₦airaland Forum

Ofodirinwa:
Tinubu is a great adminstator and one of the most skilled politicians of all time. I think in the world, only Putin and Netanyahu are close to Tinubu's political ability.

But in Nigeria, political ability is 80% willingness to steal and overtake which he has no limits on. As an administator he is mediocre and tribalistic. He overtaxes, and applies primative level of nepotism. But he is smart and tough and I like that he has what it takes to put the north in check. Whether notherners like it or not, the excesses of their politicians are damaging to all Nigerians. Obi would have been more diplomatic and accomodating.

I rate his advantages higher than his disadvantages, so I'm ok with him being president. If the next election is between him and Obi then Nigeria has truly advanced.

Nice one.

Just yesterday, a Nigerian man based in the US, currently visiting Nigeria, shared this exact perspective.

A lot of people I know abroad think the same way. I used to think it was just because they live outside Nigeria, but after a dream I had about Nigeria, I started seeing politics differently.

In a way, she is right; she is likely speaking from experience.

I believe women should guard their emotions and avoid making sacrifices that harm them in the long run. That said, I see nothing wrong with being financially involved with your partner, whether it is lending him money, doing business together, or building something as partners.

I just don't mix business with pleasure. I can't be unkind to someone simply because he is a man. I have brothers, and I wish them well. Still, you must protect yourself; people can be unpredictable.

Don't sacrifice your whole world or give so much to the extent that you can later regret or feel entitled in return.

Support him only at your own convenience. You can keep such transactions strictly business, you can even charge interest if you wish.

As the tail, you should grab his feet instead

willexyaho:
Sometimes, what looks like the “slow fade” from the outside is not always manipulation. Sometimes, it is not cruelty. Sometimes, it is not even intentional. Sometimes, it is simply a soul going through something it does not yet have the strength to explain.

There are moments when a person becomes quiet, not because they stopped caring, but because they are overwhelmed by storms they cannot put into words. Life can press on someone so heavily that even the things they love begin to feel like responsibilities they are afraid of failing. It becomes difficult to show up fully when you are barely holding yourself together inside.

At that point, it is not always about engineering someone’s exhaustion. Sometimes, it is about emotional survival. Sometimes, they withdraw not to punish you, but to protect you from parts of them they do not understand. Sometimes, they become inconsistent because they themselves feel unstable. And sometimes, their silence is not rejection, it is confusion, fatigue, fear, or quiet healing.

This is where emotional maturity speaks gently within you and says,

abeg, make this relationship dey one place for now.

Not as surrender. Not as denial. But as wisdom. Wisdom to recognize that not every distance is abandonment. Not every silence is manipulation. Not every reduced presence is lack of love.

It is the decision to stop forcing clarity where someone has none to give. It is choosing peace over pressure. It is allowing space without immediately translating it into betrayal. It is understanding that some people do not leave loudly, they simply retreat inward to find themselves again.

And sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is not to chase, not to accuse, not to assume the worst, but to remain calm, grounded, and patient with reality. To let things rest. To let emotions settle. To let truth reveal itself without force.

Because not every fading moment is the end. Some are pauses. Some are internal battles. Some are chapters of healing that have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the silent wars they are fighting within themselves.

You have said it all.

hohafrank:
Madam you are fighting the wrong enemy, 2 Chronicles 7:14.
Let Jesus run your home.

Just hold it there. If he wants to leave, then he should leave. According to the Bible, when an unbelieving husband leaves, a woman is not bound by the law.

PrinceShegs12:
Are you saying you didn't see all this signs when you both were dating, now you're complaining of the wonders
Pls carry your cross

You are talking as if humans are constant and incapable of change.

virginboy1:
Men are polygamous in nature...Reality modern women finds so hard to accept ... just as men have accepted the hypergamy in women.

Men are really nice.... suppressing their innate nature and getting fully committed to one woman forever.

No sensible woman is forcing marriage on any man. If a man believes he is polygamous by nature, he should choose a wife who can accept such disrespect. You cannot impose your selfish ideology on every woman.

The constant attempt to excuse cheating by calling it "natural" is exhausting. Cheating occurs in many societies, but in most places it is criticized; not defended with lazy statements like "all men cheat" or "men are polygamous by nature." Normalizing nonsense does not make it true or right.

Modernization means growth. Growth requires questioning old beliefs, not hiding behind them. The fact that something was common in the past does not make it wise, right, or acceptable today. Many outdated and harmful practices have been discarded because society evolved; that is what progress looks like. Even Christianity has really eliminated several barbaric traditions.

Some of the traditions and barbaric beliefs that are still defended and proudly passed down are why we are so far behind as a country.

I still don't understand why many people feel that being older automatically makes someone wiser. I was in Ogun State for a few days, and two days ago I stepped out in the evening to buy something when a group of men started laughing and calling me "Yemoja." I get called names like that often by people who don't even know me. Experiences like these remind me that progress requires questioning norms, not blindly accepting them.

Yorubastardz:
My aunt who was barren adopted a boy in 2002

Fast forward to 2025 last June.
This boy turned my aunt life upside down

He Insults her like mad. Disrespect her in front of visitors. Scold at her

This got me thinking if Adoption is worth it
Because the boy clearly don't feel connection

And during some of their outburst
He will curse her and her family.. Omo

After seeing this same pattern in 3 families
I have concluded ADOPTION IS A NO NO!!!!

Sorry about your aunt's experience, but adoption is a positive way to build a family. A few negative experiences don't mean it is 'bad.'

Forget biology for a moment; imagine it is her own flesh and blood misbehaving. What would she do? Children, whether adopted or biological, can act out.

It is a common misconception that adopted children behave differently or lack attachment. Biological children misbehave too; it is just that misbehaviour in adopted children is often more noticeable because there is no biological connection.

Many adopted children grow up deeply loving and loyal to their families. Blaming adoption for misbehaviour overlooks the real factors that shape character, such as environment, parental guidance, and lessons taught from an early age.

A child's behaviour is shaped far more by upbringing, environment, and the values instilled than by where they came from.

Some parents also fail to nurture their children properly: whether adopted or biological; and do not offer the care and support necessary for a child to develop properly.

Respect isn't guaranteed by genetics; it is cultivated through consistent teaching, modelling, and reinforcement of values.

oz4real83:
A woman will remove the perfect eye lash God gave to her and replace it with a hand drawn one😂, they are just wonderful creatures. This particular one is tired of eating only Egusi soup, she wants to eat ogbono, vegetable, banga and others. The guy shouldn’t count her as a loss and should move on.

A man will complain about how women treat the lashes God gave them, but spend like an hour and a half lining up the beard God gave him 😂 Absurd organisms. This species is really fascinating 🤣🤣

nnamdi640:
Both are not acceptable, virginity is a pride both male and female should adapt to before marriage. The rate at which infection is flying is alarming, if time is not taking another disease worst than Hiv will surface. Picking a bed to bed midfielder is the worst thing that can happened to a man or a woman

Well said, but respect and virginity have no business together. In the same way men are respected for innovations and real impact, women should be too. If men are not respected for their virginity, why should women be? Give us respect where it is due.

It is interesting how the same society that does not fully support women's growth and continues to oppress women is obsessed with female virginity. This is simply one of the many tactics used to distract women from real success.

The OP just wrote nonsense; the time of "Superstory" is over. Even Nollywood has cut back on the "crown prince and the poor beautiful village girl" movies.

SpencerForbes:
The same way we have good single mothers is the same way we have good virgins😊. If we can admit that good single moms exist, then we must also agree that good virgins are still out there. We just have to keep searching.

Even the Holy Book says a man with a bad woman is like a roof that’s constantly dripping water. If you can’t find a woman who gives you peace of mind, it is better to remain single and enjoy your life. Gone are the days when men prioritized marriage at all costs. Only marry if you’ve found the one that truly fits you. Don't marry because of family pressure. Just chill. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. No go settle for less! 🥂

And a bad man is like rain of blessings.

nnamdi640:
If you are not a virgin, you don't deserve the respect a virgin deserved because if she thinks it is easy why didn't she hold her virginity tight. A lady that is not a virgin don't deserve a guy you just described. I'm not toxic here just want to state the fact. You can't naked yourself for another man and you enjoyed what both of you did and still wants to receive an equal price as that of virgin, it is not done

But you can naked yourself for anyone woman.

Many men who obsess over virginity do so because of insecurities; about sexual performance or short tinglings. They pick inexperienced partners just to hide them.

floss:
Women are the most unstable entities… make a deeper research, you might find out that she’s seen a bigger fish and started feeling and thinking twice about marrying her current fish…

Women are not unstable; it is just that society puts too much pressure on women. Our feelings and personal growth are not being prioritized.

How does hesitating automatically mean she is chasing a "bigger fish"? That is a premature way to interpret human emotions. Life isn't black and white, and feelings aren't always universal; they are personal.

Looking back, I realize that hesitation isn't always instability; it can be a sign of self-awareness and emotional honesty. Not every woman who pauses before marriage is chasing an "upgrade"; sometimes she is just being honest about where she is emotionally.

I have been in similar situations. Once, while abroad, I felt completely overwhelmed. Everyone around me seemed to have an opinion, adding pressure and making me feel like I was missing out on a "once-in-a-lifetime" opportunity. If I were chasing wealth, status, or convenience, he would have fit perfectly. I wasn't in the right emotional or mental space to make such a huge commitment.

At the time, I was confused, scared, and unsure. I even prayed for courage, but it didn't come. I knew that leaving him wouldn't really hurt him, so I gently withdrew. We weren't engaged, and he was the kind of person capable of easily moving on.

For many women, personal growth and goals come first, and marriage; however tempting, isn't always meant to be immediate. Emotions don't follow schedules, and forcing them rarely work. For some, the smartest move is to treat marriage like a "retirement plan"; something you reach when life is ready, not when society says you should be.

Is she speaking French? Which one is 'we'?

franchasng:
She is my biological daughter.


I must raise her to become a valuable woman and not a woman seeking for a man to rescue her disorganized life. or a woman searching for a man to become her financial benefactor, my daughter will never be any of those and will never become a liability to anybody instead she will become a woman of value anywhere she goes and anywhere she finds herself.


Is that wrong to aspire?


I will give her the best education, I will also equip her with the necessary skills to survive and make a living out of life outside her academic qualification, and I will also teach her how to become a woman of value that will offer value to any man lucky enough to be her partner, is that compromising her happiness to you? or is that making her live like rat to you?


So I should raise my daughter to hate men and despise men and marriage, and to make her believe that being forever single will make her happier in life and not live like rat? God forbid that because my daughter will be successful in her chosen career and in her marriage and family life, God helping us

Men should focus on advising men because too often they speak rubbish and present it as fact. So I should blindly follow outdated principles created by flawed humans instead of challenging them? Did all the women who followed these rules in the past have positive experiences? What am I, a sacrificial lamb?

I don't mind being called a "know-it-all." I just won't entertain illusions.

I don't see the importance of all that has been written. The only potential of posts like this is that they fuel the egos of men who already lack manners and make gullible women even more gullible.

What are men; embassy consulates? You expect women to unreasonably shrink themselves to fit men's checklists? If a man wants specific qualities in a woman, let him look for women who already have them. Women are not clay to be molded.

Your care-home example is inaccurate and irrelevant. Most elderly care home residents are visited by their children, not partners, because many are widowed, divorced, single, or have absent partners.

Loneliness or having children is not an excuse for living a miserable life. Marriage doesn't always protect against loneliness, and there are other ways to have children these days, even without sex. Many married people are even lonely.

Peace of mind, not marriage, should be the baseline. Marriage only works if both partners are responsible and accountable. It is not just about "God forbid"; be wise as well. God will not spoon-feed anyone when He expects them to use common sense. Are those who fail in marriage serving the devil?

It is commendable that you want your daughter to be prepared for life, but to protect her properly, she must understand that peace of mind comes first; not marriage. This will help her navigate life without falling prey to the wrong people. You better don't turn your daughter into a desperate woman or give her unnecessary pressure. Setting boundaries, maintaining standards, and choosing wisely are crucial because being a man doesn't mean being reliable. It is better for her to take her time and make the right choice, rather than avoiding breakups as if marriage were a competition that awards gold medals

The world is tough; especially for good people. Equipping a female child should go beyond education and technical skills. She must also be equipped with emotional intelligence, survival skills, and relationship skills to thrive in life.

Even the kindest person married to a bad partner is likely to live a frustrated life. I don't endorse hating men or oppose marriage, but I encourage women to know themselves best and choose what works for them.

The harmful principles that shrink women have continued because our foremothers remained silent. These patterns should be broken to prevent them from being passed down to future generations.

The post about Osa Ighodaro's marriage shocked me. She is beautiful, talented, and she was already doing well even before marriage, yet she had a hurtful experience. There are commenters who blamed her without knowing her personally. This is the society we live in, where women are always the ones to be blamed.

Is she your biological daughter, or did you adopt her?

Poor child; she is so unfortunate to have a father who believes women have to live like rats.

Please don't tell your daughter this nonsense. Peace of mind matters more than marriage.

Adexgentle005:
Are you a male or a female ?

Does it matter? My gender isn't the point. Making blanket statements about all women just shows ignorance.

I think a lot of the problem comes from societal pressure. Because of this pressure, people don't often give themselves enough time to think things through before saying yes; even to a big commitment like marriage.

Sometimes, it is not that someone wants to hurt the other person; they just carelessly agree without thinking carefully. Other times, the pressure comes from friends or relatives, or maybe they are just in a good, happy mood and forget to reflect on the decision properly. I have seen people start doubting whether they are really ready to marry while the arrangements are underway. Though with some push and encouragement, they still go through with it. It is not always about a lack of love for their partner; it is that the weight of the decision hits them later than it should.

You can be in love with someone and still not be psychologically ready for marriage. Transitioning from single life to married life is not easy, especially if being single is quite convenient.

If you are used to your own space, it can feel like marriage would be overwhelming. Sometimes, marriage even feels like nonsense to me because it seems like an invasion of my personal space. It is so important to think carefully before saying yes because it is a decision that changes everything.

Society might pressure you, but try to avoid agreeing to marriage when you are not ready. Even if backing out isn't intentional, reputations can be hurt and feelings can get messy.

Wonderful post. More posts like this are needed.

Just because all females in your family are doing hook up doesn't mean you should generalize this to all women.

Church game is no longer working as usual where ladies retire to church to lure an innocent man to marriage after spending up to or more than a decade jumping around the strẹ́ _ et with numerous sugar daddies, married men and other wayward men just to later look for a responsible, intentional man for express marriage

Which one is "luring innocent men" into marriage, so women are automatically the guilty ones? You actually think men are doing women a favour by marrying them? Last I checked, it is still a woman a man would marry. Or do you and your like-minded critics want to take the place of women and start settling down with men yourselves?

Because I still don't understand how a lady attending social gatherings and seeking a potential partner; or being over 20s automatically means she has a "history" to explain. Do men go from house to house searching for a wife? Isn't it the women they meet that they would select from?

If a lady was busy building herself in her 20s or hadn't yet found her potential partner, should she have just married the first man who came along?

It is good for women to have standards and work on themselves. But when a woman is ready to settle down, visibility matters too.

It is not just about intelligence, decency, virginity, or talent. Standards, self-worth, and visibility work hand in hand. Without balance, even a lady with all these attributes can end up with the wrong man. And sometimes, even without them, some ladies still end up with a good man.

I once followed my uncle to a social club frequented by top people in Nigeria. I saw a lady I knew there; she came with one of my uncle's friends. She used to be a tenant in a Lekki property I manage, with rent around 3.8 million naira. She seemed to be in her late 30s, she is a SSCE holder and she was running a small business. I have altered and kept some details vague because my goal is not to single her out. At the time, she was dating multiple men, all of whom were taking care of her, and none of them knew.

Today, she is the wife-to-be of a wealthy, caring man who genuinely loves her. From my observation, though he is very wealthy, he is calm, kind, and not the type to look down on women or treat them like trophies. I know several other cases like this.

I have met women who relocated to Lagos from other states; especially Edo ladies; specifically to find partners, and they succeeded. Meanwhile, some Lagos women still claim there are no good men in the city because of misconceptions passed down to them.

When I say "good men," I don't mean just wealthy men; good men can even be struggling men with strong character, future plans, clear goals, and visible potential. They can be excellent partners because both can grow together.

Critics like you are one of the reasons many people, including men, end up with the wrong partner.

Many women don't go out often, yet complain about a lack of options. Why not attend parties, events or other gatherings to mingle in person? Online dating isn't always the best way to meet quality men.

Forget the misconceptions online that men are scarce. Men are out there, actively looking for women. What is scarce are good women who put themselves out there.

Nightlife is a great option as well. Going out at 7:00 or 8:00 p.m is not inappropriate if you are old enough and wise enough to manage the situation.

Good men aren't going to come knocking on your door. If you want the power to choose instead of settling for what is available, free yourself, go out, and enjoy life.

Visit eateries, restaurants, bars, lounges, or any spots where people gather, especially in the evening, and make yourself visible. Visibility creates opportunity, and opportunity creates choice.

Be confident in yourself. There is a good man for every woman. Many women who are even average-looking have amazing partners.

Dtruthspeaker:
If you see all the threads on relationships and marriage, you would see everything is in a defined and predictable box, having the eternal opening question of "did you not see all these things before you entered it?

Marriage and relationships ain't that complicated however, it is clear that they go twisted because some has 4ukd up the system.

Try not to attribute every pain to failure. We don't know her story or how she met her husband. All we know is that a concerned woman is sharing her experience on nairaland, a faceless forum. It is not like she is posting her husband's pictures or saying ridiculous things about him. She brought up a very valid concern. A lot of married people; not just women, are going through this. Some people stop investing once the relationship is lock in.

Don't deceive yourself: marriage is very complicated. As much as I consider myself wise, I know that if I had married earlier, I could have made a serious mistake. We are human; anything can cloud our judgment, and sometimes the signs might not even be there.

There have been times when I assumed people were good, only to discover with time that they were not. There was a particular guy I could have married in less than three months if I hadn't decided to take my time. I was over the moon for him. The first six months of knowing him felt like heaven on earth. I had fallen for him so deeply that even when he later started acting up, I kept making excuses for him in my head.

But there are certain behaviours I don't excuse, even if they happen just once. My belief is that if a man tries to hit you or actually hits you, he is toxic and is only kind of holding himself back until the relationship is locked in. It took me almost a year to realize his true character.

I don't think many women would knowingly date a man who is emotionally unavailable, unkind, or already behaving badly toward them.

Sometimes, people's true character is not very visible except with time. An uncaring person can easily pretend to be caring for a while, and emotional withdrawal can take time to reveal itself.

Many people marry within just six to eight months of courting, and I don't think one can fully understand someone's character within such a short period. Some relationships are simply based on luck.

Don't be ignorant or selfishly biased; there is pressure on both men and women. Some women are also scared and trying to avoid marriage.

Just as men often feel societal pressure to provide, women face career sacrifices, societal judgments, and family expectations.

Marriage works best when both partners communicate and share responsibilities. It is about how you set the rules for your relationship.

Marriage can sometimes be scary, but for many, it brings great impact and can even turn their lives around. If you treat your marriage as a partnership, supporting each other in different ways, you can truly enjoy it.

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

This kind of thinking is narcissistic. It is like saying, "You can't have a headache because I don't," or "That is the same bank I use, so your experience can't be true." Different people can experience the same situation differently; and both can be valid.

Some people would rather protect a familiar narrative than listen to uncomfortable truths. As a result, a lot of pain goes unheard and unacknowledged. It is troubling how easily people dismiss others' experiences. Invalidating someone's feelings simply because they don't align with your beliefs is not logic; it is a lack of empathy. Pain does not need permission to exist.

Marriage does not guarantee affection, presence, or emotional fulfillment. Many people are married and deeply lonely. Some couples are not deeply connected; they are merely coexisting. Walk into the streets and ask married women the last time their husbands said "I love you," showed affection, or made intentional romantic effort. You would understand that many carry unspoken feelings.

There are times in relationships when a partner is physically present but emotionally unavailable. Some people stop investing once the relationship feels secure. This is why time matters, long-term relationships often reveal the true quality of connection.

KobolanderSegun:
I couldn't agree more.
In today's world especially if you have money getting a prenuptial agreement is the only way to live happily ever after. With a prenuptial agreement when the thing goes south the man will be happy half of his wealth is not getting taken away.

If I was a woman married to a billionaire at divorce time I will ask for just 5 percent of his wealth. The guy will be shocked and the entire world will hear about it. My name will enter all media in the world. And all men will respect me. I trust western media they will turn me into a celebrity and I will be invited to Oscars, Grammy, WHO, World Bank to attend functions and give talks.

Women need to understand to gain respect they have to go against the grain.

The other day Jamie Carriger made a blopper on television " that the AFCON was not a major tournament " he came under pressure by the African community and he apologized and explained himself. Now since the African community were not demanding for his resignation like how whites would have, he knows he messed up but would be grateful for the African Linient spirit.

He will forever be indepted to Africans.

Alot of the time to gain respect you don't take people to the cleaners. You show them you can and then you don't.

Punishment with Mercy is the only way to change people forever.

Structural advantages often favour men in marriage; so why should a woman be expected to ask for less in divorce? Fairness matters far more than optics.

Expecting women to "ask for less" only reinforces the very imbalance we claim to oppose. Even when both parents share responsibility for their children, women often carry the emotional and logistical weight of raising them after a divorce.

Prenups are a personal choice, not a measure of virtue. Respect shouldn't depend on how much a woman is willing to give up, nor should it be earned through self-denial or symbolic gestures.

Divorce is a serious life event, not an opportunity for branding, showcasing, or making history. These matters should be handled quietly and responsibly, especially when children are involved.

What "shameless award"? It is better not to attract unnecessary attention. Protecting your image; and that of your husband or the father of your children; is also protecting your children's image.

What most women want is stability and fairness; not unsolicited admiration for taking less.

He is probably one of those guys who just enjoys bashing or blaming women for no real reason. He brought a woman to his house, so where is the big deal? What exactly is his complaint? Did she steal his house, his car, his money, or any of his assets?

All I see is unnecessary pride and entitlement. He isn't even referring to marriage; just ordinary dating stage that is not certain to lead somewhere.

It makes no sense to expect women to owe men appreciation simply because of their assets, as if dating automatically makes them co-owners. Those assets belong to him alone, and the moment the relationship ends, she loses access to all of them.

APOPTOSIS:
I don't think you have learned your lessons.
I don't think for reaL.
We spend hours leaving out our jobs to educate you "Young Guys" on ladies to avoid and you think we are JOKERS...

I have daughters and will never watch them become Liabilities to their husbands not when I'm alive, healthy and strong. They must stand with pride and high shoulders in order to earn their respect.

Better Wake up and harken to our lectures.
No matter how good or virgin a poor girl is, as long as she is Lazy, poor in reasoning and from a poor home, please AVOID her.
Even women would dissuade their brothers from such families. It's that bad.

The issue is being framed the wrong way. Poverty is not the red flag; traits like laziness, poor reasoning, irresponsibility, weak judgment, lack of discipline, and refusal to grow or improve are the real concerns.

From his write-up, he wasn't foolish or reckless. He was trying to be responsible by setting his priorities straight. Perhaps, he didn't want to marry someone who would remain a liability, so he chose to equip his partner to see if they could grow together as a family unit. That was a wise approach and it could have worked if their values, discipline, and expectations had aligned.

He didn't fail because the lady was poor. He failed because he ignored repeated evidence that she did not share his priorities.

The real lesson here is this: Don't keep investing; emotionally or financially in someone who has repeatedly shown incompatible life goals.

Problems arise when expectations don't match reality. Not everyone (male or female) is wired for business or entrepreneurship. Some women function better as full-time homemakers, and that is perfectly fine; as long as both partners agree on that role from the start.

There is a particular place the government demolished, and they are almost done with the reconstruction. I went there today to ask about the price, and I was almost blown away but I am very determined to get a shop there. I don't know how yet, but I know I will manage because I am goal-driven and not someone who gives up. I am not even talking about ten million; I am talking about real money.

Yes, prices are much higher now compared to before, but sometimes life is not about who is in administration; it is about who God favours. There were people who still did not succeed during those periods.

Determination, hard work, and prayer are key. Be determined to succeed, no matter the administration you find yourself under.

Kobojunkie:
1. Contracts are vows/promises, same as your marriage is. When you don't officially define a clear prenup for your marriage, the government sets up a default contract/vow for you, which, in most cases, denies the woman all rights in marriage. So, it is in your best interest to clearly define and have signed a prenup that states what should take place in the case of infidelity, dissolution, or even the death of one of the parties.🥱🥱

2. Breaches happen, so expect them to be breached as long as you are dating a human being. Prenuptuals/Postnuptuals are meant to protect you in the case of a breach, not keep a breach from taking place. A person who will cheat will cheat... There is nothing you can do to stop or prevent it from happening. 🥱🥱🥱

Prenups don't stop people from breaking obligations, but they set the rules for what happens when they do.

Kobojunkie:
If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

Prenups are legal agreements, not vows.

I'm actually a fan of prenups. They aren't just about protecting money; they also allow you to set clauses that must not be breached.