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This is when you dont end up marrying your girlfriend or boyfriend no matter the period spent together and the plans you both had. life is unpredictable. you can never tell how the weather will be tomorrow. that's the same thing with relationship. you and your guy may be planning to get married, do this or do that, but funny enough one of you could later decide not to continue with the relationship again, citing one reason or the other. i've seen girls breaking up with guys they've dated for long only to marry someone they just 'met'. you begin to wonder why? such is life. it's not every relationship that ends up in marriage. so enjoy it while it last. you may have started the race earlier than the rest only to realize that someone else has gotten to the finishing line before you. and as a result goes home with the top price...your girl! same thing also applies to ladies. your first love/boyfriend or campus lover may not be your future husband. most of the romance on campus dont go beyond the school gate. after graduation and youth service, alot of campus romance are bound to die prematurely. leaving very few heartbroken. cos most of them are fully aware of the fragility of campus romance. the guy you are dating on campus, might even end up marrying your best friend later. or choose to break up with you and take another girl from another town or school entirely. imagine after giving him you body, your time and your love, only for him to end up marrying another lady. your hopes and dreams are like a false start. while you were so sure of yourself, someone else could come from behind and get to the finishing line before you. winning your man right under your nose. just like life is not a do or die affair, relationship should also be treated the same way. just like Que Sera Sera, what will be...will be!

Then & Now...My Daughter " behind those hills lies 'Amawbia' the land of our ancestors. a land of great heritage, men and women. whose remarkable feat is still being talked about till today. our men were known to be great warriors and farmers. and our women were charming and known to live a chaste and decent life, and were seek by men from here and afar. but that was in the past, for we are now in the 21st century where guys are now wearing carrot jeans/trousers and our girls dance about in bum shorts and leggings. even our health, nature and lifestyle is been compromised due to the crave for modernization and assimilation. we've thrown away our culture and dignity, only to embrace strange culture of other lands. even our local language now sound odd to our children, who are brainwashed daily by disney and other foreign programs on TV. even some of them now speak with an accent that is neither white nor black. and in our dustins and backyard are old whip and broken sticks, evidence of our inability and failure as parents to discipline or curb the deviant behaviour common among children of nowadays. where lies our history, where lies our future. we've lost our identity and allowed ourselves to be led astray like goats to a slaughter slab. and with the whispers from afar and the things we hear of, our forefathers would quiver in their graves...out of pity for this generation"

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Looking for where to take your girlfriend to this week, where both of you can catch fun and also relax in a cozy and comfortable environment. then EKO INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL is where you should be with your babe, and get the chance to have unforgetable moments watching great movies in a romantic setting. its happening live at silverbird galleria, lagos. ticket is just #2000, and its starting from tomorrow. there will also be lots of side attraction. like music, red carpet meet and greet, enough refreshment etc. If you're in lagos, make sure you attend and you wont regret it. film festivals is a place to be. you'll get to see alot of local and int'l films. most of which haven't been seen before, (new new films). and u will also get to meet some of the cast and crew on ground to talk and mingle with. so, go and catch alot of fun @ Eko Int'l Film Festival...great movies for everyone!

"dem go dey poze, dem go dey denge-denge. dem go dey poze, dey go dey waka kuru kure, etc " these were lyrics made popular some years back by Baba Fryo, a popular reggae musician then from one of his hit tracks. and if i understood what the song meant, it was talking about people (ladies) that like posing alot but unaware they are doing it foolishly. and this song was sang some years ago, before girls started wearing g-string, leggings and bum shorts. but look at it now, isn't the song making sense? what is happening presently? denge pozing of course! girls are now wearing G-strings as if their lives depend on it. G-strings that is from the pit of hell. leggings are suppose to be worn at home and not for outtings. wearing of bum shorts is now the trend among alot of girls. and we have ladies who prefer to wear only bum shorts and leggings whenever they are going out. to them, its more fashionable and sexy. *smh* it seems there's free madness everywhere all in the name of fashion. the other day, one lady was sighted wearing a soaked sanitary pad under a see through leggings, at a popular shopping mall in lagos. she didnt know people were staring at her with digust while she was denge posing about. no wonder many are eager to strip ladies naked in public nowadays. since their eyes are being fed daily with seductive dressing by girls. girls rily have to mind the way they dress and what they wear. fashion is not all about being half clad or looking like a slut on the street! you can poze if you want to, but dont 'denge' poze!

This is when a lady or a guy refuses to marry someone simply cos he or she is not well educated, not up to his/her status or is from a particular ethnic group. We have those (especially ladies) who are always looking for a perfect match. they set alot of standards or conditions when it comes to the issue of marriage. they dont want to take or accept whosoever is 'thrown' at them. they prefer to take their time, by separating the wheat from the chaff before making up their mind on whom to marry. like most girls that wouldn't want to marry a mechanic (no matter his level) or a taxi driver (no matter his take home). their sight even from afar disgust not a few of them. they see these categories of men to be below their standard. many of them want the best. always craving and dreaming of getting married to a tall dark handsome man, a banker, an engineer or a successful businessman (even some married ladies still have such dreams/desire). and whether the guy is a woman batterer or an occultic man in disguise they dont care. what matter most is his appearance and his fat bank accounts. they want a clean and well educated guy, who can take care of them, build castles for them and worship the ground they walk on. they tend to disregard those things that should be taken into consideration when choosing a life partner. they are like this, cos many of them are vain in nature. and when a lady is like this, two things are bound to happen. either she ends up becoming an old maid or ends up getting married to the wrong person for the wrong reason. and eventually left to wallop in self pity, pain and regret. as for men, most times they dont care if a lady is a graduate or not. though they are easily deceived and carried away by the appearance of a lady. but in most cases they look out for character. cos appearance could be deceptive atimes. and being educated doesn't make a lady a good wife material. some educated ones dont even know how to cook, talkless of knowing anything about home management. and nothing stops a man from training his wife or wife- to be later. we do have housewives who get enrolled in schools later. you can 'Behind' up a person to your taste (if you must). but at the same time, what matter most is character and the person's willingness to become a better person. so, remove those barriers, whether tribe, language, status, education or positions, and let your heart lead you. cos you dont know what the person might become tomorrow. had it been Michelle Obama had rejected Barack Obama cos of his humble background then, she wont have become the first lady and wife of the most powerful president in the world. so, dont judge a book by it cover, but by it content. shikena!

Yes, the way guys and girls (especially girls) are going crazy over bb and social media these days, the thing don pass be careful o. Social media is both good and bad. but the ugly part of it, is when we allow it to take over our lives, our marriage or relationship. Every now and then, you see a guy or a girl always on her phone...pinging, pinging and pinging. even when you are out on a date or even in bed...

You're dating someone, and never for once did he or she show any sign or told you about his/her illness, only for you to discover it later. how far are you willing to go with the person and with the relationship after this discovery. will you be willing to stand by the person or abandon him to his fate. you have the right to feel bad about her betrayer, but should also be able to overlook what he/she did if you truly love the person. atimes in a relationship, people do things for the sake of the other person. though we have those who might do it for their own selfish reason. like when a girl is asthmatic, has sickle-cell anaemia or she's epileptic, she may not want to tell her boyfriend out of fear of losing the guy once he get to know. you and I know there are people who wudn't waste time at all, droping their partner once they discover he or she is sick. there's no for better for worse in their dictionary. they are not ready to make sacrifices for anybody, not even for a lover. once they see that u're having some health challenges they look for an excuse to end the relationship immediately. forget what you see in movies atimes, in the real world, some love has boundaries. and once it gets to its limit, that's it. when a partner is ill or sick, that's when you are suppose to show more of ur love and care for that person. that same body/person you like to hold and caress, shouldn't irritate you when the person is sick or ill. treat him or her tenderly, be more loving and caring to the person. support and stand by her all the way. true love has no boundaries. true love has no end...

This is when a single lady start seeing herself as a widow after the death of her single or married lover. it's a common occurence to see the mistress/girlfriend of a deceased man show up at his funeral clad in black and also in a mourning mood just like his wife and children. most times, they are not seen or noticed at the funeral or when she goes to pay her last respect/condolences at the home of her deceased lover. and when a wife is mourning her late husband, dont be surprised to see her husband's mistress (if he had any) also mourning with her. And if it happens that she loved/liked the man sincerely, she's bound to mourn his death consciously or unconsciously. some of them are sober for a while or may decide to lie low for sometime. either as a mark of respect for a departed lover or due to the effect of his death. the same thing happens when a girl loses her boyfriend, especially if they were planning to take their relationship to another level. the death of a lover is just like when you're stabbed with a sharp knife, and left in a state of shock as images of the person and your time together flashes before your eyes...some mourn for a long time while others mourn just for a while. and it doesn't take them time before moving on. and when a girl loses her boyfriend, it can not be compare to when a woman loses her husband. they both share some similarities though, but the bond, the attachment and connection between a married couple is more than the one shared between an unmarried couple. a girlfriend doesn't find it hard to move on after the death of a lover, but it takes time for a widow to move on (that's if she decide to) after the death of her husband. alot is involved. there are family members, kinsmen and her children to consult or consider before taking such a step or decision. unlike a girlfriend, who may decide on her own to start a new relationship now or later. As a girlfriend, she may feel the pain, but she's not expected to live with it...

Oma se (meaning "What a pity")... is when after getting married as a lady, your mother still cook for you and your husband, simply cos you dont know how to cook. while girls your mate were learning how to cook and do other things in their parents house, you were busy painting your nails and learning how to look good. But for how long will your mom or aunty cover up for you. and I guess If your mum/aunty or other persons aren't there to cook for you, you wont mind to be feeding your husband with fast food/junk (i.e if he's the type that eats anything)...you better go and learn how to cook and be a real woman before its too late. dont be a spoilt brat forever!

Single ladies are everywhere, looking for men to 'settle down' with. but single guys dey run, looking for girls to 'play' with...

Due to the desperation to get hooked (married) by all means, most ladies tend to disregard or forget the teachings/counsel of their pastors, by throwing caution to the wind and doing things their own way, when it comes to the issue of finding a partner.

Whenever a girl cheats on her boyfriend, she always feel ashamed, guilty or dirty at the end of the day. Na true? cos some dont feel any guilt at all.

Is it true that whenever a girl, a guy has been chyking (wooing) but who has been playing hard to get and doing yanga for the guy, suddenly start showing interest in the guy, it's possible she's just been dumped by her boyfriend and she's simply looking for someone to ease her pain or mend her broken heart. Abi no be so?

This is a letter to my wife and girlfriends...

Dear Mama Nkechi,

I feel so bad to be writing this letter to you, because I know it's going to upset you by the time you finish reading it.

Despite all the quarrels and fights we had, your constant nagging and other irritating habits of yours, that drove me into the arms of other women, I still love you * teary eyes* And being the mother of my three kids, you are entitled to half of my properties (atleast the ones you know of). and out of the five cars in the garage, take three. but dont go near the Range Rover Evogue and ford explorer o. Make sure the children dont suffer. and make sure they read to university level. look after Nkechi very well. protect her from all these bad bad boys. especially those men in our area, who come around pretending to be looking for someone else. they are lucky I'm not there, I for show them pepper. And if you like, make you sef begin follow all those small small boys too. just dont waste my money on all of them. what else are you looking for in men? just find something better to do and avoid all these good for nothing boys.

And as for my seven girlfriends, namely Tina, Shade, sekinat, adaeze, uchechi, bose and cynthia the one with a child for me. Tina, despite all I did for you, you were still cheating on me. you thought I didn't know? And everytime I give you money, you divide it into two, and give half to that useless boyfriend of yours Joe. Dont know what you see in that guy sef. I guess you two are laughing your asses off by now, cos I'm now out of the picture. and as a result of your betrayer I'm not giving you anything. atleast the #50k I gave you last, will be enough for you. And to shade, you were a darling. one I would have married if not for my wife's stuborness and refusal to allow me bring you in. you would have made a very good second wife. you were there for me, whenever my wife made the house unbearable for me. each time i come to you, you're always there for me. your hospitality and love wont go unrewarded. and because of that I'm leaving my ford explorer for you. liase with my lawyer later.

As for you Sekinat, I still cant understand what brought me to you, probably na jazz. cos your character and affection for me was nothing to write home about. na so so money you were interested in. and each time I come to your place, na so so amala and gbegiri soup you go dey feed me with. i guess that was where you were putting the love portion, shey? dont worry, I have ordered for a tipper load of yam flour for you. it should be at your door step by now. love portion doesn't make any sense. shogbo? and to my sweetest pawpaw Adaeze nwa, you really touched my heart. your cooking was another thing. and your romance was something else too. there was even a day it almost caused wahala in my home with my wife. when I mistakenly mentioned your name when my wife and I were in the bedroom. biko, gikwa nwayo. dont break the waist of all these lagos men o. whom I know wont allow you to rest cos of your beauty and sexy 'behind'. and for being a very good lover, I'm leaving my black berry and ipad for you. since you are so crazy about black berry phones. ngwanu you can take my bb. liase with my lawyer later. but delete all the naked pictures and videos of our excapades at sheraton, Nicon hilton and for obudu cattle ranch. It was because of these pics/videos I didnt allow my wife to touch my phone. yawa for gas before now.

and to uchechi and bose, you were just there for flings. both of you didn't mean much to me. Cos I knew you are runs girls and have several men in your lives. and as a result, nothing for both of you. atleast we enjoyed ourselves while it lasted. and I paid you two for your services. and to the last and not the least, Cynthia. apart from my wife, you also gave me a child. a fine boy for that matter. though we had our differences, but notwithstanding you tried as a loverand baby mama. and for that, I'm leaving the Range Rover Evogue car for you, and the sum of #2,000,000 as upkeep money for you and my son. I dont want him to suffer at all. and I've also kept a sustantial amount of money for his education. liase with my lawyer later. And as for my remaining properties, the duplex at lekki phase 1, the three storey building in aguda surelere, the bungalow duplex in festac, the landed properties in abuja, port harcourt and epe, I'm giving them all to brothers and sisters. They should liase with my lawyer for more details. and to my friends and business partners. I thank you all. But advise that none of you should make the same mistakes I made. love your wife and cherish your family above all things. avoid 'strange' women and be closer to God...

Yours Truly

Theo Jordan
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To All The Baaaad Girls...

For how long will you continue to play games and change dates, when your mates are busy getting engaged or married. Since you dont care about any ticking clock, atleast think of tomorrow and how lonely and heartbroken you would be when you cant find anyone to play or stay with. My dear, karma is just around the corner. and e dey take style dey count time for you and dey look you with vex. be wise and be good! being bad doesn't pay at all...cos at the end of it all, na you go feel the pain pass...

There Are No Good Guys Anymore...believe me.



Most single guys out there are heartbreakers to the core. they go after girls just to break their hearts after having their fill. they want to see girls beg and cry for love. they derive joy in breaking the hearts of innocent girls. some of them use the promise of marriage to lure girls into bed. and once he's done with the girl, he kicks her out of his house/life. my dear most of them aint ready to settle down, not now. and not in two or three years time. they are on a mission and aint ready to quit until they've dealth with enough girls. mind you, we do have some good ones among them, who really want to settle down, but are also afraid to give their hearts to any girl. due to the fear of heartbreak. cos we also have girls who are serial heartbreakers. these set of guys, are the ones that tread softly. they watch out for the good girls among the rot. they are too afraid to love. cos once you give ur heart to any girl, just be ready for anything. same thing when a girl gives her heart and love to a guy. only for him to end up toying with her feelings. so girls, shine your eyes well well and make sure you dont fall into the hands/trap of bad guys/heartbreakers. cos they are everywhere nowadays. they just want to have fun for little or nothing.

Love is an investment between a man and a woman, which can be done either in good or bad faith. and whose lifespan/longevity is determined by the partners involved. It could be both good or bad and sweet or sour, depending on the running of the business. and it can also be terminated at anytime, either peacefully or in pieces. So, who says Love no be business?

Normally once a man marries a woman or they are about to wed, he wouldn't want her to still be in contact or be communicating with any of her male friends, whether business partners or casual friends. once he marrys the lady, he expects her to do away with all the men in her life and on her phone. no more phone calls, bbm or sms to or from the opposite sex, except the person is 'family'. And while ladies are expected to delete/distance themselves from all the male friends in their lives once they are married or about to wed, what about the guys? how many of them are willing to stop communicating/seeing their female friends (or even ex lovers)after getting married. most guys find this difficult to do. as you find many of them giving excuses and defending themselves for not 'ending' their friendship with their female friends or ex girlfriends. the same excuses or reasons they will never accept if their wives happen to still be in contact with their male friends. Although it's for the good of the woman and their marriage,cos as a married woman when you become too friendly, close or free with the opposite sex, he might start looking for another thing. so when a man ask or order his wife to sever her contact with other men, he's only trying to prevent such things from happening. considering the way some guys dey chase married women about these days...About To Wed...Normally once a man marries a woman or about to marry her, he wouldn't want her to still be in contact or be communicating with any of her male friends, whether business partners or casual friends. once he marrys the lady, he expects her to do away with all the men in her life and on her phone. no more phone calls, bbm or sms to or from the opposite sex, except the person is 'family'. And while ladies are expected to delete/distance themselves from all the male friends in their lives once they are married or about to wed, what about the guys? how many of them are willing to stop communicating/seeing their female friends (or even ex lovers)after getting married. most guys find this difficult to do. as you find many of them giving excuses and defending themselves for not 'ending' their friendship with their female friends or ex girlfriends. the same excuses or reasons they will never accept if their wives happen to still be in contact with their male friends. Although it's for the good of the woman and their marriage,cos as a married woman when you become too friendly, close or free with the opposite sex, he might start looking for another thing. so when a man ask or order his wife to sever her contact with other men, he's only trying to prevent such things from happening. considering the way some guys dey chase married women about these days...that's why their husbands no dey take chances again o.

Is it true women are vain, thats why they cant live without a mirror? there's no girl that doesn't go about with a mirror in her hand bag. and most women tend to believe whatever a guy tell them. especially when a guy keep lying to a girl about his feelings for her, about the nature of his work, financial status or family background. And I read somewhere that there are two ways to catch a woman’s attention! If you want to be a ladies’ man, you’ve either got to be rich, or be a darn good liar! And we do have guys who are expert when it comes to misleading or lying to girls to cover up their 'weaknesses'. many of them create a fairytale world just to impress a girl, when they are actually living the opposite. they do this, cos girls love lies. when you are sincere to a girl about your average status or lean wallet, you may end up losing her the next minute. but when you lie to her that you own this and that, you are bound to have her licking from your hands or following you up and down. cos many of them so much believe in lies. and we have those of them whose world are usually built on lies... Like the case of a man, whose girlfriend left him simply cos he told the truth about the nature of his job. believing his level and kind of work was too degrading for her, she left him for another guy. only for her to regret her action later. the guy's work wasn't that bad, and it wasn't long he was later made a site supervisor at his place of work. and mind you it was from this same job (before he was promoted), he was able to sponsor the girl to school and also helped her in so many areas. but yet, she wasn't patient and understanding enough to stand by him. who lost out at the end of the day? the lady ofcourse! and there is also a lady i was told about who was eying a particular guy in her office, thinking the guy was a staff. but immediately she got to know that the guy was an IT worker on a meagre salary, she lost interest in him outrightly! you can imagine. most girls dont want to wait anymore for a guy to become successful. they want ready made guys or guys that can use their tongue to build castles or buy exotic cars for them. guys that would be 'blowing' them lies upon lies until they eat and dump them (girls) like trash. that's what is happening. if you are truthful to some girls, you may end up not having a girl to call your own. tell a girl she is the most beautifu girl in the world, I bet you, she would swallow the lie hook, line and sinker. cos many of them love lies...abi no be so?

Why Do Girls Love Lies...Is it true women are vain, thats why they cant live without a mirror? there's no girl that doesn't go about with a mirror in her hand bag. and most women tend to believe whatever a guy tell them. especially when a guy keep lying to a girl about his feelings for her, about the nature of his work, financial status or family background. And I read somewhere that there are two ways to catch a woman’s attention! If you want to be a ladies’ man, you’ve either got to be rich, or be a darn good liar! And we do have guys who are expert when it comes to misleading or lying to girls to cover up their 'weaknesses'. many of them create a fairytale world just to impress a girl, when they are actually living the opposite. they do this, cos girls love lies. when you are sincere to a girl about your average status or lean wallet, you may end up losing her the next minute. but when you lie to her that you own this and that, you are bound to have her licking from your hands or following you up and down. cos many of them so much believe in lies. and we have those of them whose world are usually built on lies... Like the case of a man, whose girlfriend left him simply cos he told the truth about the nature of his job. believing his level and kind of work was too degrading for her, she left him for another guy. only for her to regret her action later. the guy's work wasn't that bad, and it wasn't long he was later made a site supervisor at his place of work. and mind you it was from this same job (before he was promoted), he was able to sponsor the girl to school and also helped her in so many areas. but yet, she wasn't patient and understanding enough to stand by him. who lost out at the end of the day? the lady ofcourse! and there is also a lady i was told about who was eying a particular guy in her office, thinking the guy was a staff. but immediately she got to know that the guy was an IT worker on a meagre salary, she lost interest in him outrightly! you can imagine. most girls dont want to wait anymore for a guy to become successful. they want ready made guys or guys that can use their tongue to build castles or buy exotic cars for them. guys that would be 'blowing' them lies upon lies until they eat and dump them (girls) like trash. that's what is happening. if you are truthful to some girls, you may end up not having a girl to call your own. tell a girl she is the most beautifu girl in the world, I bet you, she would swallow the lie hook, line and sinker. cos many of them love lies...abi no be so?

If It Doesn't Fit...Then You Must
Acquit!...this was a phrase made popular by the late charismatic
American lawyer Johnnie Cochran during the infamous OJ Simpson murder
case. And it's now a slang/phrase used by many in America today. if it
doesn't fit, then quit! yeah quit, when you know you dont fit into a
particular clique or group. no be by force. it's a common thing to find a
guy or a girl trying to 'belong' to one clique or the other on campus.
some even go as far as borrowing money/stealing or doing some certain
things just to belong or live up to the status of other members of his
or her clique. some parents do have kids who pick stuff at home to sell
or ask for money all the time to give to the clique they belong
to. and not a few have gotten into trouble or gone bankrupt while
trying to belong. when you know all fingers are not equal, why kill
yourself over vain things. why try to belong via manipulation or under
duress. if you can't fit into a group either materially or financially,
the best thing to do is to quit, before it's too late. cos once you get
involved, there's no going back. even this buying and wearing of same
outfit (aso-ebi) to parties or events by some ladies is been abused by
alot of people. we have those who borrow or go to the extreme just to
buy/wear the same aso-ebi with their friends or rival, just to show off.
some of these things are not relevant at all. if you dont have, it's
not a must that you must kill yourself or sell parts of your body to fit
in. we humans like competing alot. whether at home, at work or in
school, everywhere you go, you find people competing against one another
over this or that, and even becoming fetish or mean just to get above
the other person. we also have friends (especially ladies) who compete
with one another when it comes to getting married. some ladies do their
best to be above their friends/sisters when it comes to getting married
to a finer or richer guy. some do it unknowingly though, but it's a
natural thing to find ladies trying to outdo one another in every area.
and many have gotten their fingers burnt while doing that.
some parents are also guilty when it comes to trying to measure up to a
neighbours' lifestyle. especially in the area of sending their kids to
expensive private schools or throwing expensive birthday parties etc,
simply cos a neighbour did something like that. forgeting that all
fingers are not equal. some end up borrowing or emptying their account
just to measure up to other people's expensive lifestyle. you can
imagine. many people have made life a competition. everything na
fight. girls also have their own tug of war. many of them copy or try to
do more than the other when it comes to wearing of expensive clothes,
jewelleries, mobile phones or having rich boyfriends or lovers, even
when they cant afford it or sustain such a lifestyle. they just want to
'belong', have or do the same thing their friends or colleagues are
doing . shikena!

While you hardly hear anyone give excuses for being good, there's always an excuse for being bad. abi no be so? Especially when a girl blames everyone for all the troubles in her life. either for being bad, for being a cheat, a drug addict or for being a college drop out. somebody or something must always be the cause of her woes or mistakes in life.
Like when a girl decide to start seeing other guys, cos her boyfriend doesn't give her enough money/takes care of her. or cos he doesn't show her much love and affection. I've seen and heard cases of girls who cheat on their boyfriends simply cos their boyfriends dont give them enough money or attend to their needs regularly. and from one man to another, she goes about trying to make ends meet. throwing caution and her dignity to the bin. and when reality sets in or she start having issues later, she's quick to blame her boyfriend for all her woes. can you imagine? na him say make you go become 'ayala' (prostitute)? na by force. even if your boyfriend tries to make you date/sleep with other men for money or favours (love-vendor) either directly or indirectly, you have the right to say No or walk out of the relationship. if you agree to such a request, you have nobody to blame but yourself. cos love is not by force. Just like the case of a girl who decided to seek the assistance of another guy (without the knowledge of her boyfriend), when her boyfriend couldn't give her the money she'd requested for. and this guy she went to for help, has been on her neck for a relationship. and when she came to him for help, he used it as an opportunity to have his way with her. and that was how she started dating the guy, while still in a relationship with her boyfriend.
and via the new guy, she later met other big boys who also wanted a piece of her. and which they got cos of her greed for money and her new found lust for men. that was how the girl changed from being a good girl to a 'bad' girl. jumping from one man to another, partying and clubbing here and there, and getting involved in alot of unprintable things... all because of what?

When your boyfriend or girlfriends says it's over, there is no need to cry your eyes out or lose sleep over it. cos his/her going might be for your own good. for you're likely to meet a better person after breaking up from your ex. it's a normal thing for one to be bitter and pained after breaking up with your partner. some are heartbroken for months, while others dont waste time before starting another relationship after breaking from their ex. staying indoor, sulking or lamenting is not a better way to get over a failed relationship. while crying over an ex, your perfect match could be out there waiting for you. what you thought you've lost, a better version of it could be found in the next person you're likely to meet. so, there's no need to cry your eyes out. dry your tears, so that you can see well enough to find a better person. for what you've lost, you're bound to find it if you look well enough. atimes break ups do happen for one to find a perfect match. there's no guaranty that you're going to end up with your first, second or third boyfriend/girlfriend. some can have as many as seven to ten lovers before finally settling down with the one they are willing to let go of others for. like the story of a guy who had a girlfriend, whom he loved so much. he was hoping to even tie the knot with her someday. but along the line, they started having issues and had to call off the relationship. a break up that brought so much pain, and agony for the guy. he became withdrawn for a while and had little interest in the opposite sex. he felt he wont be able to find any girl like his ex, while waiting and hoping for her come back to him. a wish that never materialized. to cut a long story short, he later met and fell inlove with another girl. a better version of his ex, so to say. what he thought he had lost in his ex, he was able to find more of it in his new lover. she was like a dream come true for him. atimes, when we lose sometin, you could end up getting a better one in return sooner or later, if you believe. if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to leave you (or has already left you), dont lose any sleep over it. he or she is leaving/left for a better person to come into your life. simple!

PS: Mind you, this piece is not in support of those that want to divorce/leave their wives or husbands in order to remarry or try their luck (love) elsewhere. My hand no dey there oooo.

This is when a guy is accessed (from afar) based on his looks, appearance and size of his wallet by a girl before he's given any love consideration. most girls nowadays no longer believe in prospects/potentials. they dont have the patient to wait for any guy to make money. all they want is a ready made man. gone are those days when some used to go out with poor guys with potentials. with the hope that he/they would one day make it big. with their daily needs skyrocking by the minute, girls now need guys that can give them this and that. and if you are not capable (a broke ass), they'd ask you to kindly 'shift' to one side, or take ur empty love lyrics to someone else. any girl that doesn't care about the looks, appearance or the size of a guy's pocket, is only doing so, cos she sef no get any choice or is desperate to settle down with any man. if na lie, go out there and chyke any girl, and the first thing she's going to do is to bill you for this and that. and doing this is to test and know the size of ur pocket first, before giving you a chance. most of these girls are very good in scanning guys just to know who and who is loaded. and if ur appearance is saying otherwise, dem go just waka pass you as if na ghost dey stand for their front. Like the case of a guy who couldn't find any girl to go out with him, cos he had no money and could barely afford to eat or clothe himself. he had potentials and was hoping to become an engineer some day. but girls weren't willing to stick with a broke ass living on dreams. na dreams dem go chop? the guy is still hoping to find that 'special' girl that wouldn't mind to go out with him, despite his lean pocket and rag clothes. to him, love is still blind. ok o, make he no worry, he go wait tire...cos of him, girls dey even avoid to pass him street now. dem don run far away from am...leaving him to hope and dream on...and girls wey dey do like this (that cant date a broke ass..even with potentials), una no una sef. abi no be so?

A church brother has presently gone into hiding after being surmoned by his Pastor for sleeping with a church sister. him and the church sister were into a secret relationship for a while and later had sex. only for the girl overwhelmed with guilt, to go and confess what they did to their pastor. Now the Pastor has surmoned the brother and the sister to appear before the church and explain what transpired between them. but the guy no gree show face again for church and has refused to appear before the church. and he has also relocated to another town cos of what happened and out of shame. if na you, wetin you go do?

There's a guy who loves a girl so much and wants to walk her down the aisle if only its posible. the problem he's facing has to do with finance. he doesn't have a job presently while the girl is working but not earning that much. and she has given him up till next year to do the right thing or kiss their relationship good bye. she also told him to bring a million naira first before they can start talking about marriage. and he cant even boast of having up to #10,000 in his account right now talkless of a million naira (#1m). the guy is really worried, cos he loves her so much but cant afford to pay for their wedding or even get a home after their wedding. he's in a dilemma. and this is also the same dilemma alot of single guys are facing in our country presently. cos eight in every ten guys want to get married, but just dont have the means to get married. so, what are they going to do? steal or borrow to make his/her wedding wish come true? Girls make una dey patient with una guys whenever they are dragging their feet aspa marriage. ground no just level. that's it!

An uncle to a friend of mine, is getting ready to make the life of an ex miserable, just like she did to his. And he's hell bent on getting his pound of flesh no matter what it's going to take. it happened that he and this girl met while in college, and started a relationship afterwards. he loved her so much, and did all his best to make her happy. at a point, he even started paying her school fees uptil the time she graduated. they continued their relationship after graduation and were even planning to get married. he got a job before her and continued taking care of her needs while depriving himself of so many things all cos of love, the same way he suffered/sacrified alot for her while in college. and due to her inability to secure a job, she later came to him, and asked him to help her with some money (#5m) for her to use in starting a business. he was able to get the money for her from his savings and the bulk of it from some of his friends. but unfortunately for him, the girl ended up squandering the money and left him with a huge debt to pay. a development that also made him to lose his job later. it happened that when he couldn't pay back the money he borrowed from his friends, two of them started coming to his office to harrass him for their money. the whole thing later escalated when one of them came to fight him in his office and ended up destroying some of the company's equipment in the process. and as a result of this, he was fired from work for allowing personal issues to interfer with his work. and to make the situation worse, after losing his job the girl also left him for another man, despite all her vows and promises to stick by him come what may. her leaving left him devestated for a long while. and while he has been in and out of work and several relationships since then, she's now happily married with two kids and working with a new generation bank. the last time he saw her, she was at a grocery mall doing some shopping with her husband. smiling and looking very much like a happy couple. and ever since then he's been planning to make her pay for all she did to him. for it was cos of her, he lost ten years of his youth, and now he wants it back! Girls see wetin una dey cause for some men...

Atimes, I wonder why people cheat on their partners. especially girls. despite all the love, attention, care and support given to a girl by her boyfriend, she would still have the heart to cheat on him. and why do girls even cheat on their boyfriends? is it for sex or money? understanding the reasons why girls do what they do, is just trying to solve add maths. they are so complicated!

To most girls, being a woman/lady hasn't been a rosy experience at all. especially when it comes to the issue of dia regular monthly period, which many girls see as a nightmare. and not to talk about the issue of child birth, boyfriend wahala, sexual harrassment, competing unfavourably with men for this and that, and living in an unsecured environment. girls, pls tell me, how does it feel to be a woman/lady... e no easy, shebi?