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There is no how, a sin can be hidden for long. Either the person that commit the sin confesses or the sin is later revealed or exposed by fate. Just like when Cain couldn't hide from his sin after killing his brother Abel, so it is when you cheat on a faithful partner. Apart from having this constant feeling of guilt, it's either you confess or your sin (unfaithfulness), is later exposed by God. There is never an escape route for an unfaithful partner. So, to avoid being embarrassed or humiliated, behave yourself!

Its kind of absurd, when you begin to ask yourself such a question. Since I ought to know who I am. But life could be very funny atimes, to the extent of making one question his or her identity/ability when faced with some certain challenges. Just like when someone is judged or accessed based on his cultural background or on the color of his or her skin (Racial profiling).
Like what we see in most of our movies, where a particular actor or actress is always given a wicked or eccentric role/character to play in movies. Due to the impeccable interpretation of such a role by the actor/actress. And because of this, the person could be perceived to be like that in real life (e.g Patience Ozokwor, Pete Edochie, Victor Osuagwu, Chiwetalu Agu, Sean Penn, Francis Bacon, Samuel L Jackson, Jim Iyke, Saheed Balogun etc). And anytime we see them on movie posters, we tend to quickly assume the role or character the person is playing in the movie, without seeing the movie first.
This kind of assumption also apply to our society, where most people are judged based on where they come from without getting to know them first. Imagine seeing every arab man as a terrorist, every black man or woman as a gangster, a drug addict/dealer, or as an illegal immigrant. Using Nigeria as an example, where religion or tribe is one of the yardstick used by many to judge others. And unfortunately, it's one of the things drawing us back in our country today. Being from a particular area could either improve or hinder one's chances of getting a job or contract.
And in some cases, the same thing also apply to the issue of getting married. For not a few ladies have been dumped by men, cos of where they come from. Some Nigerian men and women do have preference or dislike for women or men from a particular area or State due to their antecedent. Such as having the impression that every Calabar girl like sex alot and are hardly faithful, Abeokuta women dont stay long in a marriage, or that every Ibo girl is materialistic. While in the area of men, we have those who feel all Yoruba men are tribalistic and sentimental, every Ibo man likes money and is greedy, and that most Hausa men are temperamental. It goes on and on. But the mistake in this archaic assumption is that we all are different and shouldn't be judged based on the past or on the character of another person. Femi Kuti's grand mum, the late Funmilayo Kuti was an Abeokuta woman, and stayed with her husband till he passed away. And you cant tell me, Mallam El Rufai former FTC minister walks about with a dagger in his trouser. Or that Governor Rochas Okorocha of Imo State, before he became a Governor was greedy or too money conscious and yet he was sponsoring alot of children to school and taking care of several widows in many parts of the country through his foundation.
People are different and shouldnt be judged based on the bad character of his tribesmen, community or Country. For I am who I am. We do have sweet good girls from Calabar, Yoruba and Ibo land respectively. Lovely women that would give any man the best of love and marital bliss. Same thing with correct Naija men. Whether he is from the South-South, Southwest, from the North or from the East, there are lot of them. Good men who cherish and love our women. We have to stop hating others cos of where they come from. Lets embrace one another, for none is perfect. And we can only work together to become better... for the good of our society... my dear, lets show some love.

Every relationship ought to end in marriage if the people involved are sincere and willing to take the next step. But first of all, relationship has grade and levels. We have relationship for learners (for those between the ages of 17 and 19). And we also have the one for matured mind (for those between the ages of 20, 21 and above). But I'm going to talk more about the one for matured mind. When you're within this age range, there's nothing wrong in hoping to take your relationship to the next level. You are not too young at that age to get married. So, when going into a relationship, marriage should be on your mind. Yeah, except you're not ready or still want to play around. And being like this, is like having an ulterior motive. Which is not known to the person you're dating. While he or she may be looking forward to or hoping to tie the knot with you some day, you're busy thinking of the next guy or lady to move on to. Chei, that na pure wickedness.
Why toy with someone's heart when you know, you're not ready. While carry him or her along, only to ditch the person later. In fact, Karma no go pity you if you do such a thing to anybody. Relationship should be a springboard to getting married, if you and your partner have genuine feelings for each other and are willing to take the next step. We don't date for fun. We usually date to find a soul-mate. A companion, one whom we hope to spend the rest of our lives with. If you don't have such a mindset concerning your relationship, then you are in the wrong bus. Oya, come down!

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, indeed! Do you know when it comes to paying someone back for hurting you (especially in a relationship), ladies know how to do it very well. Some girls are very good when it comes to getting their pound of flesh. To them, it's tit for tat. No mercy, no pity!
Like what happened some time ago, between a guy and his girlfriend. The foolish guy went and slept with his girlfriend' best friend. His girlfriend was really mad and angry when she got to find out. And guess what she did despite the fact that her boyfriend later begged and apologized to her for what he did. The girl pretended as if all was well while planning her revenge. Which turn out to be a very bad one. To spite her guy and also make him feel the same pain she felt for cheating on her with her best friend, she went and slept with her guy's younger brother after seducing him. And she didn't stop at that. She also went ahead and told her boyfriend what she did, as well as telling him how good and better his younger brother was in bed...Chei (Lmao), come and see the anger in the guy's eyes when he heard what she did. And before he could say or do anything to her, she broke up with him right there and then, and left him in a state of shock and anger.
You can imagine the calamity the girl would have brought upon that family cos of her action. Pitching two brothers against each other. To me, she kind of went too far. Shey? Well next time, the guy would think twice before hurting any girl again. Cos, a woman rejected in love, or hurt in a relationship can be very angry and dangerous....Abi no be so?

Whenever one loses his or her virginity, to me that's when the innocence of that person is lost. He or she becomes suddenly exposed (literally), now obvious of her needs and her rights as a woman. That's exactly what's happening to my beloved country Nigeria.
We (the masses), were once like an innocent young girl, until we were brutally deflowered and abandoned. Left to starve and beg for bread in the midst of abundance. In a country flowing with milk and honey. Long before now, we were contended with whatever was given to us, crumbs from the top. Left overs from corrupt officials, who made mockery of our innocence and virginity. Which they later took from us by force, and now we are 'exposed' and obvious of our needs as part of this country. Now the youth are demanding for their rights. Crisis and chaos everywhere, as everybody wants a piece of the cake. Our national cake. Now we don open eye!
Even a 10 year old child knows his or her rights, and wont mind collecting his own share if anyone is thrown at her. That's why you see some children joining adults to scoop fuel from broken pipelines, which is later sold for some pocket money. Militancy, terrorism, kidnapping, civil unrest and crime are all products of our lost innocence. The result of a brutally 'deflowered' generation. Now, many are clamoring for their rights, either by crook or by hook. The corrupt officials, the Architect of this whole mess, though not regretful but are now at a loss. Confused and afraid of their own safety. Should things get out of hand, with the way things are presently...

Side by side is not all about blind love, foolish love, stupid love but selfless love. It's when you love unconditionally and you're willing to make sacrifices for the other person, even at the risk of your own life. Loving should be side by side, and not one sided. if loving is more of the later, then its bound to be filled with pain or regrets.
Just like what happened to a friend of mine some years back. He was in a one sided relationship, in which he literally stopped living so that his girlfriend could grow. He did everything just to make her happy and also achieve her dreams. Going to school was her utmost desire, and every resources, energy and time were channeled towards achieving this cause. The guy virtually forgot about his own dreams and goals, in order to concentrate on hers. There is nothing bad or wrong in helping your girlfriend, if she is appreciative and thankful enough, and also keen about your own goals. But in my friend's case, his girlfriend just kept asking for more and more. And he was foolish enough to carry out her wish. And things were like this until when he finally realized how foolish he has been all this while, wasting his time waiting for her to reciprocate and also appreciate his love and effort to make her grow. Right there and then, my friend made up his mind to end the whole thing. But he didn't end the relationship without keeping his promise to her. cos his good heart wont just allow him leave her in that 'state'. So, he kept his promise, and his ex is now in school finally. While he is trying to rebuild his own life and career. And God so kind and merciful, things are going according to plans for him. He is now happier and has since found a better person.
There is nothing wrong in helping your partner to grow. But make sure both of you are growing together. While you're concerned about her well-being and elevation, she should also be concerned about yours. It should be mutual, and not a one sided affair. Dating a selfish lover would definitely make your life stagnant. Take my word for it. Some partners think only about themselves. And tend to intentionally or 'unknowingly' neglect the other person. Some people do this a lot. And it's also common among some married couples. It's very bad. You date or marry someone, not to diminish yourself but to grow together and also become a better person. cos Loving ought to be side by side.
And please, if you realize your partner is a selfish person. One that thinks only about himself or herself. Please I beg you, kindly and politely walk out of that relationship before it's too late. Shi ke nan!

Everybody wants to make Heaven. Even the most wicked person wants to make Heaven. And eight out of every ten persons you ask, would likely tell you he or she wants to make Heaven. Anybody that tells you otherwise, is only fooling himself. For after all the ups and down here on earth, we all want to go to Heaven, a place of eternal joy, peace and comfort.
Even prostitutes, armed robbers or criminals also desire to go to Heaven. Everybody wants to make Heaven. And this is the utmost desire of most people. But the problem has always been the foolishness exhibited by some, which is also the reason many are being dragged to hell. Like the story of the two thieves who were crucified with Jesus Christ. One of them (the one by his right) was sober and humble enough to beg for forgiveness and also the chance to sit by the right hand of Christ in Heaven. While the second thief (the one by his left), was so full of pride and was busy running his mouth. And as a result lost the chance to be forgiven and also make Heaven. Many commit sins out of foolishness and pride. And many would be dragged to hell, for the same reasons.
Just like been in a relationship, one should endeavor to be with someone that'd be able to impact positively on his or her life. It's in our own best interest to have a relationship that'd bring us closer to God and not far from Him. None is prefect, but the efforts we make to become a better person, is what defines who we are. Some people go into a relationship that is doomed from the start. Like being a 'Bonnie & Clyde' kind of couple. And instead of complimenting each other positively, they are known for their irresponsible lifestyle. Your relationship ought to bring you and your partner closer to God, and not far from Him. And you shouldn't dabble into sin because your partner is, or wants you to. You ought to know your left from your right in your relationship. Cos on the last day, your boyfriend would answer for himself, while you (the girlfriend) would also answer for yourself. it's a tough path to take, but it's worth trying. Nothing good comes easy. Lets endeavor to be with someone that'd be a positive influence on us. And lets endeavour to have a relationship that'd also make us a better person. Love shouldn't be defined by money or sex, but by the values that comes with it. Don't let that relationship drag you to hell...

Whenever someone comes to report or do 'amebo' about your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife to you, this is what you should do, even if you are not aware of the information before. Instead of being shocked, angry, screaming ori iyami o, or threatening to deal with your partner infront of the person that brought you the information. Just smile, nod as he or she is doing the amebo and show no emotions throughout. And once the person is done with the amebo/gossip, simply tell him or her, you are already aware, and that your partner has told you everything. And that you two are poised to make things work out or better in your relationship/marriage....I bet u, doing this, is going to leave the amebo person in a state of shock and agony. And it would also make the person never to come to you with any amebo gist about your partner again... Don't allow 'intruders' to wreck your marriage or relationship...cos wen e go happen, you will be on your own! Cos when you show you're angry or shocked, you're giving the impression the person did well by coming to tell you (gossip) about your partner. Yeah, such information could be damaging/demoralizing, but one need to be composed and calm, and shouldn't show your anger while listening to the person give you sordid tales of either your wife or husband. Your relationship or marriage should be your business. Allowing third party or 'amebos' to meddle into your relationship, is like ridiculing your relationship before everybody.

Some lovers tend to lie a lot in their relationship. Especially guys, who enjoy lying to girls in order to keep her or have their way with her. Like telling a girl you are what you are not, just to impress her or make her feel you're good enough for her. Since guys know that girls 'like' lies a lot, some guys tend to lie a lot to their girlfriends. And most times, their lies are swallowed by these girls. And in order to cover up the "fake world" he has built in the eyes of his girlfriend, a guy would have to keep lying to his girlfriend.
Such acts aren't that common with girls though, except for those ones who lie from morning till night, just to have their way or get by in life. Such as lying about their academic status, their background, financial status, relationship status or any other thing that has to do with their lives. And most girls lie to guys, in order to give the guy the impression they are good girls, doing well or focused. When in actual fact, they're the opposite of what they present to people. Some lie to keep a relationship going, to get favors or manipulate their partners. But such relationships hardly last or experience true love or happiness. For every relationship ought to be built on trust and honesty, and not only on feelings/love. Cos any relationship that is built on lies, is just like a house built on sand. And it's doomed to fail...
And lying in a relationship, is also the same thing as cheating on your partner. Yeah! Cheating doesn't have to do with having sex or flirting with someone else alone, but lying to your partner as well. Cos any guy or girl that lie in a relationship, can also cheat on their partners. And lying in a relationship, is the beginning of cheating. Shikena!

The slogan of a 'runs' girl..."it's either I chop their money (maga), or they use me to make the money (money ritual). Nothing spoil. Life goes on"! Ngbo, na so?

Cos very few of these runs girls do jazz to protect themselves from bad clients (ritual killers). While the rest try to use their instinct or rely on luck to evade danger. They know it's a risky trade, but cant stop doing it. Cos to them, life itself is a risk! And not a few of them have fallen victims to ritual killers (who use them for money rituals) or are severely assaulted by some of their clients in the cause of doing their business. Girls, there are better/safer ways of making ends meet. You don't see danger, and simply go into it, even if you are wonder woman! Abeg, make una hear word o.

A modern Nigerian wife is not like the wives of those days. Who are usually seen tying wrapper, covering their hair with scarf and wearing covered blouses whenever they are indoors. And their routine is usually the same thing from week to week. Like going to the market, visiting friends in the neighborhood, going to church, and traveling to the village with their family from time to time. There was nothing like going to cinema houses, shopping, taking their kids to the beach, hanging out with family friends, or going to watch shows or concerts. Most of them were full time housewives, without salaries. They were loyal, dedicated and committed to their marriage. And hardly 'joked' with their husband or his well-being. Unlike the wives of today, whom I call them modern wives. Sophisticated women, and women of class. The modern wife is usually seen wearing different types of weave-on on her head every week, and with nice sexy tops and leggings (cos that's what's in vogue now) to go with it. She looks sweet and lovely all the time (even when going to bed). Telling whosoever cares to know that she's looking good and sexy for her husband. And unlike those days, when most women would trek to see a friend in the next street, or take a bus to the market. Our modern wife would prefer to use her car, even if the friend is staying just down the street. And going to the market is also an opportunity for her to cruise around in her SUV. She knows how to pamper herself very well. Check her out from her hair to her toes, she smells and looks good. And a modern wife hardly watch our local channels but foreign stations. As she follows all the TV series on Mnet, glows each time she sees Kim Kardashian on E, shouts whenever she's watching Big Brother Africa, and doesn't like to be distracted whenever she's glued to her Africa Magic on DSTV.
And some of them have cliques. Young wives of same class, style and traits. Who visit each other, shares secrets atimes, and also gossip about this and that. Being graduates and exposed, they know their rights. And don't fail to make their hubby realize how important they are. Some of them even have tattoos on their body, have a wardrobe filled with all sorts of sexy and designer attires. And most of them like to eat out, or eat 'microwaved' meals. Most times, you see them dressed either in trousers, jeans or leggings. Hardly will you see them tie wrapper or wear skirts like the wives of those days. Except when going to Church or attending an event. And if you see the way they walk. They catwalk like models, armed with their fanciful handbags, sunshades, ipads, blackberry phones and with their car keys to match. Ever ready and good to go!

Some say the attitude of most girls towards guys is just like when a monkey let go of a branch once it gets hold of another branch, while jumping from one tree to another. A girl said men are also like that. Is it true?

According to Face2Face media Inc (chei, this talk too big for me to talk o), if you check the number of ladies getting married every weekend, most of them are usually from Anambra, Edo, Abia, Lagos, Oyo, Ondo, Ogun, Enugu, Plateau, Delta, Rivers, Ebonyi, Cross River, Benue and Kaduna State respectively. It said you'll hardly find ladies from some particular areas or states getting married often. Cos of the way many of them are perceived by most Nigerian men generally. Due to their bad character, domineering spirit, 'bad tongue', lack of respect, waywardness etc. And you know beauty is not everything, but character is...

Most girls are known to be insatiable. No matter what their guys do for them, they will always ask for more.

Like the case of a guy who went and bought a wristwatch for his girlfriend, instead of the Ipad she asked for. The girl wasn't happy about it, and gave the guy a piece of her mind. Right now, she's still angry with her guy, and has refused to talk to him unless he gets her the Ipad. There are many girls like that. They always want to have what they desire. And they dont care if the guy is buoyant enough at that moment to afford what she wants. All they want is for him to go and get it for them, either by crook or by hook. And mind you, dont make the mistake (by trying to play smart)of buying her something different or inferior. Cos you wont find it funny with her, if you do so.

Should a man who has only one child with his wife, be allowed to father more children through another woman like what Tuface did (Tubaba)? Cos atimes, some married women who only have one child, can do anything to make their husband happy, even at the detriment of their own comfort or happiness. Such as allowing him to marry another wife so as to have more kids.
Having many children in this part of the world is very important. Most families treasure a wife that gives their son enough children. That's why most women with only one child are usually uncomfortable and worried most times due to their inability to have more kids. Though some of them dont show it, but deep down they think about it alot. And are willing to go the extra mile to have more kids or make their husband happy. But check out former American President Bill Clinton, he and his wife Hilary only have one child Chelsea. And they were one 'big' happy family until Chelsea later got married and now has her own family. But here in Nigeria, a married woman with only one child is almost in the same trouser/ring with a childless woman.
In most families, while they are happy for the child you have, they are also counting the time and looking forward to seeing the woman (wife) have more kids for their son. And their reasons for this are usually baseless. And they worry so much, even more than the husband/couple. They do it as if its their problem. Just like taking panadol for someone's else headache. And come and see the way some families harasses or 'worry' their son's wife so much, due to her inability to have more kids. The thing dey give some women sleepless nights. That's why I'm asking the question, should a wife with one child, allow her husband to father more kids through another woman, just like tubaba?

This is when an unmarried lady goes to her single/married pastor or relationship expert for counseling, only to end up either seducing/dating the man or being asked out by the so called pastor or relationship counselor.
Such things do happen and I've heard cases of ladies who end up dating their pastors in the course of going for counseling. Most times, some ladies are usually vulnerable (emotionally) whenever they go for any counseling. While craving for solutions to their situations, they cling on to every word said by the pastor or relationship expert. Falling in love with him in the process atimes. And sometimes wishing or hoping to have 'someone' like him as a partner or husband. Some might even go to the extreme (by using diabolical means or seduction), in order to have their way. Not caring whether the man is married or not.
While in the case of a relationship counselor or 'pastor' using the guise of counseling to take advantage of ladies is usually done by those fake ones, who aren't called by God, or who fail to realize that its unethical to date your clients. Such men succumb easily to their flesh. They crave to date every fine lady/woman in the church while sinking deep into temptation, wrecking the lives and homes of vulnerable girls and women, who run to them for succor or refuge. Sometimes, they use the information/closeness they have with their female clients to take advantage of them. They manipulate them with sweet words, telling them what they like to hear and turning them against their partners in some cases. And such cases are very conversant with some churches (wont mention any). Who are known for such practices. And alot of ladies just keep falling into their hands...atimes intentionally. And mind you, this ugly practice is also vice versa. Cos female counselors are also prone to the temptation of dating or falling inlove with their male clients....especially if the guy is handsome, rich or romantic.

This is when a guy suddenly and crudely dumps his girlfriend for a rich girl, so as to get favors/help from the girl or her parents...Someone I know had a similar experience recently. She and the guy started dating right from college until when the guy graduated and did his youth service. And while the guy was without a job and broke, she was the one footing the bills and assisting the guy to get by. Only for the guy to call her one day and told her that he had found someone else, whose father is rich and has also promised to get him a job. And that the only way to get the job, is to date the new girl. So, he broke up with her right there and then. And that was it! No looking back. And he never thought of the sacrifices she made for him in the past. The guy was only thinking of his own personal interest. His future. The girl was never in his plans from day one, I guess.
We do have guys who are like this, and who have done such things to many girls. And most of them do it without feeling any guilt for their wicked actions. And the worst part of it, is when a guy dumps a girl for a richer girl, despite all the help/sacrifices the former did for him. it's a cruel thing to do. And this type of guys aint gigolos. they are worst than gigolos. They are opportunists. Guys that prey and feed on innocent girls to make it in life. There is no love in the hearts of such guys. Most times, you cant tell what's in the hearts. They pretend alot, and only show their true colour when they've gotten what they want or found a richer partner. They dont waste time in dumping someone and moving on. Hurting people is their trademark. they are out there, using and dumping girls. And many girls are feeling their pinch and their pain...

The Difference Between A Wife and A Girlfriend...

1. A wife helps a husband to manage his finances properly. while a girlfriend helps her guy to spend and lavish his money.

2. A wife is a home maker. She manages the home very well. While a girlfriend in most cases could be a home wrecker. she comes only to visit and have fun, and return to the comfort of her own home.

3. A wife prays with her husband. While a girlfriend hardly prays, or pray on her own.


4. A wife thinks and pray for the success and progress of her husband and the family. While a girlfriend only hope for the success of her guy, for her own benefit.


5. A wife prefer to cook for her husband. While a girlfriend prefer to eat out (eat at fast-food restaurants) buy take-away to eat all the time.


6. A wife is loyal to her husband all the time. While a girlfriend is only loyal whenever her palms are greased with cash.


7. A wife is ready and willing to stand by her husband both in good or bad time. While a girlfriend only comes around when all is good.


8. A wife plans for the future with her husband. While a girlfriend is only concerned about today (present).


9. A wife is willing to support her husband/family. While a girlfriend finds it hard to support her guy even if she has the means.


10. A wife's love for her husband is 100%. While a girlfriend's love or interest is divided among her main guy and prospective lovers/suitors.


11. A wife is willing to make sacrifices for her husband/home. While a girlfriend is ready to jump ship once things become tough for her guy.


12. A wife does things for the good of her home. While a girlfriend does things for herself only.


13. A wife makes investment for her home. While a girlfriend invest only for her future. no boyfriend is in her plans at all.


14. A wife helps her husband save for the future. While a girlfriend only thinks of today.


Seeing the huge/positive difference between a wife and a girlfriend, dont you (as a guy) think it's best you have a wife rather than have a girlfriend. Oya, find yourself a good wife, and stop playing around with girls!

When a girl is known to be a loose/irresponsible girl, even whispers of her escapades is enough to make potential suitors run away from her...

When a man catches his wife butt naked and in bed with another man, he dies a thousand times, right there and then. And such a calamity is very hard to forget or forgive...

Most times, people do some certain things out of greed, love or weakness for such things. Especially those that cheat on their partners. Atimes, some of them do it not cos they want to, but cos they're too weak to resist such temptation. And this is more common with some married women or girls, who sometimes cheat on their partners due to circumstances 'beyond' their control. while in the case of men, many of them cheat with their eyes wide open. They know it's wrong, dirty and bad, but yet they indulge in it. And some do theirs with their wedding ring on, while others hide theirs either inside their pocket or in their cars. they simply find it difficult to resist the urge to frolic with other women, giving one excuse or the other. such men flirt and prowl with pride. And many of them have had their asses burnt for fallen into temptation.
Just like the case of a married man who got more than he could chew, when he decided to sleep with a prostitute simply cos his wife was heavily pregnant. But as he was about to sleep with the prostitute (after reaching an agreement with her), he unexpectedly got a call from his pregnant wife and that put him off completely from committing the adulterous act. But the prostitute would have none of it. Having stripped herself naked and waiting to be slept with.She insisted the man must either sleep with her or also strip himself naked, having seen her unclothedness. That wasn't the prostitute talking, but the devil. as an accuser of brethren right there and then. Cos, what difference would seeing or not seeing another man's unclothedness make, having seen the unclothedness of enough men as a prostitute. well, you cant blame her, but the man who carried his two 'left' leg to the lair of an harlot, simply cos his wife was heavily pregnant.
We really need to be strong enough to resist the temptation of the flesh. especially as a married person. Cos that's when you'd face more temptation. Some usually find it difficult to adjust to their new status as a married person. like still keeping in touch with ex lovers, mixing with irresponsible friends, or indulging in acts meant for unmarried people. Temptations will always come, but by HIS grace you can overcome them, if you are willing to...

This is a true life story about a young lady whose husband suddenly divorced her after she was kidnapped and later released by kidnappers some time ago. they were barely married for a year, when the ugly incident happened. she was taken by some unknown persons and kept somewhere for almost a month until when her release was secured. Instead of her husband to stand by her and help her get through the trauma, he decided to break up with her due to some personal reasons which is known to you and I. Thinking she might have been sexually abused while in captivity, he was reluctant to continue with the marriage, and decided to add more insult to her pain.
Don't know why some men are like this. what about those women that go through alot and stand by their men whenever they're ill or going through a crisis? what are the wedding vows made for, if some people would prefer to love and stay with someone only when all is smooth, sweet and good. isn't marriage suppose to be for better, for worse. simply cos she was molested, doesn't make her less a wife or an harlot. that's why most rape victims don't like reporting such cases out of fear of being stigmatized by the society. many of them suffer their pain and rejection in silence. carrying the scar for a very long time, if not forever.
Our society and culture can be so cruel atimes. and its so unfortunate that women are always at the receiving end. most rape victims suffer in two ways. either they are rejected by others, or end up rejecting themselves (by having hatred for men or anything that has to do with love/relationship). they feel they are 'dirty, stained or untouchable' after being molested. many of them end up living a lonely and sober life. single and afraid to love again. Just like this lady, who is all alone, without any love, but saddled with the memory of a painful past...

This is when a guy or a girl start pursuing his or her personal interests in a relationship. And also when someone start having a double mind about his or her partner based on the person's inability to meet his or her needs, interest/advances from other guys or girls, or based on 'bad' advice from friends. Most relationship die a slow death whenever any of the above reasons rear its ugly head. Especially if the person doesn't have a mind of their own, the love in the relationship is not strong enough, or when the relationship is one sided.
And most times, it's usually girls that goes rogue in most relationships. their needs are usually their top priorities. Many of them find it dificult to compromise or put aside their personal interests for the sake of a relationship. And in some cases, friends or siblings can also make or mar a relationship. These days, they do more of the later, than the former. Some interfere in other people's relationship due to selfish or wicked reasons. Especially if he or she is not in any relationship. While others do theirs with the impression or belief they're doing it in the person's best interest. only to help wreck the person's relationship. And the last one (interest/advances from other persons) usually happen if the person is unbalanced or doesn't know what he or she wants. Cos when you allow the interest or advances from other persons to affect or interfere in your relationship. or make you to start having doubts in your partner, then you're still a kindergarten!

This is when a man takes out his anger or frustration on his girlfriend or wife, either by beating or humiliating her whenever he's broke, lost a contract or out of work. We do have guys, who usually do this. always looking for an excuse to blame a woman for their woes. And making the matter worse is when such treatment is melted out to a loving, caring and understanding partner. making it look as if all her good heart and love is not appreciated. And a lot of guys have lost some good girls cos of this attitude.
Although some women can also be annoying or could provoke such a reaction from a man by disregarding or insulting their men whenever they are having some challenges. Instead of encouraging them, you find some women disrespecting, taunting or insulting the hell out of their husband whenever he's in such a dilemma. thereby provoking him and making him become violent towards her. But when a man is cruel to a loving woman, who stands by him both in good or bad times, encourages and also support him, such a man is a weakling. cos, instead of getting up and using your strength/energy to make things work and better, you're there blaming an innocent woman for your predicament. when a man treats his wife right, join hands and heads together, he will be blessed. True love is not shown only when all is rosy and sweet. It's even in difficult moments that your love should be more visible to your partner. Cos love most times, helps a couple to overcome difficult situations. its like a faith that binds...

This is when a woman is burdened with an irresponsible man as a husband or boyfriend. One who drinks, womanize and also causes one problem after another for her. She is constantly harrassed and humiliated by him, both in private and in public, bringing both shame and pain rather than joy to the family. We do have women in such marriage. Women who are married to men who claim to love but loathe them. Men who are more like 'monsters' and not human. Cos, how can a man derive joy in tormenting his wife everyday, neglecting & battering her atimes. Most of the women with such husband are usually helpless & at the mercy their men. The only thing that gives most of the women in such marriage joy, is their kids. And whenever, some of them try to run away, they're either made to stay put cos of what other people might say, or usually sent back by their families, to endure and stay in a loveless and unbearable situation...

They say ladies are their own worst enemies.Beliv it or not, they're not far frm the truth.Cos most times,ladies judge&criticize themselves alot.&we hav dos who dont eat food cookd by anoda lady. Since most girls always hv the impression no other lady can cook better than them.Thats why you hardly see girls frequent mama put joints.They go to eateries to buy food or eat.&when it comes to dressing, they rarely commend but condemn alot the way others dress.They dont see anything gud in wot other ladies wear. Instead of them to admire them, they'd prefer to find 1 or 2 faults wit wot oda girls're wearing.&wenever girls are fighting,they spit alot of fire. Cos, most times, they like washing their dirty linens in public wenever they're fighting dia fellow girl. They do their best to expose or 'strip' themselves naked b4 everybody. Som girls like doin this alot.That's Y most girls like keepn their secrets to themselves, in order not to fall into the hands of 'haters' someday... but why are some girls like that?

I'm a faithful lover. I dont cheat, lust, nor chase after other girls/flirt with other guys. I admire them, but I donot pursue them or go beyond that. cos I'm faithful. I love, trust, and respect my partner. others might be doing it, but as for me, I wont dare. People say you cant do without cheating, cos almost everybody is doing it. And that you cant trust any guy or girl, cos they'd definitely cheat on you, or make an attempt to do so. Well, that's their cup of sugar and milk. As for me, I'm faithful. and shall remain so. Even if my trust and loyalty is ever taken for granted, I'm faithful. for there's always a reward for being faithful. Even if it takes a while to come, it will surely come to you. So, I dont know about you, but as for me, I'm faithful!

There was a guy who had 14 girlfriends, seven of which he treasured most. He was a smart guy and was able to plan his affairs with each of them very well, without any of them getting to know about the other person.
Things went well, until the eve of a Valentine' day, when all his girlfriends (14 of them) started calling him and wanting to spend Valentine' day with him. He became confused and didnt know what to do. Switching off his phone on that day would be seen as an act of cowardice, running out of town could mean running into any of his girlfriends, and staying indoor would be suicidal as well. cos some of his girlfriends would definitely come looking for him at home, and that could cause a serious confrontation among the girls once they meet. But being smart like most players are, he was able to devise a plan later. And guess what he did? He called and told each one of his 14 girlfriends that he'd be holding a Valentine's party on Val's day somewhere in town and asked each one of them to attend. Through this way, he would be spending the day with all of them at the same time, same place and even on the same table, without any suspicion from any of them, via the lies, skimming and arrangement already put in place.
The party went well, as every one of them got a gift from him, ate, drink and also danced with him until when it was time to go home. That was when katakata nearly busted for the loverboy, as each of the girls wanted to follow him home and spend the night with him. But trust the guy, while on his feet, he quickly devised another plan, by pretending to be dead drunk and started vomiting right in the presence of all the girls. He did this, in order to test their love for him and also make them change their mind about going home with him. And you know girls nah, it's not every girl that can stand or pack a guy's 'shit.' Disgusted, they (his girlfriends) started leaving one by one, each given one excuse after the other. Except for one of them, who decided to take the guy home, wash him up, and tuck him into bed. She didnt abandon him like the rest. She stood by him in his condition like a real woman and 'took care' of him all night long. And that was how a player finally found his soulmate...

The lessons from this story is that, there's always a trial/test and a prize for every love. And that, when you love, love and make sense, and not non-sense...

This is when a girl is in a relationship, but keep denying it. She's always telling whosoever cares to know she's single and available, when she's actually in a relationship or even staying with her guy. And it's also when a man goes about playing around while claiming to be single when he's actually in a relationship with not one but several girls in most cases.
I begin to wonder, why some people do this to their partners. and some of them do it on purpose, while others do it unknowingly. it's something they say unexpectedly whenever they are asked. And there are those who dont like talking about it, and would prefer not to be asked. You hardly see such people deny nor accept they are dating. Some people behave like this, if they are only 'managing' the guy/girl or the relationship. with the hope of finding a better or richer partner later. in most cases, guys who do this, are usually players. who lie about their status, in order to have their way with girls. while girls do or say this, in order not to block their chances of getting another man or favours from other men.
But come to think of it, why deny, when you're dating! If you're not proud of your guy or girl, why stick with the person and inflict unnecessary pain on him/her, instead of ending it once and for all. and moving on with your quest to find your 'perfect' match? Since you are also perfect. Abi no be so?

Love Apart...this is when a guy and a girl are dating and also given the 'freedom' to mingle with other guys or girls. It's like when two people are dating but not really committed to each other. And neither of them wants to quit the relationship, while living in a separate world within the relationship. Though such a thing is not that common, but it usually happen whenever a relationship is at the brink of collapse. Cos when two people who are in a relationship are tired of each other's excesses, they tend to behave like this, while hoping to mend their differences and see if things would work out later. And it's usually common among campus lovers. Students, who are still learning the ropes or experimenting. And who tend to fall in and out of love or relationship, every now and then. And in most cases, there're no hard feelings or grudges between the couple when such a relationship comes to an end. Normally, you find them still looking out for each other, even after moving on...

Since we played and defeated Burkina Faso, alot of people (especially girls) have been insulting the living daylight out of one of the Burkinabe players, Bance on facebook, cos of his looks. Bance did not create himself. Neither did he do any plastic surgery that went wrong. He was created by God. wonderfully made. You may not like or find him attractive, but his wife/girlfriend and family members do. And everybody cant be as fine as David Beckham or Brad Pitt. But he's fine before God. And I also see him as such... Cos no one is ugly before God...

This is when you're dating or in a relationship with a lady or a guy who is bound to drag you to your destruction either by omission or by commission.
Many are in a relationship, where their partners have become a pain in their neck. Constantly nagging, complaining, draining their resources or causing one problem or the other for them. And there're some girlfriends who dont care how their guys make their money. all they know and want is for him to always meet their needs. And some of them are never satisfied, as they keep asking for more. And most guys are trapped or stuck with such girls cos of sex. yeah, sex! There are girls who use sex to entrap their boyfriends while milking/draining his resources. And once they realize a guy likes sex, they would want to use it to their advantage. Most of the relationship we see nowadays is a selfish and sexual relationship. Partners no longer think as one, but individually. the guy wants and thinks of sex all the time, while the girl thinks about money and how to satisfy her personal needs only. so, its like a trade by barter relationship. you bring this, I bring that kind of stuff. That's why relationships break up easily these days. And its cos of these desires, many are constantly dragged to their destruction. Guys meet their doom, while trying to satisfy the needs of a viper girlfriend. And girls meet their own doom when they are stuck with a violent or problem-prone boyfriend...
Just like the case of a kidnapper and his girlfriend who were caught recently. How did the girl got mixed up in this mess? She was arrested cos of a #750 MTN recharge card sent to her by her boyfriend, and which was among the recharge cards demanded and given to her kidnapper boyfriend by the family of the person they kidnapped while negotiating for his release. Her stingy boyfriend after collecting #750,000 or so ransom from the family of the victim, still went ahead to demand for some recharge cards. one of which he later text to his girlfriend somewhere, which the police now use to trace the girl and also use it to catch the guy and his partners in-crime. See what I'm saying? see how the girl has been dragged into a huge mess, cos of her boyfriend...
So, manage your expectations. Be extra careful when going into a relationship. Use your head and dont be deceived or carried away by the material benefits or enjoyment you might derive from the relationship. Think straight and do the right thing!