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Duggedised12:
I am very concerned about the medical implication donating a kidney will have on the lady. That should be the main issue on the table.

She is compatible with the husband; a human can run fine on a kidney; and the doctors to perform the surgery are available. That's all that's needed. The woman has no tangible excuse. She doesn't want to give. It's her right not to give but it stands that she doesn't love her husband.

trevorhorace:
Its very easy to say give till you are the one in the middle.
Its a major decision anyone wouldnt wanna rush into.

Theres no right or wrong decision.

Stop watching Zeeworld and Nollywood. It can mess up your perception of the true realm we live in.

Oga, this has nothing to do with Zeeworld or Nollywood. Either you love your spouse or you don't. It's just like a soldier telling you that he is brave, war is not easy, and running away from battle like a coward is no right or wrong decision.

victorian:
Nah, at all

Uyailncomparable is a sweet girl, very nice lady. I misconstrue her intentions.

We later met and she's a cool babe.

work is great I can't thank God enough for everything .

Oh great that both of you found peace with each other. Peace is better than dispute. Have a nice day.

fowlyansh181:
Nigerians and not being able to understand questions.. the man isn’t angry the wife is saving money, but rather is angry the wife didn’t tell him.. seems the wife had other plans and was caught.

Exactly. Had it been the wife had told him, he wouldn't be angry. For her to keep what's left and still collect more upkeep money shows she has been lying to the husband. For the husband not to have known shows that she must have told lies. She is milking her husband and the igwe must hear this.

victorian:
Well it's true, looking at it from that angle.

How is work? I hope UyaiIncomparable is no longer giving you problems?

1x2x3:
Lying nursing mother you mean. Is the husband not taking care of her financial needs? The husband isn't mad about the so called saving but the lies and deceit. How can he trust her next costing?

Now switch the table. The man lost his job and the woman is providing then you visited them only to hear the man takes money aside from what your sister provides for running certain bills........ He claims he is saving.

Will you be on his side?

Oga, the issue is just common sense. The females are defending the woman and making excuses for her because they are the types that would selfishly and wickedly milk their husbands. They are just soothing their conscience and protecting their manipulative game by using stupid excuses to favour the narrative that it's right to milk their husbands.

asdfjklhaha:
you didn't read where I said she's a nursing mum...she has a shop that has been closed for weeks.

There is no excuse. She should have told her husband. He is not the one providing? Why did she not tell her husband? If she needed something form him, will he murder her if she asks? Insecurity is the weakness of a woman. She is milking her husband and saving the money for selfish reasons. No two ways about it.

victorian:
Don't you know, he wants her to be solely dependent on him for everything, including tooth pick.

This is pure nonsense. Any money that remains from the upkeep money should be used in the next upkeep money. The woman is just milking her husband and it's not right. If she needed the remaining upkeep money, she should have told her husband. What's stops her from going to make her money instead of milking her husband? The husband is complaining because money is not easy to make and he understands, just like anyone with common sense, that she is milking him. The wife is selfish, mean and inconsiderate. Insecurity is indeed the weakness of a woman.

ednut1:
The average 9ja woman expect you to deplete your resources and even borrow despite her savings nonsense

Lol. All those people typing "there is nothing wrong in it" are not in the man's shoes.

marvelous000:

Ubunja has helped a man to be a man. This is a testimony that shows the red pill message is being read and applied. Boys are beginning to wake up and get their spines back and very soon women are going to tremble knowing their game is up. It may not be in my lifetime but I know we are getting there.


To all females trying to rubbish Ubunja's message,

GuyWise101:
No be small dance, ubunja too much

A woman wants a real man while a man wants a real woman. Carry go.

let's dance.

But makydebbie fine pass this one.

ChristianEast:
This is bullshii.

An average man would make that sacrifice for the wife. #FACT

I will do it for my wife without dragging families into it. I am afraid of surgeries, I don't trust Nigeria medical system, but I will make that sacrifice.

Thank you jare! All these females are just talking nonsense.

Acidosis:
Well, like you said we can agree to disagree. I don't know how long they've been together. But I still maintain that in a short relationship or marriage, it is impractical to make certain kind of demand. I honestly wouldn't expect a girl I had just met, for instance, to make some kind of sacrifices for me. Love do not always shut the place of human reasoning.

But if you insist on blaming the wife, well the bulk of the blame in my opinion rests on the man's table. Women don't propose marriage to men, remember?

Their union is not a short one. He partly trained her in school. For you to have agreed to marry someone; married that person; and you can't make sacrifice for love shows you don't love the person. It's like a soldier claiming to be brave but runs away when battle starts because "it's too early to die". For this woman, "it's too early" is not an excuse. SHE DOESN'T LOVE HER HUSBAND. Anyway, let's end it here.

Acidosis:
It seems like you're extremely ignorant but then again, I believe you're simply denying the truth. Take a moment to think about your relationships or marriage. What's the most remarkable thing you've done for your girlfriend/wife? Would you have done exact thing at the beginning of your relationship? No, right? Does it mean you don't love her from inception? You don't just wake up to start loving and making sacrifices for someone like a controlled zombie. It takes a great deal of commitment to arrive at that level. Husband or not, did you take a moment to ask how long they've been together?

This is a wife and husband relationship we are talking about. The man has shown himself to be a good man willing to make sacrifices for his woman. Also, it's a biological fact that a human can function on one kidney. The facts that she is compatible and a human can run on one kidney leaves her with no excuse.

We can agree to disagree. She has the right to refuse giving out her kidney and no one is forcing her but it's clear that she has no love for the man. Stop giving excuses. Good day.

maybachmusic:

With such thinking , prayer houses will always be full and little space for intellectual development

Acidosis:
You have not seen an instance where people refuse surgery for a life threatening situation but instead choose to pray and visit men of God? You want to love someone else more than you love yourself? Ose Jesus Christ.

This is nonsense and unrelated to our discussion. People who pray instead of going to the doctors are just being foolish and are blinded by faith. It has nothing to do with love. It's just an immense confidence in one's god. A human being can run fine on one kidney. There is no reason to deny your good husband of a kidney, let's just admit that she doesn't love her good husband and is willing to run when sh!t hits the fan. Let's say it as it is and stop giving excuses.

If love is love, go and donate your kidney to your girlfriend.

I don't have a girlfriend and would never have one.

Acidosis:
Your cousin should first and foremost consider any effects donation might have on her overall health. Confirming that your cousin is a biological match means some steps already have been taken. Further 'light' tests should be considered to be sure there are no medical challenges (diabetes, HBP, etc.). Presence of health challenges automatically nullifies chances of donating to her husband. In my opinion, it's better to decline by dwelling on the aforementioned challenges.

Where there are no underlying health issues, no one should pressure her into giving her organ. Organ donation is more of sacrifice and selflessness than romantic and sexual love. It takes a special kind of love to give an organ to a spouse, sister, brother, parents or child, etc. What if she loves her husband but just can't trust the medical procedure? Some people don't trust medical doctors and surgical procedures. It's just what it is.

The mother of the man in context can also come forward and donate to her son. After all, people have made us believe that the love a mother has towards her son exceeds all forms of love. Let her come and prove that love.

I know you yourself won't give so you support the narrative that it's not right to give for sake of a troubled conscience. Whether you like it or not, love requires sacrifice. There is no love without sacrifice. Love is part of romantic love. Love is love. Even if Nigeria gives the best medical services in the world, she will still not give the kidney. There is no excuse. A human being can survive on one kidney. That's a fact. All excuses are for the gods. She doesn't want to give. If she loves her husband, she will give. Let's tell it like it is and stop covering people's selfishness.

Females on this thread are already making up excuses for her and defending her because they themselves can't love their men to give them their kidneys. To soothe their troubled conscience, which arises from the fact that they are selfish and have no love, they are making up excuses to justify their selfishness and lack of love.

Lol. Iffa hear say she give her kidney. Even if you paid ten times her school fees and gave up an arm to save her life in the past, she will not gree. Any excuse the woman is giving is trash, she is not giving no matter what.

Blackivy29:
God how much i despise hypocrites. We know you already. If you create a religious thread with a decent title you might get one or two converts. When you do this, you give christianity such a bad name, i feel good being atheist. Thanks alot.
This sh!t is like advertising a church as a brothel. We might enter because of our corrupt minds but we'll live cause you're a perverted liar, not that we dont wanna change. Who doesnt want a god to believe in.
Represent your God well.

When I was still a christian, I knew a church that used such tactics in their leaflets. Though their titles were not as bad as the op's own.

Boykevwe81:
guy, u they vex oh

I no dey vex. Na how life take be.

ImaIma1:
Alpha male. There! I said it. Martinez39 dem dem. It's not every guy that thinks like them. Always reacting like worm that they poured salt on.

Be careful or else...

vickyhow:
With all these gibberish u just punched on ur phone, U still had the guts to call pocohantas 'intibolibo'

*lol*

She Gladly accepted her mistake and lived to fiqht another day for a wuss_baq and thick_head like u.

I mean what do u hv upstairs in ur head

U foolishly think Good-day or Have-a-nice-Day Is "Appropriate" to use at niqht periods

it's a no brainer nau!!

for the records! Have-A-Nice-Day is used as a frndly way of wishinq sb good-endeavors in their daily activities before partinq ways with them.

I just bursted someone's intibolibo_bubble

One thing about stupid people is that they don't know when they are stupid. Did I not explain that "good day" and "have a nice day" have the similar meanings but only "good day" is inappropriate at night? In addition to having the same meaning as "good day", "have a nice day" can be used as "goodbye" during the day or at night. You were advising someone to develop themselves yet you are in the one in need of personal development. I had already forgotten about the blunder of pocohantas until you decided to bring up something I have buried. Why can't you just have fun and go? Do you think if I see pocohantas in 2 years time, I will rant on how she is an itibolibo? No! I may just laugh a bit about it and that's all. Stop taking things too seriously. Carter009 and GLYCOLYSISS have already gone. See, go and fix up your illiteracy and take it easy, poco the itibolibo will give you her number. As far as I concerned, I am done with poco and you from now on. Gosh, for how many days do you want to go ranting for an issue like this? I am out jare. Don't mention me and I promise to ignore you from now on.

pocohantas:
Mistake or trap?

Don't bother answering. Have a nice day.

Mistake(slip). The correct one is rare. Slips are common unlike the way of understanding things like an itibolibo. You keep making the mistake of trying to make slips equivalent to the dull thinking process of an olodo but it's never going to work. Just don't worry, you are not alone, there are a lot of itibolibos and olodos in this world to keep you company. OLODO RABATA.

Regiomontanus:
Hehe. Shameless pussy licker. Who told you they were doing it to impress readers? "have a nice day" is the error not "good day" so stop trying to play cunning games and turn the tables on the gentlemen who were just having fun. Otondo, I don't have your time this morning and make sure you don't mention me again. If you mention me, I will ignore you. HAVE A NICE DAY.

Don't mind him. He knows what he is trying to do. He is forcing "good day" down everyone's throat where as, the bone of contention was "have a nice day". "Good day" and "have a nice day" have similar meaning but "good day" is only used during the day. Only illiterates will fall for his trap. Oh wait, pocohantas says it's rare to use "have a nice day" at night? AMAZING. Vickyhow is a shameless mangina.

Regiomontanus:
Lol. @7:25 pm?

Regiomontanus:
Hahahahahhahahahahaha!

Do HAVE A NICE DAY.