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Intresting but if you ask me i will say such is very very rare. its like an ideal case not really practical. am not saying it cant happen but sincerely speaking, it is rare.

It really baffles me to hear adults encouraging this teenager to stand by her friend's decision, just because they are 'good friend'.
Both girls at this point in time are confused and any of the decisions taken will change the course of their lives.
They say 'stand by yr friend', suppose she tells you she is going 4 an abortion and wants u 2 keep it secret and eventually dies in the acts, do you think u will remain thesame?

@Atreides
I strongly stand by your decision, she either tell her parents or you will do it 4 her, in that way, its no longer a secret. Secrets could be damaging!

jenny,
you no go kill me wit lafter

@op
a lot has been said,and if i may ask, wont your relations visit you? wont they charm him into sleeping with them.

To think that you are confused weda to go ahead with the wedding or not is absurd, not when the whole world know the your hobby slept with ur mom, abeg don't give Gossips topic

10 milla, which ever currency i will trade my husband 2

Kid, you're just looking for trouble. just tell your mallama to stay off stream waters. heard you chaps got guineaworms. Ebola, cholera and who knows HIV swimming in your waters. you know it wont be nice if she gets infected

we ve been hearing abt the cholera outbreak, could this been the reason for the epidermic

Why asking the obvious, the guy is simply telling this babe that there is no commmitment, so she doesnot let hell loose when he calls off the relationship.

But am i been selfish, i can never tell my wife to fool around even if i were bedridden for years, God forbi!!!

How can you still do it flesh to flesh ? What advise are you seeking?

This is one of the few men who know what a wedding vow is, Sir, i doff my hat.

Again, sir, have you ponder what will be the fate of your child shd you cantact this disease, you may probably be in your window stage 4 all i care,
Your child will be an orphan. but you can avertb that by been there for HIm/Her, cos it's only a matter of time before you become a widower.

so pls 4 the sake of the baby, cos i see you aint afraid to die, STAY ALIVE, USE A CONDON or better stil seek proffessional advice

Joy knows no bound when a couple behold a child born from their loins. You will never and i repeat never know that feelings unless you ve been there.

i keep wondering wat's all these ruse abt, cant a priest rape a female? just because you play catholic doesnot permit you to be ignorant of the devices of the ENEMY, called Satan. this is the endtime my bro.

Gbammm _{doors closes} yeye thread

I agree wit u nat, most firstborns end up being cholerics,

For me , being a first,has really helped to discipline myself, always make me thrive to be role model 4 my younger ones and to God be the glory, i am still in charge.

I married my wife knowing quite well she's not a fantastic cook but i thought when we get married and she does the cooking more often she will improve but i was wrong as it becomes worsefrom bad everyday. its of either the soupy is tasteless or watery or the semo is like pap sweetended with plenty sugar, rice mostly saltless, beans- dnt even go there. Any time i make complains she takes offence and say i dnt appreciate her effort but the most painfully aspect is that i hadly want to eat outside the home, so whatever she serves me as dinner when i get home from work happens to be the only meal i have in a day which ends up being pathetic most times, though am already toying with the idea of having me fill before going home but i dnt really want to do that for the sake of jeopardizing my home and my pocket. pls what do i do.


It baffles me how some nairalanders think, so the poster should not have married her cos she cant cook eventhough he loves her . One often hear statements like didn't you guys date?, and all that. We often forget the fact that no on is perfect, eventhough deep within us we want a perfect spouse and so we hope even against hope that such aperson may overcome that deficiency(which might be a 'not 2 serious' issue).

This poster's wife has some very good traits thats why he married her, at the same time wants his wife to be a great cook. what is difficult to grasp here?

The way posts are replied on most thread,one can differientiate the married from the unmarried.

@OP
you ve gotten loads of advice, choose which will work 4 u.

@ op
i am just glad you found the nerve not to give up on her.
With God all things are possible

#25 is very funny

Yes #38 is missing maybe it shd go like this

They never want you to go waste those cash at the gym, cos the thicker you are the better.

when you wake, you let me know.

@harakiri
Nice shot, one bullet, one kill.

@ujujoan
even the ladies aint buying your poo.

PS
Divorce will come when the camel's back is broken, whether there is money or not.

[td]he married her because he thought she had a hymen? [/td]
No, he divorced because she doesnot know how to lie

@ajiteru
Yes, women can break their hymen, without enganging in sex when they engage in rigorous exercise like horse riding etc

@poster
Is your wife Naija? cos she isnt smart to me.

your husband is a gay and you never suspected after 3 yrs  Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, i hope you shine your eyes in the next one

Hmmmm, Some people are really brave wanting to flush 15years of labour down the drain.

Pains not expressed are like cancer, slowly but steadily eating you up until you give in, had she trashed it out with her hubby then all this stupid idaes woludnt ve surfaced. nice lesson

@poster,
Is your wife a good wife to u, prior to your discovery? if yes GBAM!!! case dismissed.
Many husbands today would reverse thier cases in having a loving and caring wife instead of marring a virgin.
i suggest u live with it cos confronting your wife on this issue wont yield the much anticipated result. afterall you no catch am redhanded. by the way how are u so sure the bragging guy does not know you(that you dont know him is not enough)

I was given the option of choosing what I wanted with the second and I choose a natural birth although they prepped me for an c/s just in case but Glory be to God, I had the baby naturally.

@chiarcover
How far apart was your first child from the second? kept hearing ;once a cessarian ,always a cessarian except after many years apart.

at least she owes you an explanation , why she is quitting.

@poster
i dont normally comment (just enjoy reading posts) but deep down in my heart i feel 4u, i kinda ve a similar experience, my wife is sometimes a nagger/ complainer and on those times i feel i shd leave and never come back home until days. but i cant. not that i am very  responsible, i just cant .
back to d solution to your prob.
1. let the involvement of third parties be the last option
2. know that no matter how u try to exonerate yourself you have a share in this prob, and since you ve taken the initiative to seek help, follow peace to the end.
So stop frowning your face and those question of 'where do u think u are coming back from' it wont take u anywhere, only boils up the polity.
Observe him closely there will be a moment he is going to 4get his prob and will relax,
look sweet, the way he loves it and walk to him smiling{even though all u feeel is hatred} and let him know you had always wanted a happy home where there is great love shared, and you are sorry if you ve not been at your best. that you do not like his running away from home, or how will he feel if at the slightest provocation you do same.
That, his running home does not really solve the prob, rather both of u can sit and talk things over (observe hin closely, chances are that he wants to ear more) now ask him wat is it that he doesnot like, surely he will rant all your bad deed but pls be kool. note ;fire can never quench fire only water can. ask him if he will come back home if you do all these things he is saying.(he must voice out a response here) if yes,
Now tell he will ve to help you achieve this as you are but flesh , now tactically lay down his flaws or the reasons you you behaved the way, he accused you of.
and both of you sha remain committed to whtever you agree upon, if all works out well, let that day will unique sort of. once in a while someone will violate, but gentle reminds him of that day.
this is just my little piece of advice.

@ LOVE.4BUG, ZIM DRILL, UJUJOAN
GUYS,
i really want any of you guys to teach me how to recall a past post, just like you ve just done. sometimes i want to read past post on some related issues and i cant.
Also, is it possible to change my user's name and how cos some of my friends know me. i will be very grateful.

my mom, rarely advise ,as sitting us down to talk, but she is always drumming it to our ears, Be closer to God cos only him can porvide those things we cant give you.


My dad's advise are numerous, one of them is, My son, no matter what it takes you, go to sch,even if it means trekking long distances without a shoe go to sch, cos at the end you will get all that has eluded you.

As women, our sole purpose on Earth isn't to cook and clean for men. Sheesh!!

Why not simply put it, is it our responsibility 2cook and clean, and who say you are cleaning for the man, are you not benefitting from the clean environment.

i guess the prob. is this woen lib, most Naija women often misinterpret it as a reversal of roles.

@poster
discuss this with ur wife , try finding out why she cant go about her chores, from there a solution could be reached.

@dobodobo
I agree with you, but you know a day can become a thousand years with God, how many of us mortal men have such patience

@snthesis
It is very difficult ignoring a ladies insult, maybe it's the male ego of a thing

but what did u actually mean by
"did sum1 hack into your account"

@smartsoft,
Guy, he get one chikala were i dey nod,and she dey believe me, so tay, she stored me as "my hero", i bet we fit dey talk about thesame gal here, wetin be this your chick initials? _{pulling ya legs}

Hmmm, how did you find out, pls tell us , maybe we can borrow a leaf or two?

@nikkykay,
He is always proud to have me around his friends all becos i make contributions to any topic they discuss from football-politics-entertainment-events just name it.
So he listens to me when i talk and when am wrong he corrects me.

That's the fuel that keeps the fire burning , you listen when he corrects you, many will sulk when corrected.

There is a thin line btw an openminded lady and a talkative knowing that difference takes wisdom, most women are of the latter but claims the former.