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padi94:
Lol am ashamed,the fine girls left it for the village champions to contest

It's always been that way with Miss Akwa Ibom pageant. The beautiful ones never compete, na substandard ones. And funny thing is some of these girls may be from other tribes sef.

The crown has also never been give to the most deserving. Folks are always complaining about the results.

Guess it has to do with who can donate in kind the most.

Refusing to forgive a simple mistake, that's what took his life.

Methinks he reasoned like a typical Nigerian by assuming the old woman did a juju number on him, reason he came back and killed the poor woman.

When something wants to destroy a dog, the dog can never listen to the whistle of its owner.

Those hating on the Ariba lady are either peripheral christians, backslidden ones or non believers. I don't see how a sane christian woman will paint like a masquerade, wear clothes that expose sensitive body parts and still have the guts to link Jesus with such craziness.

Jesus is all about modesty, and christianity has standards. You want to be termed a real christian? Then by your fruits we shall know you.

Lovely girl.

Dear God, please deliver us from relationships that will threaten our lives.

Which main mad boyfriend be dis

MARKETfund:
You have a point there.
However knowing that he caused my birth will be a motivating factor to extend my forgiveness to him.
My father is my father no matter what

Agreed, some may forgive but since there simply was no relationship before, it's hard to slip into the role of a caring child .

Wake up new wife, your hubby is a gold digger. Love still dey shack you so you can't see clearly yet.

Better tread with caution and stop swallowing everything he tells you.

As far as I'm concerned, Jesus never looked anything like any of the photos that abound

The hunger is evident on them.

450k? According to my Igbo people, you never start be that o. I understand their marriages are expensive.

Great lessons.

Peacefullove:
Smiles

Bro, what megareal said can be false and yes can actually be true . there are always exceptional cases

You mind am? Didn't even wanna reply him sef. Some people are so crazy. Just because you didn't see it doesn't mean it didn't happen. Would be a total waste of time to try to validate what I know is the truth as I saw it.

She is accusing him of impregnatung her? Did he force her leg open to do the deed? Morally loose girls everywhere giving the good ones a bad name..

Just kuku born the pikin, na wetin you dey find ni.

And we think it's only some doctors practicing in Nigeria that are clueless.

Peacefullove:
I don't know how true the experience you relate is, But yes I agree with you that there are cool exception's to all these rules laid by the Op.

factors like the girls age, if she is already pregnant for the guy , How much she Loves the said man sometimes turn things around

There must have been a motivating factor truly. I grew up knowing Igbo marriages to be very expensive , so it was a real shock to see that simple one. And the lady was fine o, but in her thirties.

I think its just the family, probably didn't wanna chase men away with heavy demands.

Truly, you no get work.

Please post your address, DSS must visit you.

pressy09:
Hey!!!! Your real name na lie. Abi you bi LIE Muhammed?

Dey dere dey claim I'm lying. Place was in Imo state. Their marriage was so simple that we would have taken it for an introduction but nt for the fact that they said it was traditional marriage.

The man who wants what now belongs to another. Probably missed opportunity.

Fake convo.

We followed a colleague for an Igbo traditional marriage. Guy did not spend up to 100k, infact all the guys in my coy promised to marry an Igbo girl cause they believed marrying an Ibo girl was cheaper.
May have been the family prerogative sha.

She did the right thing. Would probably have been divorced by now. The temporary heartache to the poor guy is better than marrying a woman who makes a disaster of his life and divorces him when he least expected .

God save us all.

People blaming this girl no get sense at all. She did the right thing. How can any sane thinking man demand a lady cook not only for him but his friends on a first date? Guys be forming almighty cos some girls present themselves as desperate and cheap. Rubbish.

After spending so much on the wedding , na to find extra money for burial. Sad indeed.

Who is (are) the cabal?

Smellymouth:
Congrats to her..

I wonder why some ladies knuckles dey black. If I say na bleaching, dey will come for my head..

Lemme say it's natural. But in our hearts, we know say na .... Yellow fever..

Believe it, some are born with dark knuckles. My daughter was born very fair but had dark knuckles. At eight months, a lady somewhere asked me what I was using on her that made her knuckles dark and advised me to stop bleaching my child. I just smiled because I had already anticipated that reaction will come all thru her life.

She is still very fair with dark knuckles and bombom. Don't know if future use of lightening cream will even them out.

Sometimes, some wicked family members use list to pursue intended grooms. My husband saw hell but calmly gave them everything the asked for when they told him the were not bulging. Mind you, the list was heavy.

Some uncles have more authority than the father of the bride and it's during these marriage things that you know them, besides you never can tell what your soon to be father in law may have done to others.

I'd advise you to buy the suit if you can to avoid any future wahala. It is mainly through traditional marriage things like this that one can procure a lifelong enemy for no reason.

Don't ask your wife to speak on your behalf else they will see her as against the family. Do what you can, your priority should be how to take your wife home.

Chubhie:
The next logical question:How small is too small? verifiable numbers?

Good question. Me sef wan know but in description. . Is it as tiny as an earthworm or as small as a pinky finger?

I really hope they are brutally murdered in prison. Animals. This is one of those times I really feel like the law is too lenient.

Very funny. But some of the are true. Some dads eh, you go fear to leave baby with them.

Thanks OP. You are very correct .I'm not great at writing long posts but let me say this:

Conformism, that's what our parents expect. They want you to succeed beyond their limits , truly achieve things and be great, yet foundationally, they didnt get it right because they stifled the very core of what can make you unique and different; curiosity.

A highly curious child is described in derogatory terms as being stubborn , 'open eye' etc. and more often than not receives the brunt of the beatings and rebukes. Every child is naturally curious and to nurture their curiosity is to create a pathway for independent thinking, explorations and pursuits. Our parents failed because they expected us to conform to societal descriptions of the perfect child and subscribe to their dreams of what we should be rather than what we want to be. Their heavy handed use of canes and rebukes totally led to the shrinkage of self esteem and independent thought. Moreover, they believed that the acquisition of knowledge should concentrate around whatever career option you have picked for yourself. Risk taking? No sir, concentrate on your daily bread. Taking on something new, no way! They point you to failure even before you have embarked upon it. Herein, I thank my mum. She did better than most parents.

The teacher who should be better trained at handling young minds than the parents, rather than nurture these young minds tows the same path of threats, punishment and suppression.

The religious leader threatens fire and brimstone from the pulpit and encourages total adherence and acceptance of whatever he choses to interprete from his Bible or Quran. Religion becomes the solution to every problem; even those that you can easily solve. Total dependence on religion to solve the most mundane of problems has rendered most people brain dead. For those that are not so steeped in it, there are thinking, yet can't find answers and so are torn between handed down dogmas from the church, stereotype moral values from parents and crazy societal character exhibitions that is in direct contrast to the values they were taught. These leave them more confused.

The above begins at early childhood and becones a bondage that the youth cannot easily break free from even when he sees the need to. Typical example is of the Nigerian youths of today who clearly see what is wrong, type blue murder over social media yet lack the will to see through actions that may bring change to themselves and the country. We hate the status quo yet conform to lifelong doctrines.

We can do better, I believe. If this generation can start by encouraging independent thought of young minds, engaging children in productive conversations and showing them how to be themselves by answering their questions (oh they have a lot). We should let them try and fail, get hurt and heal and basically continuously stimulate their curious minds through explorations. (One has to start early to make impact).

And for those of us who have already been through the system, we need to make conscious effort to break free. It wont be easy, but it can be done.