₦airaland Forum

frenzyduchess:
Sisterly what to do na, some of our men need to learn how to treat us better, me I can give kingly treatment to a man that treats me like a queen too o

how 50k man wan treat 500k woman like queen without becoming homeless and losing his job? You women can be unrealistic

frenzyduchess:
Na true na, that's why most of them go for near death old White women so they don't have to put up the facade for too long before the old lady kicks the bucket, the ones that marry young white women automatically have brain reset and become house husbands and errand men , but when they come back home, they start raising their shoulders and telling anyone who cares to listen that "I am the man" , and I am like "whatever "

the white women are willing to pick all bills. Are you willing to pay 100% bills.also he needs green card.

Pataricatering:
The reason why women seem unreasonable is because men will never give them their due respect in the workplace ! Whenever you have a man working for you he brings his stupid ego along with him to work and will never submit to authority because he has “ your type “ at home ! . That’s why female bosses have to be unreasonable !

just read that last sentence again. Instead of earning his respect you behave unreasonable ale wonder why you're not respected.respect is earned not given

MissWrite:
It's not your (most men's) imagination, no. I agree with you, some girls don't have humility (that's their character flaw) and it begins to show when they are independent. But! Most guys are already so used to manipulating/disrespecting women with their money that they don't have an objective position on this. It won't take much for a woman to appear "arrogant" from their perspective, she only needs to refuse to be manipulated and she's seen as obstinate and disrespectful. I saw you quote Beyonce earlier, that's what that line was about: not attacking, but having your own so that you don't have to take the disrespect from guys.

why did you follow disrespectful guy in first place

Mhissgaga:
Money??

It's the 'Mumu men' that i blame for always rewarding women with money for the possible possibility of having sex with them

I see a lot of poor guys roaming the street everyday...Guys that can't even brush and floss their teeth properly These are the same set of guys that will come online and say we can't live without them and their money...Which money??

Wake up!! This is 21st Century,women have so conditioned their mind to be financially independent....Any woman that waits for a man's money go hear am especially the broke ones screaming up and down on nairaland

so financially independent yet need man's money to pay bills

Martin0:
Hmmmm na wa ooo!

Well honestly speaking you can't know about a woman true character untill she drops down a child for you..

Women can do anything I mean anything to present themselve to look appreciated .

Women are secretive human beings u know!and it not easy to really know the true them so we are only by chance or lucky to know their character or know the true them!

they are very easy to know. Na konji de deceive you

Mhissgaga:
I tell you most men can't stand independent ladies especially single ladies that are buoyant financially

Why should they
If you see a hard obstacle and an easy one which would you choose?

In their mind they'll be saying"This one go old for him papa house"

Is he lying. No be old age make una de rant hia

Do you think it's easy for a woman to go to work morning till night,keep the house clean,cook for a man and have sex with him?She's not some machine...The moment the woman stops doing some basic things they tag as 'feminine duties' or whenever she talks intelligently they quickly say she has bad characters. To crown it all Most men aren't helpful

Skirting your duties is not intelligence.
If you're so successful why can't you employ somebody to do these domestic duties. You still want man to pay for that yet wonder why he decides to Kuma marry d househelp
What are you using your money for.
He Pays rent
He buys food
School fees
Just to wash plate and cloth de hard una
Mtscheeeeeeeeew

Nigerian men if not all can't stand women that are more experienced than them and that's the truth...They need the 'Yes-Yes' kinda woman...

You do you like no no kind of men?

The one that will not argue with them..

So arguing is a good thing for you?

The one that will agree completely to whatever they say whether right or wrong...Those ones that will be nodding their heads to all of their conversation

Yet you want man to do same, hypocrite

They keep saying Nigerian ladies are shallow minded...They beg for favours and all that, one moment she's quickly tagged a gold digger...Give them a smart woman the talk will change...

Having well paying job doesn't make you smart just lucky

They will say she has bad characters...She's proud...Isn't that hypocrisy

No it's the truth

Ladyhippolyta88:
To be sincere that is not my problem and not all men need dummies.I am not loosing to anybody because it is not what my life would be centered at.

good luck finding man that will give up headship to his wife. And hope you're ready to be sugar mummy and pay all bills

Ladyhippolyta88:
As for me I don't like someone controlling me and I don't like to control anybody.If you want to correct me please be polite and don't shout at me.Let us say the woman and the man are both intelligent and the woman seems to be opinionated on issues believe me some men would not like it they would prefer to date a dummy. And be sincere some Nigerian men majority don't like smart women.

so now who lose. Men will always find dummies but you can only find cucumber

funmisticqueen:
look here,it is obvious you cant handle a woman being in charge. Work on your issues man

neither can women. Most women

acenazt:
oh well you Rank and file fool. Wen u get to the Cadet's level which i believe u never will,then come tell me how on earth will they execute your dream of an idea

what are you saying. You're foaming at the mouth and your brain is misfiring. Can't understand what you're saying.make proper sentences.

Passed cadet level over 15 years ago.
You not worthy of my clowns clowns brake light

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

Yet it is you women running upandan begging for marriage
Why you no marry the financial independence.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

Safiaaa:
If you don't have anything reasonable to say..don't comment on my thread. Noooonsensseee.

if you can't handle criticism intelligently don't open thread

Vivere:
So there is beauty contest, when it comes to oil wells now?

yes o

acenazt:
imagine this One. Without them. If they r God to you that's ur problem. They are miscreants who abuse their power. Let them go to where they are needed instead of coming to publicly harass civilians. By the way the real Heroes are the Police not some bullies.

o well all I know is you don't have the guts to say it to their face. Only rant online so happy ranting. Shishi it won't change. They will ride roughshod over you and yours and nothing, nothing you can do about it. Police is Kuma your friend.

olokeded:
This is Monday Eyo, a serving lawmaker in Akwa Ibom standing arrogantly like a little emperor with his hand in his pocket while a woman old enough to be his mother kneels before him in public begging for favour. So disgusting. Honourable my foot!.

http://www.metronaija.ng/photo-woman-kneels-beg-sen-monday-eyo-public/

yet it was gusting when she sold her vote or worse Refused to vote

transit4:
I'm not sure God will fail to punish anyone who in anyway, supports this inhuman act.

A common state house member, elected by the votes of the people, looking with disdain, as a mother or probably a grandmother, kneel before him.

But Dear, Lord, forgive this generation and the sins of this Nation. Give us leaders who are not bundles of curses and icons of sorrow.

Gives us leaders who have sympathy for fellow humans.

Amen

when the woman was selling her vote for rice or sleep you did not know abi

Vivere:
And there is no oil in the landlord's backyard in Ondo and Lagos states?

the neighbour own fine pass (derivation, wells, barrel per day)

acenazt:
i rant na ur mouth? Or finger abi data?

without them there would be no you, no mouth, no finger, no data.

Ruggedfitness:
If an ex-footballer can do it, then anyone can do it. We should not be restricted to recycling old me in Nigeria

who restricting you

FILEBE:
Good Morning Mikol80. People mhave been saying Democracy is not what suits Nigeria.

Depends on expected outcome
Do we want rapid industrialisation or social justice warrior debates

That, i wouldn't want to debate now. The system i am talking about needs to be reviewed.

Who will review it

Check out law makers salaries and allowances , check out the issues of immunity and how it is being abused.

Nothing wrong with it in my opinion
It is we win have allowed them to get away with it

If there is no crime, their wont be a law. You are right about Buhari demystifying money transfer in govt house but of what impact is demystification if you can't put an end to it?

Power of incumbency o not money transfer is what I said o

Now, it seems the more we look the less we see. Maina, Babachir, Have they been prosecuted? Took a long time to present a budget to avoid padding yet there was padding. Mikolo80. Someone has to make a move and the power he will have is the masses' power.

Yes o
But who will bell the cat

Tons of believable candidates out there but what happens is that the masses are divided.

If the candidate cannot unite them then he is not worthy

Whoever is there will fear us for we will make him know "masses' power"

We that can't make anybody fear to have lavish. Weddings while we're on 9 month strike.

fiizznation:
Are we talking about the same obj that was rolling on the floor and cried profusely when Atiku told him he won't allow him go for third term?

Oh puleezz'

it worked didn't it. He won by any means necessary. Atiku doesn't have what it takes. PDP simply have no candidate so they want to share his loot

izzou:
No matter how we try to be sentimental,the truth is Atiku is a still a strong force to behold in Nigeria's political stage

Let us not forget that APC had to recruit old players in the game so as to defeat PDP. If the likes of Atiku, Kwankwaso, Saraki,and others defect again, then its over

But personally, I wish Atiku doesn't win sef

pesin wen no fit win him local govt?

Mumus wen suppose go learn how to drive tractor

FILEBE:
mikolo80 Buhari has not done much to fix the country.

Economically no
Politically he has demystify money and incumbency slash federal might

The system is wrong...

Nothing wrong with system
Everything wrong with operators

I hope to call your attention to one or two things here on Nairaland soon. The will not to vote and defend it is our problem in this country and funny enough

Not really

, we are getting there.

Too slowly
Thank goodness for staggered elections in osun Edo and ekiti that teaches us new rigging methods and counters faster

The last election proved that. It takes a step to change the whole thing.

Yes it does

You will be surprised as at how we eager we are to make a move.

But ppl will not move if they don't have believable candidate

Caprigal:
Honestly, I was just reading and shaking my head. This site has many immature and sexist males its appalling. No one is even showing sympathy for the woman, they are all apportioning blame and asking her to solve the problems her husband caused.
If the tables were turned this thread will be 20 pages long with men insulting the wife for flirting outside and ignoring her husband at home.

did the man force her to marry him. Was she blind when they were courting? It's her fault whatever it is.

MrIjapa:
Divorce is not that easy.. especially in Nigeria..

why not. Just walk away and file papers

MrBrownJay1:
let me guess, women in Nigeria shouldnt divorce their useless husbands, and they should instead stay in their MISERABLE union (like common donkeys), till the bastard they are married to finally do away with them, abi?!

no wonder some men have absolutely NO respect for women, when these same women have no respect for their damn self.

there is absolutely NO reason under the sun why this woman should stay married to this demon, if that man does not want to change.

for better for worse. Abi you be atheist

horsepower101:
Hmmm...
Yoruba logic

" there is an annoying Neighbor in my compound, how can I resolve this issue?"
Solution: " making sure that I prevent them from leaving so that they can annoy me more."

Unfortunately, this is how most igbos see Yorubas complains.

unfortunately the neighbour get fine fine daughter (Oyel) so love hate relationship

LordAdam16:
So you know?

You guys should use your strength very well to delay the inevitable.

What's inevitable
Only God's word is
Everything else is up for grabs

Because when it finally happens, Buhari would be child's play.

We said "remove fuel subsidy," you guys said no.

Who are this we you're referring to
Speak for your people

Then we left, someone else removed the fuel subsidy, no noise.

Then the same person reintroduced the fuel subsidy, still no noise.

Ah!

Na hard life fit Nigerians.

-Lord

yes o na in we de live for Naija

FILEBE:
They don't need all these to be president except ideas and conviction.

Agreed

Come on, are you telling me that you must have money to be a president?

Unfortunately, yes, not yours personally but you must have money to 'buy ' votes.
Yes all votes in all countries are 'bought' and paid for whether it's paying advertisers to promote the candidate or by providing infrastructure or outright rice sharing. Money is very important to certain extents. Even buhari needed money to get the word out (fuel)when he got 12 million talakawa votes

Why? What is the money for? To buy our votes?
. All these people you mentioned you never gave them a try and you are concluding.

Nobody will try something they don't even know exists or someone that hasn't convinced them. Would you hire someone that applied for job with no CV or references for 4 years.?

See people you are sure about, what have they done to Nigeria so far?

Which would you hire to do surgery on you,in emergency doctor who attended but failed in school or complete novice .
This is emergency we don't want it to be worse than it is, that's why we vote but most importantly there are no better candidates (can you name any)

I don't know how you view democracy but you are not painting it well.

It's a double edged blade and right now it's not working for us

Democracy demands that anyone can be president if he has attained the age. That's true democracy. Can't we have our own Emmanuel Macron?

No, our macron's are busy trying to hammer. No time for public service.

Is the Nigeria of your dream not the one someone like you and myself can attain those post just by voting only?

Simplistic but yeah it is
The issue is how many good guys are willing. Will is the most important ingredient that is sorely lacking. None of us cares enough to do what needs to be done. We'd Rather pat ourselves for abdicating responsibilities
We don't vote (hence voting for bad guys by default)

Mikolo80, these same people are drawing us backwards. We have to do away with this mentality that the rich should be ruling us.

I said money is needed
Not that you have to be rich

Adam Johnson comes to mind and come to think of it, these people performed well. Mwalimu of Tanzania, Abraham Lincoln wouldn't have stood a chance going by this your reasoning.

These ppl put in the work that money could buy
How many Nigerians are willing to asides buhari.
Not just by coming out like okotie or momdu. Candidates need a workable plan not pipe dream

schwarzkopf:
You are mad, come and get my passport and citizenship. You irritating son of a doorknob.

you are a bastard whose doorknob did not give home training ,good luck winning with whiny strategy .after spoiling your own country you want to go and spoil another person's and you expect them to just let you. slowpoke