See nice healthy fat dog

Adaahjacob:
Am jus joking oooo, hope u didn't take it to hrt?. #Respect

no i didnt

trapQ:
I take it you're joking, well at least from your profile . if you aren't ,then you prolly need help. I won't trade words with you!

foolish man. So what you call your first quote, if you intention is not to trade words? Next time keep to your lane and behave yourself

SlimBrawnie:
...and a wise woman also comes out to wash her very dirty lining in public hehehe...too late to wish me such dear.

stop being foolish,no problem can ever be fixed alone because no man is an island. There is nothing wrong in admitting you have a problem and seeking different opnions.

Its her life and if she decides to raise awareness of abuse she can do so. She is a human being with a right to dignity and secrurity before she is a wife.

Why should a person suffer in silence because she is a woman who is meant to keep violence against her a secret?

You are the same people that will get killed ny abusive husbands all because u mistaken _stupidity for being a good wife. Of what use will keeping your issues secretly when you are in a coffin?

chinnyonwu:
At bolded, thats because the girl gets fatter, shapeless and less attractive each passing day.
All i know is that whatever i decide to do in this life, i must be happy and free.
In my own case any woman i am to marry will understand that.
If she also craves different dikcs then shes going to be honest about it from go and it will be left to me to decide if I still want to carry on. Although i know this is usually not the case
Life is too sweet to not enjoy it. Nobody should feel caged in life.

ashawo husband only deserves ashawo wife, no good woman should ever be cursed with a husband like you.

geniusss:
I guess u have a lot of failed people around u..thats y u re talking of buying mere blocks to someone me..i only use girls like u as pass time when I'm done wit business fetching cool money...read my story again! I just concluded a project..i shld tell u the worth nay, story for another day...guys like us don't save to buy blocks like u were impoverishedly taught..we buy houses!

shut your trap! Buy which houses? You that will make noise over $40?see joke of the year! You had to mentioned taking a girl to a chinese restaurant a few times, who doesnt know Chinese food is always cheap? Mr Man stop making a fool of yourself on this public forum, you know damn well you will reach 50yrs answering to Oga Landlord. Please sit your ass down and keep quiet!

i don't do visionless guys like you. Please dont insult me. Of what use is someone like you to me if all you can bring into my life is STIs and random kids from every corner of Nigeria. No thanks filthy dogs isnt my type

BuddhaPalm:
He's actually a gentleman who understands equity...and deals with people fairly.

You can't get the princess treatment and still expect cash at the end.

if he deals with people fairly he shouldnt have a problem with a having a wife who behaves like him then

Some are probably NL members o

SlimBrawnie:
A wise woman builds her home...

may you marry an abusive husband and may you continue to build such a home.
A wise woman knows when to run for a her life when it has been endangered by her own husband.

trapQ:
Please pass some sense across

Im starting to think there are aliens among us on NL. How people reason irrationally is alarming and when those things are done to them they set hell loose

how did my comment affect your life please?

Why was she ashamed of what she ate?

This is too much