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clem305D: follow your heart...it never lies

My heart is all over the place right now he hasn't even called me for a while now

krispycash: truth be told, u can be mad at someone and still be in love with that same person at d same time... The few people who really get under our skin are those we really care about even though a lot of times we don't know it... yeah u shouldnt rush it...

N.B-I am sorry I tried to get between u and ur friend (Rabella Adeleke)... been a bit but I am truly sorry...

You might be right cos it takes a lot to get me angry, but he seems to be quite good at getting both expressions out of me, I'll take my time, thanks. And about Bella, I don't remember you getting between us but thanks for the apology

MisterLongman: Try getting on his nerves...... His reactions will go a long way in determining how you guys will relate in the future...... Like Marilyn Monroe's quote "If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best"

I seem to do this quite often unknowingly and he just acts really childish for a while until we move past it, it's weird because he is much older than I am but sometimes I feel like I'm much older and mature than he is

krispycash: You never know... u just have to wing it... remember there are two hearts in this matter
.. Two thoughts...
Two of everything that u can imagine...
But the truth is if a guy really loves u, he'd respect u, then he'll give u more than enough reason to stay even when he doesn't know he's doing that...

Things just happen... never forced... never feigned... that doesn't mean there wouldn't be times when u feel like strangling him... but even in ur anger or his anger, u can still feel the love...

never forget that the best kind of lovers are those who are also friends...

All in all... u pray... and ask God to direct ur steps and never doubt ur guts..

It's really hard for me right now because one minute, I'm head over heels in love with him and the next minute I get so infuriated with him. I guess, I just need to slow down
thanks

Tymax: This remains one of life's trickiest questions. Human beings are fickle. I thought I'd met my soulmate twice before but they changed their minds eventually. At some point I began to doubt my emotional eligibility. But I am a happy individual, I emerged from that mood and later realized that the problem wasn't my person. It was just life happening. Right now I am cautious 'cos people are not as they seem.

How\why did they change their mind? How are you sure you weren't the cause?

Yemlizzy: Six month for a start,if you both can withstand each other's flaws and still stand strong then you might be in for a blissful relationship ahead.

It requires a lot though to stand this test of time. How much can you take in of your partner's shortcoming? Time will tell like i said earlier. Good luck.

Cheers hun, I guess patience is key

mynd44bankrall: if its you in your dp I won't advise you to use it. Its very fetish.

Hmm if you say so

Yemlizzy: Let time be the judge,it should decide to see how things will be in the long run.

How long is long enough?

mynd44bankrall: There is this thing they rub on the body.
Its for knowing the real from the fake

What's it called please?

royalregal: God knows the ending from the beginning.

Take the case to God,if it's God's will,he would reveal it to you.

He is not a liar or deceiver, his name is God of revelations.

Thanks hun

Thanks for all the sensible responses, much appreciated

I mean the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. I know it's possible to let yourself believe someone is meant to be your soul mate and bla bla but how are you ever 100% sure?! The rate of divorce today is way too much and I believe the sole reason is people just run into marriage deluding themselves to thinking they are meant to be with someone when in reality this person might be the complete opposite of their true soulmate. I'm currently in a serious relationship and love this person truly but I just don't know if he is my soulmate, is there a 'litmus test' to know or do I just accept his proposal if and when he does? Cheers.

IX Ada XI

Does he get his eyebrows done? He seems like a metrosexual man

Jaycool18: for me its mindependent

Aww thanks sugar, I'm sure every other lady is also beautiful in their own way

Thanks for all your contributions, the reason I said I feel the man should say it first is because chances are the woman feels the same way too but if the woman says it first, the man may not feel the same way and may just exploit the lady as she has already exposed herself to him emotionally.

In an ideal relationship, who should be the first to say those words? The man or the woman? Id love to hear your thoughts
In my opinion, I feel it should be the man

So some of you complained about my post being too long so I'll try and make this shorter and continue in consecutive shorter posts. Ps, for those of you who want to know the current state of things, you'll just have to wait and be patient as all these events are fairly recent and as of now, my bf is still unaware.

Wait! She screamed at me but I was already out the door, I was not looking back. I arrived home at about 2am. I was in luck, only the house help was awake; I thought to myself, what have I just done, why did I get drawn in; I tried to stop thinking too much about the events of the night and slowly dozed off in my thoughts.

Adanma! Adanma! My mother was screaming my name. I could feel butterflies in my tummy, I began to panick, why is my mother calling me by my full name, it's usually just Ada, could she have found out what had happened, I was so nervous but managed to respond, yes mother I replied, why are you still sleeping in broad daylight she said, better get ready, we are running late for the party. I breathed a sigh of relief, I had completely forgotten I was supposed to accompany her to my aunty's birthday party.

I got ready and we were on our way, I couldn't stop thinking about last night through the entire journey and as fate would have it, Bella was ringing my phone. I looked at my mother, she was quite distracted reading a magazine, should I pick up I thought to myself, what will I say, this is awkward I thought, while trying to decide whether to pick up or not and what to say, the phone stopped ringing.

Why didn't you pick up my mother enquired, oh! Erm it's just a text message I quickly responded; I'm usually not a very good liar but I think she bought it, phew! That was close I thought to myself and immediately put my phone on silent. When we got to the party, I kept replaying the whole scenario in my head, I was not focussed on what was happening so I decided to phone Bella up and try and tell her to please forget everything that happened and to never speak about it again.

The phone was ringing, she picked up almost immediately sounding very jovial, before I could get to the point, she cut me off and said she wanted to speak to me in person, I thought to myself, this could be another trap, I don't even want to be around this girl. I quickly said I had no time, she emphasised it was important and that she'd meet me wherever. All this time, I still hadn't heard from or spoken to my boyfriend, AJ.

Ok meet me in my church on Sunday I said to her, at least nothing extreme can happen there I thought to myself. Oh! How wrong I was. A few hours later AJ finally called, hey babe, sorry I haven't called you since, I had a hangover he explained, I tried to keep the conversation short to not expose what had gone on between myself and his sister until I spoke with her. He seemed normal too so I assumed she hadn't said anything and I didn't want to start enquiring or even asking about his night and if he was cheating, I just wanted to get off the phone. We spoke for a few more minutes about general stuff and he said he wanted to go rest some more and got off the phone.

I was restless, Sunday could not be any slower I thought to myself, I just need to clear the air, even if I need to get deliverance, I will go, I'm not a lesbian I kept repeating to myself. It was finally Sunday, after the service, Bella called me, she was waiting in her car so I went to meet her, wrong move, what was I thinking, I know! Anyway I started talking and just kept explaining that it was wrong, I was not a lesbian, it should never happen again, bla bla bla is probably all she heard as before I could even finish my sentence, she started rubbing my legs, I was wearing a flare skirt so it was very easy for her to get her hands between my thighs, I could feel myself getting wet. We are just coming from church I said in a very low voice, she ignored me and kept working her fingers upwards. I looked around to see if anyone was getting suspicious but immediately notice her car was parked in quite a secluded area. Just great! I thought to myself, she had this all planned didn't she, before I could ponder further, I felt her warm fingers rubbing my clit in a circular motion, she began going deeper, I was definitely enjoying this. She knew it, she was good.

I disagree! Fine boys all day errday babayyy

adexsimply: continue or pm me the rest

if i pm you, how do i know you wont share it or even post it here ehn?

hmmm i guess theres no need for me to continue my story here, half of you don't believe me while the other half threaten me with 14years jail term without even knowing the full story. Any way, I should have know better than to share myself with nairaland people aka bad bele folk

My name is Ada, I'm 20 years old and this is a story of a chapter of my life. Growing up, I always had everything a girl could ask for, money, regular holidays, a personal driver, designer clothes, latest everything pretty much but the one thing I didn't have was a boyfriend whom I loved truly. Yes I may have had the odd Kunle and Nnamdi, but I was never satisfied in any of these relationships, could there be something wrong with me I thought to myself or are these guys just jerks who just pretend to love me for my money? These are questions that always pondered my heart break up after break up.

On this faithful day, my current boyfriend, AJ, told me his sister just arrived from the US and that he wanted to introduce me to her so the next day on my way back from silverbird, I stopped over at his house to meet her. He welcomed and told me she was on her way downstairs as she was on the phone. As she walked down the stairs, the first thing I noticed was her perfume breezing through the room accompanied by the sound of her heeled shoes. She walked towards us and I felt a warm sensation inside me I had never felt before. Could I be nervous I thought to myself, no! Afterall she is only 23 years old, it's not like I'm meeting his parents I told myself.

She walked towards me and said 'you must be Ada, I'm Bella, nice to finally meet you. I swear I must have been mute for more than a minute then managed to mumble 'me too'. She then said she'd love to stay longer but something came up and she had to leave. My boyfriend asked me if I was ok as he must have noticed I was acting strange but I assured him I was fine. When the driver arrived to take me back home, I was still trying to analyse what had just happened to me as I am usually very outgoing and hardly get nervous. After few minutes of pondering, I came to the conclusion that I was probably nervous in case my boyfriends sister didn't think i was good enough for her brother but I decided to forget the awkward encounter.

About 2 weeks later, I found myself more comfortable around Bella after getting to know her better. One Saturday evening, I saw my phone ringing, it was AJ calling. Hi sweetie I said, the voice on the other end replied hi Ada, it's Bella, can you come to my house, we need to talk. She sounded so serious, I was worried something might have happened to AJ so I rushed over. On arriving, I enquired about AJ and she said he was fine that he went out with his friends. I was relieved but then worried about why she would order me to come in such a serious tone when he wasn't around.

Did she secretly not approve of our relationship, did she hate me? She started talking to me and for the first time I noticed more about her than before like how angelic her voice sounded with her American accent, how beautiful she was, I remember every detail of what she was wearing, flowery mini skirt and a crop top, she had her belly piercing on display and she just seemed really warm towards me. Would you like a glass of wine she offered, yes I said just to be polite. Minutes passed and a glass turned to two, three, four, by this time I was way past my limit but she was still going strong, talking and making us both laugh.

I never felt this way with anyone before. I should leave now I said to her, it was about 10pm, no, stay she said. It's getting too late I said, besides your parents might not like me staying so late and.., they've travelled for a wedding she interjected me and AJ isn't coming back home tonight anyway she said in a shrug way. Let's watch a movie she said so I thought, heck, one movie wouldn't kill me, might as well keep my boyfriends sister company as a good girlfriend right? We started watching the movie, it was quite boring to be honest but I thought, hey just pretend it's ok to not come across as rude.

20minutes in, she started moving closer to me on the sofa and talking to me about 'her feelings', I wasn't sure how to react, I explained to her that I was not a lesbian and besides even If I was bisexual, I was dating her brother and it would be wrong to cheat on him with her, she then explained that she didn't want to have to be the one to tell me but that he was cheating on me and the only reason he wasn't coming home was because he was with another lady, this upset me a little but her advances had become even stronger for me to have the time to dwell on what she had just said. I explained to her how I felt something the first time I saw her and she told me she felt a connection, I had never felt so attracted to someone, I felt complete but this can't be right I thought to myself, she's a girl afterall!

Before I could analyse things even further, I found myself responding to kisses from her, it was the most passionate kiss I had experienced, her lips were so tender and soft like ripe plums, she started rubbing my breasts, she seemed to be very experienced and touched me in all the right places but I felt guilty. I told her to stop, that I was not a lesbian, she didn't listen, I could feel myself fully connected to this girl, I was enjoying every moment , was I in love, could this be the reason why I have never felt complete with any of the guys I dated, more importantly could I be a lesbian?! All these thoughts kept running through my head, and I found myself slowly pulling away, I still have a boyfriend, whether he's a cheat or not I whispered. I got up from the sofa and walked straight out as fast as I could ' this is all too much I shouted at her on my way out'.

To be continued

sucess001: where in the world have you been? this is Dakingpin on bbm...

I'm not on Bbm

When I asked this question, my sole reason was because what if I decided to change my bad ways and not have sex till marriage but I know most guys will still want to have sex with me except I tell them I'm a virgin.

I don't see it as lying, virginity does not mean I've never had sex, just means I'm staying sexless from that moment onwards till marriage to find the perfect suitor. The aim is not to deceive for all those that are saying they hate lies

[quote author=Mynd_44]Did you restrict me by saying you are a virgin or because you dont wanna have sex before marriage?[/quote]By saying I'm a virgin so I don't want to have sex until marriage

Op please wait, I'm willing and able. I'm here for you. Email me on sexysandy@yahoo.com

So on the wedding night, about to pop the cherry and you find out someone has beat you to it even though I restricted you from having sex with me the whole time we were dating.What will you do?. Will the marriage still work?

seangy4konji: Na d same Omo ale,Omo ibi pabe say d guy na rich guy,millionaire,now na dis same guy molest u Abi??ko ni ragba fun e lodun tuntun tuntun.

E wo ni omo aje, oloriburuku aja

Sepp360: :oYou just generalized it!... Was that intentional?... Huh?

Generalized what?
All I have stated is the truth