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'I love you more than my mother' is now the slang/lyrics used by most guys to deceive/woo ladies. And not a few ladies have fallen for such lines. But how can a guy open his big mouth and say he loves a girl more than his mother. Imagine, comparing a girl he just met or his girlfriend with his mother? the woman that gave birth to him, carried him in her belly for nine months, breastfed him, taught him his first steps, bathed, cleaned his bum bum and also clothed him a million and one times when he was a child. A woman that loved, fed, took care of him and also sacrificed alot for his well-being. only for a guy to betray this kind of love for lust. Believe me or not, it's only a few ladies that can love a guy the same way his mother loved and cared for him. And it's cos of a mother's love for her son, that makes some mothers to compete with their daughters-in-law for the love and attention of their sons. A mother's love is everlasting and unconditional...So ladies, whenever a guy says he loves you more than his mother, abeg carry speed run far away from him. cos, definitely the guy is not for real. and is only looking for a girl to deceive. Shikena!

There are some ladies who feel and think the only way to attract guys is to look very attractive either naturally or artificially. That's why many of them are now packaging themselves very well with enough add-ons like using push up bras or injecting their 'bum bum' in order to make it curvy and sexy like that of Nicki Minaj or Kim Kardashian. And that's why some ladies are now doing or thinking of doing plastic surgeries, just to attract men and also look perfect before their mirrors. But what amazes me is when an already fine babe is thinking of doing plastic surgery. it seems too much fame and fortune can make some stars to start mis-behaving o. cos I dont know why someone as beautiful and sexy as Nollywood actress Omotola and some female celebrities would be thinking of doing plastic surgeries. for what? Biko check out Omotola. does she need to do any plastic surgery? Still looking so beautiful and sexy after four kids. Many ladies and wives would do anything to look like omotola. and yet she wants do go under the knife just to look perfect...


“I May Consider Having Plastic Surgery” – Omotola.

Seriously I am thinking about it. I have four kids. That has taken its toll on my body. I am not against plastic surgery as long as you're not doing it for extremely vain reasons. If you need it, you should do it. If I see any irregularities in my body that I cannot control, I will do it...Omotola.

See what I'm saying.

Declaring to say the whole truth is when one promise to say nothing but the truth in a law court, either when testifying or giving evidence on a case. but in this case, it has to do with a guy or a girl being honest with each other in a relationship. by being open and not covering or holding anything from each other. trust and honesty are two very important criteria for a successful relationship. And lack of it, could destroy a relationship.

In every relationship, couples need to be sincere to each other. And should be bold enough to share any part of their past that is capable of destroying their relationship should the other partner get to know about it later. if you are a guy and do have any health issues that has to do with being diabetic, having heart or procreating issue, or having similar genotype with your fiancee, you need to let your wife to- be know about it before marrying her. you dont need to be ashamed or afraid to let her know. And the same thing also apply to a lady, who probably can't have children due to some complications in the past, is asthmatic or have epilepsy, have spiritual problems or a stubborn ex boyfriend who doesn't want to let her go etc. she need to let her fiance know about it, rather than allow him to find out himself and put your relationship at risk.

Like a guy who has some issues that has to do with being a 'man' and as a result refused be intimate with his fiancee during their courtship. only for the lady to realize later that her husband is impotent after getting married to him. some people do hide alot of things from their partners, so as to not to jeopardize their relationship or the chances of getting married to the person. forgetting that there's nothing hidden under the sun. and no matter how long you hide it, it would surely surface one day. and by that time, it might be too late to redeem the situation. And also like a lady who is aware she cant have children due to the abortions she's done in the past, but refuses to disclose this to her fiance cos she doesn't want to lose him. she is only postponing her problem, which she'd definitely face in the future. So, why not be bold enough and tell him. if you two are meant to be together, he wont abandon you. and if he truly loves you, he'd be willing to stand by you to weather the storm together...while believing God for a miracle. Couples should endeavour to be open and sincere with each other. It's what you need to make your relationship work... cos true love ought to be for better for worse!

RE: Good or Bad?

Please should a married woman (with a child )dress like this to an event all cos of fashion. Mbanuuu!

That was what i was trying to tell some people yesterday, when some girls wrote to disagree with my opinion. but i guess our views can not be the same.and culture differs. like a lady from yankee was trying to prove to me yesterday that there's notin wrong in what she was wearing, cos its a normal thing in america. and while trying to make her realize that our culture and the way we see things are quite different from theirs, she took offence. there are some certain things we can emulate from oyinbos, but not everything. a married woman ought to respect herself and also carry herself well in public. if single ladies are piercing their nose, ears , and wearing bum shorts up and down in public, should a married woman do the same thing? mbanuuu!

I was raped some time ago by armed robbers along with some other girls on our way from abuja to lagos. our bus was ambushed and all the passengers in the bus were robbed while the four ladies (including myself) in the bus were raped one after another. And uptil now, I've not told my boyfriend nor my family about the incident. I feel so sad each time i remember the incident. its like a terrible nightmare that has refused to go away. And its affecting my relationship. cos after the incident I dont feel free whenever I'm with my boyfriend, and having sex with him is not something I look forward to anymore. he's been asking questions due to the change in my attitude and sober look most of the time. but I cant bring myself to tell him what happend. I just dont know how's he's going to take it. I love him so much and dont want to lose him, but what happened to me is affecting our relationship terribly. What am I going to do? Health-wise I'm ok, cos I had an HIV test immediately after the incident and was given a clean bill of health. But psychologically I'm not.


*The above story is from a lady on facebook, and she's seeking for advice on what to do.

I got this in mailbox last night from someone who has a score to settle with his twin brother. and it has to do with a girl. Read his story...

My name is Dennis, and I have a twin brother who is quite the opposite of me. While I'm gentle, quiet and easy going, my twin brother is naughty, playful,sociable and also a womanizer. He's also a prankster and can be so annoying atimes. but above all, he's fun to be with. the problem with him is that he likes girls alot, and can do anything to sleep with any girl that catches his fancy. and its cos of his lust for women, we are now sworn enemies. cos the idiot tampered with my woman, not once, but twice. and the most painful part of it is that he did it on purpose.
We normally visit each other, and on this particular day my twin brother was at my place when my girlfriend came around but met my absence. and since we both look so much alike, my girlfriend didn't know it wasn't me. she immediately flew on my twin brother, and started kissing and cuddling him. Taken aback at first, my twin brother later responded by handling and caressing her until they ended up having sex on my couch. My girlfriend only got to know she has slept with the wrong person when I came back and grabbed her like I used to do whenever I see her. I was furious and angry with both of them after my girlfriend filled with guilt later told me what happened. I would have dealt with my twin brother if not for the intervention of our parents and siblings. I told my girlfriend to give me some space so as to enable me get over the whole incident. Could you believe that during this period, my twin brother later went to my girlfriend's place and slept with her again after lying to her that he was me and that he had come to take her back. My girlfriend didnt know until when I called and asked her to come to my place so that we could sort things out and resume our relationship. I'm so angry with my twin brother right now and dont know what I'm going to do when I see him (he's gone into hiding). Cos this is not the first time he's doing this to me. He's been doing it right from when we were in secondary school. but this time around, he's not going to get away with it. aha, is it a crime to have a twin brother?

Evan Elodi wrote this...

-Ten Tips To Getting A Man

1. Learn to do solo trips. It’s just easier for most guys to step to a girl on her own, than one in a pack of girls.

2.Make friends with married women. They know what guys want more than your single friends (that’s why they’re married)

3. Be careful not to be TOO INDEPENDENT. Learn to gain from your man’s presence in your life. Guys need to be needed.

4.Drop guys that take all ur time without really chasing u. They block other guys. No IWC= Intimacy Without Commitment.

5. Make an effort. Try to look nice. Work out. Guys like babes. Get that Don King hair done, stop forming”Oh Naturale”

6. Don’t give it ALL up. Leave some for marriage. Perfect the art of giving previews. Nobody pays for free stuff.

7. Learn to cook. Most guys like a girl that CAN cook. Yeah not all guys but MOST. So do yourself a favour and learn.

8. Have standards. Or you’ll find yourself in and out relationships too often and that’ll earn you a bad name.

9. No matter what, never be rude or abusive to him in front of his friends. (Not even in Jest)

10. Don’t pressure him to marry u with questions like “Where’s this leading?” Instead leave him if he’s taking too long.

NO LOVE IN THIS HOOD...

Nollywood *smh*
what's so jolly about your hood.
when our actors are 'leaving the stage' without being treated fairly.
You make millions from the sales of your quack movies,
but pay peanuts to those who make people buy or watch your movies.
and leaving them to their fate,
each time they are down or at the point of death.
and you say you want to be like Hollywood,
when you are not even up to bollywood.
You disgust me so much with the way you run your show.
and with your callous attitude and ego.
tell me, will there be any Nollywood without the hood?
Hear me well, and stop maltreating those that made Nollywood what it is today.
we know the good ones from the bad ones.
and they are not all these wishy washy artistes running around,
ojez, kilo hotel, national theatre etc for film scripts or movie roles.
It pains me so much, each time I see the way you treat one another.
and you call yourselves colleagues/comrades.
You make me laugh.
Cos there's no single love in this hood,
Called Nollywood...

*Sam Loco Efe, Pete Eneh, and Enebeli Elebuwa... We will never forget you. You will
forever live in our memories for the joy you brought to many homes with your God
given talents....And may God bless your souls.

This is when a love is betrayed in order to save it. Or when you have to take a selfish risk in order to protect your love for someone. Take for instance when a guy and a girl who are dating go to a company to seek for employment or contract, but being the way things are in a society like ours, the guy or the girl might have to lie to the contact man or woman at the company that they are cousins and not lovers so as to get the job or contract. Cases like this do happen especially in our country where most men would always want to date or sleep with any girl that comes their way or seek for their help. And if a girl makes the mistake of going with her boyfriend to meet with a man for help/favour, she'd never get that help from the man. Cos most men dont like giving a girl money or favour to spend or enjoy with another guy. He'd rather prefer to see you suffer than help you, except you're willing to break up with your guy and become his lover.
Girls know what I'm talking about.That's why most times, a girl usually deny her boyfriend before her 'uncle' or benefactor. She's not doing it cos she doesn't love her guy, but doing it cos she loves him dearly. Probably she's trying to help her guy secure a job or contract from her so called uncle and in order to do so, she need to pretend or deny they are dating, so as to get the job or contract for him. The same also applies to guys. Cos guys are also faced with situations like this atimes, especially when a guy is sending or trying to secure a job for his girlfriend through a friend's connection. And some guys do this atimes whenever they want to date or seek for favours from older women/lovers. They lie or deny they have girlfriends, so as to find favours with other women. And imagine as a lady, you're being interviewed for a job in a company as big as Globacom and by someone as rich as Aliko Dangote or Mike Adenuga and you're asked if the guy that came with you (probably your boyfriend went with you to the place to support/encourage you) is your boyfriend. Wetin you go talk, if you truly understood where the man is going to... with such a question!
And some married ladies also do this atimes to get a job. especially when applying for a job in a company where the boss/MD is known to be a chronic womanizer and who gives more preference to ummarried ladies. in a situation like this and due to other circumstances, a married lady could be forced to deny she's married so as to get a job in such a company. There are some bosses who dont like employing married ladies. they prefer employing single girls that they can date and sleep with without any complications. So, atimes a married lady could be forced to hide her wedding ring, deny she's married, change her status to single and start calling her husband her brother or cousin before her boss. These things do happen. And you dont have to blame any lady or guy that does it, considering the situations of things and the level of unemployment in our country today. Many would give or do anything to get a job or favour these days. Abi no be so?

On individual level we do have people who export or import goods such as clothes, handbags, shoes, palm kernels, cocoa, adire & kampala materials to/from other countries. But the import and export I'm talking about has nothing to do with that kind of business. This one has to do with the 'importation' of babes for romping purpose. And it involves young rich guys who import or arrange for hot babes from within and outside the country. especially campus girls from universities within and outside Nigeria (like Ghana, South Africa, Kenya etc).
And these guys are big boys with hot cash. they earn fat salaries monthly plus other juicy bonuses, which most times are lavished on women, booze and other frivolities. Most of them are oil workers, top bankers and business tycoons. they go for the best and when you see the kind of girls they lavish money on, they are out of this world. and with shapes like mermaids. Atimes, you begin to wonder if they are actually students. the other day on my way back from a trip, I met two of such girls at a private jetty in Phc. seeing them, you'd know they're big time 'runs' girls, with shine-shine skin, lovely legs and with a sexy shape to crown it all. And both of them were wearing short mini gowns. which is what most of them wear these days. they dont wear jean trousers anymore but sexy curvy mini gowns or leggings with a short top to go with it. And they are usually hot girls with fine legs and glowing complexion. it's as if the guys importing them are selective, seeing the kind of ladies they bring in, to romp with.
And as I was saying, the two girls simply stood out and paid no mind to anyone, as all eyes were on them. And from the jetty to our destination, they stuck together until their guy (the importer/client) came to pick them up and took them to his place somewhere in town. Alot of these guys (especially all these young guys with money), are into sex orgies like this. they romp with two, three or more girls at a time. throwing impromptu bedroom or swimming pool parties, and paying pimps to arrange babes for them. Some of them even travel as far as Ghana, South Africa or Brazil (Yes Brazil) to get and sleep with babes. they have the money and can spend it anyhow they like. Over here, most of them have steady girlfriends, wives or fiancee who are somewhere else while they live alone and romp regularly with their imported babes who are sometimes kept permanently in an hotel for that purpose. And even while their mates are busy studying or writing exams, these so called campus girls are either here or somewhere having fun and enjoying themselves with their clients. To them, they're on a business trip...No shaking!

"London (Stamford) Bridge is falling down...
falling down, falling down,
Stamford bridge is falling down,
My dear Chelski"

The person that wrote this song must have had Chelsea FC in mind. cos everything about the song has to do with the current depredation (manager/poor performance) at Chelsea and attempts, realistic or fancilful being made by the owner to repair the bridge (Chelsea)....

Heard Torres stays in an hotel permanently, while John Terry is known to be a chronic womanizer as well as Ashley Cole and most of the players in Chelsea. And dont be surprise if their current poor form/performance is not unconnected to women and sex...

Husband Material...this is for the single girls out there who are presently in a relationship. while you and your guy are still dating and before you walk down the altar with him, there are some things you need to take into consideration before you say I do...And as a lady you ought to know if your current boyfriend is an husband material or just there for the moment. written below are some of the things you need to consider first...

(1). Is your guy loving enough: make sure your boyfriend's love for you is genuine. make sure he truly loves you and is not planning to marry you cos of your body or sex. for we do have guys who mistake lust for love. some of them behave as if they cant live without a girl, but once he sees another girl, you see him reciting the same love lyrics he's been professing to you as well. most guys lust after girls. their love is not even up to a 6 inches nail. it's so shallow, and can evaporate at anytime. especially if the girl is no longer fine or good in bed. but my dear, any love or relationship based on looks, sex or lust na waste of time! you should be able to know if your guy's love for you can withstand any temptation or challenge. some guy's love are like fruits. once it's exposed, it starts changing colour. but some are like a rock, which are most times unbreakable.

(2). Is your guy Caring: if your guy doesn't care much about you or your upkeep while you two are dating, then there's no guarantee he's going to change that habit/attitude when you two are married. you'll know a good husband material while you two are dating. even if the girl is a terrible girl, it wont prevent her from knowing a good guy from a bad guy when she sees one. some guys dont even care to know if their babes have money for toiletries or for pad whenever they are having their period. they usually assume a lady ought to know how to take care of these things without being told. their own is to come and chop. and whenever a girl refuses to get down with her guy especially during her menstral period, without telling him her reasons, the guy go begin vex and go con dey suspect the girl for nothing. o boy, your girl is not a boyscout o. do your duty as a boyfriend and respect her as your woman.

(3). Is your guy understanding: Most guys lack this quality. they are usually quick to anger or suspect their girls whenever she falls short of his expectation. most times, they assume a lady should know everything. forgeting that women are the weaker vessel. whenever she's slow or delay in doing some things, try and bear with her. learn to be tolerant and understanding. women are known to be cautious naturally, even when driving. so, a guy shouldn't be quick to condemn or get angry with his girlfriend. even when it comes to the issue of food or any domestic issue (some guys can quarrel with their woman cos of food). tolerate her, try to understand her, correct her politely, cuddle and also support her. cos she's your woman.

(4). Is your guy hardworking: this is a very important issue to consider while dating a guy. since its every girl's dream and desire to take her relationship to the next level (marriage), she ought to look out for this trait in her guy. your guy should be hardworking. even if he's not working, he should be doing something positive to provide for himself and also be able to assist you occasionally until he gets a better job or opportunity. your guy dont have to be an oil worker, a banker or an engineer with a fat pay package every month for you to conclude he's hardworking. he could be any of this, and yet may not know how to plan, invest or make proper use of his income. and that could be distastrous for you two later. and if he's none of this, it's the things he's able to do with the little he has that makes him an hardworking guy. cos if he's not hardworking, then both of you are inviting hunger and poverty into your home when you eventaully get married. and this can break up your marriage sooner or later. hardwork is the bedrock of real men. make sure he's one, in order to safeguard and secure your future.

(5). Is your guy romantic: yeah, this is always the favourite part for most girls. any relationship without romance is as good as dead. romance is the tonic for every relationship or marriage. and once there's none or little of it, your relationship or marriage is bound to start having issues. which if not properly and quickly resolved could lead to something else. so, my dear i'm not saying you sould be the one to initiate romance in your relationship, no. that should be the job of your guy or husband to be. your know how some guys think nah. if you try to initiate it all the time or you crave for it too much, some guys might start thinking the girl is loose. so, leave him to do his job. except he no get the liver.

(6). Is your guy responsible and committed: make sure he's a responsible guy. and not a chronic womanizer or into booze. though it's hard to tell but you'd know a womanizer when you see one. and may God help you if you're dating a womanizer. And if your guy is not that committed as much as you are in the relationship, then you are in fantasy island. while you are thinking of going right, he's thinking of going left. and once his goals and yours are not the same, then you two may not have a future together. so, try to know if he's ready to be a man. ready to start a family and also be there for you. cos some guys sometimes are scared to take that plunge. they feel getting married or having kids would take away alot of things from them. and cos of that, they find it difficult to commit themselves or take the relationship to the next level.

(7). Is he supportive and does he respect your opinion: make sure he's not the arrogant or proud type. cos we do have guys who hardly listen to their girlfriend or take her advice. for there are guys who believes most girls are unintelligent, but are only good in vain things. they feel most girls dont know much about business or other important issues. but when it comes to entertainment, clothes, blackberry phones, ipad, shoes, handbags, perfumes, wedding parties, shows etc, many of them no dey carry last. but notwithsatnding, it's the duty of a guy to make his girlfriend better in areas she's not. teach her, learn with her, also support her all the way. those things you dont know, your guy should endeavour to teach you, cos you two are in the relationship to grow together. and a correct guy will always be willing to support the dreams of his girl. if she wants to further her education or go into a business, the guy should be willing to advise, encourage or support her towards achieving her goals. relationship shouldn't be all about one partner but both. the two of you should support and motivate each other. you need to work together as a team all the time. if your guy is always talking and thinking about himself and his achievements, and is less bothered or concerned about your growth/well-being, then you need to think twice about your relationship. you dont even need to take a trip to obudu cattle ranch or any other resort to think about it.

(. Is your guy cool headed and sweet: Is your guy sweet, cool and friendly. does he keep a straight face all the time, or smile alot. and I hope he's not abusive or violent. cos there are many girls in abusive/violent relationship. and they are somehow stuck in it. their guy beat them all the time, collect money from her or introduce her to bad things. some stay in such a relationship with the hope of getting married to the guy. they feel they dont have any other option than to stick with him come what may. if your guy beat you always, has hot temper, obtain money from you alot or maltreat you, and he's not willing to change, then he's not an husband material. period!

(9) Is your guy religious: Being religious, I'm not talking about carrying Bible about or going to church every day. but your guy should atleast not be far from God. you two should endeavour to be closer to God, attend a Bible believing church, and also find time to study the Bible together. dont judge yourself, or allow others judge you two. let your hearts be clean, let your intentions be genuine and both of you should be willing to work towards making things right before God.

(10). And is your guy a fair weather person: there are guys who are only seen when their girlfriends are healthy, looking sweet or doing fine. but whenever she's ill or going through a difficult period, such guys run far away from his girlfriend. a correct guy will always be there for his girlfriend. take good care of her whenever she's ill, do his best to assist/support her whenever she's going through a difficult moment and also give her a shoulder to lean on. any boyfriend dat only comes to you whenever he wants to have fun, should be chased away with aziza (broom). cos he doesn't mean well for you. shikena!

And mind you, I'm not saying you should give your guy a straight red card if he doesn't possess any of these qualities. give him some time ( i.e give him a yellow card first) to change for good. and if he's not ready to do so, then you can tell him to either wake up or take a walk, so that you can try other alternatives. but should your alternatives (other guys) be worse than your first choice, then it's better you stick with him and try work things out. cos half bread is better than none!

Whenever an engaged couple suddenly calls off their engagement, most times its usually due to an act of infidelity by one of the party. But you may never know who actually cheated on who, since both the man and the lady are bound to accuse each other of being the guilty party and the cause of their break-up. Each of them will always want to play the victim before his or her friends... So, who ate the forbidden fruit then? Like the story of Daniel and Kate, who were engaged to be married. they've made plans, printed wedding cards and souvenirs and were also planning to buy a house they'd live in once they are married. only for the engagement to be called off suddenly by the couple, which was a rude shock to their families and friends. Daniel later went round telling everybody that Kate was the cause of their break-up, having caught her cheating on him with her boss. But according to Kate's friends, it was Daniel that actually cheated on her. and as a result Kate had to break up with him. so, who are we going to believe. Daniel or Kate?

It's designed for a man and woman to come together and become one. but it's not said that their union wont be without some challenges. Since they are two different people coming from different background, each with his or her own character. so, it's a normal thing when a couple quarrel, fight or disagree. most times its another way of understanding each other better. And dont get me wrong, when I said 'fight', I'm not talking about getting physical with your wife, mbanuu. I meant quarreling or disagreeing over an issue at home.You can disagree to agree. cos everyday is a learning process for a couple. no matter the duration we spend dating, you can never know each other well enough. so, everyday is usually used to know more about each other.

But funny enough, not a few couples would be so happy if their marriage or relationship is free from quarrels. they tend to think when all is smooth and sweet in their relationship, then it shows they are meant to be together forever. they feel it's a perfect relationship or marriage made in Heaven. my dear, please wake up from your dream. cos there's nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. when a couple doesn't quarrel or disagree at all, please it's not a good sign. alot is being suppressed or concealed for the sake of the other person. one party is likely to be suffering in silence, but may not want to voice it out just to make it seems all is perfect between him and his wife (or in their home). But the day, the cat would be let out of the bag, it's likely to destroy that marriage or relationship. So, if you and your partner dont quarrel or disagree, please find or do something that would make both of you to quarrel o. so as to make everything balance. and also for one to learn know how to tackle/resolve the issue.

For a couple is bound to disagree to agree, break up atimes to make up and also know more about each other. Quarreling with your partner atimes makes the relationship stronger when both of you are able to resolve the issue and also learn from it...and it's also a show of love and affection when couples are quarreling. Abi no be so?

When we were small there was one program we used to watch on TV about a small man who has a very big wife, that controls and also beat him up most times. the man does virtually everything in the house, like carrying their baby on his back, bathing and dressing up their two other kids for school, going to the market, cooking for the family and running errands for his overbearing wife. Seeing such a scenario on TV, you begin to wonder in the real world, aint men suppose to lord over women. is it not written that a man is suppose to be the head of the house and women are suppose to be submissive to the their men 24/7.

But truth be told, this things do happen in the real world. where some women are known to control their husbands. some say na juju (voodoo), while others say na act of love whenever a man is being controlled by his wife. in such a home, it's the man's wailing noise that's always heard by their neighbours whenever the woman of the house is at it again. you hardly hear the man's voice when it comes to making decisions in the house. it's the woman that makes all the decisons and rules. while the man is expected to obey and follow them to the later. failure to do so, could mean trouble for the man. and this is also common with guys who marry women for their money or are married to successful older women. such women are known to maltreat and take advantage of their husbands. due to their poor status. and especially if the guy is unemployed and always depend on his wife for money or other things, he's virtually turned into an house boy (man) by the woman. it's usually a very humiliating experience for any man in such a marriage or situation. they feel the pain, but can't voice it out. they know it's not right, but can't do anything about it. some of them are sometimes abandoned by their families, who tag them as woman wrappers.

Just like the case of a popular actress, rumoured to be using juju (voodoo) on her hubby. and according to the rumour, the actress is the one running their home, while the man just sit and watch. the man also allow her to do whatever she likes, as well as get involved with other men. can you imagine. and there are some tribes in Nigeria whose women are said to be domineering in nature. they are known to control and influence their husbands. and as a result most guys dont like marrying ladies from these tribes. I wont mention the tribes/States, but you will know their women/girls when you see them. and mind you it's not all their women that are like that. some of them are good and do make good wives.

And come to think of it, is such a woman ever happy or fulfiled. what kind of pleasure or satisfaction does she derive by treating her husband like a 'mumu' before everybody. wont she be bothered about what people will be saying about her and the kind of names they're bound to call her. And most times, such women are also known to be adultrers and fetish. Since what matter most to her is her joy and comfort. anything else is secondary. And as for the guys who are looking for rich and successful women to marry. you better be careful. you are a man, and ought to behave like one. work hard and do your best to provide and take care of your wife and your family. it's your duty! the day you abandon your duties as the man of the house and allow your wife to take over your responsibilities, you are only asking for trouble...

Who is a career woman/lady. Some define such a person as a woman who is more interested in her career than in being married and having children. And interestingly, it's a common thing to find seven in every ten girls wanting to become a career woman. many of them want to become a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer or a banker. and some would do all they can to achieve their dream. even if it means neglecting her home or not getting married, many of them wouldn't mind. and we have guys who are usually afraid to marry a career woman or any lady who intend becoming one. since not a few career women tend to neglect their husbands or children. their job/career comes first. they work 6 to 10 every day (i.e from 6am-10pm), coming home tired and pre-occupied atimes mentally with her office work. Even their weekends aren't that free, cos some of them still bring home their office work to do atimes. depriving her husband and kids of her time, love and care. and dont be surprised most of the men that cheat are married to career women. and they tend to use it as an excuse to chyk/seduce gullible girls.
Nowadays, men usually run away from female entertainers, lawyers, bankers and female doctors or nurses. due to the nature of their jobs which makes them spend more time at work than with their family. and if not for the harsh economic situation, many wouldn't even want their wives to work in a bank or do any job that would make them spend more time away from their home, husband or kids. some jobs are home wreckers to most women, I tell you. many of these career women are so much into their job that they dont even have time for romance or family time. they hardly socialize or have time to take their kids out. some leave their homes for their maids to manage, only for the maid to end up marrying her man and take over her marriage. you go blame her? who no like better thing! and the unmarried ones among them are most times not happy or fulfilled, inspite of earning a fat pay, living in a fine house and having exotic cars in her garage. many of them are usually sober and unfulfilled. some try to console themselves by dating or having affairs with younger or older men, while still craving for that which makes a woman complete; a Home!
Juggling your career and your marriage shouldn't be an impossible task to do, if you really want to. it's left for you to plan very well, make out time to be with your family, manage your home and also care for your husband...dont abandon your kids or hubby to strangers cos of your job. dont leave your home for any maid to manage. if you dont want to become a stranger in your own house. A word is enough for the wise....and as for the unmarried ones, who prefer their career to finding a man and settling down. your career can never take the place of a man in your life, neither can it gives you the joy of motherhood! Shikena!

You must have heard a guy or a girl making utterances such as "she belongs to me, no she's mine or I wont let you snatch my boyfriend from me or take what belongs to me". And when you hear people utter such words in the middle of a fight or while quarreling over a guy or a girl, you begin to wonder if they've paid the bride price or done the right thing on the girl in question, or are legally married to the guy, before laying claim to that person. A lady (a girlfriend), that's not engaged or legally married to you yet, doesn't belong to you until the right thing is done. Same thing a guy (boyfriend) that is not married to a girl. So therefore, he or she could be snatched from you at anytime by someone else if you are not smart or fast enough. keeping one's husband or wife these days is not an easy thing, how much more when it comes to keeping a boyfriend or girlfriend away from prying eyes/hands. Dating/being in a relationship is like when you are in a commodity market, and na the person wey sabi bargain pass or get plenty money dey take the better items go house. if a guy hasn't done anything on your head as a lady (pay bride price/engagement), you have no claim to him at all. and the guy too doesn't have a claim to the girl. so, saying someone belongs to you when you've not done anything to cement una relationship doesn't make any sense at all. if you are so 'crazy' about a girl, or you two are madly inlove, then go do the right thing before another person go con snatch your Rose or Guy under your nose...yes nah, cos na market we dey!

Boarded a cab with three hot chicks yesterday in PHC, who were dressed to the nines and looking like super stars in their sunshades and each with her blackberry phone. under the hot sun, they became thirsty and asked the cab driver to look
for any of those guys hawking water on the road, so that they can buy water to drink. but guess what? they weren't asking for bottled water, but pure water, which they all drank and even bought one for the cab driver. and when it was time for them to alight from the cab, with the pure water still in their hands, they were so ashamed to come down from the cab. according to them, it would be a shameful thing for girls like them to be seen buying/drinking pure water. make una see how some babes dey form? to buy groundnut or roasted maize for roadside dey even shame some girls too. but if you buy am give dem, they go chop am finish, clean mouth. abeg, lets be real. fake life na fake!

Things Some Ladies Do and Shouldn't do...

1. A lady shoud not put/leave a tooth pick in her mouth after
eating or picking her teeth with it.

2. Rub their tummy after having an heavy meal. some ladies do
this especially whenever they finish eating a plate of fufu,
pepper soup or isi ewu. some eat alot also. especially if
someone else is paying for the meal.

3. Drink alcohol (any kind of alcoholic juice or drink)

4. Get angry whenever a guy stop showing interest in her after
making yanga for the guy.

5. Get angry when a guy refuses to take her back despite all her
plea and apologies.

6. fart in public (doing this its human, my dear)

7. belch in public.

8. Pick her nose in public

9. Some hardly wash their hands after using the toilet

10. fight or misbehave in public.

11. Sharing of underwears (bra) with friends atimes

12. Sharing of tooth brush with friends atimes

13. Peeing inside a swimming pool whenever she goes for a swim

14. Applying too much make-up on her face and looking off point!

15. Wearing leggings or bum shorts or any dress without
underwear. heard alot of girls are doing this now. maka why?

16. Having more than one boyfriend/lover at a time. and bedding
all of them. or flirting and falling inlove with every guy that
comes her way.biko, AIDS/STDS full town. gikwa nwayo o.

17. Lying alot to cover one lie after another. Biko, you're a lady for
crying out loud. endeavour to respect and conduct yourself
well, all the time.

18. Using church to cover up her excesses. No body is perfect.
but pretence/eye service is not allowed in the house of God.

19. Using facebook or other social media to obtain money from
guys. or to flirt and cheat on your partner.

20. Some are very covetous. they are never satisfied with
whatever they have. always craving for what others have, and
puting their lives and health at risk in the process.

When a woman loves a man, there's nothing you can do or say to kill her love, cos nothing compares to a woman's love. except if she never loved the guy in the first place. Yes! cos when a girl truly loves a man there's noth
ing he'd do to her that would make her hate/dislike him. even if he cheats on her or hurt her in anyway. she may 'hate' him for a while, but deep down her feelings for the guy would still be there. Just like when a girl and a guy are no longer dating, the girl may still have feelings for him if she truly loved him while they were dating. A woman's love last longer than a man's love. Abi no be so?

When a man loves a woman, there's nothing you can do to kill this love, except the woman cheats on him. Yes! say or do all you can to make a guy change his mind/feelings for a girl, you're only doing it in vain. cos it wont make him to stop loving her, except the girl cheats on him. if there's anything a guy dislike or dread most in life, it's when his woman is unfaithful. it's an act seen as a big slap or dent on his ego. its as if she's indirectly telling him he's not man enough...

Loving & caring, is not because your girlfriend doesn't ask you for money, and you dont even care to give her or play your role as her boyfriend. these days most girls hardly ask their guys for money. but they expect him to give them without asking. since its your duty to take care of her as her boyfriend, if you dont want someone else to take care of her for you. you shouldn't wait for her to ask you before you give her. Play your role well!

Please this advice goes out to all the single guys out there. before you marry, make sure you pick a correct girl, a sweet loving and 'original' God fearing lady, that'd love you unconditionally and forever. dont go and marry the one that'd later put your life and heart in jeopardy, by the time both of you are in your late 40s. and she start seeing you (her husband)as an old man, while she turns into a cougar wearing bum shorts and leggings, and looking for young young boys (or younger men) to tango with. pls, be careful! For there are women, who unknowingly and gradually turns into a cougar by the time they are getting to their early 40s. But that shouldn't be an excuse. As for the guys, please try and know your woman well, before making her your wife!

there are some fine girls who are very endowed physically but when you are unfortunate to meet them in their off/bad mood, you may regret ever knowing such a girl. some of them, their hot temper has more current than an electric wire. and some of them have this happy today and sad tomorrow kind of attitude. their mood swing has almost the same calender with their.... (you know). and whenever a girl is in such a mood, you see her recoiling into her shell and virtually switching herself off completely from others. even ignoring her 'almighty' bb & pinging whenever she's in a very bad mood. But before you know it, she's back to her normal self, smiling and having fun with her friends again. we do have girls that are like this in our midst and not a few guys have them as girlfriends. and they are in a better position to tell you their experience. Small thing can trigger off such a girl's bad mood or temper. and atimes, some of them dont even care or have the courtesy to pretend or hide such character/temper whenever they go out either alone or with their boyfriends. if you want to confirm, try and visit some of the nite clubs or any events in town and you could be lucky to see some of them in action. displaying their temper or tantrums in public...like a five years old girl!

This is about girls meeting or hooking up with their facebook friends (guys), only to end up biting their fingers later. If you dont want to be molested, then dont venture. that is, dont meet/follow any guy to his house no matter the time of the day. for, alot of guys are crazy about sex these days, and see every girl as an item of pleasure. My advice to girls is simple; if you dont want to be molested, dont venture.
Some guys see facebook as a porn site, where they can just come and pick any girl they want for sex. and some girls have been so gullible and falling 'yakata' for guys on facebook. is it out of desperation or adventure? facebook is suppose to be for socio networking, but some guys and girls are using it for the wrong reasons. Look at what happened to Cynthia and the girl that jumped from a building (to avoid being molested by a guy)just recently. girls usually like to learn their lessons the hard way. What happened to those girls can happen to any girl. dont because of a night of fun and some 'tashere'(meagre)money risk your precious life. your life is worth more than that.
In most cases, when a girl follows a full grown man to his house, she shouldn't expect him not to touch her (or make an attempt) when he is neither a priest nor her 'uncle'. by going home with a guy, you're simply giving him the wrong signal. you've already put him in the mood, and any attempt to prevent such, would be a slap on his ego. and what comes next is a tale for another day.
And anytime you notice any of your room mates looking so quiet or sad, or stays in bed all day after returning from an outing the previos night, then there's every possiblity she's been molested or an attempt was made to molest her by her date. most times, girls dont report incidents like this due to fear of being stigmatized or talked about by others. they prefer to go through the pain and trauma on their own and silently. but if you dont talk, others wont learn!
Like an incident I was told happened to two undergraduate girls, who were raped by some guys they met at a party. having met and exchanged numbers with these two guys, they were later called and asked to accompany them to an engagement in town. and while returning from the event, the two girls were taken to the house of one the guys. where they now try to molest the girls. the girls resisted at first, but were made to succumb at 'knife' point (one of the guys threatened to harm them with a knife). the girls didnt leave until the next morning. feeling filthy and traumatized. alot of girls go through similar experiences like this, even in the hands of their so called boyfriends, but they hardly talk about it.
What some girls dont realize is that if you dont follow a guy to his house or nite club, he can't come and drag you from your house or hostel. Love no be by force. There're many unreported cases like what happened to the girl assaulted in 1004 flats in Lagos. but alot of girls dont listen or learn from other people's mistake.
Ladies use your heads. No matter the situation, dont be deceived or carried away. Always use your head. the days are evil...

As a lady, is it right/proper for your Church pastor to choose a partner for you, tell you whom to marry, or make decisions for you concerning your relationship. for, we do have ladies who are willing and ready to dump any guy (even a fiance) once they are told to do so, by their pastors. if na you, you go gree?

As a lady, your boyfriend gives you an engagement ring and later present you to his family and friends as his fiancee only for him to break off the engagement later and dump you for another girl fter making you believe he was going to take you to the altar.

Or you're a guy dating a girl whom you intend marrying and while making preparations to marry her, she suddenly dumps you due to one reason or the other...Tell me, how'd you feel, if na you be the lady or the guy?

Most men that cheat/flirt around will always love their wives, no matter the amount of love portion, juju , special treatment or other tricks used by any of their girlfriends or mistresses to snatch them from their wives. It's only when he allows himself to be manipulated or jazzed that's when his marriage is threatened. if not, anything the woman outside does, she's only doing it for nothing!

Bitter/Sweet...

Wedding no be Marriage...we have those (especially ladies) who only look forward to the wedding and not to the marriage. forgetting that wedding no be marriage. Wedding is just a ceremony to usher you and your partner into the marriage...which is the main course! That's why most times alot of ladies are hardly prepared for marriage. they still live in the past, thinking they are still single or still a new bride. craving to be pampared, spoilt or tolerated by their spouse. and reluctant to get into their new status as a married woman and mother-to-be.

Most times, when you eventually get to meet any of your facebook friends (either male or female) physically, he or she tend to look somehow different from his/her pictures online/facebook. some look better or finer, while others look less pretty or handsome. and not a few girls have lost interest in a guy or refuse to see him when they notice he's not as big or fine as he looks on facebook. they lose interest in the guy instantly and wouldn't want to see the guy again. Some guys also do the same thing, but because of their ulterior motive they pretend to like the girl no matter how she looks just to get inbetween her legs. and once they achieve that, they disappear like Usain Bolt! A girl once told me of how she treated one of her male friends on facebook when the guy came to her place (she actually invited him). she said she refused to come out of her house and see him when she saw how the guy was looking in flesh and blood, from her window. she wasn't too pleased with his appearance and had to tell him she wasnt around. I could imagine how the guy must have felt on that day. humiliated and embarrased I guess. kai women. they want everything to be perfect. then they should go and marry robot nah. because nobody is perfect. and most times, we expect our internet friends to look as gorgeous as they look on facebook. forgetting that some of them usually make themselves up before snapping and uploading their pictures online. and some usually look bigger and finer in pictures (the photogenic ones). but in real life they look the opposite. I call it internet magic. and alot of people have fallen 'foolishly' inlove with guys or girls based on their fine looks and physique on facebook. only to have their hopes dashed after seeing the guy/girl in flesh and blood. my dear my broda, true love no dey selective. guess all their love na infatuations. Abi no be so?

Most single guys are reluctant to settle down due to alot of reasons. some of which I shall break down...

1. Freedom: Most guys feel that once they get married, they wont have the freedom to mingle with other girls. since their wives will always be monitoring them or be with them most of the time. and any attempt they make to flirt or have a harmless chat with a girl will always be frown at or misinterpreted by their spouse.

2. Makes Life Boring: To some, life could become boring once they get married. since they are bound to change their lifestyle because of their wife or new status. whether they like it or not, their lifestyle would change. it could be due to economic reasons (since he's now a family man) or his wife is not the going out type. the man would be turned into an indoor man outrightly. cos any move he makes to go out alone on weekends, could be seen by his wife as an opportunity to cheat on her. and as a result his social life becomes zero.

3. More Responsibilities: As a single man, he can afford to live on his small salary or manage his finances well. but with the coming of a wife and the kids later, this is bound to make him think twice before venturing into marriage. he knows his pay check is nothing to write home about, he's not from a rich family that could support him, or has any other business venture to use in sustaining his family, he might be discourage from getting married until he's comfortable enough.

4. Fear: Some guys are simply afraid to take the plunge. they feel they are not ready yet or equipped to be a married man/father.they're not ready to have kids or have some kind of responsibilities thrown at them by a woman/kids. they dont want to change or have someone come into their life and make them adjust their life for her sake. they want to hang out with friends at the bar, watch soccer matches with their pals, leave their clothes anywhere they like, come home anytime they like, date as many girls as they want. they want to be flexible. they feel marriage makes a man rigid and less exciting. though some may claim marriage makes a man responsible. but there're guys who feel marriage takes the excitement out of life. being single to them is more exciting than being married. and as a result, they prefer to linger in it for as long as they want.

5. Greed: surprisingly we also have guys who are reluctant to settle down as a result of greed. they feel the woman is only coming to eat their money and food. they see women generally as a burden. and are not ready to take such burden. this category of guys are those ones that are stingy to their girlfriends. they hid their money from their girlfriends or pretend as if they dont have. they only give a girl money whenever
they want to sleep with her. these ones patronize prostitutes alot. they enjoy being single and living alone. They simply dont want to share their comfort/money with any woman.

These are some of the reasons I know of. But if you know of any other one, feel free to add it to the ones I've mentioned.

This is when a girl is torn between her boyfriend and her friends. and when a girl doesn't know what to do when her friends are trying to have more influence on her than her boyfriend, thereby putting her in a tight corner. we do have girls who have found themselves in situations like this. especially with close female friends. once the girl is in a relationship, such friends may not want to let go of her easily. some might even want to indirectly tell her what to do in her relationship, and would also want her to spend more time with them than with her boyfriend. which is bound to cause problems for her with her guy. in some relationships, there is always a silent battle for the heart and attention of a girl between her boyfriend and her freiends or even with her sister. cos there are some girls who would their sister to be giving them gist about her boyfriend, relationship or runs. sometimes they are there to advise her, encourage her or mislead her. same thing with friends. situations like this can also contribute to the break down of a relationship. cos most guys wont tolerate any girl with friends that wants to be in her life all the time. its either she choose him or her friends. guys like to be in control and dont like competition. which is bound to happen once a girl is easily influenced/controled by her friends. she'd definitely be going in and out of relationship every now and then. a girl really need to put her friends in their places when it comes to the issue of relationship. its between her and her guy. except there's more to it than she's showing. cos we have all kinds of 'friends' these days. some, their closeness to a particular girl could be due to one thing one thing (you know nah). and seeing her going out with a guy is like an insult/a slap on their faces. so they do all they can to frustrate her relationship and make her believe she's better off without a guy. some of them have their own boyfriend, but prefer to destroy another girl's relationship due to selfish reason. it's the girl at the center that has the power to put such friends in their places. a guy should never make any attempt to confront such female friends on his own. he should leave the girl to make the decision/move. and if she's not keen about dropping such friends, then its now left for the guy to take the next step. either to continue with the relationship or to end it. but its not right for us to allow our friends dictate for us or have too much influence in our relationship with the opposite sex. you can seek for their advice sometimes but you shouldn't allow them to run things for you. and no matter how close they are to you, your partner should always come first in your relationship. Shikena!