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ebankole:
Miniepoe

This is a msg ,that ur hubby is bein punished/attacked for what he knows nothing about.
It means,unknown,domestic,within enemies et al.

His dad bein used means,Trick in other to divert is attention.
The power behind this signifies:Power of death.

Sir, is this all to it or there is more to be said. I mean concerning the other dreams. Many thanks sir

thanks

here is what ensued btw my 5 year old son and myself

i was in the bathroom applying my makeup when my 5year old son walked in and asked
son: mum, why are you polishing your face
me: what do u mean by me polishing my face
son: mum cant u see u re polishing ur face, thats exactly what daddy uses to polish our sch shoes,
me: this is not polish but foudnation powder,
son: but mum this is nothing but polish


another senario: i was cleaning up his younger sister's butt when he walked in to the room and screamed alound
and i asked him why did u ve to scream then he said dadey does not have a private so how does she do her pee and before i cld give an answer hr said oh now i see she pees through her anus, then he further went on by saying mum, u vent done a good cleaning to her butt, and i asked what do u mean i am done, then he said but she is sore all over cant u do something to make the sore heal up,

@Kemori,

if you are not totally convinced that you can weather the storm with this guy, i think it is better you let go of him. You have complained about his financial status and control of english.
to the best of my knowledge though i may be worng, what spurs a couple into marriage is LOVE of which you didnt mention in your post. I hope i am not jumping into unnecessary conclusions here on your behalf, but from my view of things you dont love this guy.

If love is a missing factor in your repationship then let him go.

i see no reason why couples cant log into each other's account. as long as they are both comfortable with it

After going through this thread and having read all these miracles scam stories i can only say i am gob smacked!

If all that hsa been said here is true then i can only say that its such a pity!

And i wept

@poster

A point of correction not all RCCG pastors work. Some of them are into full time ministry as well.

I know this because i know RCCG pastors that do not work and are full time pastors.

@ slimslim,

i am not reporting my church to anyone on nairalnad. i am only trying to shed more light into the issue of how tithe has been a compulsory issue to Christians.

if you had read my post clearly, i never said it was wrong for anyone to pay tithe. Only if emphasis are laid on other issues in christianity as it is laid on tithes.

Anyone that wishes to pay tithes is welcomed to do so. i have nothing against anyone who does so.

@ PaStor AIG,

Whatever G.O said is left for anyone to disgest, ponder on and accept it or not. At least, not everyone accepted Jesus Christ when He was on earth. So whenever i feel convicted that i have to obey the law of tithing then i will and if i dont i should be left alone.

It should not be made compulsory for me. or enforced on me by anyone.

@Pastor AIO,

I am not calling G.O a liar but i dont buy into that. When i have a personal conviction that i have to pay a tenth of my gross salary monthly then i would do that.

I dont have to believe everything that comes out of the mouth of a pastor when i have my bible to consult.

I go there to worship and fellowship with brethren. So many things are preached in church that i dont buy into but that wont stop me from worshipping God the way i understand as written in the Bible His word.

take for instance the issue of speaking in tongues as a sign of receiving the Holy Spirit. It is of the belief that if a christian does not speak in tongues, he/she has not the Holyspirit. So it is believed in my hurch but i have a different opinion to that.

So as said earlier, i have my bible to consult when a pastor preaches i go back to my bible. So well for G.O to have heard from God and so well for me to get convincted in my spirit.

If i tell a lie, i know immediately i have done something wrong because i am convicted by my spirit. When i dont pay tithe i dont feel i have done something wrong because i dont feel bad.

There is a now a new dimension to this tithe issue in my church. It was announced sometime last year that paying of tithe will now be done publicly and not just worshippers dropping their tithes in tithe basket being passed around but, we have to dedicate a session of the service to paying of tithe.

That is announcement will be made for tithes payment and everyone with their tithes will have to get up to put their tithes in the basket now placed on the altar.  Then after this will the offering basket be passed around for general offering.

reason: a new order from G.O: Pastor Adeboye. 

Reason message was sent from G.O : God spoke to him that he should let RCCG members know that tithing is compulsory and should be obeyed in order for us to receive God's blessings. The video were he spoke was even aired in church.

Also to know those not paying tithes

Christianinty = bondage now oo.

It was even said that if a member is on social welfare payment, member has to tithe 10% compulsory, because it is an income as well.

May the good Lord help us all.

Me, i dont believe in tithing so i dont do it. I make pledges and i fulfil my pledge. I give offerings of my own free will and when i dont have i am still happy. I give donations to oxfam, concern and the rest.

I help people i feel are in need.

@ drrionelli
you will be surprised at the number of men stillclamouring for a male child. It is not far fetched that most families cherish to have at least a male son either consciously or unconciously.
It is also the joy every woman to have both male and female children. but in a situation where the male child isnt coming then what can one do. except to thank God.
Even the educated men also wish for male children. most men would rather have all males than have all females. either educated or not educated! but i believe God gives us what he knows is best for us.

True science has proved it that a man is responsible for the sex of the child and not the woman.
not having a male child does not make one less a man.

i agree with @y me.

There is nothing wrong with married women keeping unmarried friends but the limit of any friendship should be defined and known. either with married women or the unmarried women.

some friends are devils either the married or the unmarried ones and will not stop at destroying their friends homes.
my take is know the character of your friend, when it comes to seeking advise, know who to turn to and keep your private life with your hubby to yourself.

@bawomolo
i disagree with you that monagamy is a social constraint placed on human beings. There are various reasons why the bible advised one man one woman. Can you tell me if there exist  peace in any polygamous house?
Does a polygamist love all is wives equally? does he treat all his kids equally? Aside these, is there love in a polygamous house between the kids?

Most of the terminal diseases in existence today is as a result of sex. And women bear the brunt of it most. For instance cervical cancer is caused by a viruse which can be gotten from a man who has had so many different sexual partners. Tell me how can the women in a polygamous house escape sexually transmitted disease once someone in the house in infected?

In a polygamous home, the house is a battle ground and the kids bear the brunt the most. Hell No no one in his or her right senses will support polygamy.

@ Frizy,

Thanks for your comment about my boys!!! They are wonderful and i thank God for putting them in my life.

@ Ebony Silk,

The other lady must have gotten pregnant same time as i did. I didnt marry my husband because i was pregnant for him, i married him because i love him. I said in my post that i wanted to abort the pregnany when it happened not because i didnt want to have a baby for him but i just wanted him to be sure he was ready to marry me. I didnt want the marriage to be based on the wrong foundation of oh! i married her because she was pregnant for me.
And when i suggested abortion, he was vehemently against it and said we should get married.
He has always been a loving and caring guy. I never knew any other girl with him.
And my kids adore their father so much, even the little girl we just had is also in awe of him! And he has not failed in his duties as a father nor husband.

As per the mother of the girl in question, i have never seen her before, neither have i seen the girl. But i have spoken to her on the phone. Hubby says he doesnt want to have any contact with her mother. And i agree with him on that. So his main reason for taking her away from her mum.

I dont know!!!
If i were advising a friend involved in this issue of mine, i would probably have said to her what everyone has told me here. But i just cant find it easy forgetting this issue. i just feel cheated and betrayed. i cant even trust hubby again 100%
@serachin 4u
why would your wife be happy to be in my shoes? Is there any woman on earth that loves to be betrayed and also want her husband to have kids outside their home?

Thanks everyone for your contribution.

I know the best thing to do is to forgive, though i cant forget as the child is a constant reminder of what he did. I just find it hard to over look it. I know with time i will heal.

As per taking up the kid, i really dont know. I am still thinking about that! With my own three kids still quite young and being in full time employment, i really cant agree to that. Not for now. Child minding is quite expensive here!

You know, at times i just wish i could change the hands of the clock and may be clean this out of my life. sometimes, i feel like whiping my husband fgor what he did!!!

this is an interesting thread!
well i would like to shed more light to this. i am not in anyway encouraging a married man to cheat on his wife but at times we women are the ones behind our woes!

some women are very ugly character wise. They make the home front for the man a battle zone. And from what i have learnt, men cherish peace, respect and happiness, once these are missing, they seek them outside.

And if they can find these outside then the wifey at home becomes a goner. You would wonder why a married man dates another person that is not half as beautiful and polished as his wife and the reason is not far fetched. check out the wife's character.

This does not apply to all men, some men are just unfaithful and can never put their thing in the right place.

we the married women should also work on ourselves. A man loves to be treated like a king, respected, and supported.

length of courtship is not a determinant factor for a successful marraige. The success of a marriage depends on a whole lot of things. But the courtship period is meant to be a period of knowimg each other.

long or short courtships might be as a reason of ages. That is to say when you meet your spouse at a very yound age it could lead to long courtship and when the reverse is the case then it could lead to short courtship.
I courted my husband for close to 8 years. I was about 17+ when i met him and i couldnt have gotten married at that age. Though ours was based on friendship then as we grew older it blossomed.
Though it is advisable that both individual involved should get to know each older well before deciding marriage.

@Poster,

Hmm, i know its not a good thing that you were slapped by your husband. I would say he did a very wrong thing by laying his hands on you. Even though you are not pregnant, he shouldnt have slapped you.

If you want to have a happy marriage, i would say forgive him and talk to him. You can call him to order by talking to him pleasantly. Two wrongs you know can never make a right. Please dont terminate the pregnancy.

I think in a marriage, you cannot change your partner but if you change your own ways by working on your imperfections, your husband can change as well. I am not saying in this situation he was right or you were wrong but i am just generalising.

In a relationship, someone has to be the dove, you cant both be tough. I have also learnt one thing when it comes to forgiveness, if you still carry the burden of not forgiving him, you are the one hurting more as you feel it more.

Talk to him pleasantly and try to point out his fault to him in love. Men love to be respected. I guess he over reacted by slapping you and the insults you hurled at him worsened the situation.

@ poster

You have said it all LOVE is the keyword. Once there is love then it begets all things. Well, i do not know about marrying someone much younger for a female but i don't see anything wrong in marrying your age mates.
social studies classified age mate as 0-3 years. lol!
i can marry my agemate, or someone a year older than myself. some people may say the female counterpart will not respect her spouse but like i said when you claim to love someone then you will definitely respect him or her.
someone also made mention of the female ageing faster than the male. i don't agree with that, when a female takes good care of herself she will definitely look young and pretty.

Age to me is a matter of mind, it is when you mind that it matters

If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
I courted my husband for close to 8 years before we got married. I knew him just after I finished from secondary school. I would say I was taking by him the first time we met. Though I would say for the first couple of years of our relationship it was more of a friendship than intimate. Though we were madly in love with each other. In the 8th year of our relationship, I got pregnant out of wedlock and we decided it was time to tie the knots. At first I was sceptical of going ahead with the plans not because I didn’t love him but because I wanted him to be sure he was ready to take the relationship to the next level. I actually suggested aborting the pregnancy but he didn’t want to hear of it.
We got married and we were so happy together until I heard that my beloved husband has a child outside wedlock. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I was devastated even before I summoned up courage to ask him.
Hmmm, I did ask him and I was expecting a negative response but to my uttermost surprise he confirmed it. He said it was just a matter of doing a fast one. I asked him so many questions, which were:
Why didn’t you use a condom? He said he did use.
When did it happen? He said it happened the year we got married
How old is this child in question? She happens to be a girl and she is just 6weeks younger than our first child.
Why did he do it? He doesn’t know
Now, husband has taken the girl from her mum, his reason: he doesn’t want to have anything to do with her mum.
He took the girl from her mum when she was about 3 years of age. The girl leaves with husband’s sister in naija and also with husband’s parents.

I have tried within my heart to forgive him and move on with life but I just cant seem to move on. I really don’t know how to move on. Husband behaves well to me, he is loving, caring, a good father to our children. He is the best husband I could wish for. I am dying within, anytime the girls name comes up during a discussion I just go sad and unhappy and my mood changes.

Husband is planning to bring the girl over to stay live with us. I am not in support of that and he thinks I just don’t like the girl. I have never met the daughter. But I ‘ve spoken to her on the phone several times. She calls me her mum! Lol! The girl is not well taken care of where she is but I don’t want her in my house as well. What do I do?
Do I take her as mine and care for her? And how do I forgive completely!? I have three kids of miy own with hubby

@poster,

i am going to be sincere with my posting. under ideal situation, the home of a woman should matter to her more than her career does. the bible makes it known that a woman is the home maker. in a situation where the home suffers and the career blossoms is not a balanced situation.
the marriage should came first for not only the woman but also for the man. then comes the children. and then the career.
considering the scenario your have described, a man in his right senses that makes less than what can take care of his family will never ask his wife to resign from her job and take care of the children but will only do that out of selfishness. a man that is loving and caring and not selfish will only ask his wife to create more time for him and the kids and both work things out.
i have seen situations over here in Europe where the wife had to quit her career in order to take care of her three kids because they were always with the minder. the couple always left home half six in the morning and usually home between 8 and half 8 every week day. the kids only saw their parents weekends because they were usually asleep when picked up from the minder.
quitting her job didnt mean she had to stop working altogether, she only got a less demanding job, though not within the same field, less pay, more convenient time for her to take care of the kids and also saved them a lot of the child minding cost.
in cases like this, the woman should be ready to sacrifice her career for the welfare of her kids. i wouldnt think twice to take this decision as well.
for me in order of priority
marriage
children
career

when i was unmarried it was either my dad or my mum but mostly it was my dad.
but now that i am married, i use my husband. even when we were miles apart, (geographically)  i still used him!

@Consultant and Ikemefa

so you guys went to Fegicolla! thats nice. i was also at feggicolla. finished 1993.
long live our schooool!!!!!!

@ poster i really feel u and i know its hard for u.
Thank God u have ur family to support you and your child.
I wouldn’t really blame the guy like almondjoy said, its not easy for a man to accept responsibilities of a child he never had any relationship with the mother except a one night stand.
I am not saying the man is justified for his actions but I know with time and prayers he will change.
I would not like to apportion blame to any one but u shld have known better.
I pray God gives u the strength to sail through and eventually find a suitable husband and father for your child amen. !!!!

i believe whatever sex God gives to a man will be loved nad adored by that man. as long as the child is yours. what matters most is that the child is healthy. we as humans all have our heart desires. But for some reason God gives us what HE believes is best for us. man proposes, God disposese.

I have always craved and desired all boys and i presently have two boys and hope to have a third child as a boy as well if God desires.

hey its so sad no one said helllo to me

@ CRAZYKID and Osereka,

You guys are really morons, i pity the women that married u/ will marry u

guys like u dont deserve to have good wives but the bad ones,

yes to all questions

i call my husband "sweetest", "babydots", "ma idol" while he calls me "temi" meaning mine

a wife is one who compliments her husband, she is a companion, helper, friend, confidant, a lover

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