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Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by pocohantas(f): 10:26pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
armyofone: She doesn't obviously. If she had a source of income, he won't be this overwhelmed, neither would his problem be "change". She should go get a job and contributebher quota. Then save whatever she wants. Money dey stop some kind nonsense. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
armyofone: oga has been sweating and slaving and growing old putting money for food that he could hae used for school fees or to repair car. he has been deferring important projects because of high cost of food. he has been jugging and struggling with multiple income streams so the family does not go hungry. meanwhile madam has been goat and yamming the hard earned money on her ow special projects. you think the man does not have other special projects he could have used the money on? nigerian women and entitlement mentality 7 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Realfrankie(m): 10:28pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
I will not get angry if the money finishes at the duration of weeks estimated |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by 1x2x3: 10:28pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
armyofone: What happen to being honest about your bargaining skills? I believe you would also lie about why you wasted so much time at the market. Would it be wrong letting him know you are saving for the rainy day? No matter how you look at it you aren't being truthful and he will always feel bad about your dishonesty. If you tell me it will cost you 7k to make pot of stew and i keep giving you that for months, I sort out upkeep money, take care of your expenses, I pay bills then barely have nothing left for me then one day I discover it cost you just 3500 to make the pot of stew.......... Now you come up with "I'm saving it". First I will see deceit and lies in you. 7 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by victorian(f): 10:29pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: Don't you know, he wants her to be solely dependent on him for everything, including tooth pick. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Martinez39(m): 10:29pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
ednut1:Lol. All those people typing "there is nothing wrong in it" are not in the man's shoes. 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Jarus(m): 10:31pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
I will not, inasmuch as the upkeep is not impaired. |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by daylae(m): 10:32pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Wise woman she is. . Except of course she's been saving some of the money but giving excuses the money is not enough while leaving somethings out, making the husband feel he's not giving enough for upkeep. That's being dishonest. |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by 1x2x3: 10:32pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
victorian: She can't work? |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by fowlyansh181(m): 10:32pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Nigerians and not being able to understand questions.. the man isn’t angry the wife is saving money, but rather is angry the wife didn’t tell him.. seems the wife had other plans and was caught. 3 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by urose93(f): 10:33pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Now, this exactly what you wanted. Because from the comments so far, you would have validated your claims that your sister's husband is a 'senseless and very stupid man' and may not be given his deserved respect anymore. This is how trouble dey take start. l don't know why some people wouldn't mind their business. 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
I will stop and allow her to use the one she has save for a while and then continue and reduce the upkeep fee.... |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by 1x2x3: 10:35pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
fowlyansh181: That's deceit and dishonesty. She was caught and had to use savings as an excuse. If I were the man she will show me where she saved it else I won't trust her budgeting anymore. 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by bixton(m): 10:36pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha: Whatever her reasons are, there's nothing wrong she's doing and no husband should act in that manner to his wife. There's one thing I always tell women and those who say they are Christians. If truly you need the success of your husband be it a house wife or working as well and as long as the husband gives the wife money for house-up keep or personal up-keep she should endeavour to do those things as done by the "virtuous woman" in the Bible according to what she has. Any serious minded wife should read that entire chapter in the Bible and get the message its speaks on. It's not just for the wife but for her children especially. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Martinez39(m): 10:36pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
victorian:This is pure nonsense. Any money that remains from the upkeep money should be used in the next upkeep money. The woman is just milking her husband and it's not right. If she needed the remaining upkeep money, she should have told her husband. What's stops her from going to make her money instead of milking her husband? The husband is complaining because money is not easy to make and he understands, just like anyone with common sense, that she is milking him. The wife is selfish, mean and inconsiderate. Insecurity is indeed the weakness of a woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha:Then let her work and earn some money. Stop being a parasite. You all want gender equality, no? 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by bodyloveghetto(m): 10:40pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Toh, for me, my wife do this often and im always glad when i go broke and she's able to bring something out to assist, for my mind i know its my money and she usually mention it ... 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by asdfjklhaha(f): 10:40pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Datazone:you didn't read where I sad she's a nursing mum...she has a shop that has been closed for weeks now. |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:41pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
OgogoroFreak: 3 Likes
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Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Cantonese: 10:41pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
sylve11: Did you read my comment well? |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Globalistic(f): 10:42pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
If she no save wetin she gain? 1 Like
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Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by armyofone(m): 10:43pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Maybe the special project (her matermal instinct) is the birth of the new baby you know. See why I'm all for a working lady, condom sex ( no bringing additional mouth to feed in this type of situation) and not all this fighting over "saved change " With the money wahala on the ground, condom should come in handy. ornicus: 3 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by asdfjklhaha(f): 10:45pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
1x2x3:you didn't read where I said she's a nursing mum...she has a shop that has been closed for weeks. |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by verifiablefacts: 10:45pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha:'she is a woman' what does that mean?-won't the husband provide for the petty things. The blunt truth is,the wife is stealing from the husband.Unspent budget must be returned to the treasury. 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by adanny01(m): 10:45pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha: Yeah, there is something wrong with that. It just brings distrust. I have experienced this first hand, even though her savings became my bailout several times, her actions was just taking from my own savings and putting in her personal savings. In my case, my spending habit is totally different to my wife's. Her estimates always end up in a deficit while thinking she has surplus. After giving her monthly stipends, we would be short on groceries before month end which i will bail out from my savings while she was saving. The real question is, if your sister truly has surplus from what her husband is giving her, when she declares it or plugs one of his responsibilities, such as, TV bills, Electricity bills, house maintenance or any of the sort women usually leave to men directly, he will appreciate it better than hiding it. If he spends less a home, he will embark on capital projects. Besides, a man loves a woman who says she has enough and trust him to invest what he has or save for the family. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by paix(m): 10:48pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
I believe 90% of the women do it, some do it to save for the rainy day while others use it on frivolous things. It depends on which side of the divide his wife belongs. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:51pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
armyofone: no be you women na hair money jare i am just remebering a few years back when ceo was in psycho mode. every meeting na to tear pesin new yansh guys were coming out of meeting with eyes wet. pesin go dey think -fk this i no dey do again - then remember thins like food allowance and school fees. the womans actions may actually be hindering the husbands goals and aspirations. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by asdfjklhaha(f): 10:52pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas:You didn't read the part I said she was a nursing mum...she has a shop that has been closed for weeks. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by 1x2x3: 10:53pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha: Lying nursing mother you mean. Is the husband not taking care of her financial needs? The husband isn't mad about the so called saving but the lies and deceit. How can he trust her next costing? Now switch the table. The man lost his job and the woman is providing then you visited them only to hear the man takes money aside from what your sister provides for running certain bills........ He claims he is saving. Will you be on his side? 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Martinez39(m): 10:53pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
asdfjklhaha:There is no excuse. She should have told her husband. He is not the one providing? Why did she not tell her husband? If she needed something form him, will he murder her if she asks? Insecurity is the weakness of a woman. She is milking her husband and saving the money for selfish reasons. No two ways about it. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
[quote author=Deola2020 post=82211875][/quote] when i was in school, my mum realized i was saving from my weekly money. her immediate reaction was to cut the money. thats what most women would do imho, so why are you upset? 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Be Angry With Your Wife If You Discover She's Saving From Upkeep Money? by UrVillagePpl: 10:59pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
LordKO: just thinking out loud... wat if they said husband is a nairalander(bcoz this family is pretty large) it simply means chinedu will be BARRED from coming to his house... |
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