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I loved my boyfriend to a fault, and could do anything just to please him. He was my world. I was what you would call a good girl. Never asked any question and trusted him with all my heart. But despite all this, my guy was taking me for granted. He became a serial cheat, and also treated me like trash atimes. I cried, begged and made a lot of sacrifices just to make things work. Thought my tears and sacrifices would make him sit up. For where! He became worse and started bringing girls home and doing things in my face. Due to my love for him, I couldn't leave him, but decided to pay him back, and see if that would make him change. I later met someone whom I started dating secretly. We had sex a couple of times, and I started dressing seductively too. My guy became suspicious but wasn't sure at the same time. And seeing that I didn't care anymore and wasn't showing my love for him like I used to, he started coming to me, trying to be caring and loving again. I ignored him and kept seeing the other guy. The more I snubbed him, the more he came to me. Begging and apologizing for the way he treated me, even crying at a point. I felt so bad, and wished I hadn't gone that far to make him feel so bad. Though I did more shakara for him, but later made up my mind to give him another chance when I was really convinced he'd turn a new leaf...and in order to make amends and also save our relationship, I had to end my secret affair with the other guy immediately. So as to give all my heart, love and attention to my boyfriend. Who has become more loving and caring than before. But biko, things doesn't work out like this for everybody. Some might go that far, only to mess things up the more. Or end up destroying the relationship. So, be wise and don't rush...Cos, relationship matter na jeje o

My name is Nene, I used to be a super model before I got married. Met my husband at a social event, and we started dating afterwards. During this period, I was still modelling, and going for casting as well. Though Terry didn't complain about my modelling at first, but suddenly started showing his disapproval later. He felt I was doing it for money, and started giving me enough allowance just to make me stop my modeling job. After a while, I gave in to his demands, and stop modelling for good. He made sure I didn't lack anything, and was more than caring until we got married. That was when things took a turn for the worse. Soon after I started having kids, Terry's attitude towards me changed completely. He started keeping late nights, hanging out more with his friends, became less caring and abusive atimes towards me. And while I sit at home, taking care of our kids, and doing nothing, he's busy catching fun and living his dreams. How I wish I didn't listen to him and also pursued my dreams after graduating from school. Though I have a degree, I can't work cos of our kids. And besides, my husband wont allow me to work. Each time I bring up the matter, he keeps turning me down. Telling me he's given me everything to be happy and comfortable. And that a lot of women would be so happy and grateful to have what I'm enjoying as his wife. Says he needs me to be at home and take care of our kids. Sometimes I feel so sad and dejected. Never thought getting married would turn me into a fat 'pig' and a baby making factory as well. Cos, all I do now is to sit at home, tend to our kids, take/bring them back from school, eat, watch movies, eat, sleep and keep getting fat by the day, while Terry my once upon a loving husband is living his own dreams and catching fun. Though he has given me bread, but he has also taken my breath...

Its a known fact dat in every ten campus girls, six of them usually have more than one boyfriend, or are into double dating. The act of having one boyfriend on campus, & another boyfriend off campus. The campus boyfriend cud be anybody. It cud be a course/schul mate, a friend, or any random guy that comes around to help her in one way or the other or keep her company. He is usually not d typical steady bf. Bt jus there to keep her bed/body warm when needed. While the off campus boyfriend is the serious one. The one usually kept aside for marriage. The one they treasure and hope to end up with. So, dont be surprised if that girlfriend of urs, has a campus boyfriend, whom you might hav seen or met, but introduced to as a mere coursemate, or friend. He could be the one sharing ur babe with you...but truth be told, life on campus is never easy for most campus girls. Cos d more they kp runnin from temptations, the more temptations keep following them here & there

Learnt most guys are scared of marrying successful single ladies, especially if the girl rides a jeep, owns her own house/property, and seem to be doing quite well on her own. Most guys tend to find such girls intimidating and difficult to handle or be with, according to some girls. And as a result, some of them (single girls) prefer to be quiet about their achievements or investment, and also buy/ride small cars, so as to not to scare away potential suitors. Ngbo, is it true? Cos I don't see anything wrong in dating and getting married to a successful lady. Such a girl could even help to push or motivate her husband to greater height. Especially if she's a good woman. But if that's the case, then girls should make everything about their success low key and better their chances of getting married!

We have people who usually like taking their partners for granted intentionally. By doing whatever they like, simply cos he or she will always be forgiven. And despite what they do, their partners are always willing to forgive or take them back. Some use emotions or lies just to have their way. And most of the girls who are in abusive relationship, find it difficult to leave their guy, due to the reasons listed above. Most times, some are used as pawns in the palms of their partners. They play them like ping pong. Forgetting that there's a limit to everything. We all aint priests that you can always run to confess and seek for forgiveness all the time. Cos there's a limit to what a person can take. And never you play anyone for a fool. Cos one day, he or she might be forced to slam the door on your face!

Sometimes when people break up, they find it difficult to let go of their ex or the relationship. They might not necessarily stalk their ex, but there are other ways of not letting go. Some do theirs either by still keeping in touch of friends of their ex, monitoring him/her on social media, or by going to where they used to go to/doing those things they used to do together while they were dating. They usually cling on to the memories of the past. Sometimes filled with regrets. And while some do find it difficult to let go, there are those who do their best to get over their heartbreak by breaking loose and becoming a nuisance to themselves and to the society in a way. They become bad while unleashing the demons in them. Doing more damage than good to the situation. Doing this wont bring you any joy but sadness (though some might not want to admit it). Why hurt yourself the more, when the person that broke your heart is probably having a great time with his or her new found love and happiness. The only way to prove you're better off without the person in your life, is by being happy, feeling good and doing good!

What a woman can do, can a man do half of it...Can a man really do what a woman can do? I know some of you (men) will say yes, while others (women) will definitely say no, due to obvious reasons. Cos there are actually things a woman can do, that a man can not do. Especially in the area of motherhood. That's an area most women are head above men. And we ought not to argue about it. Cos it's very obvious.
Like the experience a married friend of mine had some time ago, when his wife traveled with one of their kids (they have four kids) to see her parents in another state, and he had to take care of the other three kids in her absence. Throughout the period he had to bath the kids, feed them, cook for them, dress them and also drop them off at school before going to work, he saw how tough and hectic it was. And it made him to realize and also appreciate how his wife has been doing it all this while. Everyday was like being on the battlefield for him, with the constant disturbance from the kids, the crying, quarreling and what have you. Come and see the guy after a week of taking care of the kids. He was totally exhausted, and was so happy and relieved when his wife finally came back from her trip.
My dear, give it to women. when it comes to taking care of kids, and multitasking, women/mothers are expert and very good at it. And should any housewife decide to go on strike, I bet you no husband would allow the strike to linger like that of ASUU, before succumbing to the demands of his wife. And forget about bringing any mistress to replace or play the role of your wife...with her manicured nails, painted face, ego, enjoyment lifestyle and bbm in one hand, she won't be able to do half of what your wife does as an housewife...She would certainly run away or avoid taking the role, by the time she is left with the kids and other chores just for one day...
So guys, don't joke with your wives. They are special. Love them, appreciate them, and also support them. Cos, you can't do half of what most of them do...as mothers or full time housewives. They are trying, no be small!

Most times when a couple go out on a date or attend an event together, its now a common thing to find either the man or the lady pinging or so engrossed with his or her phone, while the other person just sit there and watch helplessly...this is not right at all. Both of them are suppose to make each other feel at home, put away their phones, and also focus their attention on each other....that's what I call a perfect date/outing...When next you are out on a date, and your partner is busy with his or her phone, you have the right to either walk out on the person, or grab his/her phone and seize it until after the date...shikena! Why focus on your phone, when your date/partner is right there? When You do that, you are disrespecting the person you are with. And such an act is not accepted...

I Never Slept With Angelo...Beverly Osu. What Beverly is doing-denying she ever slept with Angelo on BBA, is nothing but damage control. I guess some persons (Her publicist/PR team) must have told her to say so, order to repair her soiled reputation. And also be able to forge ahead with her career. So, what many saw on live TV na make believe, courtesy BBA, kwo? In that case, over to you, BBA!

Is it right for a married lady to approach or go to her ex boyfriend for financial assistance, when things are tough for her husband? It's just like a case of trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake up!

It's a common norm among church brothers and sisters to visit one another at home these days. Especially church sisters who like to go to the homes of church brothers. For what purpose? To preach or continue the sermon at home? There are Christians, and there are Christians. And such practice is very common among some church brothers and sisters nowadays. And once the door is closed, you and I know what's bound to happen between a church sister and a church brother behind closed door. Sisters, hold your body, and preserve it until your wedding night. Beware of fake brothers in the church, who are only coming to church to deceive and catch girls, chop them and dump them like trash later...be wise, and respect God.

Why do some ladies give conditions before accepting to marry someone. why become a task master overnight simply cos your hand is being asked for marriage. Imagine, asking a man to either build a house first, buy a jeep, or have a huge amount of money in his account before saying I do, is a wicked and vicious act...if you aint keen about marrying him, simply say so and stop using or setting conditions to cover up... Setting standards, or giving conditions before getting married, are part of the reasons we have lots of unmarried ladies and guys these days...Ladies, Rome was not built in a day. Mike Adenuga, Dangote, and all these rich guys started from somewhere. A nobody today can become somebody tomorrow. stop making things difficult for yourselves...If you truly love him, do give him a chance, and support him to build an empire together. True love conquers all!

A beautiful dream... this is when one can't find a suitable or responsible partner to marry due to the fear of ending up with the 'wrong' person. Since lot of girls are now becoming like beverly (flirting or changing partners at will), and as a result, looking for a good girl nowadays is just like looking for a needle in a hay sack. Many put on coats of many colours, that makes it difficult for one to know their true colour until after the deed has been done. And most guys get married these days just to fulfil all righteousness, and not cos of love. To them, getting married is simply a necesity. A 'task' undertaken to have offsprings and also to be seen as a man. And it's also cos of this mindset, that most guys end up marrying their 'girlfriends' (wrong choice), while making their wives (right choice/wife material) their girlfriends. Since they usually see or believe all girls are the same. To most people, finding a good girl is just like a beautiful dream. Crave by many, but never an easy task to achieve...

Touch Not...this is when a man goes the extra mile to secure or ensure the faithfulness of his wife or girlfriend. Either by monitoring her or by placing 'charm' on her, so as to keep her in check. Such action used to be common in the past, when civilization hasn't gotten to this level. But seeing or hearing about people doing such things to their partners, makes me wonder what kind of men are they. How can a man ask someone to monitor his wife/girlfriend for him, or becomes fetish by putting magun (thunderbolt) on his partner. What is yours is yours. You cant force or make someone to do your bidding. Going that far to 'secure' your wife, shows you don't trust her. And it also shows your marriage/relationship is not healthy. Cos, any man that does things like that hardly enjoys his marriage. When you're having doubts or concern about the fidelity of your partner, the best thing to do is to have a heart to heart talk with her, and also lead by example. By being faithful and responsible as well. Like I used to say, any form of cheating in a relationship/marriage can kill the love between a couple. And while a woman may forgive a cheating husband/partner, most men usually find it difficult to forgive and forget whenever their partners cheat on them. You can imagine! Men are jealous naturally, and their women are jewels they don't joke with. But that's not an excuse for some to try and 'secure' their women by all means. Doing that shows such men also have skeletons in their cupboards. Abi no be so?

Haven't bothered to watch the BBA show since it started. Cos I don't see any reason to do so. What's the benefit of the show? To watch how contestants (including our own Beverly) mess themselves up on the show, by getting involved in porn and other outrageous acts? It seems the contestants are all acting according to the scripts given to them by the organizers of the show. So as to up their ratings, I suppose. So, after the show, what's the next thing for the contestants? Adult movie, shey?

BBA is a porn show. despite their effort to rebrand, repackage pornography or disguise it, its still the same thing. See how contestants are sleeping, flirting and fingering one another on live TV...and the organizers are enjoying every bit of it...Parents shouldnt only prevent their kids from watching the ridiculous show, but they themselves should be guided if they chose to watch the yeye program. to me, its a waste of time, resources, and opportunity... africans aint oyibos...

When a man/lady does all the calling, caring and worrying in a relationship...and just like an overused engine, he or she is bound to get tired some day... If you're like that to your partner, just be ready to lose him/her to a better person sooner or later.

Is it true that when a guy engages a lady and later break up with her, he's placing a curse on himself. Since, getting engaged to any lady is like being tied down to the person spiritually. And that should the engagement be broken at any time, a curse would be on the guy. That's why some guys no longer present engagement rings to ladies these days before getting married. They prefer to do everything at the same time (i.e by doing both the traditional and church wedding within the same period). Ngbo na true?

As Actress Chika Ike post pics of her divorce case online...

But how can one be happy to post pictures of her divorce case in court on facebook/socia media. Is divorce now a thing of joy, for one to be posting pictures of it online? There's nothing Nigerians wont celebrate on socia network. A lot of people/celebrities are becoming so fake and inconsiderate these days...

PS: Written below is the full details, culled from Linda Ikeji blog.

After over two years of separation, actress Chika Ike has finally filed for divorce from the husband she married in 2006, Tony Eberiri. The actress filed for divorce in an Abuja High Court today citing irreconcilable differences. Chika also mentioned domestic abuse as part of the reason for filing for divorce but said she didn't want to go into details.
According to a source present at the hearing today, Chika will get final verdict from the court next month. Meaning she will be getting her divorce as early as June 2013.

A Beautiful Heart...
Most times, people confused beauty with physical appearance alone. And use it to judge or influence the choices they make. Beauty is only a temporal thing, that would surely fade some day. But there are people especially ladies who wouldn't mind to have it even if it's for one day. Many of them would live with the memories forever. That's why most girls tend to have inferiority complex when they think/feel they're not 'fine' enough. And some do all they can to look or feel beautiful. Those who have the means go under the knife (plastic surgery) to look perfect. But what's the use of being beautiful when your heart is the opposite. Girls with complex most times, use sex to substitute for their average looks. And most times such girls are usually vulnerable, maltreated or taken for granted by guys. Who feel they are doing them a favor by dating/sleeping with them. Many of these girls also try using sex to make a guy like them, which is a very big mistake. Cos sex can never help you win the acceptance or love of a guy. He will only eat and run away, leaving you heartbroken and worthless. And such girls are usually prone to heartbreak. Cos having complex (as a girl) and heartbreak are like 5 & 6. They go hand in hand. So girls who think they are not good looking enough should remove such thought from their mind, and have this belief they are the most beautiful girl in the world. Yeah, they are. And any guy who is not satisfied with your looks, should simply go and park for one corner. Your true love is out there. You don't have to cheapen yourself for any guy in order to make him accept/like you. Just have a beautiful heart. Which is enough beauty on its own. And to me, you are beautiful. Nothing do you!

Please, is Rick Ross still in town, or am I seeing double? Cos each time I turn, there is a Rick Ross look alike right behind me. As Naija guys are now growing their beards just like him...especially among guys on campus. And girls are so crazy about it too. Cos it looks good on most guys. But funny enough, is it not the same kind of beards the late highlife musician Oliver De Coque and Nollywood actor Emeka Ani had years back, and people weren't that crazy abt it. So whats the attraction? And why are guys now going for the Rick Ross look? Is it cos of him? Or is it cos of the boldness and confident look most guys have by growing their beards...just like Rick Ross

The reason most guys are now getting married, is not cos of love. Is that what you think? Mbanuu. Check out the reasons why most guys are now getting married.

1. Guys are getting married because they want to have kids.
2. They want to look settled before their family and friends.
3. Enjoy free and regular sex.
4. Have someone to organize/take care of their home for them.
5. And also do their laundry and cook for them.

Love is the least of them.

Why ladies like telling such lies whenever they are 'cornered' or caught red handed....

1. He's my cousin, and not my boyfriend.
2. He's my uncle...my father's distant brother.
3. He didn't kiss me. He only gave me a peck.
4. He didn't do anything. I only sat by the edge of the bed.
5. I struggled with him when he tried to have his way with me.
6. I've only dated one guy ever since I started dating.
7. I've only slept with two guys all my life.
8. He took advantage of me, cos I was drunk.
9. Though we slept together in the same room, he didn't touch me.
10. There's nothing between us, he just like helping me and hanging out with me.
11. I'm 23, though my mates look older.
12. I have a boyfriend, but the relationship is not a serious one
13. She claims not to double-date, but enjoy having flings with guys.
14. I live in Ikoyi. But I like treking through Obalende to get there.
15. She doesn't care about getting married, but like looking at wedding pictures, and staring at brides in their wedding gowns.
16. She doesn't like eating in bukateria, but like sending her younger sister to buy her food from mama put.
17. She claims to hate men, but falls cheaply for every tom, dick and harry.
18. He wants to marry me. But he's too shy to propose.
19. I'm the owner of the flat. The other two girls are only squatting with me.
20. I don't like eating too much, but let me have two hamburgers, one roasted chicken, one BBQ fish, a place of fried rice, salad and two bottles of Smirnoff ice.

I'm a in serious dilemma right now. And it has to do with my boyfriend. I'm presently dating a very sweet and cute guy, who works in an oil company. My boyfriend loves me so much, and I also love him dearly. We're not a perfect couple though, but we're always able to handle/resolve our differences maturely.

And the success of our relationship is making my friends to be envious of me. Cos they've been in and out of several relationship, and are presently sober and desperate for love. And to make the matter worse, my younger sister who just broke up with her guy, is also eying my boyfriend. Now, it's me against them. They want my fine, rich and loving boyfriend, and are hell bent on snatching him from me...

Most girls in Nigeria are fond of denying they're in a relationship. It's either they're not dating, not so sure, or that the relationship is not a serious one. Only to see the same girl brandishing an engagement ring the following month. Na so dem dey propose? Tell me, is it possible to meet and get engaged to a guy within a month? It's either they (girls) are very lucky or lying...

Girls are not smiling these days, cos guys are now playing hard to commit. And while guys are playing and hitting targets easily these days, the reverse is the case for most girls. Cos, as they are praying and hoping to get married, their guys are busy thinking of moving on to the next girl. Boys no longer want to go into relationships or stay long with any girl. All they want to do is to hit and run. They don't mind spending a lot on a girl, but once they get enough of her, they bolt into thin air. Now most girls are 'single' by force. Cos they can't really tell if the guy they are with is for real or on a short term. Guys now want more of flings than go into a serious relationship. And even if their girl refuse to play, there are a thousand and one other girls who'd be willing to take the offer for cash. And gone are those days, when a girl can publicly say a guy is her boyfriend. Nowadays, you can't be too sure. Cos when a girl is on page 1 or 2, the guy could be on page 20 already. Eager to finish the book (the girl) and move on to another one, sharp sharp! These days, most unmarried couples are hardly on the same page!

From what age should a man or woman be considered to be old? Is it when they are in their 40s, 50s or 60s? I'm asking, cos these days you always hear people calling themselves old men or women when they are only in their 40s or 50s. Especially here in Nigeria. Unlike abroad, where those in their 5os are still grooving and don't see themselves as being old.
Kris Jenner (the mother of Kim Kardashian), is in her 50s and having the time of her life. Same thing with our own Sen. Florence Ita-Giwa, who is in her 60s, but feels younger. Forget about the plastic surgeries both she and Kris Jenner must have done to look younger than their age. I'm talking about how they feel, because aging comes from the inside. It's usually how you feel, that reflects on your looks. if you feel you're old, you'll definitely look it. I'm always at a loss each time I hear a woman in her 40s saying she's old. And tend to feel she's no longer attractive. Why condemn yourself before the public. A lot of women in their 40s tend to develop low self esteem, cos of their age and 'fading' beauty. And also when they are approaching menopause. Most women usually feel by the time they get to their mid 40s they'd no longer be attractive to their hubby or to the opposite sex. That's why some of them go under the knife (plastic surgery) to look younger or good. But it's somehow funny, cos some of these gorgeous women are in their 40s. They radiate beauty and charm. They carry themselves well, and are ever confident. So, why feel bad or lose confident in yourself cos you're in your 40s or close to 50? Abeg, you're not old, but still 'very' young.
And as for men, we do have a lot of them who feel they are still young and tend to indulge in some of the activities meant for younger people despite being in their 50s. They do this, in order to keep fit, make their heart healthy, spice up their lives and also develop a positive mindset about life. Cos some usually become sober or depressed as they approach 50. They think more of dying than living. Worried about their family or the wealth they are going to leave behind when they are no more. This is suppose to be a period for them to have fun, love life, feel good, and also get closer to God. Instead of getting depressed, sober or losing interest in most things, you ought to go out there and have fun. Spice up your life too. Being in your 40s or 50s doesn't mean the end of the road for you.
Maybe it has to do with our culture or mentality. When those in their 40s start feeling they are old or less attractive. And the younger ones (especially girls) are not helping matters as well. cos most of them tend to see those in their 40s or 50s as old folks. They call a man of forty something or fifty, an old man. Can you imagine? And if you're in your late 40s as a man and want to date a younger lady, you're bound to be seen or referred to as a sugar daddy or an old man. Ain't those in their 40s part of the youth in our society. Why color their hair grey when it's not yet time. Biko nu. Forget that some people develop grey hair early these days. That doesn't make them old. It's how they feel or carry themselves that matters.
Please if you are in your 40s or 50, (either man or woman), feel good about yourself, be happy and love life!

NAZE CHIDINMA...Blogging without barriers. Meet Nigeria newest and sexiest female blogger...www.nikkynaz..com

Was opportune to meet with one of the newest blogger in town. A native of Naze Owerri North LGA of Imo State. And was really overwhelmed by her passion and zeal for blogging and desire to bring fresh news to the public as they break...and she's doing quite well. Below is what she has to say about herself, her dream man and future plans...And guess what? She's single and searching!

Reporter: Are you dating presently
? Linda claim not to have a Bf presently.
which I strongly doubt

Chidinma: i dont oo

Reporter: Hmmmm
almost every girl in lagos claim
not have a boyfriend as well.

Chidinma: lol

Reporter: And before u know it
you see girls flashing their engagement ring on facebook/internet
so, did the guys or the ring
fall from the sky?

Chidinma: well, wen one comes

Reporter: ok

Chidinma: wedding bells must ring

Reporter: which church do u worship with
and are u a Christian
or a free thinker
do u drink

Chidinma: practicing christian

Reporter: Do you club or go to strip club
do u believe in pre-marital sex
will u allow ur guy to tamper before marriage
?
Chidinma : no, I don't club
i dont belive in premarital sex
i drink baileys and cocktail
i dont smoke too

Reporter: ok

Chidinma : And i think i'll make a good wife

Reporter: rily? what makes you think so?

Chidinma: Cos I'm a responsible girl. the only problem is committing my life to a guy
and in manners too
he has to be worth it

Reporter: why can't u commit urself to a guy
do u fall in and out of love with any guy u meet

Chidinma: it can't be anybody

Reporter: ok
the guy must be loaded
fine
and must be endowed?

Chidinma: He must be worthy to be called the father of my kids
responsible
functional
non womanizer

Reporter: ok

Chidinma: He must be smart and hardworking
God fearing etc. and
he must be patient and understanding too

Reporter: ok. are u domineering

Chidinma: i have traits of being domineering stemming from my position as a first child
Reporter: So, all first born ladies are somehow domineering?
do u get advnaces from men cos of ur character or cos of ur sexy figure

Chidinma: sexy figure more

Reporter: dont u think ur guy wud be jealous cos of that

Chidinma: guys are attracted to the outside first before they know ur inner

Reporter: ok

Chidinma: well I didnt create myself endowed with all my assets

(Watch out for the part 2 of the interview).

Check out her blog: NikkyNaz Blog www.nikkynaz..com, and more details about her. She's a indeed a blogger to watch out for in 2013!

A lot of girls are so 'head strong', that no matter the advice you give them or the number of times you advise them, they will always want to do what's in their mind. That's why many of them end up heartbroken or assaulted. Just like what happened to a girl recently, who refused to listen to the wise counsel given to her, and thought she could use sex to make her guy marry her. Only for the guy to dump her after enjoying himself and having enough of her. Now she's back to square one. Lonely, sober and full of regrets. Some people just like to learn their lesson the hard way...especially girls. Trying to use sex to hook a guy is a waste of time! Cos it will never give you what you want, but what he wants...

This is when a guy is stuck with a girl that's ever moody, sober or unhappy. She's hardly cheerful. Every now and then, you are bound to find her looking sad or deep in thoughts. Behaving as if she's more disturbed than the rest of the world. And no matter what you do to make such a girl happy, is usually in vain.
This situation is common with girls (yeah girls). Cos no girl would want to stick with any guy that sulks. But most guys wouldn't mind to date such girls, with the hope of bringing sunshine into her life. Ready and willing to spend their time, energy and resources to make her happy. A friend of mine dated one in the past, and the experience he had is best imagined. Cos, it was a stressful experience for him. There was nothing he didn't do to make the girl happy. Even had to borrow a lot of movies from a video club, for the girl to watch just to ease her 'pain' a bit, but it didn't do much good. And most of his effort to address the issues bothering the girl didn't achieve much success either.
I've come to realize that the condition is more of a psychological problem. And the only remedy is counseling. Cos even with everything at her disposal, she could still be sober. She may laugh or smile a little, but you are bound to find her looking isolated and quiet most of the time. Maybe girls like that are naturally uninteresting. Always thinking more of their 'problems' than the solution. And no matter where you take her to, she'll always be moody at the end of the day. And most guys wouldn't want to end up with such a girl as a wife. Cos there's no sunshine when she's sad...

In this time and age, it's a normal thing for a woman to hide her investments, business deals or bank accounts from her husband. And also pretend not to have money whenever she's asked for any by her husband. We do have lot women who behave like that to their hubby. They do most of their stuff in secrecy nowadays. Some even build houses (in their own names), without telling their husband. And yet claim to be happily married.
All this would do more harm than good to your marriage. Cos by the time you and hubby start hiding things or your business deals from each other, both of you are laying the foundation for a broken home. You are not suppose to hide anything from each other if you truly love and respect each other. Imagine being a land lady elsewhere with two or more properties, while living as tenant with your hubby somewhere. isn't it ironic? You and your hubby are suppose to be one heart, and not separate hearts. We get married to become one. To love, cherish and also support each other. But nowadays, most wives are now becoming wiser, by having hidden bank accounts, or by being secretive with most of their business transactions. Some say they do it to protect their interest or that of their children. As if, the man is not part of the family or doesn't care about your kids as well. Even if you are married to a 'somehow' husband, it doesn't stop you from putting everything on the table and leaving God to take control.
Yeah, some men could be wasteful, extravagant or manipulated by their families. But its your duty as a wife to advise him, and also make him realize the importance of protecting his wife and their children, as well as saving for the future/investing for tomorrow. Women are generally known to be more prudent than men. Except for some few ones who lavish money endlessly on irrelevant stuff. When your man is derailing (financial/business wise), it's your duty as his wife/partner to put him in check and also steady the ship. Whatever he has, is yours, and whatever you have, is his. Nothing should be hidden. Everything should be made open. Cos you two are now one. And love is all about sharing...