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^^I can't possibly just pass when I see a child wallowing in his folly my dear, it's morally wrong. But u know wot? I think i've lost hope in your redemption, your case is irredeemable, Cos u're finished,  2 bad.

Mama gee is certainly high on carbon monoxide, i mean dt's the only sane xplanation 4 all her posts n threads.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=417489.msg5969259#msg5969259 date=1272520095]sweet heart, where have u been? i have been looking for u all my life [/quote]r u serious?? pls look no more oh, funny guy

^^^@ skyspirit I feel sooooo sorry 4 u young man. U ought to be ashamed of urself, bt instead u r priding in your stupidity. It's such a huge pity. eee yah kpele. But pls be sure to visit a psychiatrist.

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=417489.msg5963752#msg5963752 date=1272442672]we're on the same page singing the same chorus "dont use pregnancy to trap him", cause with his attitude she will be a single parent still living in the same house with a "husband". now, thats the worst type of parents to be[/quote]Sorry girl didn't mean to quote u, meant 2 quote deep soul with d hale n hearty speech. Almost laughed my ass off

Deep Soul:
I will make hale while you make hearty


@OP
Sorry you hv bn put in a difficult situation where you feel like you arent doing enough to help your frnd. Bn ther b4 as well.
This her issue sha. . . . . e be as e get. . . . .If d guy didnt have money for a white wedding, she could have @least persuaded him to do a court wedding! That way she'd have had some sort of legal stand. It's a shame. . . . . .

Plan A:
Your friend should just find the strength and courage to leave

Plan B:
If she feels she'll die without this man, she shld stage a fake pregnancy since they r still obviously doing each other. If the fake pregnancy changes his nasty attitude, she shld then proceed to get a real pregnancy! And they will both live happily ever after, we hope!

In law the payment of bride pride is enough to seal a valid marriage, because the law is a respecter of customs. Except of course such custom is repugnant to natural justice, equity, & gd conscience which dis is indisputably not. So Uju the mere fact dt there was no wedding doesn't change the fact dt d guy threw her out of her matrimonial home, maybe if she stops seeing herself as d gf & starts seeing herself as his enstranged wife, she'll begin 2 understand d height of disrespect d guy has 4 her & begin 2 think straight.

Damysa:



u don die finish, nobody dey kill u.

olodo like u, coconut head

Gd. Pidgin suits u better, no disrespect o.[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=417489.msg5769440#msg5769440 date=1269572165]if she goes that way, she is probably setting herself up for even more heart break cos this man and his attitude looks like one those who woundlnt give poo about you or the child because he would feel like you trapped him with the pregnancy and would probably exhibit his anger. he'd probably be drinking all night than be home[/quote]Girl u're funny. Bt i dnt think i like ur advise, Wot would it profit her,bringing an innocent child into d world,2 be fathered by a heartless father. Marriage is not synonymous 2 happiness.

@ sky spirit u need2 do somtin abt ur name quickly,it ought 2 be sick spirit,silly spirit,u know somtin in dt line. Pls what are u doing in d family session wt ur dad's PC, are u sure u're above 15? Don't go arnd insulting doz fit 2 be your parents, go bk and finish your homework or u'll never leave d bottom where u currently are in class ok, be a good boy n stop fooling arnd. Jeez!! U really got dem here on NL. **shakes head**

Sky Spirit:
Take it or leave it,its a man's world, next time when you see my post just pass.

You are just demonstrating how HORRIBLE you are as a wife or as a future wife, I can really imagine how miserable you & your unfortunate husband are leaving or would leave in future. You lack respect for men that is why you would come up on a forum like this to insult a man you dont even know. Let me tell you, your type would make the perfect slaves to men, rags whom they would use to mop rubbish from their husbands mistresses. Its your type that will sleep on the floor while their husbands would be digging it out in the bed. my post was not direct to you for your foul mouth to start ranting rubbish, swine, slut. Hissssssss!!!!
Just be intimate with Off
[/q[quote author=Sky Spirit link=topic=434065.msg5959878#msg5959878 date=1272379257]I really like this war of words. So, you are one of those silly women that detests Nigerian men? I equally studied you, you are one of those ladies that would willingly open their legs for the nearest highest bidder. You want to portray your cheap self as being holier than thou. You lie! No rational thinking man would perpetually tie himself to your frustrations. You are of no good to the society & should be recycled in the remotes parts of your sewage.
Am sure that like your mom you will certainly carry on the PROSTITUTION she was practising in your fathers house. I just pity your husband, because you have fallen in the category of "women liberationists" and think or deceive yourself with "What a man can do a woman can do better" (figurative).
I wont advise you to get back your lost morals, because you never ever had one. FOOOOOOOOOOLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!

uote]Jesus Christ!! Young man u need 2 do somtin abt ur name quickly, it ought to be sick spirit, stupid spirit, u know somtin in dt line. Pls what are u doing in d family session wt ur dad's PC,are u sure u're above 15? Don't go arnd insulting doz fit 2 be ur parents, go bk and finish ur homework or u'll never leave d bottom of ur where u're currently occupying ok, be a gd boy n stop fooling arnd. Jeez!! U really got dem here in NL.    **shakes head**[/quote]

Guy ur attitude is not out of the ordinary, all these poeple here talking tough, have had worse experiences, they can only talk now because they learnt their lesson @ the end of the day, and now it's time to learn urs. don't tie ur life around any human being, they r very volatile n not trustworthy. You are better off without her.

achoudeh:
thanks all for the reply and careing, this morning she started again, i have to take her to hospital, she was visited my nurses and doctor, even x-ray her tommy, the doctor said all is negative that they can't find anything, now she is taking some drip in the hospital, and i can't attend the birthday anymore, see me see wahallaoooooo

My dear young man if you seriously wanted to attend your niece's b-day party you'd have done so, You might not have spent as much time as you'd have loved to but u'd have been there to at least drop a gift and make excuses for your wife's absence. in Nigeria, families have a way of causing frictions in homes, your not attending might send the wrong msg. As for hanging out with friends,she might have your interest at heart but not know how to go about it, but all the same, you know your friends better than she does, revalue them and their influence on ur life n marriage, keep the ones with positive influence and do away with the ones that are only around to drink, eat n encourage u to keep concubines. When she sees the changes, she'll mellow.

Thanks y'all, i must say i've really learnt .

Omalichanwa:
Pls pple, never marry just to escape 4rm hardship, pray that God helps u 2 be succeed by your hard works. I have 3 fancy cars, i have too much material things much more than i ever thought i'd have but my husband have no respect 4 me, i dnt even think he loves me. I have suffered alot in this marriage, both physically and emotionally bt i cnt leave now becos i have sold my soul, i have been judged and now i must pay the price.

If u're looking for pity then u can find it in abundance but if u want ur husband's love and respect back, then u have to practice most of the useful tips that u've been given here.

MrPrsdent:
Its not always the case that when one partner is positive,then the other one is also positive.There have been countless documented cases where partners sleeping together without condom for years ,then go for test;and one is positive,another negative.

Like i said earlier,the OP should send him a text message,then he should go for a HIV test and take it from there

Pls Mr President r u trying to tell us educated folks that sex is no longer a sure way of contracting the disease. Pls confirm, cos this is information will be sheepishly accepted by many ignorant pple. Your theory can only work where there is no sexual relations b/w the couples until the infected party's status is confirmed, which is very rare for couples in a relationship,except of course they are celibates. @poster i still don't knw how u came across the fact that they r having intimacy without protection.

POSTER u don't need to sit down and discuss anything with him, just casually ask if he takes garlic regularly, he might just say no and take the hint or if the stubborn type he'll want to ask why, then u can cash in on the oppurtunity and tell him how much u hate the smell, and u asked cos that's the kind of smell that comes out of his mouth. My dear if the doesn't get the hint then na him sabi.

Vuitton:
^^ U gotta be kidding

how do you mean??

Sky Spirit:
For your husband to stay 2weeks without calling you shows you ve a problem
with him that you are yet to realize. His mistress has more information about you,
& she is acting based on what ills your husband would ve told her in confidence.
Y[b]ou aoure the real enemy to yoursel[/b]f, try to find out what he likes that your are not
doing for him & what he doesnt like that you are doing. Learn to massage his ego
& never tamper with his pride. Try to be friendly with his mistress, he will run from
her, I assure you!

If i wasn't on a public forum i'd have called u downright sick & sexist, oooops! there i said it. what the f** is wrong with u. How can u be so mean? So in other words men always have genuine reasons to cheat and it's always the fault of the woman. My dear poster my advice to you is that you need to boost ur self confidence and stop acting like the 23 year old u are, u are now both a wife and a mother, and u need to start acting like it. Men don't like women that think and act like kids, they might fancy that during courtship in marriage it's an entirely different ball game, i'm not saying that's the cause of ur problem but it's just what i noticed from the few statements u've made here. they need u 2 act like the woman of the house. That aside what your husband did is inexcusable, but this is ur chance to make an indelible mark of respect on his mind, when he gets back don't scream or shout nomatter what,just act normal do what you ought to do4 him, let him sleep and when he's fast asleep like arnd 2am, give him a gentle tap, and when he wakes up, talk with him about what happened, the dangers his acts will cause to ur family, you can go ahead and shed a few tears, i assure u thre'll be no sleep 4 him 4 d rest of the 9t. You'll get an "i'm sorry'', ''i don't know wot came ova me''card. But for real it'll awaken his sense of responsibility and respect for his marriage and ultimately 4 u. i hop this is not late and will be useful to u. good luck girl.

michelin89:
Get married to a hot stud and remain a hot goddess yourself.

ok oh. more comments pls.

Thanks guys, but how about the size of a woman's vagina? Does it sag with time & no of kids? [color=#990000][/color]

my husband hired a professional as 1st attempt, not even a "sweets would you rather i teach you" take it he knew wat's up. My advise: if you have the time at least attempt to do it yourself u could save the 20k u'd have spent odawise(don't mind me that's the accountant in me talking), if it doesn't work out then go for the alternative; which is getting a professional to do it.

Experienced married couples this is where u step in. thanks y'all that've contributed but no one has answered my question yet.

It depends on what??How long have u been married Candy

My marriage is a year and some months old, i'm 24, my husband will be 30 in a few months time,right now intimacy is still wonderful after a child but i can't help but wonder if it will remain that way or get boring with time. Married folks pls share your thoughts esp those who've bn togeda a while.I'm sure i'm not alone in my uncertainty.

Dt's not nice at all. how can she lie abt such a thing, abi na do or die affair? Dt girl is a born liar. I mean if she can lie about som tin she knows will eventually come out in the open then she won't make a reliable patner. My friend use your tongue count your teeth

Dunno why bt none of d replies so make me go 'cool!' inside of me. Guys y'all need 2 get a lot more creative. Go watch movie HITCH, dt's if u havn't already. Peace out!

personally i don't feel comfortable in tubes, so i wore an halter necked top and felt great in it, i think people should wear what they're comfortable in. finito

poster, poster is wa to u sha. whatsoever a man soweth, fill in d space

@poster u need professional help. U might be a serial cheater.

[color=#006600][/color]I might even send an aso-ebi.

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=344387.msg5310709#msg5310709 date=1263428162]MaryKay makeup is the best.[/quote]I don't entirely agree. If u have oily skin Mary Kay is a no no 4 u.

sorry 4got 2 add that is original. She orders it 4rm d UK

email IJ on iikonte@co.uk. she lives in Portharcourt but u guys can work out an arrangement.