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pocohantas:
It wasn't really a lesson sha. He was a very nice guy, I guess he was only being a man...let me put it like that.

Even babes no get mercy, no be babe do OP this thing?

Haha! girl no do me anything. I was just inspired by the type of men I discussed in the last two paragraphs, videos on YouTube and some random posts on Nairaland..
Maybe men who wants good wife ain't praying right? Maybe men should pray for a submissive wife instead of a wife that will love them.

FortuneTeller:
If you learn nothing, learn this. NEVER EVER speak on my husband. You can say anything you want to about me, but if you say something negative towards my husband you will have a fight on your hand. My husband is one of the best people I have ever encountered and you will never speak any ill will over him. Now you brought your little pathetic tears here because no one wants you. You cry that women aren't a prize because they don't want you. You sit alone in your room, rubbing that small piece of flesh between legs and cry because no one wants you. Is it my problem that women flee when they see you coming? Remember when you said you find "rude girls" very attractive? See you now even have a fetish for your rejection. In one of your posts, you said the only friends you have are on NL. What a waste of life!!

lol.. Thank you!

tosyne2much:
Can you now see where you're getting it wrong

That a lady remains faithful, loyal and submissive to you doesn't mean she doesn't come across men that beat you hands down on a daily basis.

Almost every lady in a relationship often comes across men that are better than his boyfriend, just that lack of contentment usually makes some of them to follow anything on trouser at the expense of stomach infrastructure

I am a fan of your work here on Nairaland. Should we expect 10 ways women love their husbands and children later today? I love seeing your posts.

FortuneTeller:
@Melonny

It's obvious you are BROKE and probably have an awful personality. I looked at your previous posts and you said you are an introvert. What I have come to realize is that many Nigerian people who use the term introvert, are often on the autism spectrum. If you are on the spectrum, then regardless of the amount of money you have, it will be hard for a woman to truly love you. Sorry but women just don't like your personality and you will have to accept it.

Ok miss fortuneteller, you have every right to attack me or form a different opinion. why don't you address the fact that you don't unconditionally love your husband or boyfriend. He is disposable. God will give you the grace to submit to your man.

tosyne2much:
Are you kidding me?

No, when she sees a better man, then she remembers how you hurt 2 years ago and she thinks you have the potential to hurt her again and again. Maybe, the new man, the better man won't hurt me.. it's just like the concept of throughput accounting.

Maxvasia:
Don't worry, experience will teach u otherwise soon. The whole write up is so full of childlike melancholy that i do not even know where to start to untie u from. Let me just give u a small hint: Just know from today onwards that the only reason that percentage is that way is that divorce almost ALWAYS favours the woman just as the society does and the women know it. So they use it as a weapon to slay men and destroy their lives which wer in order before the crept into it. Womn are very destructive and the earlier u realise that, the better for u. My advice to any guy who wishes to live long: Never ever do court wedding. These ladies lure u into it as a trap. Only fools do court wedding nowadays and many never live to be smarter. Having said this, i would also say that the only statement i will agree with in ur write up is that women are not capable of loving as everything is selfish from the moment they set their eyes on u. But NO, dey wer not created that way. They wer created to love but they have made demselves into beasts of the Nether regions. God created them and God is Love and out of Love cannot come a lack of Love. Cos of the free will man possesses, they made themselves into what dey are today. Be very careful, mate and keep a safe distance from these creatures. U will see how right i am by the time they start to quote me. Just sip tea and observe.

I will take what you have said under advisement. Yoruba pray that "God will give you a wife that will submit to you till you die" Amen.

Amenya96:
whoever did this to you is very stupid. well same goes for men, they are not capable of loving to full. well maybe I have not met someone true

Thank you for being truthful. you feel you might meet a better man thus submitting to your boyfriend until you can't take his sh!t any more. then, the better man comes

It a pity men can't stop loving their wives. love your wife conditionally says the Bible.. where are the ladies? Come and defend your love for your husband or boyfriend. Submission isn't love. God said they must submit!

YelloweWest:
Threads like thus are poisoning...

There are a lot of good men and women out there. Don't poison the minds of people pls

funny how men mistake love for submission. God has commanded them to submit.

Mynd44,RoyalRoy, Lalasticlala c'mon buddies, let's focus in on this with wisdom. let men know their fate.

pressplay411:
God punish the wicked girl that did this to your heart.

No girl mate, I have the knowledge and it's power. I just want guys to think not with their heart but with wisdom. God said men should love their wives and the wife should be submissive to their husbands more than twice in the Bible. Paul only mention women should be taught how to love in Titus in the whole Bible. they weren't designed to love!

Don't blame them, they are not designed to love you. It is their nature to act that way. You cannot expect something from someone when it is their nature not to have it. "Husbands, love your wives just as Jesus loves the church and gave his life for it -Agape love that is, unconditional (Ephesians 5:25). It means men should be able to die, take bullets for women, fight for them , be dedicated to them etc.
"Older women should live a holy life(Titus 2:3) In order to train the younger women to love their husbands and children"(Philia, Eros, Storge love) - (Titus 2:4). So, they(women) have to be taught on how to love. they can't be taught Agape love so they don't have the capability to understand what men call love.
If you that ignoramus that is planning to stage your death for a marriage proposal or the man that gets surgery to look like his wife or the man who ask his friend to shoot him so his girlfriend will sympathize, you are not wrong because you must love your wife unconditionally but despite all these, she does not understand this show of stupidity and in due time will dump you for someone crazier, wealthier and someone better.
Guys submission isn't love. She will only submit herself to you until she sees a better man!

***Please, do not take this as an excuse to start hating women***
Hello guys, this is melonny. I would like to discuss something deep, something very dear to the heart, something very important and I feel that it will resonate with you as well. I want to talk about the fact that in my personal experience and interactions I have had with people which is considerable "WOMEN DON'T LOVE MEN". In fact , women are incapable of loving another genuinely.
Some new data about divorce and non-marital breakups contains an unexpected findings. it found that women initiated nearly 70% of all divorces (Psychologytoday, 2015)
It's often the women who expresses more overt conflict and dissatisfaction about the state of their marriage. On the other man, the man is more likely to report feeling troubled by his wife's dissatisfaction; but pretty much "OK" with the way things are; he's content to just lope along as time passes (Goodmenproject, 2015). Why? Men interpret things simply by looking whether they feel good and the woman feels good at the moment (Goodmenproject, 2014) while
Women are slaves of their emotions- they attach their memories to their emotions. Her decisions and reaction are based on all the past memories. "If you hurt her feelings last year by acting in a particular way, that pain still lies in her. she feels the possibility that you could do it again (she feels you have the potential to hurt her again)- even if you have changed significantly since that time( (Goodmenproject, 2014)). No wonder, they are willing to leave just as long as the relationship hits the rock and a guy who is objectively better in every way comes offering her more(Reddit).

We should stop this uncompromising religious dogma. it's their responsibility to choose how and who they want to be with. we can't choose for others because we wouldn't be accountable for their decisions.
Her choice,her business!

No, not at all. it's a sure way to bet9ja or baba ijebu(for the guys that play).

sukkot:
which other black pesin remain after you remove those two ? lol

i guess there are blacks in Germany, Canada, Australia etc

Nawa o, Please God, in my next life, you can make me a black man but don't make me an African or African American

I was indifferent about religion until events unfold and I needed something or someone to give me confidence,guide me and more. I chose God!
No regrets whatsoever.

lubyna, I am just gonna point out two inadequacies of setting standards-
*Things keep changing i.e you grow older every year. if your standard is 25 million naira when you are 26 years, it will be #25000 when you turn 38 years old.. standard is inefficient
*Ideal standard- setting too high standard will make you single for the rest of your life or will make you the third or fourth wife. Standards are sometimes unattainable expectations. Expectations only makes us unhappy. it lowers morale until you stoop low
In conclusion, ladies should be encouraged to date however they want be it broke guys or guys with potential.

Dreamscometrue:
..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me...

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

Dear dreamscometrue, I won't tell you not to be sad, but God said in Isaiah 55:9 that "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts".. God hasn't failed you, no one can tell the lord what to do or teach him or advice him and he does not consult or take advice from someone to understand how things should be done. Maybe he isn't the right man, who knows?
I think this is the time to be closer to God. He can do all things, he made the sky a home for the sun! Awesome, isn't he? use Isaiah 40:4-5 to pray for yourself.

PeacenLove2:
Oyinbo pepper. I like you sha.

Who doesn't?

@greenbullet--Go beat the hell outta her, show the man you truly are. Let the devil use you!
So after beating her then what? I guess your mom will say you are an epitome of a good son, right! Apologise to your mom and don't beat a married woman. In fact, be silent about the event that happened.
Do tell wife after 2-3weeks 'you would like to talk about the incident and you want her to know how hurt and disappointed you've been'.

Bro, pray before you sleep. On a normal day I worry a lot, I fear I may not do that thing well, worry I may fail the exam, I fear death etc. Every fear and worry comes back as a dream and believe me these dreams ain't always good. i noticed that most time I have these dreams, the room temperature is cold or I expose my chest. so after the dream, I adjust by turning off the fan and cover my chest then I pray. All these don't happen when I pray before sleep.

So Mr A. broke up the relationship because of this small issue. He is insecure jare!. this is a white lie-she concealed the truth just to free him from fear or doubt. she likes him and she knows he's insecure..

See these cute Hausa/Fulani babes. I must marry one by force and by fire.. congrats tho!

this Abba never watch 24 sha. if they can't catch you, they will come for the ones you like.. posting pictures online, for me, is a bad one. I don't understand why they can't enjoy their thirty million for the account o silently.

Lubyna:
1. First of all, intelligence is a robust term that admits of various definitions and classifications, so using IQ test scores to weigh intelligence is very simplistic. But for the sake of debate, I'll follow through with your argument. Saying that males have higher IQs than females isn't a legitimate thing to say in my opinion.
The vast majority of males and females score within the average in IQ testing. There are females who score very high in IQ scores as well as there are males. Yes there are more males than females who score very high on IQ scores, but there are also more males than females who score low . So on this basis, am I to say that males have lower IQs than females? You see where your claim becomes problematic to legitimize?

2. Males are better mathematically, yes. But women are also better at language tasks. Being better at mathematical tasks doesn't mean men think with their heads and women don't. That's a silly thing to say.

3. How does being more emotional than men translate to being less intelligent? If you said that in decision making women tend to involve emotions than men, then maybe you would have made sense. But because women express a wide range of emotions, and at a deeper level than men, doesn't mean that they are less intelligent.

And how does this poor, unresearched argument you presented answer my question? You said it was natural for women not to have sense. I asked you to explain and you provided this "men are more intelligent than women" argument. Dissapointing!!

Wow, who are you? you found a really good way to say you are intelligent.

stranger things

Okay, if you don't mind, please ,quote me in the future when you are single. since it's imminent and change is a constant thing. I am not interested in dating you. I just want to laugh hard..
No p na play I dey play o.

Fabulocity:
Yoruba people and incest be like *inserts zuma's picture*
Na their work na. But it seems to run in this particular family. Was it not their father that allegedly slept with his own daughter in law?

Nwamaaikpe what do you have to say about this?

Your case is like someone who asked whether 'they came up with 911 as the police number after 9/11'. Isn't the person, stupid? Stupid people everywhere!

Na wa o. this thing dey pain me sha. Tonto is the first woman I see as beautiful after watching "magic drum". I didn't complete it till today because I heard she died in it.. Tonto I feel your pains. it's abstruse why these celebrities don't want a happy life.

chisco82:
And when you re going out on a date will you expect the man to come and open the car door for you in the name of being romantic?
If your explanation is what gender equality is all about then Man is not expected to pay bride price, Man is should no longer be the head of the home and Man should not be call upon to defend his family.
I believe what we should be discusing is equity, thats better explain what you wrote up there.
You can never give another meaning to the word "GENDER EQUALITY"

lol. Payment of bride price is a tradition.. I think we should look up the meaning of right, opportunity and responsibility.
As a man, when you wait for a woman to be responsible for defending the family, Is that one a man? I am not saying a woman can't defend her family.