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Oracleee:
It can start with you. Make the change.

Who says it hasn't already started with me? Many women like me have already rejected the idea that our lives must revolve around men. We choose our own paths instead of living by expectations that don't reflect the lives we actually want.

How I choose to exercise that freedom is entirely up to me; that is precisely the point.

Oracleee:
Do you read at all or you're just out to argue everything and anything?


Ehnn

Disagreeing with your argument doesn't mean I failed to understand it.

I responded to the perspective you presented. You claimed that this is "about the world at large," so I challenged that claim. My point is specifically about social conditioning; women being taught to tolerate irresponsible men, center their lives around men, and measure their worth through relationships. If you are claiming that this particular conditioning exists to the same extent all over the world, then demonstrate it. Saying you are "well travelled" doesn't establish a worldwide reality, and quoting a TV court judge saying women shouldn't "compete" with men in promiscuity doesn't establish it either.

Yes, women biologically carry pregnancies. Nobody disputed basic biology. My point is that pregnancy is not an inevitable consequence of a woman having sex. Women can make reproductive choices beforehand and use highly effective contraception. So presenting pregnancy as proof that women cannot make the same lifestyle choices as men is an oversimplification.

The world is far too vast to draw universal conclusions solely from limited personal experience. I am well travelled as well, but I know better than to present my personal travel experience as proof of a global reality without broader and more reliable evidence to support such a conclusion.

Instead of questioning whether I read simply because I challenged your position, address my actual argument. Being well travelled doesn't automatically turn personal perspectives into facts. When making a claim about the world at large, support it with credible and representative evidence. Claims of such magnitude require more than just your personal anecdotes presented as fact.

Oracleee:
This isn't about Africa, this is about the world at large. I'm well travelled and I can confirm it's so. Even paternity court host judge Lauren lake will tell the female folks in her court room you can't compete promiscuousity with men, it's a battle you won't win.


Truth is a man can deny a pregnancy, one thing is certain, the woman can't as she carries it and many other stuffs. In short, there are battles a man will never win and their are a battles a woman will never even come close to winning.

My point is that women have the same freedom of choice. If women decide to reject the system, they can make those choices too.

Men need to stop deceiving themselves into believing that they are the only ones who can behave however they want and avoid consequences.

They also have to stop taking women's love for granted and understand that a woman's commitment, love, and respect are choices, not entitlements. If women decide to be independent, the world will not end.

Imagine if every woman began to believe that men were unnecessary and chose to have one or two children, one way or another, without seeking a committed relationship. The world would still go on.

Oracleee:
This isn't about Africa, this is about the world at large. I'm well travelled and I can confirm it's so. Even paternity court host judge Lauren lake will tell the female folks in her court room you can't compete promiscuousity with men, it's a battle you won't win.


Truth is a man can deny a pregnancy, one thing is certain, the woman can't as she carries it and many other stuffs. In short, there are battles a man will never win and their are a battles a woman will never even come close to winning.

Pregnancy is not some automatic consequence that women have no control over before sex. This is 2026, women have access to highly effective contraception if they choose to use it.

So, all over the world, women are crying and praying for cheating or irresponsible husbands? 😳

Tenrack:
truth is bitter. What he said really triggered you. Tell your gender to do better. They are the gatekeepers of sex. Today they are weaponizing it and using it as a means of income. Nobody pointed a gun to their head to spread their legs. Don't blame men for that the average woman is greedy asf

Something does not become the truth simply because you believe it or because you find it bitter. 🤡 Why would I be triggered by unreasonable words?

Tell your gender to do better. If those persistent knckers called men stopped knocking on the gate, the gatekeepers would have no reason to open it. If there were no demand, there would be no supply.

Your complaint that some women earn income through sex is also inconsistent. You can't have it both ways. If your gender is willing to create the demand by paying for the supply, why are you directing your outrage at the women instead of criticizing the men who make that market possible?

And if those women willingly "spread their legs" without complaining, why are you crying on their behalf? Tell your gender to keep that little finger-looking thing inside their trousers instead of blaming women for choices that require the participation of both men and women.

Oracleee:
I never tried to speak down in the female folks or so, it might come off like that but I don't mean it so.


Truth is the way the world is programmed, it's a battle female folks won't win and I mean every word of the fact to that. A man can leave carelessly and go scot-free except nature and STIs catches up with him. He might even brag in his ignoramus but women won't go that route and not get burnt. Also their are lots of stuffs a man might try and get burnt but a lady might go unscathed. I hope you get my point though.

Exactly. The problem is the programming.

Many African women living in African accept this programming without questioning it, which is why many of them end up getting hurt. Women like me, who reject the programming and refuse to live by it, are far less likely to get burnt.

Many African women are raised to live like programmed robots. Society dictates their happiness, dictates their feelings, and dictates their reactions.

When a husband cheats, they are often told, "Go to church and pray for him. Try to please him more. It is your fault he is cheating."

They are constantly told what men like, what men want, and how they should behave to keep a man.

Many African women are conditioned to spend their lives prioritizing men's expectations over their own aspirations and to make their lives revolve around men, while many White women live more freely, make choices on their own terms, and focus more on their goals, careers, and personal growth.

In many cases, White women choose the path that works best for them. Some are single and child-free by choice. Some are divorced. Some are married and child-free by choice. Some are in their first, second, third, fourth, or fifth marriage. Others are happily married with children. They make the choices they believe best suit their lives and circumstances.

A woman can do everything a man does, and just as he does not get burnt, she can do the same without getting burnt. Mostly gullible women get burnt. Wise women, even when they are put through the fire, come out like gold; more refined and stronger.

Oracleee:
For single men out there like myself, isn't this generation lifestyle not giving 100 reasons not to marry?


You might just marry and become broken. Imagine the kind of life your purposed wife would have lived before y'all met. This remind me of a lady I was talking too at some point, cute, communicates well and conserved. Guess what, we got freaky at some point and aunty wanted it from the back door. E shock me die. She's just 22 and left to my imagination was if this conservative young lady have experienced all this at this tender age, what's there to enjoy and look forward too in marriage

For single women like myself, doesn't the lifestyle of men today give us a million reasons to remain single? Why all these moral hypocrisy? In many societies, men account for a large share of sexually transmitted infections, yet you guys keep placing the blame on women, as if men are morally superior or sexually inactive.

As long as sex is involved, infections will keep showing up. The surest way to avoid infections is to avoid sex because a partner might decide to be unfaithful. I have never had to treat any infection because I no too send relationship. It is either sexless relationship or no relationship at all, but I have friends who are faithful to their boyfriends or partners, yet they still treat infections occasionally.

Slimplush:
I amptly put it, some men have their flaws,I was only pestering the fact that, and the facts remains, usually most of this thing always go back around when the going was good, nobody would know, because I do reason that it's okay to have first kid with man, why the second and the third if the man is a bad sample, I mean O wrong naoo,

I don't have much experience, but the little I had was woman always look upto society to pity them when it's actually them, that most of the time makes a man misbehave

Not in all cases though, what you other gender don't know is, man doesn't change over night, there's always a trigger somewhere, exp from the woman or social life, job problem, daily life experience and of which most Time, we man are good at bottling up emotion unlike your gender that easily comes out.

But most of you that knows this, are the wisest and they can easily tame a man to turn the tide of his wayward life

Same thing apply to we men!! I am not biased but proportionally, woman makes the most of this mistake.

When life was even easy, Check our mother and father, they make family and build house,make good squad and I don't want to always miss that bond that comes end of the year to the village visit , before the woke of this Gen z.. There you have your answer.

Ya lots always want to stand on the mantra "it's a woman world anyway".. But you won't get it that it's not!!

Our parents' staying together and having a long-lasting marriage doesn't answer the question, and it doesn't change the fact that women go through a lot.

My mum is an academic, so I can always follow in her footsteps and seek her advice on education and other important life matters. But when it comes to relationships, I make my decisions based on my own convictions.

My parents celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary some years ago, and they had many good things to say and celebrate. My mum was a virgin before marriage. She was the kind of wife who knelt to serve her husband food. She was submissive to the extent that it almost cost her her life. Thankfully, a Catholic hospital accepted her when she was in critical condition after she developed complications following childbirth, after several other hospitals had turned her away.

She had wanted to give birth in a properly equipped hospital, but being a submissive wife, she agreed to deliver in a church maternity home, as my dad preferred. That place was hell for her. Women were intentionally tortured there. I can't begin to describe all the horrific things they do to women, and when women died there, they often claimed the women were simply possessed and had returned to their spiritual kingdom.

Don't expect every generation to endure what previous generations endured. Our mothers were superheroes and angels with wings. We are nothing like them. We are normal human beings with no wings.

I actually find it quite surprising that some women still choose to play the victim and seek society's pity, whether they are genuine victims or not. Anyway, I can never fall victim, and I will never look up to society for pity because I am not the society's definition of a good woman, I am happily a bad woman.

Your moral hypocrisy is alarming. Your gender has no business preaching moral standards to women. Given the countless atrocities committed by men, it is astonishing that you feel righteous enough to single out women for judgment while overlooking the heinous acts committed by men. This world is simply being polluted by both men and women.

There is absolutely no point in this shameless act of judging and criticizing women. You guys really think you are that important. In a world that belongs to both men and women, you still try to play the boss. You are not in any position to criticize people, especially people whose bills you don't pay and whose lives you know nothing about?

Slimplush:
I beg to differ here ma'am, let's be realistic, how many of you lots appreciate a man that stand between feeding, meeting house needs, the children comes between and responsibility doubled if not tripped for the man, you all want a man's money but you hardly part with yours, of which most of you raised with the help of the man, directly or indirectly.

I'm not saying men don't have flaws, likewise as woman does, but the equation is imbalance when it comes to female gender, I can see some woman writing that they already left the marriage in their mind but they haven't exit so it can shock the weyree(husband)
The question is, what is holding them with weyre?? I if not financial purposes (at most)

Selfishness at its peak!!!

And when I say you lots... Literally I mean most of you and of which the equation surpasses the better one's among ya'll nowadays female.

How many of you also actually appreciate your woman? She carried the babies for nine months, gave birth in excruciating pain, went through physical changes because of childbirth, and still gave the children your surname.

Sure, we find money important, is that suppose to be shameful? In fact, it is advicable for a woman to find money important, especially if she plans on having children. She either makes her own money or marries someone who has enough, not necessarily wealthy, but financially stable.

Let me ask you this: Who is more useful, a broke man or a broke woman? A broke woman can still cook and clean, but if money is the only value some men can offer in a relationship, doesn't lacking it make them useless?

Many women lived happily and enjoyed life before marriage. Even those who were broke still found ways to manage. But the moment marriage, childbearing, and family responsibilities set in, their lives changed dramatically.

You are part of the reason her life changed. You added to her responsibilities. Now, she's got responsibilities that requires her money, time and energy. She was surviving and managing before you came into her life, but now that there is many responsibilities for you two, playing your part is somehow treated as though you are doing her a favour.

No doubt, there are good men who deserve appreciation. One can see the effort they put in every day to provide for their families and to be good husbands and fathers. They work on each other feelings and do not just prioritise their feelings or throw their daily frustrations at their women as though women do not also carry their own burdens and struggles in life.

Many Nigerian men do only the bare minimum, yet they act as though marrying a woman is already a favour, all they do is simply exist as a husband to their woman, or make their woman's life a living hell. Even when they provide they do it with constant belittling.

In the past, I blamed these little internet keyboard warriors for being unnecessarily insensitive to women. But now that I know better, I no longer blame them.

Many people, especially women in societies where dependence is encouraged, end up living in the shadow of who they truly are because they are not aligned with their true identity and purpose. Many are unaware that building your life entirely on dependence on others can become a thief of purpose.

Ladies, whatever truly belongs to you; whether earned through your purpose or received from others; doesn't have to come with shame, humiliation, or the loss of your dignity. It can in fact come with honour.

Even that beggar you see by the roadside is not necessarily living in poverty simply because he was born poor. He remains in that condition because he has not yet discovered his true identity and purpose. The moment he aligns with that purpose, the garment of poverty will be torn away.

Have you ever wondered why love seems to thrive in many developed countries? In those countries, some women even marry average or unemployed men, and many of these marriages still work to some extent, at least while they last. But in many African societies, relationships often feel more broken. Many women feel men are villains, and many men feel women are villains. So much confusion.

There is a deeper reason behind this, and it is not even about the marriage rules or the economy. I can't break everything down right now, but my advice to everyone is to become aware of who you are.

I used to think the world was created unfairly and that not everyone would be able to live peacefully or in abundance, or even provide for their basic needs. But I discovered I was wrong. The mystery of life is that there is sufficient provision for everyone. We are not each other's enemies. Poverty in Africa has a hidden source. Africans need to wake up and break free.

Ladies, protect your sexual energy. Not everything is a flex. Life is deeper than that.

The best approach is to discover your purpose before marriage. If your purpose leads you toward marriage, then get married. If it doesn't make marriage seem right for you, don't pursue it. Everyone has a different path in life, and the sooner you understand yours, the better.

Love can cover mistakes, but it cannot heal intentional or repeated hurts.

The first time may be a mistake; the second time raises serious questions, and the third time shows a pattern. It is simply unwise to feel obligated to stay with a repeat offender, because forgiveness without genuine repentance becomes permission.

The true test of love is not how much betrayal you can tolerate, but how much respect, honesty, and commitment you are willing to give your partner.

Love is a two-way street, not a license for one person to keep hurting the other.

That being said, I can already tell your age. Being a child means you are not ready for the responsibilities a family demands. Wait until you are grown and can fully grasp the commitment, responsibility, and consequences involved.

WatchYourSix:
lol……U like to paint a picture that majority of Yall are saints and victims of men… and yall act evil because men treat you badly… thats not true, maybe in former times but not in these modern era….unless you just want to lie to urself ….

If you understand psychology, you would understand my point better. Financial stress can make people, whether male or female, more insecure and emotionally reactive.

Some of the little things that people under financial pressure take to heart can be quite amusing: "He said this to me," "She looked at me this way," or "He asked me to do this and that." They often read too much into ordinary situations. Husbands and wives can even end up fighting over unreasonable and petty issues; things that could simply be ignored or overlooked. Some of these reactions stem from underlying issues rather than the situation itself.

There are situations and behaviours that are relatively uncommon in healthy, stable environments or when things are going well financially. I have a relative who often asks me for money whenever I am loaded, and I once wondered how he always knew. When I asked him, he said that whenever he noticed I was calm, relaxed, and not easily triggered; even in situations where I normally would be; he could tell I was doing well financially at the time. Even if somebody says something negative about me, I would not react strongly or I would simply ignore it. If somebody tries to start an argument, I usually avoid it and remain calm. He claims those are the signs he uses to know.

Emotional responses from one situation can influence reactions in another. I recall when my car was involved in an accident, I tried not to take the financial loss to heart. I comforted myself by reminding myself that it was only a material possession and thanking God that no life was lost. However, on the third day, I hit my leg on something in my room; perhaps a stool; I can't quite remember. Suddenly, all the emotions I had been suppressing came pouring out. I could no longer hold them back. I started throwing tantrums, asking God why things always had to happen to me, and expressing my frustration and anger intensely. On a normal day, hitting my leg would not have been a big deal, but the emotions that had already been building up underneath triggered it.

I also recall a situation involving an acquaintance of my family who made a scene at Kilimanjaro Eatery at Murtala Muhammed Airport. That day, my dad was travelling to Germany, and my mum, my siblings, and I accompanied him to the airport. Two family friends and this acquaintance, who happened to be a mechanic, also came along with us.
The airport was crowded, so we stayed at the Kilimanjaro Eatery while waiting for my dad's departure. We occupied several seats. At some point, a staff member approached the mechanic and politely asked him to vacate his seat. He immediately took offence and started making a scene, asking why he had been singled out.

My siblings and I were seated at a separate table eating the snacks and food we ordered, while the others were together talking. We were regular customers of that particular Kilimanjaro branch and especially enjoyed their burgers. We often visited even when no one was travelling.

The staff member simply needed someone to move first and happened to choose him. However, he seemed to take it personally. He appeared to feel that he was being judged or singled out, even though nothing about his appearance reflected his occupation or status. He was not poorly dressed or unkempt. As time went on, the staff asked other people to vacate their seats as more seating became necessary. It was clear the staff were simply doing their job and managing a crowded space.

My point is not that financial hardship excuses bad behaviour. Rather, financial stress can create emotional pressure that affects how people interpret and react to everyday situations. Sometimes what appears to be an overreaction is actually the result of frustration, worry, and insecurity that has been building up over time.

Financial pressure in Nigeria is very high and is one of the leading causes of many marital problems. Many broke people are simply overly sensitive and interpret normal situations as disrespect, even when none is intended.

jaytii:
Even If you give her the World, it will never be enough


you need her character, her loyalty, her emotional maturity, and her peace.

In today's generation, women are not capable of giving any man these things you mentioned.

The majority of women don't lack these qualities; they simply become more visible when a woman feels safe, secure, and trusts her environment. In healthy homes, these traits are more likely to flourish.

Some negative behaviours seen in certain women are even often responses to toxic environments or forms of self-protection.

RollinTNDA:
Women marry for money not love

And men marry for beauty or free domestic labour, not love

Some of you speak as if men are saints or as if they are in relationships out of charity. Any gender can be driven by self-interest.

Marriage and pregnancy are two ways many women become tied down in relationships that do not align with their happiness or wellbeing. Many women would be happier most times without marriage, so avoid marriage if you can.

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May God Almighty, in His infinite mercy, continue to bless Pastor Emmanuel Irene for standing up against injustice and speaking for ordinary Nigerians. In a country where many people stay silent out of fear or personal interest, he chose to publicly protest and stand with Nigerians during a difficult time.

What he did should never be forgotten in the history of Nigeria. Not everyone will understand the courage it takes to speak up in difficult times, especially in a society where many only care when issues affect them personally.

May God reward him for identifying with the struggles and pain of Nigerians. May he never lack help in his own time of need. May God continue to strengthen him, protect him, and elevate him beyond expectations.

A lot of people have influence, but very few truly use it for the good of others. Acts like this remind us that humanity, courage, and compassion still exist.

May every Nigerian who genuinely desires a better country remember and appreciate people who stand up for truth, justice, and the wellbeing of the people. May history be kind to him, and may his good deeds never be forgotten.

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HacheNoire:
You can’t just jump into conclusion without even hearing from the man himself to see if his excuses are justified.

If you are familiar with life as an adult, some plans and trips we make were budgeted for a short time and end up taking more than we even envisaged or budgeted.

Definitely something held him there. A poor man of his kid was not in an hotel lavishing money. He def had what held him there. Hearing from him before crucifying him would have been best.

There are people who are genuinely irresponsible, though they may still be very good and caring in other ways.

Love has already gotten into her head. Before allowing love to grow too deep or get out of hand, it is best to first study people and look out for habits or destructive traits, because there are stages love can reach where it becomes difficult to let go.

There is nothing wrong with suffering with someone, as long as it is with the right person. If two people are both ambitious and supportive, they can attain great heights.

Love is good when it is with someone who can influence you positively, is ambitious, or matches your goals. There are people you cannot lift; if you try to lift them, their weight may pull you down.

I have experienced the hurt that comes from love, though not in a romantic or dating relationship. There is someone I really care about. This person is genuinely kind and caring, but she has money issues. She is the kind who can squander millions in one day.

Sometimes, I would break down in tears and explain how her behaviour is hurting me, and she would also break down as well. She often promises to change, but she never does. At times, she stops for a while and later continues the same behaviour. I have even promised myself several times that I will not help her again, but it is not that easy to turn a blind eye when someone you care about is in need or in problem. At the moment, I have been setting boundaries.

One of the most painful lessons this has taught me about life, and which I also apply in dating relationships, is that we often share in the pain of those we love, whether in friendships, with relatives, or in relationships. Rather than simply relying on emotions alone, it is better to think carefully when choosing people. There are people with destructive habits or traits that are not intentional, but they can still be harmful to you.

tunnyl:
Wonderful. Wetin man go talk bayi. As I dey swerve go left you dey swerve go right. I have kuku read the old messages but my brain is not well booted for a looooong reply i planned.

Anyways back to the topic and i will reply all in this post. See sincerely ehn my lady God never gjves you what you cannot handle and if ge gives someone a terrible partner then theres every possibility that one is able to handle him or her. Thats why this same person ends up dating the same person in a different body. There is an issue that needs to be fixed by the person in side the person or the person’s partner which the person has deliberately refused to deal with due to selfishness.

Don’t defend people you know absolutely nothing about their background. You dont know their thoughts. You don’t know their spiritual battles. Did you know that the person who plays the victim is usually the perpetrator. They know deep down that they are the reason their partner behaves the way he does towards them but they will never dare to admit it.

Did you know that everyone is privileged and exposed to the truth also. God gave all of us certain gifts that always ends up achieving the same goal. For example two people’s lufe partner are in Oyo state. God will use NYSC to carry one to Oyo state to meet the life partner and he will use Tinder for the other one to find his life partner in Oyo state. Thats how God balance things up.

You say you are exposed and privileged thats why you act in a civil manner towards your man. But there are women also exposed to what you are exposed to and privileged like you that have refused to act civil towards their partners. They know their mouth runs like water but they cannot control it. They force their partners to accept them as they are. Then there are some who cannot even see what rhey are doing as wrong. How in the hell do you hope to save these kinds of people.

All am saying is, you only know yourself and assuming all women are innocent is not the right assumption. I am not saying cheating in marriage is a good thing but that person saw the partner’s flaws before they went into relationship with them.

No one is saying women should shrink themselves. All we are saying is a woman should respect her man. And marriage is an institution with the man as the head and the woman as the shoulder. They bothe work together but one is the coordinator not the controller but the coordinator.

The problem with modern women is that they dont like being corrected or challenged.

I am actually the Nigerian definition of a "bad woman" because I love myself so much that I cannot allow any harm or discomfort to come to me. Rather than following advice about waiting for God to shape a woman into what her husband deserves, it is better to select a partner based on compatibility and discard any man that is not compatible with one's values, goals, and standards. A word is enough for the wise.

I can't keep going back and forth with you. I'll leave it here.

tunnyl:
Wonderful. Wetin man go talk bayi. As I dey swerve go left you dey swerve go right. I have kuku read the old messages but my brain is not well booted for a looooong reply i planned.

Anyways back to the topic and i will reply all in this post. See sincerely ehn my lady God never gjves you what you cannot handle and if ge gives someone a terrible partner then theres every possibility that one is able to handle him or her. Thats why this same person ends up dating the same person in a different body. There is an issue that needs to be fixed by the person in side the person or the person’s partner which the person has deliberately refused to deal with due to selfishness.

Don’t defend people you know absolutely nothing about their background. You dont know their thoughts. You don’t know their spiritual battles. Did you know that the person who plays the victim is usually the perpetrator. They know deep down that they are the reason their partner behaves the way he does towards them but they will never dare to admit it.

Did you know that everyone is privileged and exposed to the truth also. God gave all of us certain gifts that always ends up achieving the same goal. For example two people’s lufe partner are in Oyo state. God will use NYSC to carry one to Oyo state to meet the life partner and he will use Tinder for the other one to find his life partner in Oyo state. Thats how God balance things up.

You say you are exposed and privileged thats why you act in a civil manner towards your man. But there are women also exposed to what you are exposed to and privileged like you that have refused to act civil towards their partners. They know their mouth runs like water but they cannot control it. They force their partners to accept them as they are. Then there are some who cannot even see what rhey are doing as wrong. How in the hell do you hope to save these kinds of people.

All am saying is, you only know yourself and assuming all women are innocent is not the right assumption. I am not saying cheating in marriage is a good thing but that person saw the partner’s flaws before they went into relationship with them.

No one is saying women should shrink themselves. All we are saying is a woman should respect her man. And marriage is an institution with the man as the head and the woman as the shoulder. They bothe work together but one is the coordinator not the controller but the coordinator.

The problem with modern women is that they dont like being corrected or challenged.

Take a look at this particular statement you wrote: "the person who plays the victim is usually the perpetrator." Men who constantly advertise patience and endurance are often lobbying for their own selfish interests and gender comfort. They want respect even at the cost of a woman's discomfort.

According to your logic, every woman that complains is evil, even those who waited patiently, got deeply hurt, or even died in the process. They are suddenly "playing victim." I could have been one of those women too. Would people who do not know me personally not still push the blame on me simply because I am a woman?

Every woman should ensure she does not become a victim. Society will judge and mock women either way, so do what is best for yourself.

Not everyone is privileged or exposed to knowledge, and God did not promise that every marital decision would turn out well. People make bad marital decisions and regret them even in the Bible. Abigail regretted marrying Nabal, and Ahab's marriage to Jezebel led him into destruction.

Many things people portray as sin are simply self-righteous opinions. If I decide to end 1 million dating relationships, it is not a sin. If I never get married, it is not a sin. If I marry out of personal choice or interest, it is not a sin. If I leave a cheating husband, it is not a sin. If I leave an abusive husband, it is not a sin.

The Bible says, "My people perish for lack of knowledge." Running away from danger is supported in the Bible. The Bible teaches people to flee danger and stay away from wicked people. God cast satan out of Heaven. Joseph and Mary fled with Jesus to protect Him. David fled from Saul. Elijah fled for his life. Many people in the Bible ran from danger. Blind patience, tolerance, and endurance in harmful situations is not wisdom.

Rather than insulting my guy or saying he "runs his mouth like water," I calmly corrected him to solve the issue. A man who dislikes shouting should correct his partner calmly as well. There are both men and women who shout, so why condemn women alone for it? If shouting is harmful to mental health, then men should also stop shouting. Women are human beings with emotions too. If a man wants to lead, he should lead by example.

Respect is for men who love and value their women and do not disrespect or belittle them. My guy loves and values me a lot, and he does not disrespect me, so it is only normal for me to accord him respect as well.

Times are changing, and men need to realize that women can also have self-focused ambitions, just like men do, and still support those choices with the Bible.

The religious sentiments you used to excuse men's wickedness are not actually Biblical. Nowhere does the Bible defend abuse or irresponsibility as spiritual battle. In fact, it repeatedly warns men against treating their wives wrongly. Many biblical men treated their wives with care and respect. The Bible teaches accountability and responsibility, not cruelty.

By your logic, men should not complain when their partners cheat either, since people supposedly "see the flaws before entering relationships."

Any woman who perceives danger in a relationship should leave. Do not make another person's happiness come at the expense of your peace, safety, or wellbeing. Love yourself first.

IreMide999:
Remaining chaste is a beautiful choice for unmarried ladies.
It helps preserve purity and self-respect.
It builds confidence and self-control.
It allows you to stay focused on your goals and future.
It reduces the risk of infections and unwanted pregnancy.
It also helps you avoid emotional burdens and unnecessary pressure.
There are many benefits to living a disciplined life.
Why place yourself under a burden that can be avoided?

It is wrong to present virginity as a measure of a woman's worth. Name one woman today who is highly valued simply because she is a virgin. The people we respect and celebrate today are valued for their work, influence, achievements, and impact, not their sexual history. Virginity has no economic or developmental value.

Self-respect is based on values, character, and behaviour, not sexual activity or abstinence.

Virginity can be a personal or religious decision for both males and females, but it is misleading when it is framed as something that confers physical or social superiority or defines a woman's worth. It honestly does not.

In a religious sense, all sin is accountable before God, and no one is morally superior based on a single aspect of their life. A virgin who lives in wrongdoing is not "better" than a non-virgin who repents and lives rightly. What matters is repentance, character, and righteousness. Virginity does not define righteousness.

Health concerns should also be stated generally. Men are not immune to infections, and sexually transmitted infections are not exclusive to premarital sex. There are people that practice safe premarital sex and avoid infections, and there are also cases where women contract infections from a partner's infidelity within marriage.

Virginity should not be turned into a standard for women or treated as something exclusive to women, men can decide to abstain from pre-marital sex as well.