₦airaland Forum

IamDavid:
I'm sorry to say this but the Man (now husband) didn't do well... "She threatened to call off the marriage"... This statement is driving me crazy... like... well, it's not my business but honestly, accepting such treats from spouses isn't good enough.

not like a threat, threat, she said she'd rather call it off if he can't stand her being friends with me.

But then, it's all about worth.

When you trust your woman and love her too, there are exemptions you'd be willing to make to keep her, especially if it doesn't hurt anybody.

abysirius:
And what about you? You seem to be sounding like u're sexually attracted to her and for me that's why I wouldn't advise..

I do understand my place in her life at the moment and I know she wouldn't mind breaking it off If I disturbed her. Her friendship has proven to be worth more than sex and I'm ready to respect myself to keep it.

vingeophysicist:
The man is a weakling

Well, he knows the worth of the lady he's about to marry.

paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u

them having girlfriends can negatively affect your relationship more than a male friend.

I had this girl, we were even intimate and the man that married her knew as much, of course he was jealous and wanted her to end it with me but she made it clear she won't do that and stood on her grounds that he should call off the wedding if he was going to make the request again.

We are still friends and she knows she's married and set her borders with me (e pain me sha) to the point we had spent nights on various occasions but still respected our new borders. By far the best of friends I've had not minding the gender.

I agree that I might not be comfortable with the idea myself, but it depends on who you're with, how trustworthy they're.

A woman who hardly kept male friends may still have multiple extramarital affairs even right under your nose without you suspecting it.

Oga move on already

nonny400:
Not at all, as long as you're using the inbuilt decoder. Just install the dish, blindscan, and that's it. Different polarities have different channels, so talk with your installer and get a good one.

biko, do you know of somewhere I can get the 43" nasco TV other than Jumia? They seem to be out of stock and nasco doesn't have a website I can order from. Thanks

Valto:
lolz no need for further argument sha. nobobdy go admit her food no sweet . but the truth is, 42k or 37k, will not buy authentic LG 32".check fouani store and confirm.

so na only fuoani dey sell authentic.

Let me shock you!
Some businesses sell cheaper to their retailers who can then afford to sell cheaper to the end users than they (the big businesses) sell to end users.

Gentle0wavez:
I wish I can like this a hundred times.

simple, create a hundred accounts

XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?

Na so una done share post reach? Where my own abeg?

Na the new work wey dem dey do be that?

laluski:
Do you know how stupid and daft you sound....and I mean that as a matter of fact...there are men who still feel young at heart,and bored and once in awhile feel they can drop one or two advice for the younger ones here, there are men who after visiting their normal sections, just feel the need to laugh a little and see what kids like you are up to these days..did all these ever occur to you? No. why?same reason you made an observation in a very very stupid manner.
Now from your moniker, it might seem you are somewhat pretty( not beautiful..beauty comes from within) but from your post, it's obvious you have no brains what so ever...lemme give you a piece of advice...keep quiet...watch how other girls post topics, comment on post,generally banter etc...learn from them..what were you even thinking when you decided to post this

no be everybody wey dey answer queen dey fine o

Ybaby:
They are not interested in owning or selling cars, houses or businesses.....?

So OP is correct then!

Even little boys steal love cars, legos for building houses and monopoly for buying property

These type of men sha should not impregnate any woman o because kids are very expensive

there are property markets that are not necessarily virtual, and with the level of fraud online, a lot of people might just unwind here and conduct their businesses in saner environments.
I for one hardly visit the politics section due to the level of ethnic and religious bashings going on in there.

LordKO:
I've no doubt that you've read my post up there. So let me assume that the men in your life travelled all of a sudden, in that case I'll leave the challenge open till the next 24 hours and I've also increased the prize money to $2,500. The shame will be on you and them if they fail to take up the challenge.

just assume I'm one of the men, we no need to challenge ourselves as men in front of women abeg, assume I don't have sense and give me the money biko make I use am better my life.

Op my sweet darling woman, no dey cause trouble between me and oga again o, oya enter too go stay.

My oga, how far na?

Gloriagee:
Let's get it clear, he's not your friend. You must be deluded to think C with all his nasty attributes is your friend. He's verbally abusive over the internet, what do you think a relationship with him in person will be like?

Second, girl you need therapy, loads of it. You need to get back your self worth. You are incredible and valuable and whole all by yourself. You don't need to attach yourself to people that'll break you just because hes a man.

N my own personal opinion, put more premium on yourself. Set high standards for yourself esp when picking significant others.

Wishing you love and light.

I was going to say that o, my anger is better expressed physically, at least I can say what I mean to you as I'm looking you in the eyes. But to type it all through and not have a change of mind? That one na new level. Even if it was voice call, I'd just hang up before I say things I didn't mean.

busky101:
i don't really know d model, the person just sent the picture only!

Then ask the person or ask that the person snaps the front to show the model

azvm:
2014. i met a guy on Nairaland, i'll call him C. i'm not a new member, only using a new moniker. I was 27, him 29 (now we're 32, 35). i'm yoruba, him igbo. we met in Religion where we were encouraging one suicidal, depressed dude in a thread. he PMed me abt liking what i wrote then the friendship began. we had things in common, had interesting discussions, talked about ourselves and families, problems, etc. we agreed to be in a ldr, communicated mostly over email, whatsapp texts. we've done video calls too several times and till three years ago but i put a stop to them bc he was always asking me to show him parts of my body

2016. i was doing a school research project i needed a website for. C told me he knew someone in Nigeria to build it for me, said he would pay him the money, about $100. after the website was built , a week later he started hampering me to return the money, hurling insults at me, telling me i stole his money and he would tell everyone i took his money and ran. i told him i thought the money had been a gift. we were in a relationship, i didn't think i had to return it. after all the verbal abuse i sent him the money -actually sent him more than $100, then he was happy. it wasn't until i told him how bad his behavior was towards me that he apologized. after this, he wanted me to visit him in Nigeria (we had talked abt me visiting Nigeria since 2015) but i couldn't make it. he soon quit talking to me, disappeared. i didn't hear from him at all for three months, no calls, no nothing. i ended up meeting a man here, a Jamaican. i wasn't attracted to this man, we weren't in a relationship. i don't want to get into these details but i was sexually assaulted and lost my virginity, at 29. i reported to the police last year, it's still an ongoing police case. i somehow blame C. i've felt if he hadn't disappeared i wouldn't hv fallen into the hands of this rapist. C knew my goal was always to save myself for marriage like i had been doing.

rewind. some background. before i met C, i was in a relationship when i was 25, in 2012.
2012. i met a yoruba guy my Uni. he was an international student. we never had sex due to me wanting to wait for marriage. we kissed, hugged during our weekly outings. we saw each other once a week for movies, dinner, bowling. he ended up cheating. 7 months later, i broke up w him. this dude is history but is who i consider my ex if you ask who my ex is. i consider this relationship my first ever relationship, the only real-life relationship i've ever been in all my life, though a non-sexual one.

back to C.
2017. he did encourage me after i told him what had happened to me, provided moral support. but he then disappeared again. when he contacted me four months later, i was upset, we exchanged some words over email- mostly me calling him dishonest, unfaithful, untrustworthy, which were all true. he took things too far and was verbally abusive calling me horrible names and using the things i've told him about myself to insult me, like the sexual assault. he apologized later but i was quite hurt. we decided to start anew for a relationship mostly doing whatsapp texts and email as usual. he isn't a phone call person, he has the tendency to need his space for a week a two- i never complained.

2018. he disappeared again this time for 8 months, from april to november, no communication at all. i had told myself to forget about him. he suddenly called my phone one november afternoon 5 times. when we got to talking he confessed he was engaged to an igbo girl in Nigeria, was busy making preparations for the marriage but her family were making too many financial demands so he opted to call it off. i was shocked to hear he had been engaged. i told him he only contacted me again since the marriage plans didn't work out. he apologized, said it's me he wants to marry, i'm a simple girl, i'll give him peace of mind, blah blab blah. he wanted us to start where we left off. i told him i no longer trusted him but said we could try again, see where it goes

2019. we continue and things were fine till Valentine's Day. a week before V-day he said he loved me, promised to never leave me again. on Valentine's day i got no Valentine's message from him either or email or whatsapp, no call, nothing. meanwhile i would see him on whatsapp. fast forward to two weeks later i needed a logo for a blog of mine. i found a guy on nairaland for it. initially i wanted to send C the money to give to the guy but i decided to send him the money myself, i sent him the money then C started ignoring me. long story short the guy didn't send my logo after receiving the money. i told C, asked him to call the guy for me to release my logo, he refused. after this, i stopped communicating with C myself this time, he didn't contact me either, not till later last year

2020. fast forward to last month he told me abt his laptop which got damaged after a power outage. i started looking online to buy another laptop for him ( i didn't tell him ). my plan was to surprise him, send it to him for his birthday in October. we chatted on whatsapp the next day, i was doing my best to make him feel better, asked him what laptop he's using now, other questions to show him i care. all of a sudden he went of on me calling me deplorable n all sorts of names, saying stuff he knows will hurt me. i dunno maybe he was having a bad day or what. i told him i was planning to buy another laptop for him but he carried on insulting me. i blocked him. asides, his communication towards me recently has been sexual -he's always talkn abt wanting to make love to me, how attracted he is to me ( he has my pics ), how i'm his fantasy. he emailed me days later talkn abt me being the love of his life. he first refused apologizing for all his insults said over whatsapp, he said he doesn't need to apologize before i forgive. he finally said "i'm sorry ok" days later, i told him there's no more relationship. he says he doesn't want to let me go, i'm the only one who understands him. lately i've been thinking abt sponsoring him or going to nigeria to marry him. despite the fights he hs been my friend over the years. plus i'm thinking being in the same place may help us bond a lot better, start a family someday. my fears are he may not be a good father or husband, will be abusive, or i may find out he's got a wife in Nigeria. what do u guys think i should do?


*he's still on nairaland though not too active. he may or may not see this thread... it wouldn't matter either way.

*please, before anyone writes this is a fake story, everything above is what i've been through, my experience, 200% true.

NNE forget that guy, I know people fall I'm love from a distance, but I'd advice that you find someone close to and around you that you might build a connection with. You're there falling and being in love while my guy is here, probably catching cruise.

Don't waste another second thinking you've found a lover while bro is just interested in you sending abroad money

busky101:
Pls who knows how much I can get this printers

show the model, but budget between 50-70k

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mcdokwe:
Model: probook 6560b

Ram: 4GB

HDD: 464 GB

Processor: Intel Core i3 @
2.10GHz

System type: 64- bit operating system, x64- based processor

Windows 10 Pro

55k

Digit remains 08065145793

[/s] Sold

J111333:
Why didn't Oyibos do just slave trade and go in peace without involving their religion?

The attribute of evil to the bird is African and not oyibo religion.

Is the outrage because he killed an owl or that he attached religion and/or superstition to it?

ifyalways:
Did she deactivate? Let me search this name in my inbox. brb

Edit: Nothing related to her came out of the search

like someone said, searching needs to be upgraded on nl. Searching using keywords here feels like searching for a needle in a haystack

giftfromGod:
Yeah, I agreed with you.
Was just saying for people like us , who are believing God for a child . With this pandemic, I have to give my self brain.
I had even stopped praying for a child. If it comes, fine , but me making it a prayer points, not now. Maybe when the country is back and better. 2020 no try at all.

May God bless you and gift you the fruit of motherhood. Yours shall be a great testimony.

ifyalways:
I have. Nothing meaningful came up.

She once posted pictures of her son during his birthday last year or so. I pray someone remembers her moniker.

is it goodgod2012?

Model: probook 6560b

Ram: 4GB

HDD: 464 GB

Processor: Intel Core i3 @
2.10GHz

System type: 64- bit operating system, x64- based processor

Windows 10 Pro

55k

Digit remains 08065145793

busky101:
pictures

Sorry, it was actually a 635. I just noticed the error.

35k

Bbn

Dansuqi:
Humility,loyalty are very important in politics. You must stop to conquer. Whoever deputize aketi will likely succeed him.I like femi agagu,he is a rising star and has inherited his late brother structure

how many ex-governors ever handed over to their deputies?

I need help verifying please. Any assistance is highly appreciated as I don't know anyone currently using the app.

08065145793, thanks

His death shall be painful and slow

Adebowale1616:
Good day my people. Pls apart from HP and Dell that people do talk is a good brand of laptop, pls is Lenovo a good brand as well ? Is it also a good buy ?

Thanks for your reply.

With my personal experience attending to people with defective laptops and the research on the internet, I won't advise you to buy lenovo

ibizgirl:
Ikosi-oke ketu Lagos

oti far... Especially since it is inkjet (as I have canon inkjets already) but I for still find way if to say na ribbon(I have not used it before and would love to compare for efficiency)

Goodluck selling, if it prints A4 too, do state it for you never can tell who might be interested.

ibizgirl:
Inkjet.
I have actually had it for a long time. Sent to me by a friend when I asked for a printer but I have never used it.

what is your location?