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It is a negative mental condition that should be tamed with urgency. The subject of jealousy should not only be viewed within the context of spousal relationship. Chances are that a person exhibiting unbearable jealousy in a spousal or intending spousal relationship will exhibit same in his social, family and work relationships.

I think you should state with clarity the nature of the jealousy you bring forth for discussion. If it the kind of jealousy that arises from the discovery of a spouse cheat(whether actual cheating or constructive cheating), that to me is justified considering the sanctity that morality places on fidelity in spousal relationship.

However, unnecessary suspision of spousal cheating or potential cheating when the jealoused spouse is merely engaging in his/her reasonably social, business, work, religious etc routines is bad for relationship and must be adequately addressed. It is a negative mental condition that should be tamed with urgency. The subject of jealousy should not only be viewed within the context of spousal relationship. Chances are that a person exhibiting unbearable jealousy in a spousal or intending spousal relationship will exhibit same in his social, family and work relationships.

Though there are a few notorious corrupt persons on the list, I believe about 60% of the names on the list are worth it going by their profiles. Unless the government intentionally garnished their profiles to assuage angry Nigerians.

This is the smartest move of this age- to borrow 800 million dollars to cushion the effect of fuel subsidy removal, and allocation of 70 billion for national assembly repairs and overhaul.
I see a fine open wisdom in plucking deep into debt just to give each house hold 8k a month for six months, an amount that will have little or no effect on their purchasing power or cushion the effect of fuel subsidy.
70 billion is concomitantly approved for revamp of national assembly structures, when was the level and value of damage assessed? Where is the report to that effect? What committee was set up to assess the level of damage, and value of repairs to be done? Who were the valuation experts employed to do the valuation and assessment, and where is their written report to that effect? If there is any of such reports, was the report audited to remove extraneous expenditures, and reduction of overestimated expenditures?
Well, since the open wisdom for the two schemes doesn't make sense, the secret wisdom might just do.

Removed fuel subsidy and introduced 500billion Naira post-fuel subsidy intervention. More like sealing a pipeline leakage, and poking a big hole discreetly on the other side of the former leakage. Either ways, there has to be a leak.

questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

Porn addicts are most likely masturbation addicts. Porn and masturbation addicts are mostly depressed people. I think you should confront her politely and discreetly, assure her you won't breath a word about it to anyone, give her closure, allow her tell you what's up with her.
Lead her to the ways of prayers. It is on the prayer alter she will obtain enabling grace to subdue the addiction.

Cloudflare:
I can bet my balls you can't hangout with the narcissist girls have dealt with before let alone dating or knacking them.

Oga the greatest weapon a man has over a woman is ATTENTION. same way the greatest weapon a woman has over a man is SEX.

only real men understands this. It's like you don't know a woman's life revolves around ATTENTION. dude women can't do without attention, real men understands this and play the game very well. Narcissist girls loves attention like mad, this is exactly why even when they're at fault, they would want to shift the blame on you so you can Apologize (your apology will boast their ego and pride). A sane man won't apologize! In fact he'll ghost her like she doesn't exist. Dude we have played this game years ago, Na fact I dey tell you. Dem no born any girl well to do narcissistic for where you dey. They can only do that to weak Simp and gentle guys who think with their emotions. No be for where I dey

This is narcissistic.

It's funny how every engager of this thread is stating how he or she has dated a narcissist at one point or the order, and how he will not hesitate to cut off from one should he find any narcissistic trait in him.
I think this calls for introspection. Some of us may be far worst than the people we call narcissists. Sometimes, the things we do and say, thinking we are right will be adjudged to be narcissistic to an uninterested passerby.
Let's look into our hearts, and start by killing the narcissist in us first.

My prayers is with the His Lordship. I pray he recovers quickly. The high court complex that houses the office of the Chief Judge of Ekiti State is a modern building with modern facilities. It appears to be surfisticated both from the outside and the inside.

So fuel subsidy was removed and replaced with inflation subsidy, another scheme to recoup their election expenses first, and then to make humongous profits, at the expense of the blood of Nigerians

How can a human live his whole life on every year surgery?
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According to your writeup, you stopped attending the Church as an Igbo man, and you encourage other people of Igbo extraction to stop attending the church too.
It's no longer a political affair. It's now a tribal affair for you.

The senate ought to be hallowed, reserved for persons who are favourably disposed to critical thinking and solution-minded, and to invest these skills to enact laws to solve societal problems. But it appears the Senate and the House of Reps have been reduced to a mere system of sustaining political relevance.

highchief1:
I hate Peter obi.This is the highest level of hypocrisy.why go with cameras

The same camera he goes with when he visits the high and mighty, conferences and seminars to give speeches is the same camera is went with to visit the woman. PO is the man with the leader's heart. Just give it to him

In summary Bandits are request for 200k to allow rigging in each of the polling units concerned.

Your hair will turn grey completely when Obi is sworn in as President later this year

This massive reawakening is divinely orchestrated. God has earmarked Nigeria and Nigerians for greatness after many years of our sufferings

This could be a doctored photo. Did the Jews living in Germany then speak English as at then?

BrutalJab:
It still baffles me to think that some Nigerians don't believe that there is witchcraft. Haba!!!

Wtf! Their only defence is that the person is mentally disturbed.

How do you explain this : A man whom you know that is very well and OK started confessing about his evil deed and later started swelling till he died by himself??

Witchcraft is real!!! speaking from experience. Hmmm

speaking from experience? Have u confessed before and ur stomach swelled till you die? Should i now conclude that ur posting on nairaland from the grave?

Oladimejyy:
And some bastard do say "Northerner are dullard"iyalaya anybody northerner ti take over

the mere fact that a student of ahmado bello university produced a drone doest mean hes frm d north. He could be from the south south, but skuling in d north @OLADIMEJYY

Sabbath day is the seventh day of the week, which definitely is saturday. So if she using d coverup as keeping of the sabbath day holy, den should have denied him on saturday. Sunday is the first day of the week u knw. Just using logic

Its true that no situation warrants suicide, but there times situations become unbearable, death becomes the best option

Police making sure post moten is carried out on the dead body? Thats quite fallacious, except the family of the decease puts some oil on the palm of the police.

There are two ways to interpret the bible- the worldly method and the spiritual method. Ur perception of any passage in d bible depends on the method u adopt in interpreting it

nor mind d idiot...u will end up in police net if u don't stop scamming people ...well thank God for me...I just got admitted ..no 7 on d list....LAW