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Dtruthspeaker:
See what I am talking about? You read that I said "supposed friend who now gets promoted to a wife" but now you discarded it in your attempt to make your point.

Of which now you have in confessed what I said at the beginning which is that women hate men and don't do friendship.

Meanwhile the man thinks he has found a friend in a woman or can find a friend in a woman not knowing that what he got was an enemy or in the best scenario, he got a person who does not care about him.

So, in the end you yourself have confirmed that all I have said is True

I didn't mean to come across hard; it's just that the words "promoted" and "protector" you used in your statements sounded totally off to me.

Women don't hate men at all; most women are simply trying to stay happy as well. The moment you understand that women are human, with their own struggles as well, you will understand better.

Most disagreements aren't about hatred; they usually come from misunderstandings or selfishness.

Both men and women are human, and we both crave comfort and convenience. But we need to be understanding and considerate toward each other so that, while building our own comfort, we don't hurt the other person's.

In many cases, relatively small things end up causing tension in marriages, and often pride gets in the way, making people refuse to compromise.

The fact is, two people who genuinely care for and understand each other; whether as friends or partners, rarely have major conflicts.

Dtruthspeaker:
A man's wikednes is clear. We all know the source and it's cause and how to even solve it

How does a supposed friend who now gets promoted to a wife not protect her husband? It is even that she waits for him to cheat.

And as we have all seen, till men start understanding the ways and mind of a woman, they would continue to tumble in the washing machine storm women have spun them in. Which in turn means that the men will react in as way that they did not expect

I am not amazed; there is really nothing new under the sun. This is just one of those weird things in life, though it might be rampant in your own environment. But I assure you that it is not the norm. In a normal setting and to normal people, cheating is disrespectful. No normal self-respecting woman would happily condone it, let alone plan it.

In your mind, this is how marriage happens, right? A man walks up to a woman he likes on the street and says, "You have been promoted to my wife" and she would be like, "Thank you, Sir, for this double promotion."

Then from there, she becomes his protector. You know say man na one kind luxurious glass like that, so she go hold am tight well well make e no break

Or she fit even dey babysit am, she go dey tell am, "Sit down here, don't go there, don't look at the maid like that." Things like that.

We should have been told that guys are kids so we would know how to control them. We would have protected them at all costs, even if it meant buying a cane and keeping it at home. I still wonder why some guys keep shifting unnecessary blame.

Shame on you. So as an adult, you can't control your own self or take responsibility for your own actions, you still need someone to babysit you. Justifying nonsense.

marlow1962:
Whatever rocks your boat.

I would have invited you on board, but my boat sails solo. Smooth sailing!

Dtruthspeaker:
Is that not what I said already that you poor women always hook to your rich man? And did you not know that he was the kind of person who chooks up and down before you covenanted yourself to him? Plus, where you not aware that the housegirl too had the same plan you used? Do you people ever tell your husbands that?
Of which some of you even bring/send your own sister to sleep with him so that he would live under you perpetually guilty so that you people would have the upper hand and can now permanently control him. Like this guy

https://www.nairaland.com/5246864/wifes-sister-crash-marriage-please#79364069

You people are wike.. and much more dangerous than a spitting cobra

The unhealthy and irresponsible things some men and women do in relationships show that both genders have irresponsible, problematic and harmful individuals. If we keep listing examples, we could write entire journals about each gender. Wickedness is individual; attaching it to gender makes no sense.

There are men and women who are irresponsible and even more dangerous than a spitting cobra. This is not a gender issue.
Stop being selfish and acting as though the world revolves around men. Many women are also heartbroken and deeply hurt.

Pain is not gendered. Women feel pain too. Just as women do things men hate or dislike, men also do things women hate or dislike.

Heal. Pick yourself up. Stop blaming a whole gender for individual behaviour.

Dtruthspeaker:
This appears to be True but it is not really true. Yes circumstances dictate reactions however, whilst men are channeling themselves to directly face and respond to life's obstacles, you women's plan is to find a man you would hook and use him to slingshot you to the man better than him. And when he does not, you dump him.

And then the poor man who thought he had gotten love will then do his own wickedness to another girl

Meanwhile, all these began with you women.

And that is why men are now saying that it is better to be alone and as they have seen, their lives are better and ok. No troubles anywhere.

So, it is you women who are the problem. You people have to find a way to solve all your life's problems without having to hook a man. And this is what badoo and co has solved for you people

What about the poor women who made a forever covenant with you guys, only for you guys to sleep with the domestic staff they hire? Which is worse?

marlow1962:
If it's an oxygen to you, so be it.
If it's good to inhale too, so be it.

Your sisters would need it more.

njokuuche77:
You’re arguing against something I didn’t say. Growth, responsibility, and self-respect apply to both men and women. The post highlights a pattern men experience, not a claim that women don’t need accountability.

You are wrong, the post actually leans toward the biased claim that women are privileged.

You could go into a store, price an item, and explain that it is all you can afford, and male sellers will start saying things like, "Call him now," as if you ever mentioned any "him" to them.

Yet it is still men who come online to claim that all women are oloshos.

Funny how men create the system, benefit from it, and still accuse women of being privileged. If a woman succeeds, she is funded. If she fails, she is still mocked.

You could simply be somewhere and hear men whispering behind you that a man must be funding you.

May God save women; the insecurity is real. Anything, just to downplay the effort of a woman.

bentenny:
So true but stop being pained nah😛
Is it your ego?😁

No vex, na why I say make you continue.

bentenny:
I wish I could do so a trillion times in order for your likes to keep wailing ad infinitum!

Whatever, keep massaging your ego.

Dtruthspeaker:
No, they don't get a woman rather It is you women who got them. Which of course is away from the point that women nearly never marry a man when he is poor. But if he is rich, like Regina Daniels, you all will marry him as the last wife until you are not the last wife anymore.

Why do you cry about things like this? You can't have your cake and eat it. Both genders are victims of circumstance.

Men claim to be polygamous by nature, while women tend to be moneygamous by nature.

vdestro:
see craze ooo and who told you I am a bro.

Okay, which one is your pronoun?
She/Her/Hers, They/Them/Theirs.

Dtruthspeaker:
That is because to a poorer girl, the poor man is rich. I remember when I was in the university I was always shocked when I hear that a poor young carpenter working near my place or the poor young electrician was already married. All of us who did not know him wondered who married him until we saw his wife and then we understood.

This simply means all men can get a woman so what is the complain for.

vdestro:
How does this make any sense? What has this got to do with woman making am in life?

Abeg no be by force to comment if you not get any sense to contribute.

Bro, no need to make noise, just simply explain the term 'na woman'.

virginboy1:
Hmmm..go to obalende bridge at night or early morning and see so many fallen men, abandoned men , men been spat on... because they failed, because they have no value ..no body send them .. they sleep untop the bridge and rain fall on them... because even under the bridge no more space.

It's a cold world for men.
No value... society hates him, women hates him, even his fellow men hates him.

I wish every struggling men, trying to stay afloat well.

How you sound:

The world is really cold to men. He is abandoned and spat on when he fails, but it is very warm to women. She is even embraced when she fails.

While he is hated by society, and by both women and his fellow men, she is loved by both men and women, and the society at large. She doesn't need to have value; she is just loved.

Not a single woman can be found under any bridge in Nigeria. She is living in luxury just for being a woman. He, on the other hand, is out there bravely struggling under bridges and in offices, while she is given a roof over her head, paid without work, clothed, and fed.

It is either you guys just like tormenting yourselves with imagination, or low-key you want to embrace the prostitution line but feel at a disadvantage. I don't understand where this jealousy is coming from; are the government funding women, or is it that women pluck money from trees?

shadrach77:
The other gender will also claim life is unfair to them too

Bro, life literally rolls out the red carpet for women every single day.

Dtruthspeaker:
Is it not because she truly is an oloshee? How many woman married a man when he had nothing? Do you not see how well treated the ones who married their men when they had nothing?

https://www.nairaland.com/6854526/met-wife-when-nothing-nigerian#107705723

https://www.nairaland.com/4325003/man-shares-throwback-photos-himself#64711685

But your data isn't adding up at all. Check the statistics: the number of married men in Nigeria is far greater than the number of men who have nothing and still have nothing. Who married them 'rabbits'?

Dogalmighty17:
Spot on. Nothing more can be said.

Of course, it perfectly reasonates with your wisdom

njokuuche77:
This resonates. Men are rarely given grace in their lowest moments, so self-development and self-respect become non-negotiable. Clarity beats complaint.

Wow, amazing logic. Women are always given grace in their lowest moments, so self-development and self-respect aren't necessary for women, right? Clap for yourself.

marlow1962:
A bad wife is an untreatable cancer. Best to avoid it at first.

A bad man is an oxygen, right. Best to inhale it.

Dtruthspeaker:
When I say that women are say tas agents men think it is a joke and like say yta, they hate men, yet they carry on as if they too hate their lives

Why do so many of you love playing the victim and blaming women for everything? Women don't hate men, and women aren't your problems; your imagination and unnecessary jealousy are simply eating away at some of you.

bentenny:
How can i like this more than a thousand times?

Why you no like am more than one billion times? Just continue dey rub your ego with fiction.

oyeb15:
When a man makes money,he believes he needs more women but when a woman makes money,she believes she need no man.

The moment your wife get richer and greater than you, then u are gone.

I get you, bro. Success is being greater and richer than your wife. No need to work hard or focus on your own progress, just keep monitoring hers.

Your wife's achievements must never surpass yours o. Pursue her, race her, chew on her every move, and limit her at all cost. She is your competition. Once you defeat her, you have defeated success. Good luck, bro.

lenghtinny:
No be today yansh dey for back

Na today I discover say men yansh dey front.

alphaconde:
How gender equality doesnt distribute life torture equally

No, it doesn't. Women are simply patted on the back and fed daily.

donleo92:
The worst thing that can happen to a man is if you fall with the wrong woman......


Na suicide.

It's even better to rise with the wrong woman, than to fall with the wrong woman,

As a man, how to overcome a wrong wife, is to always have money more than her.

But marrying the wrong man is long life with enjoyment for women, right🙄?

Whether you rise or fall with the wrong man, it won't matter, the only easy way to overcome such is to just avoid marrying such at all.

vdestro:
You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

One would expect an adult to be able to tell the difference between being overlooked and being sympathized with. Who needs such useless sympathies? Na woman, so she suppose no make am in life, right?

GrammarNazi1:
May we never fall.

We must create value.

Men are expected to create value, while women are expected to do nothing and just be valueless, right?

Kalatium:
Its a hard world for a man.

It is a very easy world for women. Money grows on trees for women.

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop pretending this isn’t happening.

When a man is struggling financially, society mocks him. When a man has erectile issues, he’s ridiculed and written off. When a man falls, people don’t ask why, they mock and move on.

But when the tables turn?
Excuses appear. Sympathy flows. Accountability disappears. This isn’t bitterness. It’s pattern recognition.

Men are expected to be strong before they’re allowed to be loved. Women are often loved while they’re still figuring things out. That’s the reality many men learn the hard way.

So here’s the practical takeaway no emotions, just execution:

1. Build value: financially, mentally, physically. Nobody respects what isn’t solid.
2. Set standards: stop accepting imbalance and calling it love.
3. Demand reciprocity: effort, respect, contribution or walk.
4. Protect your dignity: your lowest moments will not be met with mercy.

As a man, no one is coming to save you. No one will cushion your fall. And no one will hesitate to judge you when you’re down. That doesn’t make life unfair it makes it clear.

So take responsibility for your growth.
Guard your peace.
Choose wisely.
And never outsource your self-worth to anyone.

Compliments of the season.

When a guy reasons this way, try to find out more about his female relatives. It is usually a guy who is the main provider, with all the females in his family relying on him, who thinks like this.

A guy whose sisters are independent or have good careers would hardly think this way.

Sandralight:
100k at the moment.
I need to travel for a life changing opportunity

What kind of 100k travel would change your life? Anyway, send your account details and I will give you part of it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLSPiWzfXX8

What scientists say doesn’t matter to me, Jesus already gave me enough reasons to believe in Him. Science often works with its own agenda; it's not fully reliable and cannot always be trusted.

I've also come to realize that many atheists choose very firmly not to believe in God, even when there are signs pointing to His existence. When I share my extraordinary experiences, I often face skepticism especially from atheist friends. But recently, something happened: something so clear and undeniable to the natural eye that even an atheist who witnessed it struggled to explain it.

When I asked him what he thought, he said, 'Someone can just be naturally gifted." But if science can't explain that gift either, then where do these abilities really come from? Some atheists will say anything just to justify the idea that there is no God.

I don't rely on hearsay or the exaggerated stories that circulate on the internet; I hold on to real-life experiences. Some of my experiences are too personal to share online. I am completely convinced that God exists, and no one can convince me otherwise.

Science is incredible at explaining how the natural world works but what about experiences that clearly go beyond the natural? I respect science and value evidence-based reasoning. But there are certainly extraordinary things; both good and bad that science has no explanation for.

People just need to open their mind to the possibility that reality is far bigger and stranger than we currently understand.

If you believe special abilities or experiences are "just natural gifts," then I ask: where do these gifts come from? The universe? For me, this all points to something greater than chance; something real, personal, and powerful. A higher power. I call Him God.